my 3 year old has been so hard to deal with lately. she has been clinging to me just in the past few weeks. this is to be expected b/c i am a stay @ home mom. she goes to a daycare 2 days a week and this is just part time she also goes to a dance class one day a week. my question is she does fine at daycare but has not been wanting to go to dance class. i asked her if other children were mean or if she just didn't like class. she responded with a yes to both questions. how do i deal with this? i do not want her to give up so easily on something or just not go because she can't take up for herself. she has enjoyed dance for the past few months so i know she likes it.i also tell her is kids r mean tell the teacher is the teacher does nothing ask the child to stop then if the child still continues do what ever she is doing to u back. i know this advice may be wrong any advice on how to deal with these situations?
well i went in dace class with my daughter hoping it would ease her mind. i even told the teacher what was going on. halfway through the class she wanted to go home. she wouldn't listen to me or the teacher all through class. i feel like i have tried all i can and have decided to not carry her back to dance class. she seemed to hate it all of a sudden. thanks for the great advice...
try to go to the class and watch her one day to see what happens it might be something simple.? good luck.
I'd recommend you talking to the teacher and see if she's noticed anything going on..
My response would be to stay at the dance class, where your daughter could not see you and see what is really going on. THen if you did see something I would address it to the teacher and if it continued I would address the teacher and the parents of the children.
Three is still really young. If she's unhappy with dance, then find something else. Perhaps you could do a class that involves both of you. Is there a Gymboree or Little Gym near you? What about an early childhood music class I'm not sure where Flintville is, but if it's close to a larger city, you might find something like that. Separation anxiety is completely normal at this age, and all children develop really differently. Be thankful that she's securely attached to you, and enjoy these wonderful preschool years!
ask her again why she doesn't like dance any more but don't say is it because... because that gives her ideas let her answer and see what she says then talk to the teacher. it may just be a phase my daughter did that with gymnastics some days she wanted to go other days she didn't. they are 3 its not like its college or anything so don't sweat it to much
Is there anything different in your personal life? I am not sure what advice to give except for this, as a child, I was extremely shy and dependent on my mom. She entered me into a dance class and took me, the first time she stayed with me, the second time was O.K., but the third time when the teacher asked me to do something in front of everybody and I wasn't sure what to do, I fell apart, and the class laughed and snickered. I left that day screaming and crying and my mom felt so bad that she didn't make me go back. That was when I was 4, I am 37 and still remember that day, but I wish more than anything, that she would have made me go back. I think it would have helped me with so many things about being a teenager, (making the right decisions, socializing) and asking for help with school work. Self confidence issues. If nothing else, take her back.
Hi A.! I have a 3 year old in daycare 2 days a week and we also have ballet lessons. My daughter was upset at ballet the first day because she didn't make any friends...well, my heart broke. They are at daycare longer than an one hour dance lesson, and they don't have a chance to really sociallize. Our babies don't understand this. I emphasize the dance part, and then have her perform at home. She likes it that I make a big deal out of her when she comes out of class. I would let her deal with it, I don't think that the kids are being mean. If it is anything like my class...they don't have time to be anything but dancing. The only other thing I would suggest is, that maybe she doesn't really mesh with her teacher. Kids are so perceptive of personality differences, so maybe another teacher would "fix it" as we say here in the South.
Hope I've helped some. We have the same situations. I have a 9 year old girl too, and just recently realized that I can't fight her battles or else she'll never learn to be herself. It pains me...I've dealt with bullies, and I can tell you, you're not there yet! Hope you never are.
S. J.
