Stress Eating After Miscarriage

Updated on April 16, 2012
C.P. asks from Winchester, VA
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Hi mammas today is a bad day. I had a miscarriage(chemical pregnancy) it is my fault for getting too excited too soon. I was dancing around the house when I got the positive test. I was too happy too soon. anyhow, I cant stop eating. Im already big, and i feel like im gonna be 300 lbs soon if i keep going like this. I see it...it goes in my face. Any ideas? I try to stay busy with my 2 boys but everytime I g in the kitchen (I live there) I am putting food in my face. I just got a negative test 2 days ago so it is still fresh. Thanks mamas for listening.:)

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M.L.

answers from Houston on

I'm so sorry :(

One thing you can do, is eat a lot of snacks.. but make sure you have only healthy snacks on hand. Put all the unhealthy stuff out of arms reach and avoid buying them at the store. Drink lots of fresh ice water, eat trail mix, hard boiled eggs, almonds, avocado with some salt, apples with peanut butter, cheese and crackers, fresh fruit and veggies, yogurt, smoothies and some mini Dove dark chocolates... it's good for you :)

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S.D.

answers from St. Louis on

I'm so sorry.

Your excitement AND your grief are very normal!! As is the guilt in your grief as you try to work out WHY it happened. It was not your fault, so please stop beating yourself up.

Get some counseling, definitely. Don't give up on YOU!

Remember to be good to yourself, give yourself time to be sad, angry and all the emotions you will have. Give yourself time to heal.

Blessings and love to you!

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D.S.

answers from Norfolk on

Hi, C.:

People handle grief and sadness differently. Evidently, you
handle grief by eating. Check out the Crisis pregnancy center, (KEIM).
They offer counseling services, I believe for miscarriages. Or you
can call your local hospital and see if they offer classes for grief.

Just a note: It is not your fault for getting excited. The excitement is normal.
Good luck.
All the Best.
D.

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P.B.

answers from Spartanburg on

Sorry for your loss. It's a good thing that you KNOW what you are doing to your body (and mind) through eating like that. First, talk to the doctor and ask how to avoid/control extreme hunger IF this is a collateral of the therapy you are/have been under. Second, take a picture of your naked (or in bra and undies anyways) self and keep it by a mirror you use frequently - that should give you the realistic image of how big you are getting, so you cannot deny it to yourself. Third, focus on the children you already have. They need you now and for the rest of your life. You need to be healthy for yourself and for them. Keeping your weight in check is a MUST. Good luck, there are still many many things you can enjoy in your life, take your time for grieving but never lose sight of your ultimate goal: a fulfilling, long, healthy life!

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I.X.

answers from Los Angeles on

Sorry. Just miscarried myself and also feeling down. This book is a little dated, but for anyone who struggles with emotional eating it is life changing. Its called "how to be naturally thin by eating more". It teaches you to recognize true hunger (growling stomach, burning sensation in stomach...) and to never eat just because food sounds good, but only if you have true hunger. Another way to deal with emotional eating is to strictly eat three meals a day and either skip the snacks, or only snack on fruit and veg, keeping snacks to 100 calories or less. Hope you feel better soon.

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J.S.

answers from Washington DC on

I am so so sorry to hear of your miscarriage. I had a chemical pregnancy too - it was the first time I got pregnant. I found I was pregnant at work, went and bought a cute baby card and A. outfit to surprise my husband. We were both so very excited, we had been trying for months. Then, a few days later we were absolutely heartbroken. It took a couple months and getting pregnant again to help me heal. And even then the healthy pregnancy with my daughter was extremely stressful as I worried that I would lose the pregnancy again. With my second daughter I was a bit more relaxed but still more freaked out than probably normal. And I was really stressed with my first daughter during the first year of her life. Losing the one pregnancy made me feel like my baby could slip away again so easily.
Long story short - it took me a long time to get past it. Even though everyone told me it was no big deal and if I hadn't been testing I probably would have just thought I was late. It was a big deal to me. Give yourself time to grieve and know that it is going to take awhile to move on.
As for stress eating, I do that too. Try to keep healthy snacks within reach - throw out the junk. I am less inclined to snack if I don't have something sugary or salty within reach. But you are only two days into - go ahead and snack if it helps you for now. Set a date for throwing the junk food away though and try to get out and do things with your boys. And let yourself feel sad.
Good luck.

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J.M.

answers from Boston on

I am ttc and have been eating all week! Today I got neg results again, so I don't have much advice.............but i got a pedicure and plan to keep myself busy. Sorry about your mc, been there twice.

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L.C.

answers from Washington DC on

I know how you feel! In 2009 I had a miscarriage, then a chemical pregnancy soon after, that sent me into pure confusion! I slept during the day a lot and then ate too and gain weight, what I did was I let myself grieve I had folks tell me to just get over it, even had some folks tell me my baby wasn't a real baby because I was only 8 weeks and good thing it happened early! I went to the support group meetings a while then I started working out walking and such, it took a long time to get back on track. Also what I do now to keep from reaching for the wrong things is I go to Sam's and buy fruit, clean it put it in a bowl and leave it on my island in the kitchen and it makes it easier. I usually leave grapes and strawberries out, I peal a cutie and put it in a bowl with a lid so they dont dry out, usually about 3-4 , sometimes I slice kiwi, peaches, pears, they satisfy your sweet tooth and are much healthier than chips and cookies. I know a lot of folks are gonna flip since I suggest such sweet fruits but ya gotta start somewhere! To balance out the sweets you can put some snack size carrots in the bowl and it will get you started in the right direction. Good luck, and give yourself some time.

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S.C.

answers from Des Moines on

Grief and hormones are a POWERFUL mix-- do what you have to do to get through. Give yourself time and be kind to yourself!

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