Say Something or Leave It Go?

I would skip the cookies, but the rest sounds fine. Especially if he is eating his breakfast. I often threw puffs, cheerios, teething biscuits or other finger foods on my son's tray while I made him his breakfast. Those things take time for them to eat and they don't eat enough to make them not eat their breakfast. So the only thing I would question is the cookies. Cookies are not for breakfast IMO.

I would bring food that he can have before breakfast, things you would want him to have. I was like you with what my children ate and when. I brought my own. Good luck!

Audry, My son at breakfast at the sitter's pretty much every day for the first 3 years of his life. I woke him up as late as possible so that I had time to get ready for work. Sorry other Moms but I don't think where he eats breakfast is an issue.

Okay, that out of the way - if he is eating all his breakfast *and* snacks I would not worry at all. My sitter often gave mine snacks to keep him occupied while she got breakfast ready and he did not develop bad eating habits. He also ate things at her house he refused at home.

As long as he is healthy and happy and the sitter takes good care of him everything is all right. And having a yogurt bite or two is way better than crying because he is hungry.

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Well toast is fine and most of the Gerber stuff is okay also. And if he really is eating his regular breakfast as well I would let it go. And as a provider myself I just want to say it really is difficult when parents are comeing in at all different times and expecting their child to be fed as soon as they walk in the door. Is there anyway you can feed your child at home? Or maybe offer a substitute solution as the snacks. I do breakfast between 7:00 and 7:30 and so many times parents come in after 8:30 and say oh we didn't have time to eat. They have cookies or poptarts, cheesesticks and they want me to set the child up to feed them right then and there. The other children get confused and fuss because they don't understand why this one gets something special(different) and it also holds up our day.

My answer is the same as your last hundred posts about your 'incompetent' babysitter. Get a NEW one.

:)

Bring a little container of Cheerios or Puffs for him to munch on while he waits his turn.

Audry just let it go, if your son is eating his breakfast and his "snack" ( which really isn't bad) then just let it go. He is healthy happy and well dont worry about it.

I would let it go. Unless it really bothers you, then I suggest bringing something else you feel more comfortable with him eating. I don't think yogurt bites is so bad or toast. But you can find something you prefer.

It wouldn't have bothered me...but since it troubles you-I really like the PP idea of Cheerios. Bring a box next time and give them to her to use for this purpose.

let it go. but if you think its a big deal, when you talk to her later-ask her to feed him the cereal first before giving him snacks.

I love Lynn's answer. Supply her with some alternatives. Personally I would feel pretty good that she did not let my child just sit there hungry. I think a child's overall trust and self concept are built up when their caregivers are considerate. When my son was that age my mother only had him to care for, but she still put cheerios on his tray while she prepped his food. Knowing I am leaving my little ones with someone who cares about their well being is priceless. I don't think you are being too picky. When you have to leave your child, you are depending on someone else to care for them and it is difficult when their way differs from what you would have done. I try to communicate what concerns me and why. Sometimes my mom's reasoning is such that I change my mind, other times she changes to meet my expectations. I always have a sense of trying to balance my way, and the overall well being of my children who are with somebody that loves them deeply.

I would suggest to her that she put down cherrios to keep him occupied until breakfast. there are better choices that cookies and yogurt bites in the morning. i would buy something this weekend that you want him to have to "hold him over until breakfast" and give it to her monday morning and ask her to give that to him instead of the sweets. i would be the same way as you.

I would say something. You're his mom, if you aren't comfortable with him having those snacks before breakfast you should tell her. Tell her what types of pre-breakfast snacks he is allowed to have or simply bring them yourself. He should not have cookies as a pre-snack meal, whether they are "healthy" cookies or not...it sends the wrong message. Just because someone else thinks something is a good choice doesn't mean that you have to go along with it. I have always given my childcare providers specific instructions about what foods my children are allowed to eat.

Tell her that as long as he continues to eat all of his breakfast, a bit of a snack is ok but skip the cookies.

I would let it go. Or feed him at home first. Why can't she feed both at the same time though? Can't she give one bite to one from and then one to another? Of course from their own food with their own spoons. I'm sure mother's of twins don't make one wait completely until the other is done.

Okay, I have a home daycare and my first question was, why is he eating breakfast as SOON as he arrives, why isn't he eating at home? I have kids that arrive early, by 7am and those moms bring breakfast for their kids to eat, some I have to prepare like oatmeal or bread to toast etc, but I think if your child is eating there right away, why aren't you feeding him at home? Or give him a small healthy snack at home or on the way there, and he can wait to eat his breakfast when she is ready to do so. What is wrong with toast? However, I think communication is key in a daycare. So, since this is bothering you, definitely say something and come up with a solution. You could provide a box of cheerios or ask that she give something else that you agree on together. It is possible to feed both kids at the same time, but hard to get baby cereal ready while feeding someone else, unless she is not sitting down and spoon feeding him. But be sure to address ANY concerns with her, you both need to be comfortable with what goes on.

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My children eat something lite at home and then something at school sometimes. What if you start takign him with a little snack baggie of cherrios, I would definitely say something because you may not know the whole story maybe it was only until she got his cereal ready. Speak up after all it is your child

get her some healthy snacks instead. in reality do you think your cereal that is totally processed with no fiber is better than the cookies and toast? the best thing is the butter so far!

Let it go, especially if this was a one time thing. If she feeds him that habitually, you may want to mention your choice of snacks, breakfast items you prefer he eats.

Hi, A.:
Even though you knew the reason the sitter gave your baby the snack. Why did it continue to bother you?
If you know the deep reason why it bothered you, then you tell the sitter the
reason why it bothered you what you need to get your needs met.
Just a thought.
D.

uh no. you're not a "picky mom", you're HIS MOM.

cookies and yogurt bites aren't really a good start to ANY day for ANYONE, no matter what their age. even if he does eat his other breakfast, really what message is that sending him?

eventually he will adjust his likes and wants and begin EXPECTING things.

if you want him to eat healthy or certain foods, that means eliminating other things or not serving them. that way he won't expect it, and his palate won't have a taste for it.

bc if that's the routine there, eventually he'll PREFER cookies over oatmeal.

duh! I WOULD!!! LMAO!

he's old enough to throw fits so I would say something!

Wow, I really don't think this is a big deal. I would honestly ask her not to give cookies in the morning, but the rest sounds fine. Being in care, your child is exposed to more of a variety of foods and this is good! My son learned to eat peas at daycare because all of the other kids were eating them with a spoon from their bowl and he wanted to try it too! It is hard to let go of what we do at home, but I do think a little letting go is good. Still, you are fine to let her know your preferences. Cookies at breakfast? Uh, I would say no too! ;-)

Could you bring stuff you want him to eat, and let her give him that instead? I feel the same way about eating healthy especially for a little babe!