I need some advice my six year old son tends to say stuff like i hate myself or my brain told me to do it (fill in the annoying thing here) or i can't help but be naughty or hit himself in the head whenver he is disiplined. I cant tell if he is having self esteem problems or just trying to get attention. Am i blowing this out of proportion or should i consult my doctor. FYI - when he was younger he did used to hit his head against the wall but he did grow out of the too..
Hi J..
When school starts ip again, ask to meet with the school social worker. They can often work wonders. good luck!
I would follow up with the dr. My son who is 8 is currently seeing a dr to get tested for ADD or Asperger's. The school thinks it may be ADD since he has trouble sitting still but I see more of the Asperger's in him. If you wait to find out what is going on and something is wrong you will hate yourself and feel guilty. At least start with the social worker at school and explain your concerns. Be completely honest or they cannot determine what is going on. Good Luck!
I wouldn't panic about it although do be concerned - I think negative self-talk isn't that uncommon (or maybe I just know lots of moms who say their boys do it.)
Unfortunately my just-turned-7 year old also has done all of those things. Not every day - he's generally pretty happy and socially doing well. But he does have ADHD, so he's not exactly a "normal" to compare to.
I've found that he does this sort of thing when he's anxious. If this is recent, is it possible that he's nervous about the start of school? I would say, if he's still doing the same stuff a month from now when he's settled into school, talk to his pediatrician. (you probably won't be able to get an appointment in August anyway, if your pediatrician is as backed up with back-to-school as mine is.) That will be about the time that parent-teacher conferences will be coming up, so make sure you talk to his teacher as well to see if she notices any signs of anxiety or other behavior oddities. Also, the school social worker can be a great help with social and behavior things, and you don't need to have an IEP to get her to help - that's what she (or he) is there for.
Hi J., I understad what you are going through, my son who is now 11 years old, was having the same issues when he was that age. It was very frustrating and I couldn't figure out what to do, because it was affecting him at home and at school. He would say he hated himself and even sometimes would wish he was dead, so I finally took him to a therapist who diagnosed him with ADHD. This may not be the case with your child, but, it may be worth looking into. We sometimes fail to realize that our kids go through stress as well as we do and they don't know how to deal with it other than acting out in some way. Try things that will keep him busy, with crafts or whatever will keep him interested and occupied. Hopefully, I have been a little help to you and your family.
Best Wishes, Z. E.
Please get your son some help. I have a 9 year old that was doing the exact same things, started around 4. Everyone said it was a phase ("Boys will be boys" and all that) but I took him to a doctor anyway. Long story short, my son has been diagnosed with Bipolar disorder and Aspergers. Thanks goodness I listened to my own feelings. I'm not saying that is your son's fate, but if your asking about this behavior, you must feel that something is not right. My son is on medication, again a hard decision, but he is doing so much better, happier. If nothing becomes of the visit, you will at least have piece of mind.
One last advice - if your doctor won't listen and you still feel something is not right, see another doctor. We went through many doctors until we found one that fit.
I say call his Dr. and ask about it. If there is more than one Dr. in the practice maybe talk to more than just one of them. It can never hurt to make a phone call and get a professionals opinion. Best of luck!!
My 6 year old did the same thing about my brain said to. He has gotten alot better over the summer on behaving. Try the school, my son's has a program for kids. They go over good behavior. I talked with a school counserl.
I would recommend having him evaluated. Sometimes head banging can be out of frustration, sometimes it can be from a need of sensory input. I know of a wonderful psychologist who does neuropsych. testing if you are interested. A book that you may want to look at in the library to rule out sensory issues is "The Out-of Sync Child". What you are describing is not likely a result of attention-seeking. I have seen children with ADD/ADHD with impulsivity act in a manner as you've described (hence the neuropsych. assessment). Good luck and let me know if you want the name of the psychologist.
I don't have time to answer now but I wanted to say this to you quickly........."Get your son some help"
If I have a chance I will write more later..........
K.
