Second Baby Shower Ettiquette

BY ALL means....you can have a second shower. I am a military wife and a southern belle (true and at heart) so I try to always follow good manners. I am getting ready to have a third baby and my friends will be throwing me a shower. Remember, each baby is different (especially different sexes). You will always need diapers, onsies, t-shirts, bath products and anything else that is worn out. You can also suggest getting the gals to do a spa day together and pay for your Spa Treatment. OR, I had several friends from high school (that were all in different states) go in together and buy me a maid service for several weeks!!! Hope this helps.
C.

I wasn't too sure about this so I asked my mother who is a veteran mom of 5-she says: " Usually when you have a second child of the same sex thats less than 2 yrs apart you don't have a baby shower. If you were having a girl it would be different because you would need girl stuff- but since it's a boy you already have everything-except maybe a double stroller. " My mom says she only had 1 baby shower-5 girls-all a year to 18 months apart. wow. Maybe a congratulatory dinner to say good luck and welcome to the baby would be in order.

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I had my first child just about 2 yrs ago. I am pregnant with twins now and they are due around my first childs birthday. We are going ahead and having a baby shower. This time we are mainly inviting family vs. friends. I think it would be just fine for you to have another shower. This time you just wont need as much.

Hope this helps.

Well, I had a similar situation a few years ago when a friend insisted on a shower for my second girl just 18 months after my first was born. She had a "tea party" theme, which isn't really going to fly for a boy, but by having a theme, we were able to tout it as a celebration rather than a shower. Of course, people brought gifts, but when they asked me what I needed, I was honest and told them "Nothing. We have everything from #1 and don't NEED anything."

I've heard of others having:

+ book party where they bring their favorite childhood book with a message for the baby or family written in the front cover.
+ barbeque/picnic celebration
+ a charity drive - a shower where the guests come to celebrate the life of YOUR baby, but bring donations to give to a women's shelter or local crisis pregnancy shelter...

If you think about it as a celebration of the new baby, rather than an opportunity to get presents.... it makes it much less awkward accepting your friend's generous offer of hosting a shower. And then the fact that everyone usually likes to buy a gift for a new baby..... Think of the gifts like you would birthday gifts!

Best wishes and many congratulations to your growing family.

I used to think the same thing about second baby showers. I now think that it's the more modern thing to have a shower with each child. I had two showers, my friend had 2 showers, another friend had 3 showers...I think when registering though for the second or third shower it is important to think about what you are registering for.. you should already have many of the big ticket items. I tend to think that the items on your registry should reflect that so your friends aren't thinking shouldn't she already have all these things? register for all the necessities, toys, diapers, bottles prob if necessary, clothes. High chairs, porta cribs, swings, exersaucers...the higher end things you may want to think about excluding on a registry. well anyway, that's my advice. conrats!