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This is what my son and daughter in law did for their little ones ..... I forget at what age but know they were walking and talking ! They took them to a near by creek in the mountains and had little Sierra throw her Binki in the water and they followed it down the stream as far as they could and watched it bob and float ! It was a very neat experience and she knew it was gone ! She never asked once for it ...

When my daugher was one I took her binki away. I started by cutting the nipple a tiny bit on the first day. She took it but could tell something was different. The second day I cut it a little bit more and she wasn't happy but still took it. The third day I cut it more, she hated it! She pulled it out of her mouth and threw it at the wall. That was it, it was gone. My other two wouldn't take a binki so that's the only experience I have.

I ran into a mother of two toddlers at the doctors office and asked her what she had done to brake her 1 1/2 year old boy from the pacifier and she said she drove to a fire station and secretly asked if they would play along and had the firemen ask her son if they could have all his pacifiers in exchanged for a toy fire truck (that she had bought) he was super into it and walked away a happy boy, asked for his pacifier once that night and was reminded where their new home was and never asked ever again! To this day he carries that fire truck wherever he goes. Im a mother of a 5 month old girl which i know I will have to think of my own scam for her! Good luck

I had a binki baby. Personally, I felt like 14 mo. was a tough time to break a kid's binki habit. They're old enough to really notice its absence but not old enough to really reason with. I would try some of the suggestions you've already gotten & if they don't work, I'd wait & try again in 4-6 months. The binki fairy thing works well when they're old enough to get it. We broke the naptime/nighttime binki when my daughter was about 2. The way we did it may work at 14 months. We just went cold turkey & had a few difficult nights, but each one got better & by the 3rd, my daughter was fine & never looked back. The fact that you've already gotten him off of it during the day is a great. Good luck!

My friends son refused even at three to give up his pacifier, he was here playing one day and I told him I would get him this really cool big boy race car if he threw his pacifiers away. He walked over to the trash, threw them out and was done! He asked for it a few times, but never got upset as he was proud to be a big boy.

For a 14 mos old, cold turkey is the best method because he won't understand the other stuff. If he looks for it say "all gone"..and just let him fuss a few times. Seeing his dependency is only at naptimes then it probably won't be a big deal. Get him a new lovey, new stuffed friend to replace the comfort factor for him.

For the little boy I watched she did it on his second bday, making it a HUGE deal he was a big boy now and it had to go bye bye to new babies since he wasn't a baby anymore. That worked for them.

You are smart in doing it now as it gets harder to break habits like bottles and pacifiers with every month they head to two!! :)

My daycare provider is a firm beleiver that each kid has their own timeframe on security habits like the binky. My daughter is 22 mos and she only uses hers at night but when it falls out she sometimes wakes up. She has been right on all other parenting issues I've had so, I'm gonna trust her with this one too.

The binki fairy worked for my firends kids. Another idea is to take her fav binki to build-a-bear and let her pick out a special bear. Before they sew the bears up, they have you make a wish on a heart and put it inside the bear....she could put the binki in with it. The she will still have her binki, but she won't be able to suck on it.

Just take it away. My son was about that age when we took the binkies away. I just did it and he was fine. If he doesn't already have lovey, like a favorite blanket or stuffed animal, give him one of those so he has something comforting to sleep with. But I think he should probably be fine. You can explain to him before hand that it's time for the binkies to go away. But it sounds like he's not too attached, so he should take it just fine.

My daughter never took a binkie but my friends daughter did and I'm not sure how old she was but while they were out at a mall or somewhere, the daughter dropped it and while the child was not looking, my friend bent down and picked it up and put it in her pocket. When her daughter asked for it, she said, you must have lost it, sorry but we don't have anymore. It was tough the first day or so but eventually she got over it.

When you go to get rid of it you might try the Binkie fairy. Put all the binkies in an envelope and put them on the front porch and tell your son that in the morning he will have a present for giving up his Binkies. You can tell him that the Binkie fairy needs his binkies for other children who do not have one and that he gets a special gift for giving a special gift. Then get him something really special that you know he would just love. Hope this helps : )

If you offer it to him he will want it... so you can try one of to things... cold turkey or let him decide, if he want to fall asleep with it, it really isn't the end of the world-at this point I would use a binki then let the thumb go in the mouth...

I use to lay the binki in the bed with my son and if he wanted it, he would find it. He just got to where he chose not to use it.

I know what doctors say about binkis, but I am not one to make my baby/child grow up any faster then they already do. A binki at night and at nap time for a 14 month old isn't that big of a deal- it is not going to hurt his teeth- he probably doesn't keep it in his mouth long enough... and you aren't giving it to him any other time- It doesn't seem like he is dependent on it really.

With my first son we waited until he was two and my youngest we waited until he was almost three so I am not sure if this approach works for younger kiddos, but...we had our sons find/put all the binkies in a bag and took them to a local toys r us where they got to pick a toy. They have the cashier the binkies for their new toy. We told them the cashier would give them to other babies that needed them, now that they weren't babies anymore. I think this could work if your son has something he is really into (my oldest was really into garbage trucks). Be prepared for a little more fussiness when they are tired or whenever there favorite binkie time it. Both my kids fussed a little but that was less than a week. We just kept reminded them that the binkies were with babies and they had a great toy now. We even let them park their toys next to their beds. Hope that helps some. I know it can be tough to get rid of those comfort items.

Hi K....I have 2 children and both had the binki. The first one had it until she was 3 1/2, she was very attached to it. The other one until she was 18 mos. I think it's just up to you and how your baby deals without it. He still little. Is he still on the bottle?

he sounds ready to me! maybe take it away at nap and use it at bed time. once he gets that down loose it all together or if he is doing well go cold turkey! GL

Only one of mine ever took to a binkie and he came to it late in the scope of things, I didn't even bother with breaking him of it until around 2, but that went real bad, so I backed off limited it's use, if we forgot it we didn't go back for it, I believe we had like 6-7 at the time and as each one got lost I would say uh-oh your only down to 5 ect until there was only the last one and he watched it like a hawk, that one wore out and by that time he was fine with out having it, no pain involved. I don't think there is any rush at this age, have him checked by a dentist, they should be seen this young anyways and if the teeth look good don't worry, I never told my dentist that my son had a binkie cause I didn't want a prejudiced opinion, at least not with him they did know that my DD sometimes had one and I got the you need to stop but she only used it once a day maybe and that was at nap, and my son was chronic about it for a period of time.

K.,
I had a binki baby. This worked so great and easy for me. I took all the pacifiers away except for the one that was the favorite or in the best shape. Then I told my 18 month old that it had to stay in the bed and rest until she needed it for nap or bed time. So we would say goodnight or goodbye to it and leave it in the crib. I kept the binki tether on it so she could find it easier in the night, but I wouldn't pin it to her. And I would never put it in her mouth. Then after she got use to that, I poked it with a needle right in the center. I waited a few days or week and sniped of a bit of the top just the smallest amount. then a few more days or week and then a bit more. Until she didn't like to use it any more. I did it about 6 times until it was useless for sucking. When she would comment on it, I would say "oh sad, its breaking, we will have to throw it away soon." And leave it at that. When finally she wasn't using it, I told her it was broken all the way and she could throw it in the garbage. And that was that. all done :) (just make sure that when cutting you don't leave little pieces that could fall off and choke him)hope this helps Good luck,
E.

My son was almost 3 when we finally broke him, so this may not work with a 14 month old, but here it is anyways! We told him that the paci-fairy was coming that evening and we wrote her a note. She brought him a special toy to trade for his paci. It worked wonderfully! It was a bit hard for about 2 days, at the most, and then it was over! Good luck and no matter how you do it, the sadness will only last for a couple of days!