Hi J.,
My husband was working on Ft. Lewis also as a civilian contractor until a couple of weeks ago. He was on the Stryker program, and recently got promoted to the training program for their instructors. Now he works in Auburn. Nice to meet another "civvy" wife, even if mine isn't technichally a "civvy" anymore. ;o)
Lacey is a really popular area close to Ft. Lewis. Also DuPont, but I heard it is pretty pricey. Alot of soldiers commute from both areas, and I've heard it's not that bad.
There aren't too many safe places in Lakewood to live--you have to find "pockets"(what I think of as safer portions of neighborhoods). There are alot of "rich" homes in gated communities here in Lakewood, as well as some homes near the water that are very nice, but again, they are probably going to be expensive. I know there are new homes over by Pierce College. They are around $450k, but then again, Western State is right around the corner. Steilacoom Park, however, is a great park, and CPSD is ok. I have(had) 3 in this district for 7 years now, and it could be better, but then again, that's been our experience with the schools they've attended. I've heard there are much better school within the district.
North Tacoma is really nice and safe I hear. There is Ruston near there and Point Defiance zoo and park. I don't know anything about their schools.
Puyallup and South Hill have great reputations also. Many new/er communities and their chools have excellent reputations. I've had friends whose kids attended.
Graham is also nice, and I've heard great things about their schools also.
I'd look up the Chambers for all the communities you're interested in, and check the sex-offenders databases also. We didn't thinkto do that before we came here, and our neighborhood's(in Lakewood) not what I would call a very safe one, but we keep eagle eyes on our kids at all times.
Oh, and whatever you do, STAY AWAY from Tillicum. That's all I have to say about there.
What I love about living here is no blizzard like conditions. Weather is somewhat mild(although I miss *real* summer and lightning/thunder storms), and it is ALWAYS green. There is so much to do, so many beautiful things to see, and who wouldn't love having a view of Mt. Rainier everywhere you go?! Also, Starbucks outnumbers 7-11 by oh, probably 3:1 at least. First time I've been somewhere and there wasn't a 7-11 on every other street corner. But it seems like there is Starbucks, and if not, there's always somewhere to get awesome coffee(LOVE eggnog lattes!!).
Well, I hope I've been some help. My email is ____@____.com if you'd ever like to chat about our husbands and their civilian work on a military post, women/mom chat, get coffee when you get here, or whatnot. My kids are older, but I'm still a mom and still love to chit-chat! :o)
K. W