My kids' pediatrician and allergist (they don't work together either) NEITHER beleive that ear infections have anything to do with MILK and/or milk allergies ONLY but DO have TONS to do with allergies in general. I asked both of them the same question you did when my son (then at age 8 mos.) and daughter (then 2) were having ear infections/problems and had never had them prior (when they were nursed and prior to age 7 mos.) It turned out (like everyone else in the family and myself) that they do have and had at that point just recently developed bad seasonal allergies. My son did test slightly allergic to milk as well as other things, but my daughter was not allergic to milk at all yet she had had more ear infections that season and had far worse allergies than my son at that time as well. The pediatrician and allergist both said this proved that in my case, no one allergy (cows milk) causes ear infections more so than another: allergies likely cause ear infection. However, the pediatrician did say that he did not believe babies needed milk: we are the only culture that has milk so heavily in our diet. If you eat well, you get all the calcuim you need from green foods, just like cows/deer/etc get all they need from the grass and you won't even need a supplement unless you do something that causes calcuim leeching. The pediatrician did suggest I go to an ENT for my Daughter but I went to the allergist first instead as I new my family history of allergies and hoped by treating the allergy we could avoid tubes. It worked just fine.
So, my belief and that supported by two drs., one whom is an allergist: cow's milk has nothing to do with ear infections: it is allergies in general! Any allergy is just as likely to cause an ear infection in some children as a milk allergy!
Both drs. said the milk analogy was started from an old wives tale b/c people long ago correlated drinking milk with thick throat mucos: they would drink milk, a thick drink, and then think their throat mucos got thicker from the milk but in reality, it was the layer of milk left in the throat that was thick, a coating of milk not a cause for mucos thickening. Then, it was believed that since this cow's milk caused thick mucos, that this mucos would clog the ears and cause an infection since it was thick and clogged up. The milk did not cause the mucos to get thicker-allergies or sickness did!
And most of the time, an agrivated ear (what they call an ear infection) is not really even an ear infection at all, just agrivated. The only way to tell if you have a true ear infection is to puncture the ear drum and test the ear fluid or if you are running a true fever and every other type of infection is ruled out but your ear is agrivated. Ear puncturing is rarely done because it is painful, dangerous, and easier just to treat the agrivated ear as infected with antiobitics! The only real time they test the fluid is when they put tubes in or the patient suffers a ruptured ear drum and thus the fluid is readily available for testing.
Hope this info helps and doesn't confuse! I've done my homework though on this one and just want to make it clear that ANY allergy can cause ear AGRIVATION (not usually a postive infection)!
Currious to see if anyone else that posts here has had a dr. with experience in the allergy field really tell them that it is only caused by milk as this is the popular belief, but it makes more sense that ANY allergy can cause ear infections, not simply an allergy to milk when other allergies also exist!
Best of luck finding a solution to your problems. Maybe just a good allergy med in general will solve the ear infection problem? Allergies are aweful in this area this time of year! We've all had our allergy illnesses within the last 3 weeks! Wholistic treatments are great too if you can build your immune system as well as treat any surfacing ailments before they get out of hand!
Oh, and FYI: Soy milk is no longer recommended for very small children! Soy contains lots of "supposedly natural" hormones that often mimic sex/gender (male/female) hormones and may cause "early" development or hormonal imballance of "gender-related" hormones . It is now recommended to use Goat's milk, rice milk, almond or coconut milk (almond and coconut milk not under age 2 because of allergy risk) in young children, preferrably Goat milk (because it is most like human milk and also has all of the needed and valuable good fats) until age 2. We use some goat and some rice with our son! Goat is expensive and he is otherwise a healthy eater, so we feel he doesn't need all the good fats from goats milk since he can get them elsewhere in his diet, thus we supplement his goat milk equally or more with rice milk and we don't fret if he doesn't get "milk" for calcuim as long as he continues to love broccoli!
T.