SAHM Bday

I take the day off. I don't do any chores around the house. My birthday is a summer birthday so I usually take my daughter to a splash fountain so she can run and play and I can relax with a book. I don't cook and we usually go out to dinner.

My DH takes the day off and we do an outing, like see a museum. I do tend to bring DD, but I enjoy sharing it with her. Before I became a WAHM, I would take the day as PTO when I could. If I couldn't afford the PTO, I would just do something on the weekend or that night.

Happy Birthday!
Lots of women work on their birthdays. I guess I don't "get" the SAHM part of the question. At least you're not grinding out a 9-5. You DO have the option of blowing off your work completely--don't worry..you won't EVER get fired!

Why does it matter whether you are a stay at home mom or not. On my birthday I got up at 5:30, got myself ready for work, got my kids ready for school, kicked them to the curb, sat on the highway, got to work, worked, went home, made dinner, cleaned the house, helped with homework, Troy got home and was the first person to wish me a happy birthday, kids joined in, Genna picked me weeds and put them in a vase, got the kids ready for bed, got myself ready for bed, put them to bed, went to bed.

To me this was not a bad birthday, after all I am not a child anymore.

Give yourself a break from the housework on your bday... take your kids out somewhere fun for the day and go out for dinner tonight! Everyone should feel a little special on their bday, even grown ups!

First, happy birthday.

Second, you celebrate the same way those of us who work do... after everyone gets home you have dinner and a piece of cake. I'm with Jo G on this one. My birthday sounded a lot like hers... up at 5:30, made breakfast, got my son ready, left for work at 6:45, worked all day, came home, ordered pizza and had a cupcake (which my husband did order and pick up).

Yes, it's your job. Celebrate after your work is done or take a break mid-day and treat yourself to an ice cream.

Birthdays are a big deal in our families.

When our daughter was born 3 weeks early, she stole my birthday week!
It was ok though cause she was so cute and the absolute best gift I have ever gotten for my birthday.

Traditionally, the Birthday person gets to pick where they want to go out to eat.. It is very exciting because all year as new restaurants open we all discuss "Is that where you might want to go for your Bday dinner?" Or I will read a review and say.. "This new place is supposed to be awesome."

This year is very special.. Our daughter will be 21! She has never had a cocktail, so she has been "researching cocktails" to decide which one she would like to try.. Then she will probably pick the new Sushi place that is in our hood. It is very fancy and has been getting great reviews..

This year I will be 50! Along with 2 of my very best friends! We are throwing ourselves a fancy grown up party.. SO I have been organizing it! This will be my everything for the year.. Birthday, mothers day, Christmas..

Our daughter loves baking our birthday cakes, so that is always really good..

I'm a December birthday, so it always coincides with planning for Christmas.

Over the years I have started a DECEMBER ONLY birthday lunch club. That was after the kids were in school.

This last year when I turned 50 and we had recently moved and I had not made many friends yet to start up my birthday club, but my hubs made reservations for one of the finest restaurants in the city, but then he became really sick so we had to cancel and I went to another girlfriend's 40th birthday party - alone. We still have not been able to reschedule.

I say if you want your day to be special, you are going to have to plan it yourself. Most years for me, it's the same oh, same oh, of household chores and tending to the kids events and needs with dinner out. And I don't like cake or ice cream much. So that's not an issue.

I do like to plan some type of beauty treatment, like getting my hair, done, or pedicure, or facial. Some women do this regularly. I do not. So for me, those activities are a treat. So decide what things make you feel special and plan it.

Oh this past year was BAD, I had to ASK for a cake and didn't get one till 4 days AFTER my birthday!!!!! Shame on them. That's all I ever want though, as far as celebration, it may be nice to wake up and have a few extra things done around the house, or if it's a weekend DH might pick up the chores so I don't have to. But right or wrong of me I completely expect a cake, not made by me, on my table, on my birthday.

Although I agree that birthday celebrations for myself have taken a major hit since our kids have been born, I still think you should sort of do what you want to make yourself happy. Yes, you may have to do some sort of housework, etc., but honestly, if you can avoid it...DO! Some people I know take their birthdays off of work so they can hang out with their kids or be by themselves so there is nothing wrong with slacking a bit on your household duties. That's pretty much what I do on my birthday! I might take the kids out for ice cream or we might just hang out and play or go to the mall...something that is not "work" if at all possible!

Happy Birthday!!!

Maybe it's just me but it is not that big of a deal... maybe if I were turning 16 or something but now, it is just another day. Actually, as I get older, I dread them more, strive to keep it quiet and be thankful for my good health.

I'm not into big celebrations, etc. I treasure the other days of the year when my family does something special. My hubby usually has flowers delivered and we have cake and go to dinner.

There are 365 days in the year that I appreciate my family and 1 day does not revolve around me.

I try to not make a fuss on the outside, but deep down im always hoping that I can have a day to myself. I am an only child so my birthdays were always made a big deal by my parents, which was great- and i kind of miss that now that i take care of others all day! Last year I had just had a baby 4 weeks prior so I just kinda hung out with the baby and my 2 year old son and my husband came home early and made me a great dinner and spoiled me with a great gift! What still bothers me to this day is I had asked my mom to come over for a little while so I could go relax by the pool for an hour and instead she decided to go buy a new car and didnt even call me until 2 in the afternoon. Thats a whole different post that I will probably make sometime in July :( I think we should all get time for ourselves and even if its only an hour to get a pedicure or something, why not? we definately deserve it!

I am lucky in a way because my birthday is during the Christmas break so I am always at home, but as I am a twin I always spend the day with family and then my sister and I go out at night with our girlfriends.

My kids usually make me a card and have bought something with my hubby the days prior. We always go out to eat on any of our birthdays. It has to be better than McDonalds, so no fast food.
I have on occasion been driving back to the East Coast from Chicago after Thanksgiving. I have an end of Nov Bday.
I have also had just a normal day teaching to my two homeschooled ones at home.

Well, try having a birthday two days after your husband's and on Father's day! Because of the timing I don't know what this year will bring. I too grew up with the idea that birthdays are a big deal and was used to a little fuss. By no means do I expect expensive gifts, but a little extra acknowledgment is always good. My husband usually gets me flowers with the kids and has recently started making me a dinner of my choosing. That feels pretty good and the kids enjoy it. I think it also good to show kids how to treat those you love.

Well first, you're the "mom" and what that very typically means is that you're the one who plans everything for everyone. So too often, that makes other people unaccustomed to planning anything, so they don't. If you want to celebrate your birthday and noone else is stepping up, do it yourself, knowing it will be what you want. The last few years in a row: we went to a neighborhood child's birthday party, lol. She's exactly 1 day older than my son, and her parties were always a pretty big deal for a preschooler (her mom went all out but did all the work herself, pretty impressive). I think it might be a "mom" thing to do to pick something that is for my son, but it was my choice in the end (I knew there weren't any other plans, and this was a place where I could hang out and eat stuff I didn't cook and talk to real live grownups while watching the kids be happy, playing, having fun). We'd go to her party in the morning, and then after naptime we'd go ride a train or have a picnic in the park or whatever. Year before last, I got a softball glove for my birthday so we could have family time in the park playing catch or Tball (until boys are big enough for baseball), which was good. This past year was great though: a few nights before, we had a great dinner party at a restaurant with a really cool mix of coworkers, neighbors, and a lifelong friend to say goodbye (we were moving in a couple weeks). Everyone was congratulating my husband on the promotion and transfer, but then he got up and made a little speech about how he couldn't have done it without me and presented me with a beautiful award (made by the same company that makes his firm's awards: he chased them up and had one made for me). His secretary got him a shirt that said "It's not me, it's her" (a joke about every successful man has a great woman beside him). Was nice to get some attention, lol. Funny thing though: I was the one who made the plans/arrangements for the dinner, all Jer had to do was invite his people so it was very cool that he went behind my back and got me the "trophy". On my actual birthday, we went to the neighbor's 4th birthday party in the morning, and that night we went to a neighbor's house for my birthday party (she has a better backyard and more "stuff" for the kids to play with outside: trampoline, 2 cottages, full swingset, sandbox, etc) and since she was hosting the party at her house, I cooked: fried fish and shrimp, roasted potatoes, scallops, spinach artichoke dip, and brought my "bar" over in a red wagon, but the official drink of the evening was my fuzzy navels. That was a great time, with all the neighbors around over. Jeremy surprised me with my gift: a digital Canon (I'd always stuck with my film Canon but was having trouble finding a GOOD developer), and ALLLLLLLL the optional stuff to go with it. (The whole set up!). But this last birthday was very very unusual. I was the one who approached my neighbor and made the arrangements (she'd said after the restaurant that it was SO much fun and she wanted to do it again, and I said if she'd let us use her backyard for the her kids and mine to go play, I'd provide and prepare all food and drinks). Usually it's just the 4 of us after the kid's birthday party, and I get myself a cheesecake or blackforest cake (my favorites, and again, I go to the store and get what I want, and my husband can put the candles in it). The awesome camera stuff for my gift? Well, I think that was partly a gift to say "sorry for making you move" because he knew I wasn't thrilled, and partly because we moved to a scenic place and he wanted me to pick up my old photography hobby again because he knew I loved it back in my single days). Long answer, but the moral: you deserve to have fun. But don't sit on your laurels and hope someone does it......make the arrangements yourself. Not that your family doesn't care about you as much as they probably just get spoiled to the fact that you are always the one that makes the arrangements for everything.

I usually take the day off to stay home so I can catch up on dishes, laundry, cleaning...sad but true :) I try to take the kids out to the beach or something fun for me (not in the house), and my husband gets me a cake and a card...I usually make a BBQ dinner, let my husband cook (if he's not working nights :(

On my birthday, my husband cleans the kitchen, takes care of the toilets, vacuums the floor and makes a valiant effort to cook something without stinking up the house. I pull out a good book and read it. When my sweet child comes and flings herself upon me looking to play, I give her a big hug and a kiss and my husband will take her for a walk to burn off some of that energy. He'll keep her occupied upstairs while I watch an R rated show I never could find the time to see before. The cat will curl up next to me on the sofa and completely relaxed, sometimes I'll even take a nap!

His gift to me is transforming into "mom" for a day so mom can transform back into N.. It's the best birthday gift ever, spending the day only having to worry about myself, knowing everyone else is taken care of.

If we had money, maybe I'd want to go out with the whole family and do something exciting. But living from one heartbeat to the next as we are right now, we celebrate simply.

Hubby is deployed, so this year I had a regular day of taking care of the children by myself, doing laundry, dishes, etc before taking my son to his therapy. Then I drove to my Mom's house where she had cooked dinner and made her world famous cupcakes. The next day, my Dad and my brother watched my kids so Mom and I could go get pedicures. So, all in all, it could have been much worse.

I desperately look forward to the day my children can say, Happy Birthday, Mommy. Thatll be the best gift ever. (My son is almost four and non-verbal.)

I gave up on tying celebrations to any given day once I had a family. I celebrate things like my birthday, Valentine's Day, etc. but not necessarily on the day it says to do it on the calendar. I am also very vocal about what it is I want to do to celebrate the occasion so that there are no misunderstandings. And if what I want to do is relax, then laundry, dishes, etc. can wait a day if no one else is doing it.

On my birthday I do not do house chores and we go out to eat for dinner. Of course if the dishes had piled up it bugs me so I will take care of them, but no laundry, the floors can skip a day of cleaning and so on. Depending on the weather we may go walk along the river/lake, the zoo, or we just stay indoors (besides going out for dinner). I usually get my own cake from DQ, love ice cream cakes, or I pick up cheesecake from cheesecake factory.

Some years I even do a week long celebration, nothing big but I have something specail planned for each day... massage one day, zoo another, going out to eat on my b-day, starbucks coffee (this is a treat because I only allow myself to get their coffee once a month), theatre performance or concert or movie, get together with family for pizza (brothers, sister-in-laws & parents).

I honestly don't make a big deal about my birthday. I mean, I'm 36 years old not 6. Even when I was a kid, my duties didn't stop because it was my birthday. I still had to go to school and I still had to do chores and homework, so it sure isn't going to stop now that I am an adult. My husband is an equal partner and is always helping out around the house and with the kids. He'll try to let me sleep in, but I just can't sleep when I can hear the kids running around and I'm a morning person anyway. I do think that everyone should have a cake on their birthday or even a cupcake (maybe it's just because I love a decadent cake!) and my husband NEVER got me one because it truly just never occurred to him. Well, thanks to my 3 year old daughter, who loves birthday parties and throws one for her baby dolls almost daily, asked my husband one night at dinner, "Daddy, what kind of cake are we going to get Mommy?" The look of shock that was on my husbands face was hilarious. Well, on my birthday was a beautiful L. cake and he even got it from my favorite bakery. My birthday was this past May 21 and we stayed home for the day and worked around the yard and then at night we dropped the kids off and my husband and I went out for dinner and it was a great birthday. I hope you have or had a great birthday too.

Im always glad I made it to another birthday! It all depends on what day it is and whats happening but usually Im home, doing the normal daily stuff. I have 3 great friends who take me out for dinner. We always go out for our birthdays and then sit and talk for a couple hours and laugh about stupid stuff. Weve been going out together for about 30 years now and it is always so funny to hear us complain about our newest old lady symptoms,lol My husband and I go to dinner with friends nearly every week anyway but he always makes sure the other couple knows it is my birthday week and they make a big deal of it. I have been known to go shop certain stores that I know will check my drivers license when I write a check so they notice the date and wish me a happy birthday..Its just sorta silly and fun but I do it on purpose,,lol