Share a Room or Own Rooms?

YES!!! I put my kids in the same room, boy and girl 19 months apart, when the younger was about a year. I tried at the beginning but it was just too hard. I talked it up to the older one and he was excited about moving his bed in with his sister. He had to 'earn' it as we were having trouble keeping him in his bed. They LOVE being in the same room and will stay in the same room till she's about 6, I think. I think it teaches the kids so many things and they bond so much more. I would wait till the younger one is sleeping through the night (unless they are both really good sleepers).

Share- it is a great way to build a good friendship between them and a great security thing to. My sons where in seperate rooms up until the youngest turned 18 months and then he went and crawled in his brothers bed and they haven't wanted to be apart since. My oldest loved to tell the youngest stories till they fell asleep and now my younger one loves to tell stories and they just enjoy the time they have together.

I shared with m sister also and it was great- I remember waking up in the middle of the night from a nightmare once when I was little and my sister came over and comforted me- I was terrified to get of my bed (worms). Anouther time I was having a really hard time and crying because I couldn't do something right- my sister came over and sat on my bed and told me how much she loved me and we had a great heart to heart (before I was 12)- I love the memories that we shared with sharing a room. Things that might not have happened had we had seperate rooms-

There will be arguing somedays and blaming that the other one made the mess or this or that - but those things happen even when you don't share a room

good luck

A. i'm gonna tell you what everybody else is telling you. SHARE! I have 6 childen 3 girls, 3 boys. We have always had small houses. We lived in a tiny little 3 bedroom house. My husband even built a 3 tier bunk bed to fit in the little bedroom. We found our oldest girl snuggled on the bottom bunk with our youngest girl.
the 3 girls shared a room till the oldest one got married last year.

Our two oldest children have moved out. the ones left at home still share rooms. the two teenage sons share a room and the 19 yr old and 13 yr old daughters share a room. they listen to their music and read together and even share their clothes and yes sometimes they argue. That is called family life. It's great!

I remember when i was 10 yrs old i finally got my own room. i was so happy. my 16 yr old sister got the big room with her own bathroom. after about a week of being "on our own"...she started in bribing me to come sleep in her room with her. she didn't like sleeping alone and to tell the truth neither did i. So while i had my own "space", it was nice to snuggle with my big sister and share my deepest darkest feelings of the day.
I told her stuff i never told my mom. still do. i think my daugthers do that as well, my sons too. nothing like having a built in best friend. let them share a room for as long as they can. they will make treasured memories.
mj

Do the girls get along? That is a must if they are going to share a room. Also does the three month old sleep through the night? If the girls get along and the three month aold sleeps throught he night, there shouldn't be a problem. It will take a bit of time for the both of them to adjust though.

If you have the space I say give them their own rooms. My children are 13 months and 3 wks a part and share a room because our 3rd bd rm is in our basement. Nap time is the hardest. I cannot put them down at the same time because the 2 yr old will play, climb in her crib etc.. Also if the 2 yr old wakes up during the nt he sometimes wakes up the 1 yr old. I'm interested in your decision.

Being an only child I cannot speak from experience, but all the people I know who shared rooms much preferred it. We know two brothers who live in a twenty room hotel and refused to have separate rooms. They much prefer the intimacy of sharing. Perhaps when they get to be teens they may change their minds. Your two are very young and one room is plenty for them, it is easier for you too.

Basically humans are pack animals and need other people near. Children like the comfort of knowing there is someone close to them. It is only recently in history that we have all wanted our own space. Most of our ancestors lived in very cramped conditions and thought little of it. Boys and girls shared rooms until they left to get married.

Enjoy your girls, and wait until they let you know they want their own space.

We put our 3 year old daughter and 6 month old son together in the same bed room because we lived in a small two bedroom house. They did fine together, in fact they liked being together. When they were a few years older and we moved into a 3 bedroom house then they got their own rooms. AF

My 3 girls, 5, 3 & 1 yo share a room(12x14). The older two sleep in a queen bed and the baby in a crib. It can be hard with naps some times but they snuggle each other and rarely come to our room since they are not alone. The two older ones also can sleep through the baby screaming, dogs barking the trashmen pretty much anything. They really seem to like being together and all three of them get along quite well most of the time. I too shared a room and bed with my sister until we were 8 & 11 and it made us closer and definately prepared for sharing a dorm room in college. BTW we could have them in their own rooms.
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I shared a room by choice with my little sister when we were young. I shared by necessity later. If it's easier to share a room, I don't see why not. Little kids seem to share more easily and if you have room to change it later, then you can do it...later. My mom used to put one of us to bed earlier than the other so that we wouldn't disturb each other/keep each other up.

Let me just say I have two girls ages 10 and 12 (soon to be 13). For the longest my two girls shared the same rooms with no problems. But 2 years ago they had to have their own rooms to keep the peace in the house. So I would say it's good to keep them in the same room, it keeps them close. Even now they are in each others rooms but it's nice when they need the space...they can separate.

I found it easier to keep them in seperate rooms. My boys are exactly 20 months apart as well. But when our youngest gets older around 3 we will be putting the boys together.

If you have the room to keep them separate, I would suggest that until they are both a bit older and in "big girl beds".

At their ages now, they go through different sleep cycles with development and will be disturbing one another and you. For example: my son is 10 1/2 months old, and while MOST of the time he sleeps 12-14 hrs over night without waking, there are nights (like in the past week) where he wakes up crying. His crib is in our room, so it definitely wakes both my husband and I, and we remain awake until he goes back to sleep. If you have the two girls in the same room, it means you will have both kids awake, both kids tired and cranky the next day, along with you being tired an cranky the next day...that doesn't make for a good time for anyone.

When they are a bit older, they will probably really enjoy sharing a room. I nanny for a family that has 3 yr old and 5 yr old girls. Their girls share a room, and their beds are even pushed together. They love it most of the time, but there are times when one wakes up early or fights going to sleep and disturbs the other. But there are just as many times when the girls will lie together and read books or play quietly early in the mornings.

I would say they would get used to either way - and it really depends on your space - if you have a 3 BR house and you need one for an office space, then put them together...but if you have an extra bedroom any way, it couldn't hurt to give each of them their own space. Also - it depends on if you are planning on having more kids...you may need an extra bedroom if you have a boy. I of course had mine separated because they were boy and girl and older...and I was the only girl growing up, so I never had to share...but it might be kind of nice to have someone to share with....but when they get older they will probably want to have privacy/their own decorations/etc.

Share as long as you can. Now is a good time to start teaching the older one how to 'respect' personal space on all levels. Not to mention bonding them early on, it can help keep them glued together later in life.

Hi, A., My oldest daughter hated her little sister, so I had little choice but to put them in separate rooms. You don't have to worry about them disturbing each other that way, either. However, if you are planning on having more children, it might be better to get them used to sharing a room, as opposed to switching things around at a later date. I hope this helps. Good luck! N.

My kids, 13 mos apart, shared a room from the time my DD was about 3 mos old. They LOVED it. It took a little while for my DS to get used to having his sister in there, but he did adapt pretty quickly. I actually did bedtime routines at the same time and put them down together "for the night" even though the baby was still waking up through the night. That helped a lot, I think. In the beginning he would stir a bit when she woke up, but after about a week or so he didn't even budge. It was great, and he was SO sad that they moved into separate rooms when we moved to a bigger house. They still spend a good amount of time in each other's rooms (they are now 1.5 and 2.5) and they love to do bedtime together in one room. I think it was good sibling bonding!

Just wanted to give you big ((((hugs))) on your DH coming home soon from deployment, and thank him AND YOU for your service! I don't know how military mommies do it, but you have my eternal thanks and prayers! :)