Seeking Advice for Disiplining 2 1/2 Year Old.

M.,
Hi I have a 2yr old grandson and his mother is very aggressive in the way she interacts with him. She play bites on him and thinks she needs to make him tough. Well she has 2 new twins and he is biting them and trying to hit and jump on them and she gets mad and wants to punish him when he has learned all this from her.I beleive that at this age they see Mom or Dad doing this so they think it is ok. I would talk to Dad and try to let him show him how to play with other kids and how to interact with adults he comes in contact with. Just have a little role playing. I know its great to rough house with his son but just try and show him that there is a place and time for this. when he gets alittle older Im sure it will get better GOOD LUCK

I highly recommend the book, "Shepherding A Child's Heart", by Tedd Tripp. It is the best parenting book I have ever read and it will help you understand why he is acting this way and help you with parenting. I have a almost eight-year-old daughter, a 6 year-old son, and a two year old daughter. This book has really worked for me. I have also taught a class based on this book and have gotten very positive feedback from other moms too, especially those of us who struggle with anger.

Blessings to you and your sweet babies.

D.

I have a 2 1/2 year old too and he does the same thing. When he has tried to hit me out of anger I sometimes hold him on my lap and tell him not to hit very calmly, but if he is still hitting I will put him in time out. It usually works very well with him because he hates to have to sit still for five minutes. We usually won't try to hit anymore that day. He has got alot better with it here lately. It just takes being very calm about it and alot of patience.

A little about me
I am a stay at home mom of 2 Trinity 21/2 and Carrie 9 months. I have been married for 5 years.

M.,

I have a 4 yr old and a 2 1/2 year old, both boys. My husband plays ruff with them all the time but they don't with me. Daddy tells them that it isn't nice to hit girls and that mommy is a girl. If they accidently get ruff and hit me, he and i make them tell me they are sorry. I used to play ruff with them myself but my hubby was gone last year to Iraq. Now they know they play fight with daddy and play easy with mommy.

Just talk to him. he is old enough for you to talk patiently to and explain whats going on. If he doesn't catch on fairly quickly, use time out. Time out also helps me take the time to calm down and get more patience so i can go in there and talk to him and explain why i put him in time out.

Good luck

as a mother of 3. 2 of which are boys, I also had this same problem, I too was a single mom, everytime that my boy would get agressive with me or anyone else, I would tell him that I love him very much and give him a hug, then after the hugs I would tell him that arms are for hugging nor for punching or wrestling with, I also tried to explain at eye level with him that it was not appropriate behavior, my son is now 15 and he is a good, christian teen, he has a big heart. The big thing is to be consistant with him, but also very patient. This all took awhile to do but it will work in the long run if you keep up with it!!!! You can try talking to his father again, but it probably will not help. Hope this helps you.