My youngest is 2...She spent the first year of her life with out her dad. He was deployed to Iraq a month before she was born. Well the problem now is when he has to go on his drills for a weekend she will not sleep in her own bed. She wants to sleep with me at night. I have no problem with her sleeping with me but lately she just doesn't want to sleep at night. She only does this when hes gone at night....plzzzz help
well everyone sry to disappoint but i found out it was due to her certainty about her dad being gone and she is teething
Hello A.,
I had a similar problem with my yougest daughter.
Watch and see if Daddy and daughter have some sort of routine. It may seem simple or non-important to you (and It was to me), but it is how they get to sleep.
LaDonna B
Hey A.,
Well, I guess my only advice for you would be as Supernanny says...just be persistant and consistant. Explain that this is mommy and daddy's bed and that is your bed. And that she's a big girl and needs to sleep in HER bed like her brother and sister. When she comes to get in your bed, no matter what time of day or night, escort her back to her bed. Explain the first time or so why she must sleep in her bed. If she continues to come to your bed, just take her back, with no explanation. But you must be consistant and do it without fail. I also love the other suggestions of a "daddy bear" and his reading a story on cd for her to listen to at bed time. That's wonderful!!!
Hope this helps!
Just hold her and talk to her, she feels a little insecure, it is so normal, cause of your situation. Be patient and she will get better. Do a little massaging, her head, her back as if trying to make her burp, just barely touching her to relax her. Tell her a story, or sing her a song. Everything you do must be done with gentleness and whispers, your trying to encourage sleep. Good luck
OK so try this... Give her a picture of her and her dad or better yet, print it out on iron on paper and put it on her pillow case. Give it to her the night before he leaves so she can stay in her own bed and have daddy with her all the time. Be firm about the "no sleeping with Mommy" rule. Have him record a goodnight baby CD reading her a bed time story and telling her good night. Push play and put her to bed. As a military wife you have to be a pillar of strength and a disciplinarian (mostly with yourself). Good Luck and thank your husband for me and mine.
Maybe you can try getting an over sized teddy bear and putting one of you're husband shirts on it. Let him wear it first so she can smell his cologne. Tell her to pretent that daddy is having a sleep over in her room.
The other advice is great. I have another suggestion to go with that tho. Get a couple of your husbands t shirts and have him give them to your daughter. When hes in let hium wear them a lil bit or spray his cologne or something on them. While hes gone let her sleep in them or wrap them around a dolly that she can sleepw ith. This way shell have her daddy with her. Maybe even buy her a daddy bear to put the shirts on that she can sleep with when hes gone. Hope you get some sleep.
it sounds like maybe your little girl has been woken up buy some of your husbands battle nitemares and is feel the ditress of it. even at the age of two it is not to early for souncling for the transition from war life to home life. Remember children can suffer from PTSD just as much as the parent who may be suffering it as well and there is help out there for the children.
both of my children have had problems sleeping during transitions...i've found success with using white noise (humidifier in winter and fan in summer) and having them sleep with a special stuffed animal. basic i know, but it's helped.
