Scared of Pooping in Toilet How Long Does This Last?

It's going to feel like forever. I think it was close to a year before my daughter got it down and wasn't scared. She would scream/cry/you name it to not go poop. Be absolutely miserable. I thought she had something seriously wrong with her. Well she did, she was full of poop and it hurt. I know one thing that helped some was giving her miralax in her cup of whatever once a day. It helped to keep it soft so it would come out and she couldn't hold it in.
She has finally gotten it all of the sudden and she goes by herself. Her thing is mom don't watch me.
My 5 year old son had no problems with all potty training. He didn't like to be dirty so the accidents were minimal. My problems with my 3 year old were frustrating cause my son breezed right through.
Good Luck and give them time...that's a big milestone for such a little person. Just try to keep your patience and know that you are not alone!

My son didn't want to poop in potty either. He was pee trained at 3 and that only took about a day or two. Poop seemed like for forever but it was about 6 months. He would go and hide and I would just follow him around and tell him that poopin in pants is yucky feeling and that he should do it in potty. But I would also have him clean his undies. And let him flush so he had total control over all the processes. I didn't force it or let up on it. He eventually got comfy and pooped in potty. And then the party was on.
Good luck and tons of patience.

Pooping in the toilet is not optional but mandatory. It won't really traumatize him to just require it of him. Boys tend to be slightly more difficult than girls when it come to potty training (at least that has been my experience with the boys in my family).

Don't let his drama deter you from doing what is right for him. Be encouraging but insistent. Prune juice is his friend or some other kind of stool softener. If it is too loose he won't be able to hold it. Also not waiting until the last minute is also helpful. So try to time when he poops after eating and then sit him on the pot accordingly.

For our child pooping was an issue and still can be in 5th Grade!
Child has some worry when sitting on it they may slip in too.
Somethings that can help are buying a child size seat that flips up and down over the Adult sized toilet seat, then feel much more secure sitting on it.

Have you tried a fake toilet that is plastic with a small seat before trying the real one that could help also. We also bought a toilet training video that gave the child a feeling of control over the situation and it helped a lot too.

Maybe the child should be tested for learning disabilities which maybe the case. And then you need to be much more patient with him and his progress doing it like adults can. I wonder if the child is really smart but does not pick up on others clues for an ASD (autism spectrum disorder).

This might be what he is trying to help the parent to understand how he sees his world? When did he learn to communicate verbally and how does he do this best? The Video for Kids can help build confidence and help them to understand the use of the Toilet.

I suspect that forcing the issue will make it take longer. My son would ask for a diaper to poop. I'd give it to him and not make an issue of it. I'd say something like, "Soon you won't need a diaper anymore and you'll use the potty like Mom and Dad." It took a couple of months after he was pee trained and he gave up diapers on his own.
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when our son seems seems scared of something we try encouraging him . if he is not having it we say his name over and over while cheering him on. think frat boy house saying "do it do it do it" he usually likes the happy attention and will go for it! then be so happy and proud he did it. we all cheer and hug high five. hope you find something that will work for you as well. i think you should keep it up though.