Last night I was over at one of my co-workers place and I get this call from a private number. Now I'm thinking it's my parents calling me about my son, so I answer it. The person on the other end was talking in a whisper and I couldn't hear her. So I hung up. Next thing I knew I get a call from the private number again but this time I let it go to voice mail. I listen to it and it low and behold I'm being told to stay away from her boyfriend and to never kiss him ever again. If I do she'll beat my b*tch a$$ up and kept calling me a b*tch. At this point I did let my co-workers listen and I still have no clue who it is. Got home and the same person called yet again but didn't leave a voice mail this time. Well not even 5 minutes later I get a call from my friend and they hang up. I text asking him you called and what was up. Come to find out he has a girlfriend now who called me. Long story short I truely and honeslty believe that it was his stupid girlfriend who called me. I am slightly pissed at my friend for not at least saying hey I have a girlfriend now could you please stop texting me so much. I do understand that it is his business and I'm very happy that he has someone but to have someone who acts like she is in high school and call me that I really don't like that. I could be very wrong but just the timing of the calls and then all of a sudden my friends girlfriend calls me from his phone. That just screams it was her all this time. I'm very pissed off at the chick cause last time I checked I haven't been in high school in 12 years now. Just really pissed me off last night and it still pisses me off today.
How many of you ladies get/got a call from either a friend's girlfriend or even an ex-boyfriend's girlfriend trying to start stuff with you?
For now I'm not going to do a thing. If it does happen again I'm going to save everything and go to the police. I don't even know who his girlfriend is or even when they started dating. I'm going to be a bigger person than what she is and just back off. I'm not even going to hang out with him or even text. The only place I do have to see him is at work and there isn't much I can do about that but it's a good thing we work in different departments of the store. Just a little childish that this even happened at all.
Yes this is very juvenile and irritating. I suggest you not play into the drama by being upset. Rage for a bit but let it go knowing she's trying to create drama with you and you're not going to play.
No because I am an adult and put myself in the presence of adults as far as my social circle. This incident and the way you describe it sounds very juvenile.
Nope, never dealt with that, even IN high school. Might I suggest that the company you keep dictates what type of behavior you might have to deal with?
Bottom line, you tell your "friend" to delete your # out of his phone, and to have fun with his girlfriend and not to contact you until he starts choosing more mature people to spend his time with.
No, none of my friends would date insecure crazy women.
Okay and even if they did they wouldn't give her my number but then that common sense is probably why they don't date crazy insecure women in the first place.
No thank God I don't know anyone who dates women like that! Sounds like a Jerry Springer episode...
Um, this sort of weird girlfriend response only happened to me in high school. Even my husband's ex wife wanted to hang out and be friends when he and I first got together. (uh...no).
I'd just stay away from this guy for now. Be professional but don't hang out any more, now that you know his 'type' is c.r.a.z.y. If she does call again, tell your coworker that "just to be clear, I'm not interested in dating you/dating guys who are already dating, and please ask her not to call me again or I'll be calling the police. I also don't appreciate that you behaved in such a way that you were coming on to me while you had a girlfriend. Two-timing is not attractive." Could be that he's trying to play the field or make her jealous-- some people are like that. Either way, very unattractive quality in a friend and certainly not future boyfriend material.
Waste no more thought on this. Save the texts and contact the police if it becomes more threatening.
No, thank God. I have not had that happen.
Sounds like this "friend" isn't a friend. So I would stop hanging with him. Just let it go. It's not worth your time or effort.
He doesn't have the guts to keep his stuff in his pants (not saying you slept with him but he was not alone in that kiss) or his lips to himself....or to speak up about being involved with someone else.
Good luck!!
I guess I'm really slow, because I'm having a hard time fully following your story -- not sure who the guy is, whose house you were at, and a couple of other things. But the bottom line is, to answer your question, no, I have never had that in my life. Sorry it's happening to you.
It doesn't mattter how old she is if she's mentally unstable. I have a 50-year-old friend who recently divorced and started dating. He met two "nice" ladies at church over the last 6 months, and now one of them is stalking him and threatning the other one. He is an investment banker and both of these women are supposedly professionals. And the one is certifiably nuts.
Just end any contact you have with him, change your phone number and ignore this woman. She could be a real nutcase and you don't want anything to do with that because you can't reason with crazy.
My neighbor used to model. I am fat and ugly, yet she wanted me to stay away from her chubby, balding husband and was jealous he kept talking to me while we watched the kids at sports. LOL
Sounds like you need to either leave your friend alone, or show up where they are and tell her that although you're very happy that he has a girlfriend, since you are only interested in being a friend to him, you're not very happy that she has been stalking you with ugly messages and calls on your cell phone. Tell her that being nice to her boyfriend's friends will serve her well in the future.
If he stays with her, he's an idiot. Leave him alone until he wises up and breaks up with her. If he doesn't break up with her, you don't want to stay friends with him, sorry.
Block the number or change your number and forget about it OR make a complaint to your local PD and let them give her a chat for making threats to do bodily harm. What ever you do, don't use it as an excuse to contact your former boyfriend....that would really be back to high school.
Your friend needs to have a chat with his girlfriend. Save those texts and voicemails. If she does it again then file a police report for the threats. I might warn your friend first to give him the chance to get her under control or break up with her first. If he has other female friends she's probably doing this to all of them.
1. Change your cell number
2. Do not go to his place anymore
3. Do not go to lunch with him even if others are going
She is deranged. Are you? If not, then follow either, all, or some of the advice of these mothers.
I had this happen one time with a co worker. We car pooled maybe 3 times and his wife/girlfriend not sure which started calling me saying that I was sleeping with him... Ok she set it up so that we didn't spend as much in fuel, and they are like 25 to 30 years older than me... wow! its amazing how much women can be like that.
I will tell you I am slightly shallow and I will be the first to admit it! He was f-ugly and old! oiy girls these days haha
Tell him to bug off and stop having anything to do with him. Change your number. If they pursue, get a restraining order.
It sounds so much like a sitcom script that I wonder if you will be able to laugh about the whole thing once you have a little distance from it.
But you don't have to put up with it if it continues. As Hazel suggests, save the evidence in case this turns into long-term harassment.
Sadly, some people do NOT get out of high school as far as their emotional life is concerned... especially if they're on something.
I had this happen to me ONCE when I guy I was dating had another girl and she would call and hang up, drive by, and "someone" broke into my car...........she was nuts, HE was a CAT!!! But I think she still drives by but I PUT the cat ............OUT!
