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My almost 9 y.o. son seems to be in the midst of a Sex Talk wildfire. I thought it was isolated to him and two friends (they stumbled across an iPod app called 320 Sex Positions, yikes!), but I've heard from another mom that she caught wind of sex talk on the playground at school as well. My husband recalls as a young teen being given a great book by his mom, it answered a lot of questions and made him feel comfortable about getting information. I don't think what he read would be appropriate at this age, I want a book that will answer some of these early questions and lay a foundation of acceptance and openness where sexuality is concerned. We want our kids to feel OK about curiosity and desire, and also that their safety is paramount and that certain behaviors and conversations are inappropriate for this age. It's hard to know what will hit the mark -- on Amazon some are listed as for ages 4-8 or 10-15, since my son is in between I'm a little confused. I don't want to dumb it down when things are clearly progressing fast with his peers, but I don't want to overload him with the ins and outs of puberty when he is still a few years away from that.
Anyone have a great book they found useful?
They had "It's perfectly normal" at my lame little library, so I'm so glad to hear good things from parents who have used it. Thank you so much!
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Get the older book before he hears junk in the locker room. Kids learn things that would floor you these days at such a young age. So, if it's my kid, I'd rather he know how pregnancy really happens, as opposed to something like a boy pees in a girls mouth and that's how she gets pregnant. (yes, I have heard this from kids this age.)
Or, go look at the book first in the library to see which would best fit. There are a lot out there.
Here's one I really liked:
I Want to Talk With My Teen About Love, Sex and Dating, by Karl and Shannon Wendt. I got it from Amazon. I got this book when my younger daughter was 11. I think it would be good for your son's age. But you should read it WITH him.
It's Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sex, and Sexual Health (The Family Library) Robie H. Harris
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0763644846/ref=wms_ohs_p...
We bought this book for my son around his 9th birthday. We told him he could read the chapters of the things he was interested in learning about and skip the chapters he didn't want to read yet. We pointed him in the right direction of the ones he should definitely read. He came to my husband or myself (mostly me) with every question he had. He'd show us the parts of the book he wanted more information on or wanted it explained better. I think at this point (he's 10 1/2 now) he's read the entire book. I've seen him go back to it here and there. It is very well written. It covers both boys and girls.
I highly recommend it!
There is a trio by Robie H. Harris and Michael Emberley that I think are great.
It's not the Stork, It's so Amazing, and It's Perfectly Normal. Good luck!
Dr. Dobson has a great cd set. The same sex parent takes the child away for the weekend and they listen to some of the info and discuss it. Then they go for a fun activity together and repeat the process until finished.
My husband did this for our sons.
