Hi moms, Just wanted to get some words of encouragment. Im returning to work after 12 years of being self employed, due to this wonderful economy. Im scared, nervous, and feel guilty having to leave my 3 children (4 year old twin boys, 3 year little girl). They are use to being with mommy all the time, now I will be gone from 7am-7pm. Im go from being with them all day, to maybe 2 hours a day. This is something I have to do for my family, but I have all these emotions. Has anyone had the same experience? I know alot of moms now a days have to work, I how do you juggle it all? Thanks in advance for your comments.
You are awesome! Its wonderful that you are returning to the workforce, just in time for your kids to get the outside stimulus they need! What a wonderful serendipitous opportunity for all of you. I have had to go back to work after both of my girls, and its so hard... but the time you have together will be all the more rewarding.
Much love, and luck,
S.
Hello K V:
Wow ! big change in your life style. Since all of it is for you and your family take it positively and be strong. Your strength and good and encouraging words will motivate children to face this change as a good and adventurus part in their life.
However, you will be more tired at the end of the day. In case any of the children had something negative to tell,you will be more discouraged. But since you found a good job, you are lucky, just keep the positives in mind and for support lean on your partner. This is the best time for him to show how much he loves and appreciates you.
I hope you get all positives, Good luck, and remember take good care of yourslef, your appearance, health, food intake and exercise, balance all for yourself, as you are the one who has to go with lots of adjustments.
Take care and enjoy, the new life style.
F. A
Day care is GOOD, they learn lots of very good things there. I love my son's day care. So #1 advise, pick a place that you feel comfortable with, because if you are at ease, that will help. Our day care has a curriculum at 3 yr.. it is such a head start for their school. I love his teachers, and he loves the other kids to play with.
#2 Remember quality not quantity. Make the best of the time you have with them. It does not matter how many hrs you are with them it is what you do with in those hrs.
Keep in mind the alternative, if you did not do this.
The first few days are very scary, but it does get easier.
Good luck.
Accept the fact that you will just have to let some stuff go, like your house may be a little more dusty or the toothpaste may not get scraped off the sink for a week (or more). :)
Also, and perhaps most importantly, make sure you are displaying an upbeat, positive attitude to your kids about this change (even if you feel otherwise inside). If they see you stressed and torn up over going back to work, they will pick up on that and may react negatively, too.
Best wishes to you.
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For a while, I tried to do it all - take care of my work (I am an attorney in the loop and live in the burbs so we have the commute), cleaning the house, cooking all the meals, etc. My husband does yard work and picks up toys that remain after the kids "help" put them away - ha! I finally relented and hired a great cleaning lady for every 3 weeks (she comes when we are not home, lets herself in, and cleans the entire house SPIC & SPAN -- my mother in law uses her and recommended her). I also started cooking some meals on weekends, alternating left overs for dinner during the week. I also have started throwing some food in a crock pot in the morning and setting it on low for 10 or 11 hours, then it kicks to keep warm and we eat that for dinner. So far, so good. Not to say that we don't have nights where we eat canned soup, grilled cheese, frozen pizza, cereal or pancakes -- because we certainly do ;)
We are getting an au pair next month so hopefully that cuts down on the kiddos being sick and us missing work. It can be tough - I see my kids for 20 minutes in the morning and 1.5 hrs at night...they are 9 mos (boy) and 25 mos (girl). I make the most of the weekends and try to NOT work late more than 1 night a week so I am always there to see them before bed.
I was very sad when I went back but you will see that adult interaction has its own benefits too! Good luck! If you happen to work in the loop and want to lunch some time, let me know by personal message!
I stopped working in March and had a baby in July and am now looking to get back in the workforce. If you can afford it, I second the recommendation to get someone to help you clean the house at least once a month. When I think about it, most of the working Moms I know do the same thing; it's just too much to handle all on your own.
When I worked my son was in daycare. That was hard for me because he started at 3 mos. and we basically had to go with the place we thought was the "best." One of the good things about daycare was the interaction with other children; we made some good friends during that time. I also think it was helpful for my son to be in a school-like environment (once he was older). The downside of daycare for us was the CONSTANT colds; my son always had yellow/green stuff coming out of his nose. But the pediatrician says that it means he'll get less colds when he's older (if that doesn't turn out to be true I'm going to make her clean his nose for a week!) :) It was also hard to leave him when he was crying and reaching for me, but the staff was good about welcoming him and distracting him at dropoff. On that note, don't be afraid to visit several daycare centers and interview the staff. You might want to ask how they handle things like separation anxiety, toilet accidents, discipline, etc. It's even better if you can get to see them in action.
Good luck with your situation. It is certainly a blessing that you were able to find employment in this economy and you should feel good about that.
