my child wants to go to a diffrent school than i want her to go to she says that she dosent want to leave her friends. what should i do? my daughter is 10 she is going into to fifth grade her current school goes k- 4 grade.
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How old is your daughter?
What are the pros and cons of each school?
How long has she been at her current school?
How are her grades?
Is it about finances? Where you live?
etc....
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While its up to you I do believe its good to hear your daughter out. I also would want to see how she is with her friends outside of school. School is very important but being lonely and nothaving friends to back you up in middle school is very hard.
You're the parent, you make the decisions.
She can chose her college.
If her current school only goes to 4th and I felt the school I'd chosen was the better school I would send her to the one I chose. I know she doesn't realize this, but once she hits middle school/junior high some of her friends will be going elsewhere as well.
If you decide to send her to the school her friends won't be at encourage her to keep in touch with her them and invite them over on Friday nights for sleepovers to catch up on what's going on.
She can see her friends on weekends and can make new freinds at a different school. Shes 10, youre the parent. Send her to the one that works best for you in location and academics.
I agree with others that you get to make the decision. That said, really listening to your daughter about her fears and concerns will go a long way to helping her adjust. Will she know anyone at the new school? Is she outgoing? My daughter went to a middle school where she didn't know anyone. It was hard at first. Are there any school activities-chorus, clubs, etc.- you could sign her up for to ease her transition? Being willing to explain your decision, not defend or justify it, can help get her on board. This is a truly challenging time for kids and the more you can really listen to her feelings objectively and help her deal with them the stronger your relationship will be.
Actually, the best thing for her may be to go to a new school. It's great to go in to a middle school the first year it starts, when everyone else is just starting and everyone is looking to make some new friends. Yes, she can still see her old friends on weekends, and in activities and such. This is a really hard age on friendships, because some girls skyrocket right into mini teenagers, and others are still more little kid silly, enjoy playing with dolls, etc. So just because she is close to some girls from her elementary school now after 4th grade, doesn't mean they will even be friends next year. Hopefully, she won't really grow apart from all her old friends, but things DO shift, and groups of friends break apart and reform, no matter what school she goes to. If she goes to a new school, she can keep ties with her old friends AND make some new ones. It is SO good to have friends in different circles when things go sour with one group, as inevitably will happen with girls. Good luck. I agree with the others, you are the parent, you choose the best school.
Since her current school only goes to 4th grade it seems a perfect time for her to change schools. Techincally she's going to be changing schools anyway, it's just that the choice you made probably doesn't include anyon she knows. I think most kids would be hesitatnt to change schools...it's scary! But, you made your decision for a reason and she may not get to decide in this case. It would be easier to give advice if I knew at least some of the reasons behind this move but I'm guessing she'll get over her anxiety and be just fine making new friends.
