Seeking Some Advice/support

Pregnancies can differ dramatically, so don't fear. My first pregnancy I had no symptoms in the beginning. My second pregnancy I was extremely tired and sick all day. It was miserable for about 3 months, and then let up quickly. So just take it easy and be happy you're breasts aren't sore!

With my first pregnancy - the only reason I took a home pregnancy test was that my breasts/nipples were so tender and painful and I could barely function since I was so tired. With my second pregnancy - I had absolutely no symptoms. I held off on taking a pregnancy test because I kept waiting for the breast tenderness to give me an indication that I might be pregnant. If not for going to doctor's appointments and hearing the heart beat and seeing ultrasounds, I would have never believed it until I started feeling movement.

Don't dwell on your last pregnancy and induce fear into this one. My mom had 8 miscarriages and I was her 9th pregnancy and my brother was her 10th. There's nothing you can do, but eat well, exercise mildly, BREATHE and trust that your body is doing everything it should be.

My girlfriend had trouble with a few miscarriages, so this last one, they gave her TONS of progesterone, etc to hold onto the baby. Sadly, the baby was born Trisomy 18 - a certain death sentence. I'm not saying it was the progesterone, but all of the other times, there was a genetic issue for why the baby was miscarried. This was is 1 month old and shouldn't have lived past the first week according to research. Our bodies handle things like they should.

BREATHE. TRUST. Maybe even keep a journal to get all of your emotions out.

Stress will not help. Try to find ways to not get too upset over your feelings. It is completely normal to feel anxious about a pregnancy after having a miscarriage.

I have been pregnant four times, one miscarriage and three wonderful children now fill my home. Each pregnancy was different. There was not a symptom that told me this one will go to term and this one won't until it happened.

In fact, I was so 'symptomless free' during my last pregnancy, I did not realize I was pregnant until 16 weeks along. I even went to my OBGYN for a yearly visit early on and he could not even tell. My wonderful surprise baby is now a year old.

You know you can carry to term. You have a child. Take it easy, enjoy him / her and know that every pregnancy is unlike any other.

First, I am so sorry for your loss! I had a miscarriage recently w/ my third. I didn't have nearly the breast tenderness or fatigue like the first time, but I thought that normal because I didn't have that as bad w/ my second (full term pregnancy). Being my third I didn't go in for blood work before my 8 week appt. So to answer your question...you can go to you doctor for a simply blood test and then they will probably have you go back the next day or two days. They will make sure your beta levels (I think that is what it is called) are doubling each day. If they are then I wouldn't worry as much. If they are low or aren't doubling, then there may be a reason to worry. This will at least calm your worries w/out having to see the doctor. I wish you all the best and pray you don't suffer another miscarriage. If I should be so lucky as to be blessed w/ another, I will definitely hit the docs for blood work because I can see myself worrying about another miscarriage too.

congrats! maybe instead of wondering what's wrong take the lack of the annoying symptoms that come along with being pregnant in stride. most women get annoyed with the morning sickness, fatigue and tenderness. just think hey this pregnancy is going to be easy! lol good luck

First of all, congratulations on your preganancy. I know the excitement of finally getting pregnant after trying to long. I also know the sadness of preganancy losses. I've been pregnant 4 times, the first and third resulted in miscarriages, while the second and fourth gave me my sons. Both times I became pregnant after my losses I was a wreck, constantly looking for reassurance that everything was okay. I think once a woman suffers a loss it affects the way we think of all our subsequent pregnancie. With both I didn't feel confident until after my 20 week u/s. Before then, I just took it one week at a time. At first having my hcg drawn helped; then my appts and hearing the heartbeat. My dr was really understanding and said I could come in as often as I liked to hear the heartbeat for reassurance. Talk to your dr about those options. It really helps. In the meantime, there's a wonderful pregnancy loss forum I belong to that helped me keep my sanity during my losses and my pregancies. The link is <http://blightedovum.proboards.com/index.cgi&gt;. It's quiet on the weekends, but the ladies there will be more than happy to hold your hand throughout your pregnancy.

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Every pregnancy (and every child) is different. Often times, 'feeling' pregnant (or not) has little to do with reality. I had 4 mostly uneventful pregnancies (and deliveries), and the first symptoms were just needing to pee more frequently and feeling a little tired. THEN I started puking my guts up all day every day, but even that can be alleviated with timing meals & snacks, etc.

Hope all goes well for you and your little (growing) family!

every pregnancy is different! with my first daughter i swear i knew right after we had sex i was pregnant.... and man i was right and i was sick for 9 months straight. with my second i just happened to notice the date and realize i was 3 weeks late.... (obviously no symptoms) second daughter was a super easy pregnancy and labor so it just goes to show you never know!

I only have one pregnancy to go on, but I was told that because it was twins I would feel everything doubled. Twice the morning sickness, twice the aches, etc. I had zero aches except the stretching of the ligaments in my hip area. I threw up a Total of 6 times. I count it all as a blessing, becasue I was also dealing with diabetes. Unfortunatly, I only felt the girls move 2 or 3 times. I chalked ut up to lack of room to move as they were sharing a womb. :) With the exception of the last month before they were born when I started to gain a Ton of fluid I felt GREAT! I started out overweight. Gained only Twenty pounds before the fluid (36 lbs. of that in a month!)! It was wonderful. Couldn't have asked for an easier pregnancy up until just before week thirty-six. BP skyrocketed from the fluid and had an emergency C-section. Check with your Dr. If all seems all right count your blessings and enjoy it!

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Pregnancies are different so you won't necessarily feel the same way with each. You may have no symptoms and all is just fine. Remind yourself that worry will not make a difference in whether all is fine or not, and with that in mind try to let go of it.

Have you thought about Pregnancy Yoga? I'm no expert, but they say it's about "yoking" mind, body, and spirit. I feel good after yoga. Relaxed. Happy. Confidant. And much more body aware. It might be good for you to have that quiet time of breathing and listening to your body. I do a lot of mediatating and praying when excercising. It's the only quiet time I devote to myself. I think that might do you a world of good, just to calm your nerves and focus on being healthful and hopeful. It really helps with the aches and pains of pregnancy and helps strengthen your back. You are going to need a strong back for the pregnancy and to carry your new little gift upon arrival! Congratulations mama. Try not to stress. When you stress, baby stresses.

Just relax and realize every pregnancy is different. My first I barely had any symptoms the whole time. The second I had fatigue, light headedness, very little breast tenderness but good otherwise. This last time I had morning sickness all day, could barely stand to eat because it made me so nauseous, extreme fatigue, much more emotional and weepy. You may just be getting lucky to have few symptoms. Dont stress yourself out about it. Theres no link in mild to absent symptoms and miscarriage. i am sure your baby is fine! Congratulations!

Remember that many women don't even know they are pg, and deliver after 9 mo as a total surprise. That said, everyone, and every pg is different. Take it easy as you possibly can, try to relax until you have your doc appt. Back when I got pg, there was no test, and no doc appt till you were almost 3 mo! Your body will do what it needs to do, and you being relaxed can help a whole lot. Good luck.

I don't know if you are a believer or not, but that is what got me through. I had a miscarriage with my first pregnancy and when I got pregnant again I was a basket case worrying about every little pain I felt. I finally sat down and just prayed saying I just could not do this for nine months and to take away this worry. He did...not to say I didn't think about it every now and then, but when I did I pushed it out of my mind. I had a healthy boy then got pregnant again. Healthy boy. Then got pregnant again...miscarriage. It took me by total surprise. I don't know why. I guess b/c I thought since I already had one I wouldn't have another...like there is a quota or something. Well, when we got pregnant again I worried to the point it made me sick. I again went to prayer and just prayed through my worries. It helped. Nine months later I had a healthy girl. All that to say...we can't prevent things from happening...esp miscarriages. When something isn't right in the first trimester our body has a way of taking care of it. That is what gets me through. It is still painful, but I look for anything that helps me make sense of it. I know it is hard, but try not to worry and stress about it. Stress is not good for pregnancy. It can cause other health issues that would not be good for the baby. Nothing you do can prevent a miscarriage so try focusing your thoughts and energy on other things...like your other child. Treat this as a healthy pregnancy and take your vitamins and eat well until you know otherwise. I know it is hard, but find a family member or friend that can listen to you and give you support. You are not alone. Many mamas have been there. I am sure you will not have a problem finding someone to lean on.

I only have one pregnancy to go on, but I was told that because it was twins I would feel everything doubled. Twice the morning sickness, twice the aches, etc. I had zero aches except the stretching of the ligaments in my hip area. I threw up a Total of 6 times. I count it all as a blessing, becasue I was also dealing with diabetes. Unfortunatly, I only felt the girls move 2 or 3 times. I chalked ut up to lack of room to move as they were sharing a womb. :) With the exception of the last month before they were born when I started to gain a Ton of fluid I felt GREAT! I started out overweight. Gained only Twenty pounds before the fluid (36 lbs. of that in a month!)! It was wonderful. Couldn't have asked for an easier pregnancy up until just before week thirty-six. BP skyrocketed from the fluid and had an emergency C-section. Check with your Dr. If all seems all right count your blessings and enjoy it!

I know exactly how you feel, I've also had two miscarriages in my lifetime, they were my even numbered babies so when I got pregnant wihth my current pregnancy (# 4) we were all expecting this one to end in miscarriage, since it was an even number pregnancy but so far 8 mnths later everythings going great. I also wanted to mention I have had absolutely NO signs or symptoms of being pregnant. Some of my pregnancies I get morning sickness, sore breasts, fatigue, etc but this one NOTHING, which is another sure reason I thought it would end in miscarriage. So don't worry, every pregnancy is very different, just like every child. Congrats and don't stress, usually once the first trimester is over, you'll feel a lot less anxiety and be able to relax a little more.

Take care.