Right Time to Seperate B/g Twins?

I do not have twins. But I did switch my oldest girls room the summer before she started school (K). It worked out well doing it over the summer. There are so many changes in school, it was good for her to come home to the comfort of her "new" room that she had time to adjust to and help decorate too. Good luck.

My sister and I used to share a room and when I first got my own room, I had a really hard time falling asleep and would sneak into her room in the middle of the night and sleep on her floor-- I did this for a week or so. So whenver you decide to do the transition, maybe have an area in her old room where she can sleep if she wants to-- like maybe move all of her belongings in with her sister and allow her to chose where she wants to sleep for the first week or so. I think you might want to start making the transition over the summer because then it will already be done by the time school starts-- they will have enough "new" things in their lives with the start of school. Also, I think the older your first born gets the harder it will be to give up her personal space to share a room with someone else, so do it soon! And to ease your son's lonliness, maybe when the transition happens you can let him chose and buy a new roommate (stuffed animal)

I don't know an answer for you, but in making your decision you might consider which will be the more difficult transition -- separating the twins now vs. requiring your older daughter to become accustomed to sharing at an older age? Also consider, when you move your twin daughter to her big sister's room, how difficult will it be for your twin son to learn to sleep alone?

As far as boys/girls sharing a room, I wouldn't be concerned until the point when you think that it's inappropriate for them to bathe together. At that point, then I wouldn't want them to share a bedroom.

Best wishes whenever you decide.

Dear Loving Mother,

When it,s time to separate the children you will sense or hear the negativity. Please don't separate them till that occurs as they will miss each other and be confused, plus they have fun together.

Children are angels,
D. P.

I think a good time for children to share is when the younger ones won't interfere with the sleep of the older one, as babies tend to do. Starting school would be a great, natural changeover time if the younger girl is sleeping well through the night.

Hi, H.. Well, I think that 3 is a good time for boys and girls to have separate rooms. It sounds like they are all potty-trained, so they need their privacy. It also depends on how well the girls get along. You might try having the girls have their own "slumber party" to see how well they do sleeping in the same room. At the same time, you will also be checking to see how your boy handles sleeping all by himself in his room. I am very, very big on giving kids gradual transitions and trial runs to get them accustomed to changes rather than giving them quick changes that may cause drama and confusion.

Now, were you planning to move the 3-year-old girl into her big sister's room? Watch out for territorial issues. Make sure the big sister is willing to share what used to be completely hers.

Or were you going to move your son out and have the two girls share the room where the twins slept together? That might be easier on the girl twin, but harder on your son and eldest daughter. You might try playing musical rooms for a few weeks and see what works the best for all the children.

Peace,
Syl

Hello! I also have 3 year old boy/girl twins, and I have them in the same room. I'm also interested to see other responses to your question. I think it will be a long time before I separate mine because, even though they fight sometimes, they dont always like being apart. Plus my girl is scared to be all by herself. I would like to separate them because she is a poor sleeper, and whenever she wakes up (multiple times in a night) she also wakes him up. Since you have an older daughter, that would be great to have the girls share a room. Have you asked your kids their thoughts on this? I know when I was growing up, I preferred having my own room, but I always had to share because I had a twin sister and a sister that was 10 months older (my mom had 3 kids within a year, so she knows how your life is!). I imagine your kids are still young enough that they dont mind sharing though.

My twins are 7 months old and we separated them when they were 5 months. They kept waking each other up during the night, I wish they could have stayed in the same room for our sakes. But, since we've separated them, they are both taking longer naps and sleeping much better at night. Sorry I can't help....

Hi H.,

I have almost 6 year old b/g twins. I slept them together until they were nearly 3. Then I split them up with their other siblings. My 2 boys (14 & 5.11) & my 2 girls (11 & 5.11). This has worked for me only because my children do not have to sleep alone. They have a sibling in the room with them (seperate beds). I would as a parent who already split her children up, suggest making sure your one child who would sleep alone is ok with this. It is not the seperation of the sibling from the room that is ususally the problem, it is the alone part that gets most combined roomed children. If this does become a problem - my suggestion would be - a sleeping room (2 bunk beds) and a play room/dressing room - since your children are so close in age, this would probably benefit your kids in the way of togetherness & having a large play area to hang out in. Then for you - only 1 room full of toys to clean, that is a bonus.

Good luck & if you need any more suggestions or want someone to sound off with - just send a note to me.

I do not have experience with twins, but I do have 2 boys & 2 girls of my own. I think that school age is a fine time to separate them into their own rooms, but not necessary. I would ask them and see if they want to continue sharing a room. They may want to stay in the same one since entering school is overwhelming to children and having stability in other areas of life is needed during this transition.

HTH

S.