Questions Regardin an Unplanned C-section...

W., I had the same constipation issues after my c-sections - 2 of them. I found that Phillips Milk of Magnesia worked that best - I think that's what it's called in the blue bottle. Everything else didn't work. Hope that may help you if you haven't tried it.

I see that you have a million responses already. I'll make mine short. I don't want to scare you but c-section was hard. My 1st was vaginal & my 2nd was c-section. The reason it was hard was because I had my older daughter at home. She was 2 when my 2nd was born. I couldn't pick her up at all for about a week. So that made things difficult. I decided to stay in the hospital the extra day to try & recover more cause I knew once I was home it would be harder to rest. I would suggest getting someone to stay with you if you're husband can't. Breastfeeding was uncomfortable but I got the MyBrestFriend pillow & that helped a lot. Or you could lie down to feed. The painful part for me was going from sitting to standing or vice versa. Once I was up it was fine just the whole bending thing was hard. Hope this helps. Good luck.

M.

I had a c-section with both of my babies, after laboring each time. I really wanted a vbac the second time because I had a 2 year old daughter and was worried about being with and caring for her. It takes a couple of weeks to really be able to do a lot, but it was fine. My dughter just crawled into my lap if I couldn't lift her. In the end the time passes quickly and the ultimate goal is a healthy baby. I had no trouble breastfeeding after either c-section. Also, if you don't labor first, recovery is supposed to be quicker.

1) my first c-section i was up and walking around that night...my aunt who has had 4 c-sections told me to get up and move asap... i was in the hospital for 3 days.. and if you have any family that can come help you for the first week you should be ok...after the first weeks your back to normal at least i was...even with my second c-section it was the same as the first one....i have had natural child birth and c-section the healing time is really no different... its just healing in a different place...

Hi W.!

If you really want to still have a vaginal delivery, I would encourage you to keep a positive attitude about it. First of all, if you do a bit of homework, you may be able to find a chiropractor to help turn the baby. They are out there, but you want to research it well and quick because you don't have a lot of time on your hands.

Here is an excerpt from a website I found:

http://pregnancy.health-info.org/chiropractic-pregnancy/c...

"I had a breech positioned baby and discovered that chiropractic care could help encourage the baby to turn, naturally. Following a few sessions of gentle chiropractic adjustments, our baby turned to the proper head down position and were able to avoid a C-Section!" Christiane

My experience with a c-section wasn't as positive as the others, however, being that I work with a lot of new moms, most of them seem to recuperate quicker than I did. Fortunately my youngest daughter was delivered VBAC!

Let us know what happens and if you need more help into researching this, let me know...
Hugs,
M.

Hi W.,

I had two c-sections (because of a really bad lower back/tailbone problem). The actual surgery itself is a piece of cake. I was actually joking with the doctors both times, because you don't feel anything and the excitement of being about to see your baby for the first time takes over everything else. (I had to really focus on that to put me at ease, which was hard at first, but it really did help.)

The recovery does take some time, but everyone is different. The only advice I can give you after the c-section is don't rush it to walk. I pulled something (internal) after my first c-section because I stood up too fast and it made my recovery take longer. If you are very careful to stand up and move around, you will have a more steady recovery and will be a lot less likely to pull something.

I sure hope this is helpful! :) Hang in there and best of luck to you and your family.

B.

Hi W.,
Your day is coming up soon!!
I had two c-sections and the first wasn't planned until I knew he was breech. I had the EVC too. I thought that hurt soo bad. It felt like they were trying to strech my skin till it ripped. But I was willing to try anything to avoid the scary C. My second son was a c-section that had to be done after I had gone into labor because his heart rate was declining. I have to say that the sceduled c-section of my breech boy was so clam and easy where having a c-scetion with unknown circumstances is way more scary. We were able to get the whole thing on tape!
You will be able to prepare what day this will happen and have all your things in order with the care of your other child. I was in the hospital for 4 days, could have gone home sooner but you probably need to count on that. They get you up that day! My best advise is to take the pain pills that you are given when they offer them to you. I never felt sore enough to take them, so I always refused thinking this was healthier for my baby's milk. But what I learned was, it would have been quicker healing time if I was able to walk better sooner. The more you walk the sooner you will feel great You need those pain pills to get up and start that process. I had no problems breast feeding. You shouldn't pick up your 28 month daughter. Sit down and cuddle her. I can't remember for sure but, I don't htink I was really supposed to be vacuuming or carrying anything for 4 weeks, but you will be able to a lot sooner than that. Try to get some help during the day, for the first week.
Good Luck
J.

I'm a mother of five. I had a 10 yr, 7r and 3yr old when I had twins. I had all mine the good old fashioned way. Since the twins were both lying sideways I had a c-section. The best tip i received back then was to hold a little pillow on your stomach when you need to cough or laugh, get up and walk when they tell you you can. I nursed all of my children, even the twins after a c-section. My twins are now 18 yrs old! It all goes by so fast, so enjoy!!

I delivered my twins via C-section at 12:00 midnight and spent the first post-op day (with a catheter) in bed. On the second day, with the catheter removed, I was up. I've had numerous surgical procedures in the past and this was the first time I acutally listed to what they told me and began moving as soon as I could. This made all the difference in the world. I was slow and coughing hurt, but I have never had a quicker recovery than before... all of which I chalk up to getting up and moving soon!

It's hard to say when I was back to feeling normal. How normal can one feel after delivering twins and all the feeding and caring that that entails. I had no problem breast feeding and again, even though you feel as though your incision will pop open, trust me, it won't, standing up and walking the halls of the hospital will ensure your recovery is quick.

Good luck

W., It can be scary, but think of the alternative! You want to deliver that little one as safely as possible! I suggest you stay in the hospital as long as they will let you stay!! With a little one at home you are going to be pushed to be up and about too soon anyway! You need rest. Remember this is abdominal surgery and your body needs time to heal! The pain part subsides fairly soon....but surgery takes a long time to "get over". Give yourself time and don't push too hard!!! Rest often!
I had two Csections....one planned, one not. My husband wisely told me to stay in the hospital as long as possible with the second because he understood how demanding it would be to be caring for our 2 year old!
I had no problems breast feeding with either child.
Remember the important part is to deliver that precious one the safest way! A little pain on your part and being slower to bounce back is little cost when you consider that precious' baby!
Sandy

My first baby was exactly like what you are describing. The ECV isn't a great idea..because, as it turned out, she was long and her cord was wrapped around her neck! She wouldn't move because she couldn't! The c-section is the best idea. Just make sure that you relax as much as possible during the epidural..it will make it easier for you...and think positive! Your baby will be beautiful, have an easier time coming out....and you will have a great story to tell him/her when they get older!
I suggest vicodin/prune juice cocktails to get your poop going..so that they will let you go home from the hospital.
I had 3 c-sections! I was scared that I was going to die or be severely disabled or something, but I wasn't!
It does take about 6 weeks to feel "normal" and you will have some "phantom" pain from the incision for awhile..but you will get back to normal.
My daughters are 21 months apart and honestly, it was better for me to have the older one as a helper!!! They are great little mommies at that age :-)
Good Luck!

Hi W.,
If you're open to the idea, I would highly encourage you to call Mary Jackson. She is a practicing midwife of over 20 years with training in pre and perinatal psychology (ppn). She was my midwife before her ppn training and personal opinion is that she's one of the best in the country if not the world.

I've heard some amazing stories of her helping parents communicate with their baby in utereo. Some parents have been able to avoid their scheduled c-sections. It's worth a try.
Her number is ###-###-####.

Another really good resource is the BEBA clinic that could be another really good resource for finding another practitioner that could help if Mary isn't available. See BEBA.org or ###-###-####. The founder of the BEBA clinic, Ray Castellino D.C., is one of the pioneers in the ppn field. He was our trainer and may also be available for a session....

Feel free to contact me if need be.
Best wishes,
Maritza Luz Vega, LMT, RCST

MaritzaLuzVega.com
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I had an emergency c-section in May. My first two were a normal delivery. Anyway, I was given the advice to stand up straight and walk around. Don't hunch over! I was in the hospital for 2 days. The pain eased up faster than my first 2 deliveries. The nice thing is that it doesn't hurt to go to the bathroom. Just relax... it is quick and you don't have to go through labor. I was freaked out about being cut open too. Another thing... be careful with the pain medicine, it constipated me. One week later, just trying to go to the bathroom was a much worse experience than giving birth. I wouldn't wish that on anyone... Best wishes

Don't worry W., you will be alright, I had a C-section
21 years ago, just think, how advance medicine is now, so
your recovery will be quick. The worse thing I remember about my healing was sneezing and coughing, Oh my goodness...........I am just going to be real, when you sneeze or cough always brace your stomach with a pillow, it will help the pressure and discomfort. The sooner you are up and about will help too, just try to do what you would normally do, you will heal faster. I breast-fed also did not bother me, the key is to take care of your new baby, you will be to busy to think about anything else.

When I got my C-section I accomplished 3 Good Things, I delivered a healthy baby boy, who is now 21 and very handsome (smile), I got my tubes tied, I knew I was done I had my (2)a girl and boy, and had a quick tummy tuck,
you will be fine, Good Luck

Hi W.,
I had a C-section with my son and I thought it was great =). (I had experienced labor 2 years prior to my son being born durring a miscarriage and didn't want to experience that again so I welcomed the thought of a c-section.) But my experience was good, I thought. I went into the hospital on Tuesday morning, my son was born at 8:02 am and later that night, my nurse had me get out of bed, that was very painful but they do give you painkillers. I was walking outside the hospital the next day- it was a slow walk but I was still up and walking outside less than 24 hours after the surgery. I stayed in the hospital for 4 days, I was a high risk pregnancy and my son had a heart murmor so we stayed as long as we could. Once I got home, I felt okay. Sure I was still sore but didn't need any pain killers. By the time my son was almost 2 weeks old, I was walking 4 blocks to the nearby Target every day, pushing the stroller. I think what helped me get through the heeling so quickly was just simply putting mind over matter. If you tell yourself you will have a quick recovery you will. My sister was the same, she was walking around the zoo two weeks after her son was born by c-section and she too was a high risk pregnancy. As for the breast feeding, I did have problems breast feeding, but none of them had anything to do with the c-section. I'm sure if we could have gotten my little one to latch on right and I was producing more milk, the breast feeding would have been a wonderful experience. But none of that was related to the delivery. I will admit, that I was nervous too, but once my son was in front of me I was fine. I hope this helps answer some of your questions and ease your fears. Congrats on your new little one!
Take care,
H..

Hi W.. I too had an unplanned C-section. My daughter was breech as well. I was scared. I was in the hospital for 2 days. It took me 2 weeks to be back up and feel normal. My Mom and Mother-in-law helped alot those first few weeks. I was in alot of pain and just took Motrin since I was breastfeeding her. I basically stayed upstairs and breastfed her in bed. Warm showers helped and made me feel better. I also had trouble with the breastfeeding but I think mostly since she was my first. You may not have any problems since you have done it before. I wish you well and if you have any other questions, let me know. T.

I had a C-section 12/14/06 with my daughter. My son, who is 14 years older, came the natural way. I was lucky in that my sister had just had an emergency C-section 8 1/2 months prior to me so I knew what to expect. I was very scared to get up about 24 hours later and needed help to get to the bathroom. Make sure to tell them to keep giving you painkillers after 24 hours. You can still nurse if you want. After the second day, I passed a little gas and so the doctor said I could go home and I panicked because I thought how am I going to get around? But you just keep getting up with help and keep walking around. At home, I slept on a futon and my baby slept on me and could nurse whenever she wanted to. We used the monitor and I would call my husband when I needed him to help me get up and take the baby so I could use the restroom. You will still look about 6 months pregnant after and your legs and feet will swell up and then go down in about 7-10 days. I did not do a bowel movement until about the 5th day after trying all sorts of stuff to get them moving. My sister said just take a laxative and that did the trick. I took painkillers up to the 5th day after the surgery and once I had my bowel movements I did not need them anymore.

Hi, my c- section was almost 17 years ago, and it wasnt decided on until hour 21 of labor!

Lamaze classes had me really freaked out about getting a c-section, coupled with the fact that I was about 75 lbs overweight before becoming preggers... In any case, the c-section it self wasnt scary, but I was unable to hold my son right after birth, his godmommy held him up for me :). I was in the hospital for 3 days, first night was alittle scary - the hardest part was going to the bathroom before leaving, I felt like I was going to pop open if I pushed to hard, but that didnt happen. I wore a menstrual pad over my belly to soak up any sweat, I recommend it for any one, because you won't have moisture and can see if there is any seepage. I walked into the house, no problems and was up an about after a few weeks. I stayed with my mommy at that time, so I hope you have help at home for the first few weeks which EVERY mom needs. Good luck and congrats!

Hi W., You have received so many responses already but I wanted to give you some information based upon my 2 different C-section experiences - I had one emergency C-section after hours and hours of labor, and I scheduled C-section for my second child.

It was like night & day difference between the 2. The scheduled C-section had a much shorter recovery period, I used much less of the pain killers that were prescribed, and I healed much more quickly. I also had NO problems breastfeeding with either of my babies. I was also amazed at my recovery at home and ability to care for my toddler.

With my scheduled C-section (9:00am), I was up and moving around by 1:00 in the afternoon. I was at the hospital for 4 nights, 5 days (you should stay at the hospital as long as you are allowed. You need to recover as much as possible EXPECIALLY because you have a toddler at home!!!). At home, I was moving constantly because of my 1.5 year old toddler. On my second day home, I could walk up and down our street. By the third day, I could pick up my 1.5 year old toddler. I would recommend that you have help at home - my mother was in town for 7 days after I got home to help me with my toddler. I used vitamin E on my scar, but not right away. I waited for a couple of weeks before starting this, and my scar has healed nicely.

I understand your fears - I was terrified with my first, because I was fully planning on delivering my baby the old fashioned way! After pushing for 3.5 hours, I ended up in the operating room anyway. So even if you are induced - you might end up with a C-section! The best thing is to be prepared for it. Have your doctor walk you through the entire proceedure step by step. There were 2 things that I didn't know, and scared me during my first C - so here they are: 1) your husband/partner can't be with you in the operating room until you are draped and ready, so you will be alone for the epidural and prep time. 2) your arms will be strapped down out to the sides. This was scary because I didn't know what was going on, and this also happened while my husband wasn't in the room!

Good luck to you - you and the baby will be fine! Lots of love, D.

I had just about the exact same situation as you right now. I was planning natural birth with my first child using the hypnobirthing process and it all got thrown out the window when they discovered at 35 weeks he was breech. I also attemped the ECV without success so a C-sec I underwent, it is not that bad and was up and moving the next day with little pain, I never had to take any vicodin I think I took advil a couple of times but that was it. I would recommed having some help with your 28 month old but I think if you normally handle pain fairly well you should be okay.

Good luck, breath and meditate.

W.,

I'm glad your much more at peace about the c-section. You and your baby will do MUCH better if you relax and take it as it comes. I had an emergency c-section and was up changing his diaper the next day. God bless and write back and let us know how he's doing after he's born.

M.

Hi W.,
Don't be scared or nervous. I had to have 3 c-sections and I loved each one. I was awake for the deliveries and the recovery is not bad at all. I would say you are sore but not much more than a natural delivery. Just remember to take deep breaths and walk several times a day. I was walking within 12 hours of giving birth. I went home after two days and after 3 days at home I was doing everything except house cleaning. I had no problems with nursing. Relax and just focus on the joyous birth of your sweet boy. Good luck.

W.,
I've had two c-sections. The first, 5 years ago, my daughter was frank breech so I had no choice. The second time almost 3 years ago I attempted a vbac and my son just didn't want to leave the womb (-: Both c-sections were GREAT, I know, sounds crazy to call them great but I have NO complaints what so ever. So to answer your questions:

1. How soon after the surgery were you able to be up and around? How long was your hospital stay? Both of my hospital stays were 3 nights/4 days. The first time, I didn't mind at all, in fact, it really helped with getting a good breastfeeding start. Note: when you have planned a c-section, it is not uncommon for it to take several days for your milk to come in, it was about 4.5 days with my first but I still brought her to my breast on demand and she got the important stuff from me. With my second, I BEGGED to be discharged the next day and they said, "we'll see how you are doing" I missed my 2.5 year old daughter so much and didn't want to be away from her. Well, I ended up staying 4 days because I wanted to. Again, it was just so nice to get the extra help and give all my attention to my new baby. Plus it was a great bonding time for my husband being alone with our 2.5 year old. I was up and around after both c-sections the day I returned home, husband had to work and we don't have any family nearby. But it all worked out and honestly, I didn't mind. Of course, had I been in severe pain or thought I needed help, I would have asked hubby for it.
*note:: I did overdue it after the birth of my second. Started walking with the jogger 2 weeks postpartum. Don't do this.. stay home if you can and have your friends come over to visit you for playdates for your 2.5 year old.

2. Once home how long before you felt almost back to normal. Meaning able to go about your normal activities without being in pain? Honestly, I know everyone is different. With my first, I took the pain killers till they were gone. With my second I didn't take anything. I felt some discomfort but I was moving around, going up and down stairs, all the stuff they don't recommend and I did great. The soreness stayed with me for about 4 weeks, maybe? Can't remember, I just know I felt like I did a million crunches.

3. Any pointers/ hints on healing well and quickly? Although, I didn't do what I am going to recommend, here is what I recommend. Take it easy, but not too easy, I think it is important to walk around everyday. Drink well and eat well. Take help from everyone who offers. Having friends bring dinner is nice.

4. Did any of you have problems breast feeding your babies after a C-section? I didn't have any problems with either. I had great support at the hospital and from home as well (LC to call on, etc) things weren't perfect mind you, the usual first time painful engorgement, latching issues, all that fun stuff but it all passes rather quickly. After a c-section is is very important to be comfortable while nursing. Use a nursing pillow plus extra pillow to bring baby up to your breast. Nurse whenever baby wants to so you can get your supply built up. Stay hydrated.

Don't be afraid if you end up with a c-section. It WILL all work out.
M.

Hi W.,
My name is M. V. and I also had a c-section. My son is now 17yrs. old but I was only 18 when I had him. I was also gun-ho on all-natural birth and ended up with an emergency c-section. It was a total shock because it was under general anesthesia. Ironically I now work in labor and delivery as the scrub tech, handling all the instruments.
My hospital stay was for 2 days after the surgery and I was forced to get up on the following day. It was quite painful but it is very necessary to move as soon as they tell you. I know it sounds weird but it does help you heal faster. My personal experience was 2 weeks before I felt somewhat normal and able to move without pain. But I have seen many nurses I work with, whom have had a c-section and they were up and about much sooner than me. I think everyone is different so it varies. I would say to try and relax as much as possible. We do these surgeries all day long and they know what they're doing. Just take slow deep breaths when you're in the O.R., and it will be over before you know it. Just think about the precious baby boy that will be here soon.

Also, I never had a problem with my milk supply. I breastfed my son for 17mos. if that tells you anything. The two are completely unrelated so don't worry about that.

Good Luck,
M.

Use a pillow to hold against your stomach after surgery. when you get up, it is painful and if you use a pillow to press against your incision you will be amazed at how much better it feels! Your 2 1/2 yr old will get the hint that you can't move and they usually understand. I nursed and never had a problem. GOOD LUCK!

1. I was up & about approximately 3 days after surgery. I had a 7 day hospital stay.

2. I was back to normal in approximately 1 week.

3. Get plenty of rest & take it easy on your body: no sudden jerking/harsh body movements.

4. I breast fed my baby for approximately 1 year, without any problems.

I want to mention that a cesarean birth is a birth, not just a procedure. It is your birth as a mother as well as the baby's birth. This is still a rite of passage to be celebrated - no matter how you birth. There still may be things that are unexpected or even magical. Although this is still major surgery, how can you make this a sacred experience for you? How you welcome your baby, requesting to have your partner or doula be able to hold your baby at your head after delivery, how your partner can be your eyes as to what is going on are all ways to become more connected to your family. Even when your hands are pulled to the side and tied down, reframe that to be protecting the sterile, purified space of birth so that you don't reach down to hold your baby as your instincts may have you do so. In any case there is a continuum for the baby from womb to this world and maybe even think about how to support this continuum with partner's voice or swaying, shhhing, swaddling, sucking, etc. I, too have had a baby who didn't want to turn. An old wives tale is that the baby turns head up to comfort the mother's heart over sadness she may have. Such a baby is sensitive to her feelings - something to appreciate in your child. I also encourage you, although you may have already, to check base with the baby and tell he or she what is going to happen. It is amazing how baby's can already feel such communication.

good luck,
N.

ps if you still want the baby to turn, I encourage you to go for accupuncture with moxibustion, chiropractic (Webster's technique), and even try a slant board to move the baby out of the pelvis. Also, if you have emotional issues /sadness, encourage the baby that it will comfort you more with the head down.

1. My C-section was planned like yours, which is the best on your body. You are not healing from both labour and surgery. The only scary part of the C-section is the feeling of being paralysed, but with your partner at your side, you can soon over come the fear. They place a lot of pressure on your body when they are pulling out your son, but you feel no pain. Be at one with your partner. Right after the surgery they pulled me out to the recovery room until i could wriggle my toes and lift my knees. I tried so hard so many times they finally let me go back to husband and baby. Who were happily resting in our room.
2. My stay was 3 days cause i felt great. My doctor had me on good pain relievers.
3. The healing was far better than i had anticipated, though i didn't have a 2 year old. I would say it took me no more than 14 days of vicodin and i was back at it, with caution of course.
4. No problems breastfeeding.
I call my c-section a spa treatment because i was so well cared for and felt no pain at any time. I was appreciative-I was a women in need of surgery, modern science was there for my baby and me.
If you trust your doctor, go into it with excitement. It's as much a miracle as giving natural child birth.

Hi W.! I have not had a c-section, so I can not help you with all of your questions.I am a nurse and I work with Moms and babies after delivery. The answer to your question 1 is that the normal stay is 4 days. We do have moms go home after 3 days frequently. We occasionally have moms go home after 2 days, but not very often.
Good luck! N.

I've had 2 C-sections - the first unplanned and the second planned. Ditto all the advice below - especially the walking - I did laps around the maternity floor pushing the baby in the bassinet as soon as I could get out of bed.

With the second I bought a post-partum support belt - basically a stretchy elastic thing with velcro. Made a HUGE difference in how comfortable it was to get in and out of bed as your stomach muscles are pretty much non-existent. Also helped mitigate the pain when you have to cough - or even laugh for the first couple of days.

Try to get off the serious pain meds as soon as you can and go for Tylenol or whatever your OB recommends. I found that even though it helped the pain - it messed with your digestive system enough that it wasn't worth the (literal) end result.

To that point - most hospitals will make you wait to go home until you have a bowel movement - so keep that in mind when you think about what you're eating those first couple of days! And take the medicine they offer you to help move things along.

If possible - stay as long as you can in the hospital. I know it's hard with the little one at home - but the more you can recover and get your strength back before you're home - the easier it will be to deal with everything when you do. I stayed 4 days with both.

On breast feeding - I found it took a little longer than "normal" (vs. natural birth) for my milk to come in - so I had a pump brought to the room with my second and that seemed to help.

Good luck!

Hope you're doing well. With both of my c-sections (the first unplanned) it was painful but, as soon as possible, get out of bed. Walk - that will give you motility and wake up your bowel.

Use your pain meds if approved for breast feeding. Use a laxative, I used ducolax suppositories, it was a lot easier.

There are no awards for the mom who endures the most pain, only rewards for the mom who can show the most love.

It will take a few weeks to have normal bowel movements, and about 5 - 6 weeks to stop bleeding. The bleeding subsided, and then I had a normal period, and then I was back on track again. That will vary with breast feeding.

First time to the grocery store, ask a friend to go with and push the cart.

Will be praying for you.

Hi W.,

I didn't have a c-section, but I did have a natural waterbirth at home that concluded with me in the hospital an hour after my son was born, which obviously wasn't what I had expected. The hardest part about the whole thing was adjusting my thinking around how it was "supposed to be" vs. what actually happened. Regardless of the outcome, I suggest being gentle with yourself and your expectations. Taking each moment for what it is, without thoughts that it "should" be another way, will help you flow with the birth and recovery much more easily.

I hope the responses you get from other moms who had c-sections will put your remaining worries to rest. Good luck to you, dear! A.

I was just as afraid as you were about having a c-section. I went to Barnes & Noble, read a book about it and ended up crying right there in the store! It's ALWAYS a possibility you might have to have an emergency c-section, even while during what seems to be a "normal" delivery process. You should be well-prepared for either way and it sounds like you are. It is scary, but you won't feel anything, except for maybe a little pressure. What is eerie about it for me is being awake during the procedure. Of course, you can elect to be out instead, but then you miss the birth experience. You can request some sort of sedative to make you care less, but the less they give you, the less sleepy your baby will be when he/she is born. I didn't end up having a c-section, but was literally seconds away because my labor was too long. The threat of it made me push harder. In your case, there isn't a whole lot, if anything, that you can do. I would almost be more afraid of turning the baby, that is very dangerous and still may result in having a c-section if it puts the baby in distress. I'm a medical transcriptionist and I type medical reports for deliveries at times. So far, they all say, "The patient tolerated the procedure well." My friend did have one and she was fine, she is scheduled to have another any day. I have also heard the sooner after surgery you get up and walk around, the better it is for healing. You will have nurses to help you with the baby, you can stay in the hospital up to 5 days if you're in major discomfort and people will pull together to help you. Ask your husband to take his paid family leave. You should be able to get 12 weeks for the household if you've both been working a year before, or if he is the only one working, he can take up to 12 weeks to bond with the baby. It doesn't have to be all at once either. He can take 12 individual weeks throughout the year, 12 weeks all at once, or break it up however his boss agrees. I've heard of people exercising again after 8-12 weeks. You'll be up and around, all be it slow, while you're in the hospital. You can still nurse. I would recommend you buy a Boppy Pillow to lie the baby on and/or nurse in the football hold position, so you don't have the baby across your incision area. That is what I read works for a lot of women, especially if they have large breasts prior or after their milk comes in. It's normal to be scared and nervous before any surgery, but it less stressful on the baby to be delivered c-section and I've heard they come out even more beautiful because they are less squished and stressed out. Good luck and I'm sure you'll get a lot of responses from women who've actually been through it.

Interesting story-another friend of mine found out she had 2 uteruses during her c-section. Very rare, but you can look at it as having exploratory surgery as well, if you have any issues, they will find it and be able to let you know sooner vs. later.

Hi. I also planned to go natural and then found out my baby was breech and had to have a C-Section. I was worried also...but don't be... because it ended up not being that big of a deal. I have now had 2 C sections and with each I was (slowly) walking about my hospital room on the same day as surgery. I was in the hospital for 3 nights and only took motrin upon returning home. This allowed me to think more straight than if I was on vicidan or vallum, at home. The pain isn't THAT bad when you get home. You can walk slowly and get in and out of bed slowly. You won't be able to lift your toddler for 2 weeks. I had to get down to her level and cuddle with her on the floor. The pain was gone after about 1-1.5 weeks. Try to stay away from the heavier pain killers once you leave the hospital. I've had friends get very constipated and then eventually have to deal with the pain when you stop taking them. It really isn't that bad. After 1 week I was slowly pushing my 1st baby around the driveway in a stroller. Also, my doctor used an "on-Q" pump, which sends localized pain med to the area of incision. Talk to your doc about using one. I had zero problems breast feeding after surgery. It's the same as if you gave birth naturally...your chest is not sore at all and the baby roots and starts to nurse minutes after you give birth.
Good luck and don't be too worried...you'll do just fine and you'll be surprised at how easy a C-Section is, compared to how scary it sounds.
jkbperry

hi. i am a pro at this. i am a survivor of 4 c sections. My first one almost 7 years ago was unplanned. i went into labor and then stopped dialating. After about 14 hours of labor we did a c section. I have to tell you it was so easy! all of them were really easy. I think an episiotomy would be far worse. you stay in the hospital for 4 days which is great because you get extra rest. you will be fine. if the baby is too big anyway you would probably tear and i think that would be alot worse. Take the pain meds for a few days afterwards and then after that they really heal quickly. good luck!

Hi W.,

I had an ermegency c-section with my daughter (3 mos old now). It was scary because it was unexpected, but it turned out fine. As soon as I realized it had started it was practically over. In response ro your questions: I was in the hospital for 3 days. I was up and around within a week withmeds and in 2 weeks without. By 3 weeks I felt fine. My pointers are to get up and start walking asap, take your meds as suggested, and sleep whenever you can. Breastfeeding was a breeze. You'll be fine, the doctors are very practiced and the drugs are effective. You'll be healed before you know it. Take care and don't worry :).

K.

I had a c-section after having two other natural births and it wasn't as bad as I was anticipating. After the c-section I was in bed for almost 24 hours before getting out. Then I stayed in the hospital for three more days. That was my choice. I wanted to make sure I was completely ready to go home. Then I had my mom take my other kids for four more days then I was on my own with three kids and I managed. I had him on Thurs. and was on my own the next Fri. So you might be out for a complete week. But after five weeks I was dancing in a musical and doing great. Breast feeding went wonderful, infact he has been my best one. What they say is true the more you push yourself and walk the better. Just no lifting your little girl. It will be fine and you'll do great!

Hi there! I had a very pleasant C-section experience. I was not planned, but after 20 hours had past since my water broke, a rising heart rate (both baby & I) and temperature, a baby that wouldn't drop and 18 hours of labor that wasn't progressing, my doctor recommended an emergency C-section. I want to tell you how easy and great mine went in hope that it will encourage you and that yours will go as well, if not better.

1. I had the surgery on a Tuesday at 5:00AM and was walking (with discomfort and medication to relieve the pain) by Wednesday morning at 9:00AM. I stayed in the hospital until Saturday morning (5 days total after C-section)

2. My pain was gone about a -4 days after being home. Honestly, the pain was moderate after day 4. I was still on meds to control any pain. I had to wait about 2 1/2 weeks after being home to go to "normal" activities. I could do most things in the 2 1/2 weeks, just with extreme caution.

3. Listen to the doctors, but be patient. Mine went well, but I think the doctors did a great job. Definitely don't try to do too much at once, as it will make your healing take longer. However, do challenge yourself in small does. Such, as walking the day after and the following days.

4. No problems breast feeding. My milk came in and then stopped for a few days, but that can happen to anyone. I did feel a little anxious and helpless the first day, when I could not stand up to change her diaper. But that allowed my husband to help and play a big role in her first day.

Good luck! I am sure you will have a smooth and stress free C-section.

I had c-sections with both my children (the first was an emergency, the second planned). Here are my suggestions:

1. STAY in the hospital AS LONG AS THEY WILL ALLOW. I stayed the full 5 days when my second was born for the simple fact of giving my body as much time to heal before returning home to my 2.5 year old who would be climbing all over me. this did help.

2. get up as soon as they will let you and walk around the hospital as mush as you feel up to....this DOES help the healing even though painful at first. I was up in my room at 24 hours after and able to walk a lap around the post-partum ward by 36 hours after the surgery.

3. I healed really quick withboth of my surgeries and was able to be doing most normal activities by a week and a half to 2 weeks after with minimal pain...I'd usually just need the pain meds in the evening as after all day I'd need a little. Believe it or not, our family went to the zoo when my second was only 10 days old (my huband did all the stroller pushing, etc. but I was able to walk it including the hill up to the kids play area)

4. I did not have any trouble with breast-feeding either of my kids after c-sections.

Good luck, and I'm sure things will turn out well. I know it's not our "ideal" to have a C-section but it can be a good experience and realistically, the saftey of you and the baby are what matters most.

Hi W.!!!
It is hard when you hear unexpected news that changes the way you planned on birthing. There is hope that your baby will turn though. There are a couple of exercises you can do to help encourage your baby to turn. There is also a chiropractic adjustment that can be done to help your baby turn. It takes a few visits, but poses no risk. My husbands Aunt had a scheduled C-Section because of a breech, they confirmed the night before with an ultrasound. The next morning she was contracting and went in for the C-section, and when the Dr. went in, the baby had turned during the night (always make sure your Dr. checks again to make sure the baby is still breech). If you want to send me your e-mail address, I will send you some pics of the exercises (from the Prepared Childbirth The Family Way book) to help encourage a breech baby to turn....it is definitely worth a shot. If your baby doesn't turn, a C-Section is still a path to having your beautiful baby in your arms. No matter how you get there, it will be well worth the journey!!!! Good Luck!!!!!

Hi W.!

I'll try to add some helpful stuff that I don't see addressed in earlier posts. I had a C-section 5 months ago. One week before my due date I found out my daughter was breech. I spent every waking hour trying to turn her! Chiropractics, ECV, headstands, summersaults in the pool, frozen peas, flashlights...you name it. I'd been training with my husband in Hypnobabies and had big dreams of a beautiful, natural birth. So, after crying about the reality for three full days, I decided to use what I'd learned to help me through the surgery.

I loaded a relaxation/visualization CD onto my iPod and listened to it as much as possible in the days before the c-section. I agreed with my doctor that I could have headphones on during the surgery and that the anesthesiologist would let me know when to take them off so I could sit up and see my baby born. It worked so well!

I started listening to the track 5 mins before the spinal epidural so I could be fully relaxed. I didn't feel a thing. The 40 min surgery felt like it took 5 mins. I focused on my breathing and following the imagery on the CD. I was nearly asleep! And, in my mind I was on a lovely beach playing with my new baby. I opened my eyes and there she was. :)

Lots of good advice in these posts about recovery, etc., so I'll stop here. If you want to borrow my CDs, I'll be more than happy to send them to you ASAP, or drop them off somewhere. I'm in Costa Mesa...email: ____@____.com

Hi W.,

I had two c=sections, one was unplanned and done 36 hours after intense labor when it was determined that my daughters head would not fit through the canal (she never descended). The c-section surgery, itself, was fine, but the recovery was brutal becuase I totally expected to have a natural birth and never read the sections on c-sections in my preggers books. I ended up doing everything WRONG for recovering quickly and easily and my recovery was awful, painful, and LONG. When we found out we were expecting my second baby, our son, I read everything I could on c-sections, followed all of the advice, and the recovery was a breeze! WE could have tried labor with my son, but there was an excellent chance the same thing would end up as it did my daughter. A c-section after intense, prolonged labor, is VERY difficult to recover from, regardless of the tricks you can do to make it easier. This is why we planned our son's birth and I feel very good about our decision.

Here are some tips for making recovery as painless as possible:

1. Have a big dinner the night before---my OB said to eat a dinner that would normally give me loose bowels. I had TACO BELL! I swear this did the trick becuase my first poop came quickly and easily in about 36 hours.

2. Get up and start moving (do the c-section shuffle) while the morphine is still in you! The best is around 10-12 hours after surgery. Just try to hobble to the potty and back every couple of hours.

3. Ask for a long lasting morphine shot given during surgery (it works for 24 hours)...this helps temedously with pain control and when you're not in pain, breast feeding comes a lot easier! I had no problems BFing my son...he latched on like a champ and it was great! He nursed for 14 months!

4. Keep up your pain meds for at least one week. Stay on top of the pain becuase then you will feel better and be more active which helps recovery a LOT! I used Percoset, but a lot of people use Vicodin. I don't like Vicodin, so my OB gave me percoset. At about 5 days, wean yourself off slowly from the meds...just keep cutting back until you're off completely...ususally around the 7-8th day. You don't want to just stop taking the meds...it can really throw you for a loop. I do know women who are very stoic and can handle no pain meds...I am not one of them. Either way, you're not a hero! You're just a mom who may or may not need them.

5. Make sure to eat and drink as soon as they will let you. I kept bugging them to remind them. More and more studies are coming out that eating sooner (around 24 hours after birth) is better to get your intestines moving again. Eat foods high in fiber to get the poop out!

6. Remember that the actual "birth experience" is fleeting. The most important thing is that your baby is delivered in the most healthy way for both of you. The only thing that really matters is that you and baby are healthy...not how the two of you finally meet!

I hope this helps. I know it is disappointing when things go a way you didn't expect, but I found that by embracing what I do have is a lot easier than fighting what I can't change! My hubby and I made our c-section day so much fun and we have a ton of photos of us smiling and happy and just having a good time! And ask for your other kids to visit you the next morning...it feels so good to have them in the room and being happy while you are recovering! Good luck!

Hello W.,
I know how scary and overwhelming it is to be told you are going to have a C-section when you were planning a natural birth. I just kept reminding myself that the most important thing was having a healthy baby.
It took about 3 weeks until I was up and around and 6 weeks to start feeling normal again. I stayed at the hospital for 3 days. I could have stayed for 4 but I had a 22 month old boy at home that I wanted to get home to.
As for suggestions on healing... don't push yourself, if it hurts stop moving and sit down. Enlist help from everyone willing to help out so that you can rest and heal. Try and walk around a much as possible. Take the pain medication. Drink lots of water.
I had no problems breast feeding after my C-section. I had to lay a pillow over my abdomen to support the baby and to take the pressure off my belly.

Also be aware that your postpartum might be tougher then having a vaginal birth. I had my son naturally and my daughter was a C-section because her head was too big to fit through my birth canal. I had a bit of post partum depression with my son. When my daughter was born, I also had the "I'm a failure because I couldn't have her naturally". But as I said before, the most important thing is that your baby is alive and healthy.

I hope this helps. Good luck and congratulations on bringing another little person into this world.
R.

Hi W., I have never had a C-sec, 2 home births, 12 yr old daughter & 4 mo. old son, but wanted to pass along the web address to a site for ways to reposition the baby, (ways that the doctors may not know). It's www.spinningbabies.com alot of helpful info.
I am somewhat against all the over management of birth, but I won't get on my soapbox! My only advice is to try to have as natural as possible. Why would they induce you anyway if the baby turns on it's own?
Good luck, whatever happens I'm wishing you a healthy, happy birth.
T.

I had to be induced with my first son and ended up having an emergency C-section. I was up and walking the halls of the hospital the next day. Normally, you'll be in the hospital about 3-4 days. By the time my son was a week old, I was up taking short (1/2 mile) walks and by 2 weeks, we were walking 1+ miles. I had NO difficulty breast feeding whatsoever. They did advise me to hold the baby like a football with his feet at my side to feed him rather than having him across my frontside. That way there isn't the pressure on your abdomen. In terms of swelling and pain, I was on Vicodin for the first couple days in the hospital, then switched to Tylenol and stuck with that for about a week after I went home. The sooner you get up and about, even for short periods, the faster you'll recover. Good Luck!

I had c-sections with both of my children. Like you, I thought I would have natural births but found I couldn't. My daughter was two weeks overdue and 8 hours after being induced, my contractions were so weak I couldn't feel them. It was becoming dangerous to leave her in because my water broke and nothing was happening. It was actually quite boring. With my son eight years later, it was planned because we could see that things were progressing like the first pregnancy. They were both on the big side and they never dropped. I stayed in the hospital for 3 nights.

I got spinal headaches the day after the surgeries. They are extremely painful and the only way to releive them is pain medication and laying completely flat on your back. They are caused by loss of spinal fluid during the epidurals.

Even with the headaches, I was walking around within 48 hours because I knew how important it was to my recovery. I could function just fine as soon as I got home. Getting around was a little slow for the first week but nothing major. Breast feeding was not a problem at all, just use a pillow or bobby to lay the baby on. I did notice that with the second one, there was numbness near the incision for almost a year but there were no other side effects.

I decided to have a tubal ligation after my second child because we knew we were done. They were able to do it right after he was born before they closed me up. (I asked for a tummy tuck too, but they said no) :0) I figured what the heck, as long as they were in there. I noticed that the second recovery was a little harder than the first. I couldn't get warm, and I was very shaky. They had to put a lot of heated blankets on me while I was in the recovery room. I was also very groggy for a few hours.

Be careful of infection. It never happened with me but I have had a few friends that did. They said the area felt hot and painful. Also, take the pain meds they offer you. You need them to help you recover faster. With my first birth, I tried to do without them and I couldn't get out of bed without them.

I know it doesn't help to tell you not to worry, but it really all was fine for me. I will never know what it's like to have a normal birth, but my children were healthy and strong and I didn't feel like it took me very long to recover and get back to normal. And, they were both perfect, no pointy heads or anything.

Good Luck!

Don't worry- most important thing is to deliver a healthy baby to a healthy mom. I had an emergency csection and that is much worse-- your recovery will be easier with a planned surgery and everything safer. Take care of yourself and don't try to do too much lifting or twisting. Walking is important -it does help. Good luck and take care of those babies.

Hi W.,
I had a C-section 9 months ago. I was nervous but had to have one since I wasn't dialating (cord around baby's neck twice holding her up). The way I looked at the situation was to try to be positive and trust my doctor he knew his job. I asked a ton of questions before so i knew what to expect during and after.

I had my baby at 5 pm and was up and walking the next afternoon. It took 15 minutes to get out of bed the first time. You will be in pain. I had maybe 2 days of tylenol with codiene after. I knew I would hurt but I didn't want all the pain meds (Ibuprofen actually helped the most). I stayed in the hospital for 2 days (not the usual 4) because I was up and walking and peed etc (I also had help at home for a week after - so he let me go home).

The pain lasts a few weeks with less pain everyday. The first week I did nothing around the house I concentrated on my health (after surgery) and the baby. I packed the freezer full of 2 weeks of meals before the delivery. The second week home I was doing a little more with about 3 small naps during the day. Everyday I felt stronger but I did what my doctor said. I took it easy. Sat down when tired. and didn't lift anything heavier then the baby. Laughing hurts - I had a small pillow near by to hold the wound area if I laughed or coughed or sneezed.

I was breatfeeding about an hour after while we were in the recovery area.

As long as you know what to expect during and after and you have a doctor that communicates to you all will be well. Having a 2 year old who wants to be held will challenging - don't pick her up. Let her come to you while sitting or lying.

Hope all this helps - Good Luck - Congratulations.
R.

WOW Feb 6th is right around the corner!

I had to have an emergency C-section for the birth of my daughter. It was rough but unfortunately necessary. However, I took one piece of advice from my Mother that I will give you.

When they allow you to stand up for the first time. Go slowly but make sure you stand up straight. Do not hunch over because it is soar. I was up walking the halls with my little girl by the 2nd day. While other Mom's who had C-section were looking a little like a hunchback and could stand up straight.

I delivered on a Sunday and was up walking Monday afternoon. But did not leave the hospital until Thursday. Which was wonderful since I could rest and heal while the nurses changed diapers :)

As for breast feeding, I had zero problem doing it right away. Once I was awake in recovery my husband brought her over to me and she was able to nurse.

With little ones already at home I can see why getting back to normal is so important. However, to rush anything. But you will be able to hold and nurse your baby, change diapers and rock your baby to sleep. Just no major tasks like cleaning the house, lifting anything heavy or carrying the car seat. But I was at Costco and Target the day after I came home from the hospital.

I hope this helps...good luck!

go to www.spinningbabies.com, it gives amazing advice on turning breach babies.

Hi, I'm a postpartum nurse and I had an emergency c-section with my second daughter. So, I'm speaking from a medical and personal point of view. Generally, your stay in the hospital wll be about 3-4 days. Some doctors will let you go home after 2 days, but that depends on how well you are doing. As the anesthesia gradually wears off, which usually takes about 24 hours, you'll want to stay on top of your pain. This means taking pain medication, motrin and/or narcotics, when you start feeling pain. Remember that pain medication takes time to work and you want to take pain meds as soon as you start feeling pain at an uncomfortable level for you. It's harder to care for your baby and heal when you are in pain.

As for breastfeeding, you should start putting your baby to your breast as soon as you are able to. You may feel groggy right after the c-section, but just holding your baby and doing some skin-to-skin contact will help trigger your hormones for lactating. It may take a 2-3 days before your milk comes in, but you should have some colostrum in the beginning. My daughter had to have formula in the beginning because she had low blood sugar (but this was related to my gestational diabetes), but I was able to breastfeed her without any problems.

In the hospital, we attempt to get patients up after surgery within 6-12 hours (at least we try to stand you up and walk to the bathroom...not walk a marathon in the hallway.) The sooner you are able to get up and walk around, the better and quicker your recovery will be. This also will help to circulate fluid in your body and may help with swelling in your feet and ankles which is a common side effect after a c-section. It may be painful and difficult the first few times you get up, it was for me, but like I mentioned before, take your pain medication to stay on top of the pain.

The general time for healing from a c-section is 6-8 weeks. It took me the whole 8 weeks before I felt "normal". My oldest daughter was 2 years old when I had my second daughter and it was hard not to want to carry her, but I would have her sit by me on the couch. If you are able to, it would be great for you to have someone to help you during the first 2 weeks when you come home. This will help you in your healing since you will not be able to get around as easily as you would a natural birth.

Everyone heals at different rates. I've had patients jump out of bed 6 hours after their c-section and I've had patients needing help getting out of bed up until they go home. I can't tell you how it will be for you, but at least you know what to anticipate. I hope this helps you out.

W., Remember this is major surgery!!! It's going to take time to heal. There is no fast track to healing, your body just needs time. It is painful, I needed pain meds and help getting in and out of bed. Peeing and pooping are difficult because you are using your abdominal muscles and it is sore. Getting in and out of bed is difficult, again because you are using your stomache muscles. Breastfeeding is uncomfortable because now there is pain in your chest and your abdomin..BUT it is do-able. I was in the hospital for 5 days. Use it if you need it! it took me around 2-3 months to get a lite routine going....THANK GOD for my husband.

Be patient with yourself, don't be in a hurry to start walking and "getting" back to a normal routine. You will be having MAJOR SURGURY. Love your body and give it time to heal (it will thank you for it!)

Hi W.,
You've already had tons of responses and I didn't read them all but wanted to add my two cents worth. I also had a breech baby and had to go from a planned homebirth to a Cesarian. Needless to say I was devastated. We tried EVERYTHING to turn the baby but she wasn't having any of it - so I decided to trust her. I figured there was a reason she needed to be born that way and there was (issues with my uterus that no one knew about). So - my first piece of advice is to trust your baby. You may never know the reason, but he may need to be born this way.
My midwife gave me amazing information to help me through the birth. She told me how it would feel - for example - you will have to go into the operating room alone to get prepped. Only when they're close to delivering will your husband (or mom or whoever is going to be with you) will be allowed in. You will feel pushing, pulling and tugging but no pain as they are cutting/delivering. While this is happening, try to focus your whole being on birthing your son. Whatever that means to you. Think back to your first birth and how intensely focused you were on pushing out your daughter. Try to focus like that on "pushing" out your son. I kept saying "I am birthing you, I am bringing you into the world, I am giving birth to you my baby" things like that. It helped me feel like I was a part of the process and was not simply having it "done to" me.
Ask that your baby be brought into recovery with you so that you can nurse right away. If they won't do that, ask them to have him brought to you as soon as possible and make it very clear that no one is to give him a bottle/formula anything like that. If you can get him to the breast as soon as possible it will help both of you. My milk took a while to come in but if you didn't have issues before, you probably won't have them this time. They will probably have you up and about the next day. It's a long first night. They usually give morphine right after the surgery which a lot of people react to - I did. Made me itch like a thousand mosquito bites were all over me. Ugh. But you get through it. The pain is not fun but after the morphine, all I took was Motrin (that's all they gave me).
You will be fine. Your baby will be fine. Just give yourself time to heal. It really did take about 6 weeks to feel like I wanted to be more active but I was walking a lot immediately. Listen to your body and make sure you have lots of help for your daughter.
I will keep my fingers crossed that your boy will turn right before the surgery because a vaginal birth is MUCH better than a surgical one. Good luck either way.
Best,
A.

My little on was born through unplanned C-section in Nov. 2003

1. How soon after the surgery were you able to be up and around? I was up and around the next morning but boy was my stomach super sore
How long was your hospital stay? My stay was 3 nights.

2. Once home how long before you felt almost back to normal. Meaning able to go about your normal activities without being in pain? I didn't take any pain medications but I know everyone is different. I returned to my normal activities after 2 weeks, with extreme tightness in my stomach. I was more scared to hurt myself than anything. My pain subsided quickly.

3. Any pointers/ hints on healing well and quickly? Keep your incision clean and dry. And most important, rest as much as possible.

4. Did any of you have problems breast feeding your babies after a C-section? I didn't have any problems brestfeeding. My little one took to it right away.

I would find an acupuncturist who works with moxabustion. It has been known to turn a breech baby. It is natural & won't hurt you or your child. If it works for you then you won't need to worry at all about the c-sect & you all will be under much less stress. No harm in trying.

I had all 3 of my boys through c-section. The best thing I can say is take your time. Once you're up on your feet, take lots of little walks throughout the day. The walking does help the healing. Be careful of the lifting since that will strain your stitches. I was feeling really good after my second son was born and really pushed what I did and in retrospect it took me longer to heal than my other two. The surgery didn't affect my breastfeeding and I was feeling fairly back to normal by my 6 week check up.

I was in the hospital for 3 days. Breast feeding same day I had surgery. Up on my feet the following day, only discomfort was when getting out of bed. When you get home - Use post it notes, signs, to remind yourself not to lift heavy things, take it easy first couple of months. Careful lifting your baby girl, sit with her on the couch, try not to lift her at all. My husband took me on a vacation because I would not stop cleaning, NOT THE TIME TO DO IT. Heal first, let everyone else take care of you, at least for the first 30 days. Good luck!

1. How soon after the surgery were you able to be up and around? How long was your hospital stay?

I didn't get up the first day. I wasn't in so much pain that I wanted to cry, but I definitely didn't want to get out and about. The next afternoon, I started getting out of bed and then started walking around the hospital floor. Although I could have stayed 4 days, I wanted to get home. I hated it in the hospital and I was doing really well so my doctor let me go home at 2 days. That afternoon, I walked around the block and was taking care of my cats and baby. I don't have a toddler. If I did, I wouldn't pick him/her up, but I would probably sit down and have them climb up or have my hubby help them.

2. Once home how long before you felt almost back to normal. Meaning able to go about your normal activities without being in pain?

Honestly, I was feeling pretty darn normal before the end of the week. At 4 days old, we took the baby to his doctor for his checkup and I felt pretty good then. I didn't have any pain during the day. At night, I did though, but not bad.

3. Any pointers/ hints on healing well and quickly?

Walk walk walk! But don't push yourself. Enjoy the walks, slow and steady. Walk around the block, walk to the park, walk at the mall if you like. I swear - walking is the only thing that did it for me.

4. Did any of you have problems breast feeding your babies after a C-section?

We did have problems, but I don't attribute it to the c-section. My baby has a really high palate and my nipples didn't brush up against it (and the lactation consultant at the hospital was awful awful awful!). My son never wanted to nurse after all this (and multiple visits with different lactation consultants). The only thing I would mention is that the pain meds I was on, did a number on my milk supply. I was taking percocet at night and that definitely caused some milk supply problems.

1. How soon after the surgery were you able to be up and around? How long was your hospital stay?

I had my daughter on a Thursday evening and I came home Sunday morning. I got up right away because my mom said that would be the only way to heal faster. It did took a good 2 weeks to start feeling less pain. But for me my first daughter was not a C-Section and I didn't feel back to normal right away either. Everyone is different. Just remember: Get up and move. You will be sore but that is the best advice. Please have someone try and help you the first few times.

2. Once home how long before you felt almost back to normal. Meaning able to go about your normal activities without being in pain?

2-3 weeks. You may still be sore. However, the pain becomes more dull.

3. Any pointers/ hints on healing well and quickly?

Try and have family/friends help out. Don't feel you have to do everything.

4. Did any of you have problems breast feeding your babies after a C-section?

I didn't have any problems breast feeding. My husband was good about handing me Hannah when she needed to be fed. If you don't have someone to help out, make sure the bassinet/bed is close to yours.

Good Luck and congrats

Hi W.,
Like you, I wanted a natural birth but ended up having a C-section. I was in the hospital for two days afterwards and tried walking as much as I could while I was there. The hard part for me was passing gas, they wanted me to do that before letting me go home. I think I was up and around two weeks later, of course at my own pace. If you have help, accepted and let them do the heavy stuff. However, do keep walking because this will help your recovery. Its been 3 months and I still walk slower than before and have pains here and there, but I had an anchor cut, but I stop taking pain medication three weeks after. If you have breastfeeding problems, talk to lactation counsaltant, they recommended "more-milk plus" for me and it worked.
Good luck and I wish you and your baby a safe journey.

I was standing the night of my c-section ( my son was born at 3:15 pm). And I was able to be up and walking around the next morning. I was in pain, but get up and walk as soon as you are able!!! It helps a ton. They gave me pain medication for home, and I was able to do my daily routine when I got home. Getting out of bed was hard, but I managed. As for no pain, that did honestly take a few weeks to be completely pain free. But I know many moms that had natural births and they had the same problem, so I don't think that is too different. My only pointers are to get up and walking as soon as posible, don't be afraid to take your pain meds, they really do help and get back to a routine as soon as you can. That is what helped me. As for breastfeeding, there were no problems. I nursed my son in the recovery room, and he has never had a drop of formula in his life. I nursed until he was 15 months old. I was scared to death to have my c-section, but I am getting ready for my next one now, it is not ideal, but it not as big of a deal as some people make it out to be. In the end a happy healthy baby is the goal, and if that is how he has to get here then so be it. Good Luck, it will all be fine!

Hi W.,
I went through the same thing. I was terrified of the C-section. I tried EVERYTHING to turn our son, to no avail. I did notice that the acupuncture and swimming on my stomach caused him to move a lot, so if you haven't tried those, you might try those approaches to see if your baby will move. If, your little one decides to stay and you have to have the C-section- relax. I was actually amazed- I did very well with the recovery and did not have to take pain medication for more than a few days. It took longer to feel completely "normal", but I am guessing that would be the case with normal delivery as well. I was in the hospital for 4 days, and my milk came in 1 and a half days after he was born.
Here are my suggestions:
1.make sure you have a firm bed. Ours is a little saggy and it caused pulling on my incision and made me unable to sleep- which was awful!
2. I used arnica gel and slathered it on my belly for a few days before the procedure and several times a day after the C-section. The nurses were amazed at how fast I healed- I don't know if the gel helped made that difference, but I would use it again.
3. Go to the hospital where you will be and talk to the head nurse and your OB and ask for as much skin-skin time as possible with your little one in the OR. We did this and got an unprecedented 30 minutes. I think the contact helped my milk come in quickly and, of course the bonding time is wonderful. Your husband can go with your son once they need to take him. At that point you will be taken to recovery. The wait there was the hardest part of the c-section for me- a very long 30-40 minutes.
4. The OR is a rather noisy environment. I was not prepared for that. If you can talk to you or help you do some deep breathing exercises, it might help.
Blessings to you on your journey with your son! You will do fine!
S.
Blessings to you.

The standard stay at my hospital for c-section in 4 days. If offered it, take full advantage of it provided you have someone to take care of your 2 yr old. I actually had the "worst case senario" happen to me. I'm not saying this to scare you, just so that the same thing doesn't happen to you. My child was "sunny side up". The dr was two steps away from retirement, and we didn't know this until I had pushed 2.5 hrs to no avail. I really should have researched c-sections, but I didn't. With this being my first child, I didn't know that you could take pain meds while breast feeding. I had her on a Saturday night in the middle of the night. The hospital was packed. THey were waiting for me to request pain meds. I never did because I didn't know I could take them. It wasn't until Mon morning with the dr came around for rounds, and he said, " how are you toleration the pain medication". I said "What??" They were so busy that nobody was questioning why I wasnt mobile or taking meds. THe point of this is: YOU ARE ALLOWED TO TAKE PAIN MEDS WHILE BREAST FEEDING. Ask for them, and taking them every 4 hours whether you feel the pain or not. I have friends that have scheduled c-sections and have no problems getting up and around the next day. Unfortunately I was the first one of my friends to have kids, so I was clueless!

You can breastfeed no problem using the "football" hold. Ask a nurse to show you how to do it.

I hope this helps!

I had an unplanned emergency c-section with my first---and we made it through! Don't worry---you will too. Just remember to take it easy the first two weeks or it will take you twice as long to heal. Answers to your questions:
1. I was up and around 24 hours after c-section, but my hospital stay was 5 days.
2. I had pain for about 2 weeks. I was then able to walk around normally and drive, but still couldn't lift more than my baby for about a month.
3. My best advice: get as much help as possible. It is major abdominal surgery and you need to heal to take care of your family! I notice that you are in the military---see if you can get some help from the other moms.
4. Although I was still groggy, baby latched on two hours after surgery. We did have some issues, but they were related to lack of experience, not the c-section. I work full-time and we are still nursing 11 months later!
You'll do great! Take care!

I'm L. (our only son is almost 9 he was early by 11weeks so as you can imagine very unexpected C-section) I was in hospital additional 4 or 5 nights. No big deal excecpt I had to leave empty-handed :( Our son is fine I had staples removed if I recall correctly about 2 weeks later and although I did NOT want to go back to work cuz baby still in NICU I was physically ready at 6-8weeks out. I'll pray for you. C-section was not scary & I had only discomfort from where they shaved me with nothing to moisturize or soften the area (itchy for days) NOT even sure why they did that at all since baby came out ina different area...??? W. pray God will give you peace and have /his hands with the doctor. All will be well! You will be in my prayers! No worries! That's not productive or good for you or baby now. So be well. your new e-friend L. C of Riverside

Hi W.. I can totally understand how you're feeling. I had an unplanned emergency c-section with my son. I was a week late and he still hadn't dropped and I hadn't dialated at all. My doctor was going to induce me, but before that could happen the baby's heart rate dropped and my doctor said I had to have the surgery right away. My husband and I were devistated and heartbroken. We both wanted a natural delivery so badly and we had done so much to prepare for it (yoga breathing and positions, birth plan, music cd for labor, etc). The thing that helped me the most mentally was telling myself that "it was no big deal" and to just go through the motions calmly and aware. Of course I knew it was a big deal because a c-section is major surgery, not just a "procedure" as some people explain it. But I decided that since it was going to happen whether I liked it or not, it was better to psych myself out and make believe it was easy and wait until after it was over to get scared and say to myself "what the $%@# did I just do". It worked for me and helped me remain relaxed and not be worried. Plus I had good doctors and a very friendly anesthesiologist which really helped a lot! Here are the answers to your particular questions...
1. I was able to get up and walk very slowly the day after surgery. I stayed in the hospital for 4 days.
2. It took me about 3-4 weeks to start feeling back to normal. It's true the sooner you get up and start slowly walking around the better. But take it very easy! Just move carefully and slowly. When I did take a walk for the first time, it was just to the end of the block and back. Start slow and make sure you don't over do it.
3. I'll just repeat to take it slow and easy. Getting up and walking around is the best thing. But take breaks and sit down after a few minutes. You'll be able to tell when you can start moving more. Take your pain medicines on schedule, don't wait until you think you need them. It will be too late by then and when it starts hurting it's no fun. You'll be able to start taking less of the strong ones and just stick to the advil or motrin after a little while.
4. I had no problem at all breast feeding after the surgery. One thing that helped was holding the baby in the "football position" which is parallel to your body along your side rather than across your stomach. The nurses or lactation specialist will be able to show you how to do that. Also, the "Boppy" pillow was easier than the "brest friend" pillow for me.
One last bit of advice, read up on c-sections. If you have the book What to Expect When You're Expecting, they have a good section explaning everything. I didn't read anything about it because I never thought I'd have to get one, but looking back I wish I was more informed on what to expect. For example, one person mentioned how cold you feel afterward. I thought something was wrong with me because I was shivering so badly, but then I read it's from the IV. Removing the cathiter was kind of uncomfortable, but not painful. I didn't know I'd have trouble pooping either, you may need a suppository to help you out. You can ask for some stool softeners when you leave the hospital. You may also have a very sharp pain around the ends of the scar when you walk for the first few times. Everyone I've talked to who had a c-section had the same feeling. The area around the incision will be sore and you may get shooting pains for a few weeks. It feels numb on top of the scar and I didn't really like that feeling. Sorry this is so long, but I wish I would've had someone tell me everything I could expect ahead of time. So hopefully this will help you out. Don't worry, you'll do fine. And don't feel bad if you feel really sad about it afterward, that's normal. Take good care, you'll be sooo happy once the baby's here :)

Is your son here? How did it go?

hi W.,

my c-section was an emergency situation, my son came 6 weeks early, so i know how you're feeling. BUT, let me tell you that it's no big deal. The scar is so low and heals so well that you will be fine either way.

1. don't go home too early. the pain is real and you should take medication and take care of yourself at the hospital with nurses and people to help you . the first week is the worst. I was in the hospital 6 days b/c my son was in the NICU but i was grateful for the extra days.

4. my milk came in 3 days after birth in the hospital, so no trouble there.

I know this sounds crazy, but it is worth a try...My second son was breech at 38 weeks and I searched on the internet for tips, and found something about chinese herbs that you burn on your feet. I found them at a Chinese herb store in Linda Vista. My husband held them under my feet for two nights. My baby turned head first. I don't know if it was really the herbs or not, but it was worth it to have a vaginal birth! Give it a try.

I had 2 c-sections - the first was after 24 hours of labor and THEN THEY FOUND OUT SHE WAS BREECH!!!!!! Anyhoo, I was completely wiped after #1, but #2 I had another C-section which was scheduled. It was great. I went in the hospital and had a baby, just like that!! I felt pretty good other than the 22 staples across my abdomen. I was walking as soon as they removed the catheter and home after 2 days. Make no mistake it hurts to cough, sneeze and you can't lift anything heavier than the baby. You can't drive for a couple of weeks. Be sure to prep your older child about how you will be feeling and that you cannot lift him, run, etc. I was blessed to have my mom stay with me for a few weeks to help out with everything, so hopefully youcan get a support system to help you with your older one and shopping, etc. Good luck. It is not as bad as it seems and in the end, you have a beautiful baby!

Oh yeah, after you give birth, you will not be able to hang out with the baby - you have to go to the recovery room. After the first one, I did not know this and spent the whole time desperately trying to move my legs so that the nurse would let me go be with my baby. After the second one I took a nap!!! This was the last uninterrupted nap I ever had. It is hard to be separated from your baby right after birth, but just enjoy the quiet moment if you can!!

Hi, I'm Carmen, I understand your fear. We have 4 Daughters, 3 were delivered c-section.
Breast feeding is basically the same, you just need to prop a pillow on your tummy so he won't be laying across your staples. I'm not going to lie to you its not easy, but the faster you get up and move the better. You'll need to rock your knees side to side after surgery(it helps to pass gas)gas is very painful. You can lay a pillow across your tummy, adding pressure,any time you have to move it'll help. Don't drink anything with ice, it causes more gas(an old school nurse told me that)healing time depends on you,I wouldn't push to hard, just enough, and you'll know when that is. Hospital stay varies, with my fist I was there 2 days, second about a week(there were complications)third I was there 2 days, best of luck to you. I hope this helps, I wasn't trying to scare you, just being honest. Carmen R

Hi W.,

I have a friend who had both her children by c-section, the first emergency, the second planned. I think your general health and fitness will determine how quickly you are able to recover, but in general it's fairly quick. Just remember that it's major surgery and your body DOES need time to recover, so get some help if you can, whether it be friends, your husband, a parent, or a doula. Someone who can help you a little bit with meals, heavy lifting, and watching the kids while you shower and take care of yourself (napping!) is all you need, so even if you can just get someone for a couple of hours a week for the first few weeks, do it. My friend was up and going within two weeks at the most but she was stubborn! She was lucky that her husband was able to stay home with them for 6 weeks, but even without him she would have had friends to help, so recruit everyone you know!

This friend also breastfed both her babies successfully. Just find a comfortable place to sit or lie down where's you have something to hold onto when you sit and stand up. Use lots of pillows for support. Basically the biggest thing is your major abdominal muscle has been cut through so you can't use it as much as you're used (we take for granted how much we use this...think of how sore you are if you do situps for the first time in months and how it hurts to do anything). So you have to compensate. Just take it as easy as you can, but do move around when you can.

I'm sure lots of other people who have gone it through it personally will have better advice. This is just what I know from watching my friend.

My daughter was C-section 26 years ago, and I was amazed at how easy it was. I know others have had difficulty, but my experience couldn't have been better. The surgery occurred at 1pm on a Friday, and my husband drove is home on Monday morning. I had no pain (I took a shower on Sunday in the hospital), and was not restricted by any after-effects except a little fatigue over the next week--I suppose that would be expected after any surgery.

As far as I've heard, there is no connection between the method of delivery and the ability to breast feed. I certainly found none.

As I said, I know some people have had difficulties, but this was my experience.

I had the same situation as you--- my daughter was footling breach, never turned her head down, and my fluid was to low to try to turn her (plus, turning is painful, and can be dangerous, resulting in emergency C-section, and very often the baby turns right back into the position they want to be in), so a few weeks before, my doctor told me we'd have to do a scheduled C and to think about what day we wanted) I was very upset, cried all the way home, felt like i was failing (this was my first and only child), and felt very strange about choosing the day of my child's birth. But this turned out to be one of a long list of lessons in just rolling with it--- these are the new facts, and you just accept it and go with it. It did help that my husbands two older children had both been C-section--- so it was the only thing he knew! And then because of scheduling, my doctor had to name the day. And it was a weird and wonderful day. I had never had any major surgery of any kind, so it was all new to me. The most difficult moment was after they had administered the spinal. My husband wasn't allowed in yet, and all the doctors were out of my sight for a moment, and I was starting to go numb and thinking about not being able to move my legs, and got a little panicky. One of the docs came and asked how I was doing and I said "I think I'm staring to freak out" and he just smoothly said "we have something for that"--- gave me the something and then all was fine. (I was perfectly awake and aware, of course.) And then, minutes later, my daughter was there!
Now, I won't lie, I was very sad that I couldn't immediately have her lying on my chest, and couldn't immediately give her the breast. My husband went off with her to the nursery,
and I went to recovery, and it took like two hours for the spinal to wear off. They had said my husband and the baby might come to the recovery room, but they didn't and I worried something was wrong. Finally my husband popped down to say everything was alright, and FINALLY I could feel my feet and legs, and they moved my up to our room, brought the baby in right away, unwrapped her , put her in my arms and she took right to my breast and all was right with the world.
You will breast feed in the football hold and should have no problems due to the surgery, other than the normal difficulties some have at first. You just can't have the baby resting on your belly for a while.
I was in the hospital for 4 days, their allotted time for a C-section. They will probably have you up and walking a bit the second day. I had a morphine drip for the first day, then vicodin. And I took the vicodin for a few days after I got home. I rested and slept and fed and changed the baby the first couple of days--- seems like it was pretty much the same as my friends who had vaginal births. By five days we were out and about, over to friend's for Thanksgiving dinner. The healing process seemed pretty quick, the doctors don't want you lolling around keeping still these days. The incision area was a bit sore for a while, but Motrin would take care of it. (None of these medications hurt my child, by the way, and she breastfed constantly.)
Mostly, I want to tell you don't worry, it's going to be what it is, and it's going to be okay.
Everybody is different, but you are a mother--- and you can handle it! Good luck!

Hi W.,
In October I had an unplanned C-section after 14 hours of labor. I too was freaked out, it was my first experience even being in a hospital. But it honestly wasn't bad.
To answer your questions:
1. I stayed in the hospital 3 days (last day due to my baby developing jaundice). I was up walking the halls the next day. They really encourage it! I just kept a slow pace, and increased the distance as I felt up to it...you don't want to over do it.
2. For the most part it was about a week after I got home that I felt back to normal. I couldn't really go up our stairs or climb in and out of high bed before then. After a week the only time a still felt a little pain was getting in and out of the car especially the twisting to put on a seat belt. Be sure you have someone to drive you around that first week or two.
3.Just make sure you keep things clean and dry to avoid an infection. Rely on family or friends to really help you out that first week to give your body time to heal. And keep up the walks.
4.I'm a first time mom...my daughter had somewhat of a hard time latching on and I had to supplement with formula due to her jaundice. But it didn't have anything to do with the c-section. In fact my milk came in the 2nd day. I found the football hold to be the most comfortable.
I will be thinking of you on the 6th. Don'y worry...you will do just fine!

I had a C-section for the same reason (9years ago!). Trying to turn him was painful and he ended up just moving back. I have gone on to have 2 more c-sections so I hope my experiences can help you. I won't lie, the first c-section was painful. However, I learned (with the next two) it would have been less so if I had walked around the day of the surgery. With the other two, I was up 8 hours after the c-section. Get a somewhat firm pillow and press it against your lower ab when you get up and keep it there when your holding the baby as well. You are allowed to stay in the hospital 4 days, and although you have another little one at home, I highly recommend you take ALL four days. Especially because this is your first c-section. Your little one will be fine with daddy and other family, and although we moms can't imagine it, they do just fine! You'll be a better mommy when you get home if the most painful days are already behind you. As far as tips for healing well, you really have to do as little as possible. Remember, it's major surgery. In a year you'll be amazed that that scar that looked so big, has almost disappeared! If breast feeding was fine with your 28 month old, It should be fine with this one. The best thing I used was that boppy pillow. It took the pressure off my abs and protected the sensitive area at the same time. Good Luck with everything!

I had a c-section in December 2007. I was scared to death, but it really wasn't as bad as I thought. I stayed 2 nights in the hospital and was up and walking as soon as the spinal wore off. I still have some tenderness at the incision site but really you almost forget you had surgery b/c you are so busy being a mom!! Don't worry it will be ok.

Hi W.,
First off, I will commend you on wanting to go natural! Way to go! As far as you breech little one: first off, relax. The baby does feel everything you feel, but hightened. If your little one feels scared, they will not want to come out, and thus stay in the breech position, no matter what. You did not mention how far along you are, but there may be some home-positional things you can try. Ask your dr. if there is any medical reason you can not try these things. If not, try! Check out www.spinningbabies.com. They have suggestions on how to get a breech baby to turn. While doing it,be in a calming environment, and picture you baby turning around. Talk to your little one and let them know that they are loved, and it is safe. You can place warm compresses on your lower abdomen, while placing cold compresses on the top, where the babies head is. You can lay down with your bottom up, so your head is down. There is such power in the mind, and you can tell your baby to turn around and get ready to come out. It does not always work, but you can try, if your dr. gives you the go ahead. I am a doula, and have heard of many people being able to turn their little ones using these techniques. If it still doesn't work, and you need a c-section still, check out www.ican.org for cesarean support.
I wish you the best, and a very healthy baby, and happy memories of your birth, no matter how it happens.

I have been an L&D nurse for 7 years and had a c-section myself. So I can give you the norms and my personal experience.
1. The rule of thumb is to get up walking the morning after surgery. That's usually when the catheter comes out as well. The first time out of bed can be a bit painful, but it always gets easier after that first walk. You can help yourself by staying active in bed the day of surgery. Turn, cough, deep breath to keep muscles moving.
1b. Most women stay in the hospital 3-4 days. We do discharge patients day 2 if they are doing well (like you said walking, peeing) and have good pain control. I would have been happy to go home after 3 days but had to stay for baby complications. On day 4 when we did leave, we went out to a nice sit-down lunch on the way home.
2. I had some pain for about 2 weeks, but it was very managable with medication (motrin, etc). As with vaginal delivery, pelvic rest lasts 6 weeks (including no strenuous exercise or lifting).
3. The best way to heal is moderation. Get rest, but don't stay in bed constantly. Increase activity, but do it slowly.
4. We had no trouble nursing at all....my girl latched right on that first time. The same percentage of babies have trouble after vag births as c-sections, in my experience.
All in all, Its not that bad if you go into with a good attitude. Good luck and congratulations

I had c-sections with both of my children, now 4 and 2. I pushed for almost 2 hours with my first child, the doctors decided he was stuck. I was very sad and nervous at first. But I recovered very fast. I had the option of trying a natural birth with my second, but decided to do the c-section again.

From what I hear, the recovery from having a vaginal birth can be very uncomfortable.

I was up and about the next day. I was in the hospital for 4 days with both, only because my son had jaundice and my daughter was not keeping food down and losing weight.

It took me about 2-3 weeks to feel completely back to normal.

I think I recovered so quickly because I got out of bed and moved around. I am a busy body and don't like to sit still.

No problems breast feeding at all. I breast fed both of my children for 7 months.

You will be fine. Many woman have had ce-sections, and recover well.

Please don't be scared. Medical technology is so advanced these days. My son is going to be 12 years old in April, and I had an unplanned C-section after 2 days of labor pains. I'm sorry I don't remember specifically how long it took to get back to normal, but I do remember it wasn't bad at all, and I had no problems nursing him. I used a pillow on my lap to shield the stitches. You can't even see the scar now. I only stayed 2 nights in the hospital because of my insurance at the time. The doctor told me he would authorize another night, but my insurance wouldn't pay it, but I felt like I really wanted to go home. I had a lot of help from my husband. Sorry if this doesn't specifically answer your questions, but I wanted to tell you to try not to worry, and I'm very happy for you and your whole family.
B. in Lakewood.

hi there,
i had an emergency C in the hospital with my first and it was entirely NOT what i was expecting from the birth (I had planned on a totally natural delivery)! i just didn't dilate enough and had been in labor so long (30+ hrs) that my baby was getting smushed in there and her heart rate dropped super-low, so they pumped me full of meds and did the C. in one way maybe it was easier than what you are dealing with b/c i didn't have time to process that i was having the C, we just wanted our baby to be safe. We were also lucky because the entire staff was WONDERFUL. I just want to let you know, it's not so bad. I had never had any kind of surgery before, and I'm pretty sensitive to drugs.

1 and 4. I won't lie, it hurt a lot the first few days (I tried to take less pain meds, but ended up having to take the recommended dosage), especially breastfeeding, but we got through it just fine and didn't have to stop nursing once. I stayed in the hospital 4 days, i think, but i could have left after 3 days.

2. after about a week i didn't have much pain at all, but i was pretty weak and it was hard to walk much for about 2 weeks. but that i think is more due to my not being in the best shape and having tons of "emergency" drugs put through my system so it probably lengthened the recovery time.

3. definitely, if you can get some help from a family member, post-partum doula etc, with your 2.5 yr old especially, it will help a lot. i am having my 2nd child in 2 months and my daughter will be 21 months. it looks like I may have to do another C instead of a VBAC - in either case, i know i will need help till i can walk around and get at least some sleep...though i might need help for a little longer with a C.

i hope this helps! please don't worry, a C isn't the most terrible thing. i never anticipated mine, but end all, i'm just happy my baby arrived safely, that's the most important thing. you'll be totally fine. good luck with your beautiful new addition!

The sooner you can stand up the better!!! I had an emergency C-section with my first son and didn't get out of bed til the next evening. Also, was sick so I was hospitalized for a week & hardly got around. That was a much slower recovery than with my second son. My second son was a scheduled C-section & I tried to stand up the same evening I had my son & was able to do so. Even though it was hard, I didn't want the recovery to be as long and tough as it was with my first C-section. It wasn't!!! The more I got up throughout the days the better! I HIGHLY reccommend standing up the first night, and walking around the second day and a little more each day after. Slowly strengthening your abdominal muscles is what you are doing. No problems breast feeding...it actually aides in the healing as well!! Just use a pillow. Actually, I think they now have a special pillow that goes around your waist & helps support the baby.

I had a breech first born daughter after six hours of labor thinking it was going to be a vaginal delivery. They rushed me into ER and had C-section that lasted ten minutes. Thank God for epidurals. I stayed in hospital two days but my worries of having no feelings even to urinate dissipated before the week was up and all was allright. It took about twelve weeks to totally feel normal again, although promised 6 week recovery. I ate six meals a day and walked daily to get muscles going. I picked up jogging with my newborn in the stroller and remained active. Breasfeeding was only hard in beginning but after having been trained by specialists, and persistently pumping, the breastmilk kicked in. I drank lots of milk and fatty soups and after four months of breastfeeding, I was reading to wean her off because it was too difficult with work and leaking and all. My second delivery was vaginal and I recovered instantly. There is still a scar, but my lack of excercise after my second birth is more of a hinderance than anything else. Good luck and justs be patient; all will be fine so don't fear.
Love,
A.

W.,

I had an unplanned emergency C-section. Was in labor for 13 hours went to 9 centimeters and then my son's heart rate dropped and stayed low so they did the emergency c-section. He is perfectly healthy almost 2 1/2 now!!!

Recovery for me was pretty easy (I'm not saying it was'nt painful) I was walking around the hospital room the day after. They want to make sure you have bowel movements and they removed the catheder the day after also.
I went home on my third day and live in a two story home. It was painful walking up stairs. But again I would say I was really active within 1 1/2 to 2 weeks.

As for the breastfeeding, it was painful to get into a comfortable position without putting too much pressure on my stomach area. After a week though I was fine.

To me the hardest part was getting on and off my bed for the first few days at home. I needed help getting from the lying position up and off the mattress.

Also my feet and ankles swelled up like crazy. I've never seen anything like it. I'm a pretty petite person and was freaked out,after a week the swelling went down too.

Good luck to you.

D.

I had to have a C-section with my twin daughters. I had the same fears as you. I owe all of my recovery to my wonderful OB. She made sure I was comfortable because she understood how BUSY i'd be with two babies. The one thing that saved me with the pain of my incision was a binding belt. I think the use it also to wrap women's breast to keep your milk from coming in. Anyhow, the binding put pressure on the incision and prevented any pulling of the stiches while I walked or moved. In fact, I didn't even feel it while I wore the belt. It is true the faster you get up and walk the more healing you'll do. I didn't take any pain medication because I was breastfeeding, but my doctor said it was safe to take the precription Tylenol (1600mg), which seemed to do the trick.
I hope this helps ease you worries. Good luck and congratulations on baby number 2.

Hi
I had a C section also. I was walking around by the next day.Slowly but walking. I stayed for 3 or 4 days ( 17 years ago).
I was back to normal after 2 months.I had 4 other kids to run after. 8 and under, I was a single mom by then
Keep a pillow to lay across your belly when you sit or drive. It is amazing how many times your tummy area gets hit by kids or steering whell rubs it.
I had no problems breast feeding.
I freaked out too when my baby was breach and after 4 regular births it was a surprise.
It will go fine dont worry.

Oopps! Just realized this response is too late! glad things went well and sorry I did not respond earlier ! First let me say, I can understand you being frightened by the thought of a c-section. I delivered both of my sons by c-section. My first son is 11 and my second son just turned 1yr. Let me just assure you and say that c-sections are much more common now and doctors have learned to do them with the least amount of scarring and the smallest cut possible. The best advise I can give you is to get up as soon as possible after the procedure the gas pain can be killer if you don't. You are young and should heal quickly, but don't push yourself as far as lifting and sitting up, roll rather than try and sit up as you normally would. Be careful picking up your two yr. old, do your cuddling when you are sitting down. I was in the hospital for 3-4 days with both c-sections and then was up and around at home after that. The best way I found to breastfeed is what they call the football hold, your nurse will be able to show you.

Hi W.,
I just had a C section 6 months ago. I'm not gonna sugar coat it and I am not trying to scare you either but this is what I went through.
1. Hospital stay was 4 days. I could barely walk upright when i left.
2. It took 1 month for me to walk semi normal. Thank God my mom was here to help for the month after my son was born.
3. Bring a favourite pillow to the hospital. Use the bed controls to help you in and outof bed and really try to get walking as soon as you can. It helps with the gas. You may have loads of gas. I was so swollen I couldn't pass gas, they had to do about 3 sort of enemas on me to get the gas out. Graphic but true.
4. My son latched on right away, so no problems with breastfeeding re: a C-section.

* Make sure you ask about what kind of anaesthesia you will be getting because I had an epidural but still felt all the pain during the entire surgery. They had to eventually put me under for 10 minutes cuz I was in so much pain. And I have a very high pain tolerance. My incision felt like it was going to rip every time I stood up straight, so take it easy for a month. It still feels numb and a little sharp pains to this day. Good luck and don't worry, this may go very easy for you. I was just relaying my experience just so you're covered.

Aloha W.,
I'm new to this mamasource space but I instantly felt connected to your request. First of all you have every reason to be frightened of a c-section. Second you don't have to do it, there are other ways. My midwife has delivered several breech babies perfectly natural. I am a double VBAC, meaning I have had two c-sections and then a natural birth. Recovering from a c-section is very difficult and must be taking seriously. After my second operation I was eager to get back on my feet and I disturbed my healing. My scare is deformed and I still feel surges of pain in it 6 years later. It takes at least six weeks before you can engage in normal activities as simple as vacuuming. You must be sure not to lift anything heavier than your newborn, including your 2 yr. old for a few months. My understanding is that when the baby turns breech there is some sort of emotional blockage going on. It's natures way of slowing down the birth experience. I strongly urge you to take your time with this birth and don't let your doctors bully you. This is your birth and you have rights. Meditate with your baby, Ask him what he's waiting for.
In love and Respect,
F.

I had an unexpected c-section. I was up and vacuuming a couple days after being home (which I wasn't suppose to...oh well :0)) I was walking around in the hospital on the second day. It was a breeze. As far as nursing....NO PROBLEMS...if my daughter could have crawled up my tummy to nurse she would have. She was a healthy, happy baby with a great appetite and nursed until she was a year old without any problems.

hi W., as a mother of five children (all c-sections) yes i know sounds crazy, but it really depends on you and how you go into it all 5 were different for me .. the sooner you get up and are able to start moving and walking slowly of course the better... i usually am up the following morning after the catheter has been removed.. use arm strength do the majority of your movements when getting out of bed.. the first time you get up is the hardest..do it after your pain medication.and most important BREATHE!!! exhale when you stand/sit.. use you arms to hold onto the bar in the restroom in the hospital..and when youy get home the sink...use you hands to push you up from a laying position from your side never try at first to sit straight up it will hurt .. every time you get up and each day that passes will get a little easier..after approx 2 weeks you should start to feel almost little to no pain be careful when you sneeze!!! squeeze you kegel also when you cough ...as for breast feeding use a boppy and try not to place it or you baby on the incision it will be tender fot quite awhile ...c-sections do not affect milk production...good luck breathe congratulations.. if you need more or more specific details let me know mom of 5 and i also am a certified trainer specializing in prenatal/post natal fitness ... you will be fine and the best part is when they put you baby next to your face ...

1. I was walking the next morning, as soon as I woke up. The first night would have been a little rough had my husband not stayed the night, but the midwives would have jumped in and helped if he hadn't been able to.

I stayed in hospital for 5 days, but that's normal in Australia. I had the option to go home earlier, but I was enjoying having round-the-clock lactation consultants and someone else doing the cooking and laundry.

2. From the conversations I've had with other mothers, I was in less pain than the ones who did it the old-fashioned way. I felt fine within a few days, but took doctor's advice and took it easy for about 6 weeks.

3. I really had no trouble - it was so much less traumatic than I expected. Just listen to the hospital physio. Don't lift anything heavier than your baby for the first few weeks. Take a 10 minute walk the day you get home and add 5 minutes to it each day.

4. Breastfeeding was no problem at all, aside from wanting someone to bring baby to me the first night. Okay... I was a little tender getting up to get her for the next few days, but nothing I couldn't handle, and as you said, walking around helps you heal.

As far as advice, don't be too worried. I like the idea of natural childbirth too, but at the end of the day, all that matters is that both of you are safe and healthy.

Oh, yeah, planned Ceasars are definitely better than crash ones, and these days they don't cut your stomach muscles at all.

W.,

I know its a scary thing since you dont know what to expect. I had two C-Sections, one with my oldest son...he was 10 lbs 3 weeks early (Im a small person) and the second I had twins and one turned breech and they were both almost 8 lbs each so needless to say C-Section was the smartest route to go. I had an epideral with my first and a spinal with my second and both went well. Both C-Sections went very well, no complications at all. You will need your healing time so let everyone else around you help and my strongest advice to you is DONT OVER DO IT! Your healing time will come quickly...you will be sore but you will be o.k. I nursed all three kids with no complication either...over all everything went great :)
Take care and congrats!!

~A.

I had an emergency C-section. I was going to be induced, she was 9 days late, then the contractions started that morning so I went in, in a hurry, then they found out she was breach!
After several people coming in and out to examine me during my contractions, they found out she was butt first, so they gave me medication to numb me, after that it was a piece of cake. I loved not having to use a pillow to sit after the birth of her. My son I had naturally, but had an epidural to ease the pain.
I had a 1 year old at home running around so I know your fears. It's ok, just don't pick up the little one. Take it easy. I was worried, they took the stiches out the second day at the hospital, then sent me home. I was afraid they'd pull apart, but they didn't. I had to sleep in a different bed than my hubby for fear the water bed would shake me the wrong way. I was more at ease sleeping alone the first few days. I was surprised at how fast the healing goes! The stiches were aided by staples which they take out before you go home. That was teh scariest part. But put your mind at ease, it's a lot less painful than you'd think! I am numb where the scar is, right above my hairline down there, and the line shrank and changed to hardly be seen! It's amazing what they can do these days. My mom was cut down the middle top to bottom and the scar can still be seen. Not mine!

So in answer to your questions:
1&2- I think my stay was two days, and once home another two days and I was up and about easily. I had a one year old at home and was worried I'd need help, but had none, accept for the friend at church who came by three days later to take care of the 1 year old while I took the baby in for a well baby check up (it may have been a week later I don't know, all I know is that my 1 year old had bad diahreah the mornign my friend came to help me, I was late taking my daughter to the doctor, my friend showed up late, and we went to get my son out of bed and he was covered with poop! She was a great help, took him in and cleaned him up and told me not to worry, go ahead and leave! Now that is a great friend!!!)
I was up and moving around a lot quicker than I had expected. I kept from picking up the 1 year old, it was hard though, he liked being held. I stayed low as I could so he could be close without me picking him up. Yours should be able to climb up next to you I'd think, on the couch, but I remember worrying he'd want to sit on my lap and I had to push him away in fear of him busting me open. It was long ago so hard to remember. I was amazed though, I remember, at how well it held together. And I didn't need a pillow to sit! yay!

3. Make sure to keep an eye on your wound, that it doesn't get infected. Report any pussing, or slow healing spots to the doctor. They do like you to keep watch to make sure it all heals well. They'll tell you.

4. As far as breast feeding... my son never latched on to begin with, so when it was time to breast feed my daughter after C-section and she wouldn't latch on either, I gave up. Both my kids were on formula almost right away. They turned out just fine. Neither of them have a growth problem, or over weight or under weight problem. They are perfectly normal. I was stressing out that neither of them would latch on, and the fact that I had them so close in age (14 months apart) I was ready to have my body back to myself. My daughter started to latch on just about the time my breasts were dry cracked and so sore I didn't want her on there. And she didn't seem to mind having formula instead. I forget which kind. My kids are now 15 and 16. Too long ago to remember.

It was great having them close in age though. They were off the bottle at the same time, out of diapers at the same time (accept my boy liked to poop his pants a lot, and that lasted until he was 13!... still has problems now and then, diahreah he thinks is gas, so he lets one out and gets more than gas, he may have allergies, not sure, we'll be looking into that, always had this problem but acts like he doesn't care)

I miss having toddlers, but they are busy little creatures! Have fun with them. Take lots of pictures and video clips! They are so funny! I love watching old movies of my kids. They used to pile up the paper towels and bags of disposable diapers when we got them home from the store, and they built walls with them, then crashed them down and jumped all over them. Monkies!

I wish you well. Everyone is different. Let me know how it goes!

Love,
Val

hi... I never had a c section but I do know that my midwives chiropractor is able to turn babies with a non invasive approach. he is wonderful.I also know that sometimes the babies will turn during labor. so there are alternatives. but beyond that I can say that my best friend just had a c-section a month ago. she has 2 twin 3 year olds and when I went to visit her 2 weeks ago she was up and doing great and breast feeding with ease. she was in better shape than I was after my natural labor 8 months ago. She had a great experience and is doing fabulous as are all 3 of her boys and papa too. good luck.

Hi W. - I'm new to Mamasource, but saw your post. I had a planned C-section (twins), so I felt ready for it when the time came. I can only imagine how it must feel to have this come up so close to your deliver! Here's my experience

1. How soon after the surgery were you able to be up and around? How long was your hospital stay?

The nurses had me up about 12-14 hours after surgery. I had the catheter for 24 hours, so after that, I had to get up if I had to use the bathroom!! Walking was very helpful - I had some pretty bad swelling in my legs after the surgery, and laps around the OB unit helps tremendously. I was in the hospital 4 nights - would have been 3, but the docs wanted to observe the girls one more night.

2. Once home how long before you felt almost back to normal. Meaning able to go about your normal activities without being in pain?

My advice here - really take it easy for those 6-8 weeks of recovery. I overdid it and paid for it. I felt pretty good after about 7-10 days - walking normally, incision pain pretty much gone. Because they have to separate the stomach muscles, that will feel weird for months. But, I was ok to do easy/short walks after about 3 weeks, and was back to running after about 10 weeks.

3. Any pointers/ hints on healing well and quickly?

Again, take it really easy!!! Eat well, rest when you can (which will be tough with 3 kiddos, but do your best) and let people help you!

4. Did any of you have problems breast feeding your babies after a C-section?

Nope...my only issue was that I was given morphine for pain, and I didn't react well to it, so I was really out of it the day of their birth. But, they got them on the boob within an hour after the delivery, and as far as milk supply, ability to nurse, etc. we were ok. My hospital has a top notch lactation team, so I feel very lucky!

Hi W.,
I am a first-time mom with a beautiful little boy who is 6 1/2 weeks old. I was really excited about having a natural delivery, but after over 20 hours of labor we had an emergency C-section because his heart rate had droppped so low for so long.... his umbilical cord was wrapped around his neck. I was really disappointed, but have realized that it was just the way it had to be, and that the most important thing is that he is healthy, and I am okay too.

My advice is just to get out of bed as soon as you can, after they remove the catheter, but not to push yourself. It's a delicate balance, but it sounds like it's important to you to be healthy and recover quickly, so listen to your body. Be sure you have some help at home for a couple of weeks, because you won't have a lot of energy for a while. As far as the pain goes, for me it was hard to bend over and pick things up. They say not to pick up anything heavier than your newborn.... Getting up and down from the sitting position in bed was tricky, so have lots of pillows to prop yourself up. I also got a sleep positioner so my little one could be in bed next to me; this helped me not have to move so much to check on him at night.

I checked out of the hospital after 48 hours, but like I said, try not to push yourself, each woman is different, and each surgery is different. I didn't have any trouble breastfeeding, at least none that every new mom doesn't have (latching, sore nipples, etc.). I am totally fine now, after 6 1/2 weeks, and I have been pretty good for a couple of weeks, but I was very easily fatigued more than anything, as well as a little sore around the midsection, for at least 3 or 4 weeks. Drink lots of water, eat healthily, accept all help that is offered (especially food and laundry), and sleep as much as you can. That's my advice.

I feel for you, W.. But you'll be fine. It's amazing how much our attitude affects our well-being, so keep your chin up. Get fresh air, even if you're just sitting outside for a few minutes a day. That always feels good. Good luck!

W., You're going to do great! I had to have 2 emergency c-sections, the second with my son (I too have a 2 1/2 year old little girl)after attempting a VBAC. It is a healing process. Give yourself permission to take it easy at first. Get grandparents, aunts, friends etc. to help out especially the first week, and take it easy.
1. Yes, it is the best to get up as soon as possible and walk around, although it will probably be a good 24 hours before you're able too.

2.I loved using the "corset" type support they give you in the hospital at home, once the hospital bed, helping you sit up was gone. I would wear it at night to give myself a little extra support. It was probably about 1-2 weeks before I felt able to do my usual activities. But take seriously the no vacuuming :) and lifting heavy weight for a little bit. I definitely was able to walk, cook, go shopping etc. within 2 weeks. I was even driving- the doctor said as long as I could stop suddenly and react to an emergency, I could drive.

3. Pain meds. are your friend :) But I was trying to wean myself to just the ibuprofen by the end of the week. Be careful not to over do it when you're on your pain meds, because you feel better then you are.
Have your little girl be a helper. My daughter loved her "jobs" (getting a diaper, throwing things away, bringing me the pillow etc.) it helped her feel important and not neglected or jealous (which I really worried about).

4. The football hold is great for nursing. It gives your abdomen time to heal and it's really easy to see your son's mouth for great latches. The lactation nurses were a wonderful help!.

Good luck. I hope all goes beautifully and congratulations.

I have advice about turning the baby- I read that using hypnosis has an 80% success rate at turning babies! I don't remember exactly where I read it but I remember it being a reliable source. Maybe worth a try... best of luck!

I had two C-sections. The first one was a little harder for me cause I had gotten to 9 centimeters before they did the surgery. so for that aspect my healing process was a little longer and a little more painful. As for the second one, it was a breeze. I went in on schedule and about 20 min later the baby was out and I was in recovery. I would say that recovery was the hardest part because everyone gets to see the baby more then you. However if you get a great nurse they should bring the baby to you so that you can feed him. The recover time is probably about two weeks. I won't deny that it was painful the first 2 days. But it does get better and it is well worth it. As far is nursing is concerned, after c-sections the best way to nurse is holding the baby like a football cause the weight of the baby on your tummy isn't very comfortable. Hang in there and will turn out great. Let me know if you have any other questions.

Hi,

I'm sorry that your baby is breech here towards the end (mine was too, but then we got him to turn...). I remember feeling that turmoil and fear and wanting to do ANYTHING to get the baby to turn, so I'm sorry that you're feeling that.

After reading your post, I wanted to bring up a few things - first of all, it's great that your OB is willing to try to help you turn the baby - that's awesome! But, if the baby does turn, I'm not sure why they would induce you right then instead of letting the baby wait and tell you when it's ready. I assume that you are knowledgeable about how inducing can actually lead to C-Section, but if not - the drugs used to induce make it so that the body's natural hormones that help birth happen take a back seat and without those hormones doing their job, labor can be very slow and long and can lead to a C-Section because of "failure to progress." (I have a theory that this is part of the reason why there are SO many C-Sections these days, but that's for another day!) I don't meant to scare you or be negative, but I'm bringing this up because if you got the baby to turn, you'd probably be jumping up and down (hopefully not physically, but mentally!) and I would hate for you to then still end up having a C-Section because of the induction slowing things down.

Now that I've covered that, I wanted to also tell you that I have a friend who had a C-Section and she said the recovery was cake. She didn't even need to take ANY painkillers. I'm not saying this is what happens with everyone, but I just wanted to give you a little ray of hope in case this is your path. Best wishes :)

P.S. I'm sure you've heard of the millions of things to do for turning a baby, but I highly recommend the acupuncture where they heat it up (moxibustion). I know of an AMAZING chiropractor's office here that does it (and did it for me) and actually, the chiropractor there specializes in turning babies through adjustment and massage (as well as other pregnancy and post-partum stuff), so that might be something to think about too. Just let me know if you want his contact info.

We knew in advance we'd be doing a "C"; after speaking to a doola, I begged my doc to schedule it as late as possible in the hopes that I'd at least get a shot of going into labor. The morning of my scheduled operation I did indeed go into labor and it made the recovery from the operation a million times easier because all my muscles had naturally thinned themselves out in anticipation of a natural birth. Those first two days were rough, but honestly, but the third day, I was able to walk around.

BEST to you and your little one!!!!!
K (mommy to an amazing lil 7 month old boy)

Hi W.,

I had a C-Section about 15 yrs ago with my first born. Your whole recovery experience really depends on how your body is used to healing itself. My C-section experience was a horrible one. I stayed in the hospital about 1 week due to a fever, my blood preassure dropped. I am a big baby so my recovery was a horendous one. I tried to breast feed but again I quit due to the nipple pain. If you get past that you should be fine. My sister in law on the other hand had c-sections with both of her deliveries and she was up and walking and back to her normal self after leaving the hospital. The scar is not big at all also. Try not to stress about it as this may also add stress to the baby. One recommendation I do have is wear a body wrap around your mid section after you get home so the skin can adhere to your muscles again. This really helps. Take care and good luck on your delivery1

I had three c sections. My strongest recomendation is to let your dr know you do not want to be stappled. The stitches worked best for me. Much faster recovery. I breast fead all three kids and did not have a problem. Take it easy the first week but definatly start walking around as soon as you can.
Good luck.

I loved having a C-section. I actually chose to have an elective C-section for my first baby. It was fabulous! I knew exactly when baby was coming, it was all very civilized, and it only took an hour. My baby turned out to be 9 and a half pounds, so I'm glad I chose a C-section! The recovery was difficult, but I stayed in a wonderful hospital that took great care of us. I was able to breastfeed immediately after I was sewn back up and breastfeeding has been going great! If you have to have a C-section, just be positive about it! I felt OK when I came home, no problem going up and down stairs etc. About 4 weeks until I felt 100%.

Let's put it this way ... it depends on your will! With my first c-section I stayed in the hospital 5 days, did not walk around, moaned and groaned in pain, my mom stayed with us at home while I layed on the couch barely moving. With my second c-section, I stayed in the hospital 2 days, and was mopping the floor the day I got home. Hey, when you have a 2 year old at home already, you just HAVE to do it. I felt fine and didn't focus on ME but on my other 2 children. You can do it.

Hi W., I am the proud mother of 2 children, Sabrina(14) and Patrick(11). Sabrina was also breach and was a planned c-section. For me it took all the anticipation and fear out of when am I going to go into labor, is it going to be painful etc. I didn't need the pain medication once I got home. Of course it is a little harder since you don't have the hospital bed to get up and down, but you just swing your legs around slowly and use lots of pillows. I had no problem breast feeding with either child just because I had a c-section. Do expect numbness down there along the cut line for quite some time. I chose to have my second child c-section just because I had the option. For me it was no big deal. I stayed 3 days in the hospital with both of them, or at least went home on the 3rd day. When I had my second, my first was 3 and it's just a little harder to get those naps in when they baby is sleeping because you have another one to care for. Good luck, they really get old fast. M., Manhattan Beach, CA

I had a c-section in Nov. Stay on top of the pain meds and it is bearable. I was in the hospital 5 days. You are pretty sore/tired. My daughter was in the NICU so I had to walk from my room to the NICU to see her. The second day I was wheeled down to see her, but by that evening I was able to walk with by leaning on the wheelchair. By the third day I was walking down there alone. By the time I was discharged on the 5th day - I could walk around pretty well. The first week home I was back and forth from the hospital and I think the walking around helped the healing. By the time my daughter came home - 10 days after c-section -I was completely off pain meds and was able to carry her, do laundry, etc.
I had no problems breastfeeding her. I was pumping since she was in the NICU.
Good luck - its not that bad. Really. The first time you stand up is hell and so is the first BM - but after that it gets better.

hi W....i am a registered nurse in germany working on a ob/gyn ward dealing a lot with mommys and c-sections....it is not so scary to have a c-section now days...its hard to deal with the fact to need one after being able to give natural birth before. Out of my experience you will be up and going pretty soon .In our hospital in bavaria we dealing a lot with pregnant military wives and they all doing fine. They are going home after 72 hours, the scar will heal good as long you will leave it alone...only water no soap or lotions or powder...there shouldn't be any heavy lifting for a few weeks but normal activities are just fine.Regarding breastfeeding: It should not be a problem at all...let the baby nurse as soon as possible..and allow some time ..did you breastfeed your first baby? And for how long? I have twin boys, natural birth but premature. They didn't want to be breastfed , but I decidedto pump the milk and feed it with the bottle...it worked out just fine...hope I could calm your worries a bit happy to write you again and help B. from germany

Don't freak out! I know it sucks, but I had to have one and it was not so bad. I had an emergency one and was scared at the time they told me I had to have one after 20 hours of labor! It was better than labor. LOL Try to look at the bright side. I don't know if I am the exception to the rule, but I healed really fast. I got up and walking really fast and I believe that was the reason. My doc was shocked I wanted to get up, but I did not want to be in the bed anymore! I had my c-section at 12 noon on Wednesday and by Thursday morning at 9 I got out of bed for the first time. By Friday morning when the doc showed up at 9 I was cleaning the room and packing my bags! She laughed and let me go home. By Saturday night I was at Babies R Us walking around. I don't recommend that, but at least I was able to. Just try to walk as much as you can, but don't go crazy. It does take a while for a full recovery. It is a major surgery. I would say after a week I was doing pretty good, not to much pain, but 6 weeks was about the time it took to be pretty much out of pain. Good luck to you and try not to stess. Oh, I almost forgot, I was able to breast feed just fine. Just make sure everyone is clear on the fact that you want to so they don't give him a bottle while you are in recovery. : )

Hi W.,

I had 2 c-sections, my girls are now 6 & 8.
INSIST the doctor stitches you back up from the inside out. It takes alot longer. My first c-section I did not know to ask and the dr did not do it. I couldn't move for a week. The second c-section I asked/insisted that he take his time and stitch all the muscles back together, everything he can connect, re-connect it. I was walking around later that day and went home the next. No problems breast feeding. I took pain medicine, it works, be sure to eat so you don't get sick.

NO Worries, RELAX, they know what they are doing, they do so many c-sections these days, and it is more common than natural birth.

Take Care,
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1. I had a C-section with my baby. 24 hours later they had me walking which hurt like hell the 1st couple of times. Standing upright is the problem, not walking. I stayed in the hospital for 3 days and couldn't wait to get home. I had some discomfort but for the most part I was good to go. I can't compare to how you feel afterwards to a natural birth but I felt fine.

2. You need to be strict on yourself and wear the girdle the hospital gives you. NO housework! It is a surgery and so tending to your babies should be your only job.

3. no problem breastfeeding. You can't get up as fast because of the incision so be careful!

Hi W.,

I feel like I'm having a flashback to my second delivery. I, too, had a c-section the second time around after having given a natural delivery the first time. We also attempted to turn the baby a couple of weeks before the due date. She was frank breech and would not budge. Her bottom was wedged into my pelvis.

I had a 2 1/2 year old at home and my water broke 2 weeks early. My husband was home and my parents came to help out for the first couple of weeks. (Accept any help that is offered.)

I stayed in the hospital for the maximum allowed (4 days and nights I believe). My doctor suggested it since that is where you'll get the most rest needed with nurses there to help out.

I was up walking within a day (slowly). You want to take your time, don't feel rushed so as not to tear any stitching. You want to give yourself plenty of rest to heal, but it is important to get up and walk to get your body circulating (it helps the healing process).

I took the pain medication for about 2 weeks. I was moving around pretty good by then. I didn't have any problems breast feeding. I even had to pump at first and alternate formula with breast milk because my baby was very jaundiced (as was my first). The pumping was more work. I felt like I was up all the time.

A very helpful hint that worked for me after my husband went back to work and my parents left: if your 2 1/2 year old is still not potty trained, or in need of changing, I was unable to lift mine being that I still felt too weak for heavy lifting. I found a little table, or stepstool if you have it and had my little one climb up to the changing table so I could change her. It was my savior!

I must say that the c-section itself was a lot easier than I had imagined. I felt a little tugging, but the whole process did not take very long and I was able to see my little girl before she was taken to the nursery. I had her in my room almost the entire stay with me at the hospital as I wanted to be near her. It is entirely up to you whether you want the baby in the nursery or with you. The nurses were all very helpful. I also went to the nursery with the baby every time they needed to do any tests. It was a good excuse to get up and moving.

I hope this helps. My thoughts are a little jumbled as I'm trying to remember everything. My little one is almost 3 years old now! Good luck and Congratulations!

Rest assured you will be okay. I had a c-section w my son a natural birth w my daughter. i will say the the c-section sucked but when i went into it thinking I was going to have this perfect no drugs natural birth...well my son wasn't on the same page. So i was in a different state of mind. What helped me was as soon as i could get around which was the next day. I showered walked around and went to the potty. I stopped taking the heavy meds and stuck to motrin during the day and took the vicadin before bed time. I also walked around very slowly as much as my husband would walk me around the hospital even if it was just to the corner of the hall way and back. So don't forget your long robe. I would be sure to tell your doctor that it is very important to you that you breast feed right away and that you do not want the nurses to give your baby a bottle. i would even write it down and give it to your prep nurse and also a copy to your doc. They had my son on my breast in the recovery room. The nurse just put him on top of me and helped and so did my husband. and that first night he helped me get situated to breast feed. (i had my son around 4pm) best of luck

I had a c-section with my son in 2006. He was breech too and just refused to turn. My doctor didn't even offer to try to turn him. I'd say my recovery time was about 2 weeks, but a lot of my friends were up and moving normally after just one week. I was in the hospital for 4 days and with an active 2 year old, I would take advantage of the longer hospital stay for recovery time. I'm sure it will help you get better faster. My son will be 18 months when our daughter arrives in April (another c-section) so I am a little nervous about how we will handle it all too. My mom is coming to stay with us for 2 weeks and I think that will make all of the difference. I've also started "training" my son about mommy's tummy and how it hurts when he hits it or jumps on it. As for breastfeeding, we had no issues at all! He took to it like the little chow hound that he is! Hope this helps a bit. Good luck with everything!

W.- I have had 2 c-sections and recovered from both very well. I was devastated when I first found out that I needed one. I had hopes of a natural birth and a c-section seemed the exact opposite of what I had wanted. I had a great OB and recovered very quickly from both surgeries. After my first I was exercising (going for walks with the stroller) 10 days after. With the second I was pushing both babies in the stroller a week after the surgery. I was off meds by the time I left the hospital with my first- the next day with the second. I left the hospital early with my first- with my second I stayed as long as I could, my first was 19 mos. and I wanted to be as rested as possible before I came home. I was never really in pain once I got home. I would have twinges of pain, but nothing that really slowed me down too much. If you listen to your body and rest when you need too... You'll be fine. Get up as soon as you can, the nurses will tell you when and walk. I would do laps with my babies around the floor in their little bed and got up whenever I could. I never had any problems nursing my babies after. The only thing you would need to be aware of is that when they first bring the baby to you to nurse they will need to do most of the work. They will (depending on how much meds they used on you) put the baby on you and position you so the baby doesn't fall. You can't hold the baby alone for several hours and can't pick the baby up for a day or two- you'll need a lot of help. It is not a great way to go, and I wish that it could have different, but all of the nightmares that you hear about are isolated events. I have only had positive experiences and can't really complain except for the fact that it isn't what I wanted. Oh, there is a feeling of the birth happening to you and you not being involved. If you can I would highly recommend watching. It is great to see the entire thing, you feel much more connected and involved.
Good Luck!!

First I have to say is everyone is different. We all heal differently and our mental state about the whole situation can help or hinder our recovery. Stay positive!

Having surgery to have your baby sucks. I hated it.TWICE.
But I recovered and it's painful, but it's tolerable.

Be sure to take your medication for pain like clockwork and don't worry about the effects on baby. It's okay. I took Vicoden every 6 hours and 600MG of Ibuprofin every 4 hours for two solid weeks.

You are able to get up out of bed within hours of surgery. They'll have you walking ASAP. They'll tell you not to hunch but stand up tall and walk s-l-o-w-l-y. :)

I didn't have any trouble breastfeeding either of my kids. Get comfy and use your Boppy pillow and let yourself be babies. Enlist family to help you for at least two weeks. If your husband can stay home for that period of time that's great.

My opinion, get home as soon as you can. My daughter was born 9am on Dec 31st, and I was home by 10A on Jan 2nd (2005). If you're miserable and everything is fine, you're best to be miserable at home!!

Good luck, and I know it's scary! But take lots of deep breaths, think positively and know that you'll get past the pain quickly. I was up and about semi-normal in two weeks but you're tender for a while. You need to be careful and your Dr. will give you all your precautions.

I have had two c-sections and you need to take care of yourself and do not overdue. You will begin to feel better each day. Have your husband change the diapers in the night and bring the baby to you in bed for nursing. prop a pillow behind your back so that you can be on your side to nurse. I was in the hospital for 4 days. I felt really great and then when I got home seemed like I went down hill, this is normal. Make sure you keep up with your pain meds. best of luck to you and your baby boy!

W.- NO WORRY !

i had to have an unplanned c-section after my water broke and i wasn't dilating after 17 hours of labor. i DID NOT want a c-section so i was very upset about this but decided to do it for my baby's health. little did i know it would be so easy...

to answer your questions-
1. i was up and around the same day. i had my baby at 6:24 am and i was walking around a few hours later. the nurses told me that i needed to in order to prevent pneumonia and clotting. it was a bit painful but tolerable. i walked around and outside the hospital. i was home 3 days after she was born.

2. i was normal after 2 weeks. i started walking at the beach 1 week after she was born and continued to do so for my health. i started running again 2 months later. she is 4 1/2 months now and i am back to regular exercise routine.

3. keep in shape as much as you can PRIOR to the surgery. i ran until 8 months and exercised and ate well the whole time. this was KEY in my recovery. i bounced back into shape right away. i lost all my weight 3 days after she was born. try not to take any of the drugs they give through IV if you can tolerate it. they just make you sicker. i refused them and i only took the motrin as needed. those drugs are terrible!

4. no problem w/ breastfeeding at all. she latched on right away, i was able to carry her w/ no problem. milk came in quickly.

i can't believe how fast my recovery was- i tell you , the pain was minimal, i was able to do most everything- except don't lift anything heavy! make sure to walk and move around. don't let anyone tell you to stay in bed and rest.

good luck! let me know if you have any other questions. i know it's hard- i was freaked out about recovery as well but time goes by so quickly and you will be so happy w/ your baby that the surgery will be such a distant memory after it's done. some people even tell me it's much easier than vaginal recovery.

take care!

I had a breech son born on September 18. I was scared as well. I am going to answer your questions by numbering them. But first, I am also a very active person. I have three other boys 12,10, and 3.

1. I was up and moving around after about 8 hours. I could not move until they took our my catheter. What bugged me about this was that I was used to being up and moving around immediately. I stayed in the hospital for 3 days.

2. I am not one to take medication for pain. So I lived with pain for a couple of weeks. The pain did not stop me from moving around. I was also very swollen from water retention. Make sure you sleep with your legs elevated. I took tylenol w/codeine for pain.

3. Walk, walk, walk...take vitamins and antioxidants...walk some more...BUT do not over do it!

4. My milk did not come in the way it needed to for my greedy son. So I had to give him formula, reluctantly because I nursed the others. For my other girlfriends who had C sections...their milk came in like they had enough to feed my kids, your kids and their kids.

All in all, I was blessed that he was breech because the cord was wrapped around his neck twice and he would have had severe complications if I had tried to push him out.

Blessings to you!

W.,

C-Sections can be scary. My first son was an emergency c-section so I was in the hospital for 4 days, which is most likely longer than you would be. Breast feeding was dificult at first but my mom and I made sure they didn't give my son formula. The boppy worked well and the football position was comfortable. Walking really is the best but I didn't do too much of that until 2 weeks later. I was terrified that my stitches would tear if I did anything but the pain medicine helped and by 3-4 weeks I was feeling comfortable. As you know, every woman is different and since you have already experienced childbirth you will probably bounce back quickly. We are strong, amazing creatures.

D.

Hi W.

I have 2 kids, both breech, both c-secs. The first an emergancy one.
My first took longer to recover because I didn't follow dr's orders and take it easy. The 2nd peace of cake, was up 2 hours walking around after the epidoral wore off. 3 days in the hospital both times. Use it to your advantage, get the rest while your there.

Once I was home, was doing normal things just at a slower pace. Take your time and if you need help ask mum or mum in law or the people you have help.
on my second one, was back in the office working with baby 1 week to the day after she was born, but again just at a slower pace.

D.

I ended up having and emergency C-section and was freaked out about the same things. But it wasn't as bad as I thought. I spent 3 nights in the hospital and when I got home I was able to walk around, never had a problem nursing, and 4 weeks later I was back at the gym. I say after a week I felt totally fine except where the incision was was a little swollen. It's gonna be fine!

Hey W.,
Well, I feel your frustration! I had an unplanned c-section with my daughter and am scheduling one with my second - due in about 11 weeks. Yours is planned since you won't go through labor first - which is good from what I have heard from my doctor and several moms. Every recovery is different... My hospital stay was 3 nights after my c-section (only because I was in labor for a day before at the hospital and wanted to be at home). My recovery was rough and took a good 2 months before I felt really good; walking, emotionally, etc... but my dr said that was probably because of hard and crazy labor I was in before. I am praying that it goes much smother this time around. I did have trouble breast feeding... it happened but not too successful. Part of it was the c-section and other factors that tagged along beside. Anyways, don't get scared about what I am saying... hopefully your planned c-section (and mine this time around) will go much better! Many moms have a great experience after their c-section. I even talked to a mom of twins who was in the store line behind me and she said her recovery was great!!! So you just never know. Just pray!

Good luck! I would love to hear how yours goes if you can keep me posted. Thank you

I had planned a natural birth, but my baby was breech - almost from day one! We decided not to do the version because I was told that it almost never works and if it does it is very likely that the baby will turn back. My C-section went beautifully. I was up and walking the same day - it hurt, but not too bad. I was in the hospital for 4 days. I had worked out for my entire pregnancy, so I was in really good shape. I was back to normal - if there is such a thing after a baby! - in about a week. I didn't have any problems breast-feeding at all. My Mom (a Registered Nurse) was the one who calmed me down when I found out I could not have a natural birth - she said I wouldn't have to worry about all kinds of lingering affects of a natural birth like incontinence and hemorrhoids! :) Good luck to you - you will be just fine!

Dear W., Been there! First things first, not to worry. I had my first by C-section (tried inducing for 20 hours with no luck and by that time I just wanted the baby), had my 2nd totally natural vaginally. In many ways I think the C-section was easier, believe it or not. My OB/GYN basically told me I could be up within a week (I'm hoping memory serves) and to listen to my body. I know it's major surgery but for me it was an easy recovery and didn't stretch my vagina to the point where I have no idea who that is down there anymore (if you know what I mean). I would just say LISTEN to your body and your doctor as I'm sure you would. I had problems breastfeeding but not because of the C-section (though big pillows on the belly helped), more likely because she was my first. If your boy does come by C-section, he'll come healthy and happy, I'm sure.

Hi there,
I had a c-section 2 years ago with my son. It was not planned. I had a spinal and was awake the whole time. It did not hurt. You don't feel anything. I was aware of everything. They brought my son to me right away. I was able to breast feed right away. My mom stayed in the hospital with me. The nurses were great. I do suggest walking around as soon as you can. A nurse told me to do this. It is a little painful at first. It helps so much. Take your pain meds. You will be just fine. I was able to go home and felt really good four days after giving birth. I was able to do most everything. Don't be afraid to ask for help. Take it easy for six weeks after your c-section. I still walked a lot, but let your body heal. When your scar is healing put wheat germ oil on daily. This helps heal the scar. C-sections are not that bad. Don't let people scare you. Keep a positive attitude and you will be just fine. Hope this helps! Good luck!

W.,
Congratulations! A girl and a boy - how wonderful! I hope you'll find my response helpful in some way.
Just a little about me: I haven't had a C-Section myself, but I've been an RN in Labor & Delivery for many years, and am now in school to become a Certified Nurse Midwife.

I have a couple of suggestions for things you might want to try at home to get your little guy to turn on his own. They may sound a little silly, but have actually been proven to be quite successful.

1- Get on your hands and knees and then lower your head to the floor (on a pillow) with your bum up in the air. Stay in this position for 10 or more minutes, several times a day.

2- Prop one end of an ironing board on the seat of your sofa.Prop several pillows around the board to stabilize it. Lie on the board with your head down for several minutes, several times a day. (Make sure the board is stable - you don't want to fall off!)

3- And a few things I've heard of, but don't know the success rates: a) Put a bag of frozen veggies on your belly where the baby's head is. The idea is that he will move his head away from the cold. Move the cold over his head until he is head down. You could also put something warm over your pubic area. b) Put earphones over your pubic area and play some pleasant music. He might move his head down so he can hear the music better. These can't hurt, and might help!

And as far as your recovery IF you do have a C-section; get up and walk as soon as you can after the surgery. Walk in the hallway for a few minutes a few times each day while you're in the hospital. And don't be afraid to take the pain medicine. Take it regularly - it's much harder to relieve the pain if you let it get bad before you ask for medicine.

When you get home, try to have as much help (from your husband, mother, mother-in-law, friends, etc.) as you can get for the first week or so. Accept any help that is offered! Keep the baby close to you and breastfeed OFTEN. This will help establish a good milk supply. DON'T over-do things at home or your healing will be much slower. Leave the housework, etc. to your helpers! You should start to feel somewhat normal by about 2 weeks. It will take at least 6 weeks (or more) to really feel back to normal.

Another tip to help with breastfeeding: Ask to have your baby brought to you ASAP after the surgery (this means within minutes of your arrival in the recovery room, NOT an hour or more). Put baby skin-to-skin with you and breastfeed ASAP. Ask your nurse to show you the positions that will be most comfortable after a C-Section. Keep baby skin-to-skin with you, covered with a blanket or two, as much as possible. Let him sleep nuzzled into your bare chest. Breastfeed him OFTEN in the hospital and for the first few weeks. And spend lots of time skin-to-skin. In summary: Breastfeeding SOON and OFTEN, and LOTS of SKIN-TO-SKIN contact will help get breastfeeding off to a great start! (and did I mention that skin-to-skin contact is very important?...)
I wish you a wonderful, safe birth, in whatever form that may be. In the end, it's a healthy mom and a healthy baby that are most important. You'll do great!

Let me know if you have any other questions.

1. How soon after the surgery were you able to be up and around? How long was your hospital stay? I was able to visit my son in the nursery. I was able to go home after 13 days but, I had complicated situation.

2. Once home how long before you felt almost back to normal. Meaning able to go about your normal activities without being in pain? Immediatly, but everyone is different

3. Any pointers/ hints on healing well and quickly? use a pillow to cough

4. Did any of you have problems breast feeding your babies after a C-section?
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Dear W.,

I have no personal experience here, and assume you will hear from many others who have. My sister-in-law had three c-sections, went home after two days with each and was able to breast feed all three babies. I also have a friend who had three c-sections. The first was because the baby was breach (I don't know if they were turning babies 25 years ago . . .) She desperately wanted a VBAC, but her second baby went into distress during labor and was also delivered by c-section, and she tried and tried with the third, but had a horrible, long labor, a lot of it in her back and ended up going across the street in a wheel-chair (from the birthing center) to have her third c-section. I do know that she breast fed the third baby, I'm not sure about the other two. I will say that my sister-in-law had such a positive experience with her c-section, and I had heard such awful stories about women laboring after pitocin, that when I was told they were going to give me pitocin, I asked for a c-section.

Good luck!

Hi W.! I am a Mother of 3 (2 boys 6 1/2 & 4 1/2 and a daughter 15 months). I, too, found out I needed a c-section with my 2nd because he was breech and was scared and 'freaked' out. Let me start out by saying in the end does it really matter how a child comes as long as he/she comes out healthy?! I only say that because I felt the exact same way as you and now I am okay with it. As for your questions:

I think every woman tolerates pain and heals differently. I was lucky and was up on my feet practically right away..that's my nature. I also don't know if it has to do with your body frame and how you're built. I am normally petite. I suggest that while in the hospital you might want to walk around the halls to help you get back on your feet quicker. I was there for 4 days and although you're busy with your precious new one, I got bored of that bed.
I hear that some women take up to 6 weeks to completely heal and you shouldn't lift anything heavier than your baby. Once home, I was careful, but I'm not the type to lay low for very long, plus my husband was returning to work so the sooner I got used to things on my own, the better.
I wish I had some magical pointers in healing more quickly, but I truly feel it's mind over matter and just how your body reacts to things. Don't overdo it and take things in moderation.
I had no problems nursing...my milk came in closer to 4 days instead of two.

From having a vaginal delivery and now 2 c-sections, I feel there are pros and cons to both. I know easier said than done, but try to focus on your new joy and whomever is around to help, take it!

All my best,
M.
a stay at home mom

I had the same thing happen to me...they baby didn't turn either so I wouldn't bother with it.

1. How soon after the surgery were you able to be up and around? How long was your hospital stay?
I stayed 5 luxurious days! Loved EVERY minute of the lounge in bed, watch TV, bond with baby and have room service stay! Rest while you can!

2. Once home how long before you felt almost back to normal. Meaning able to go about your normal activities without being in pain?
REALLY let yourself heal otherwise it will take a lot longer! I did WAY too much with my 1st C and didn't heal FOREVER!! My second I had my mother in law help around the house an healed a lot faster. I would say 2 weeks before you feel normal.

3. Any pointers/ hints on healing well and quickly?

REST! Don't over exhert or you will rip.

4. Did any of you have problems breast feeding your babies after a C-section?

No problems what so ever it just hurt around your midsection because of the stithes but the pain killers helped with that.

Hi W.,

I am 28 years old and a first time mum. I had my gorgeous little boy on 28 November 2007. I have a bicornuate uterus so he came 5 weeks premature and breech (didn't know any of this at the time as I was still at work when my water started breaking). I went to the hospital and they gave me no other choice but an epidural and c-section. I was so scared as I didn't want an epidural or c-section! The injection however isn't painful like I was led to believe. I was awake and numb fom the tummy down. You do not feel any pain during the operation but it does feel weird at first because you feel them working on you (but definitely not the pain)and then you get used to the movement inside. It does not take long at all for the operation but I was a bit groggy afterwards and slept very well. The doctors cut the umbilical cord initally but got my husband to cut it again so he could still experience that. Sorry for raving on, I'll now answer your questions :)

1. How soon after the surgery were you able to be up and around? How long was your hospital stay?

I was up and moving the next day mid morning. I had extra incentive as my little man was in special care nursery due to being premature so this was the only way I could see him. I would definitely suggest moving around as soon as possible but not over the top. It will hurt initially. They gave me panadol which took the edge off but you do still feel it at first. The very first time I got out of bed was like having really really really bad sunburn and then putting a bra on over it (if you have ever had that) It stung like crazy but not for long then slow little steps almost a shuffle at first but as long as you're moving. Going to the toilet was helped by a hand rail. You may also want your husband to shower you at first so you don't stretch because it really takes your breath away. My hospital stay was 3 nights/4days.

2. Once home how long before you felt almost back to normal. Meaning able to go about your normal activities without being in pain?

I was driving after 10 days but was still a bit sore. They say not to lift/carry anything heavier than your baby and I also found bending was awkward intially and getting in/out of bed intially takes some time. It was 6 weeks before I felt completely back to normal. It seemed to heal then I would feel a slight pull especially on my right side of the scar, this is normal for one side to pull a little until completely healed.

3. Any pointers/ hints on healing well and quickly?

Wearing underwear and clothing that sits either above or below the scar, not on it. A belly band/belt that sits over the scar felt better. Holding/securing the scar with yours hands when coughing, laughing, sneezing etc also felt better. I would also wax the area before the operation because the gauze stays on for approx 7-10 days so the hair underneath is growing back and absolutely hurts more than the actual scar when taking it off. I had soluble stitches and a clear stick on flexible gauze. Plenty of rest and fluids also help.

4. Did any of you have problems breast feeding your babies after a C-section?

My milk came in and all was fine within the timeframe they suggest so try not to worry. Relaxing and being calm is the best way to be about having a c-section. After all is said and done as long as you and baby are safe that's all that matters. ENJOY THE EXPERIENCE!!!!

Thinking of you during this time
S.

Hi W., I delived twins via c-section when my son was 27 months. It was my 2nd c-section. I was up and about within the first 24 hours. I stayed the full 4 days in the hospital. I recommend staying as long as you can and getting all the rest and help you can. Take the time to heal and rest. Don't rush home or you risk doing too much too soon. Ask for help! You will be amazed what you can handle. It's very tough but you will be surprized how much you love your second child and what strength that brings. Try to arrange for someone to be there to help you for the first couple of weeks. I was lucky and my sister came and stayed for 3 weeks after the twins were born. I had no issue breast feeding. I breast fed the twins for 9 months without supplementing with formula and then supplemented and weaned them over the next couple of months. Plus I went back to work full time when they were 4 months old. If I could do it with tiwns, you can do it with one, trust me. Good luck!

I have had 3 c-sections/3 babies, so that's all I know. The recovery was not that bad, even when I had a 3 yr old and 21 month old to take care of when I got home. First thing is that you have to get lots of help from friends anf family when you get home from the hospital. You will recover faster if you do not pick up anything heavier than your newborn and try to stay off your feet for the first two weeks. I started to feel a lot better one week after surgery and way better two weeks after. The nurses will want to get you up and moving around, peeing on your own, etc., by the time your numbness wears off (around 12-24 hours after surgery). I had no problems whatsoever breastfeeding. Just make sure you get your baby on your breast as soon as possible once you are out of recovery (around 1 hour after surgery). This was the hardest for me because everyone got to see the baby, see them have a bath, etc for an hour before I got to see them. But then it all evens out! I had no problem bonding w my babies! You may have a little pain and numbness for up to a year, but of course that varies. I had the most pain/numbness the first time. Good luck!!

Hi W.,

I, too, have an active 2 year old (boy) and had my little girl via c-section in October. I had a lot of the same concerns and wanted to let you know that everything will be fine. This was my second c-section and with both I was up and about, although taking it slow, within a week. There are definitely some restrictions, however, and it's best if you are able to have some help at home for at least the first couple of weeks. For one, you will not be able to lift your daughter for a couple of weeks and you will need to take it easy on stairs. You may also be restricted for driving - I was not allowed to drive for 2 weeks as well. Also, as tough as it is to get up and walk around the night or morning following your surgery, do it as much as you can tolerate and ask for pain medication if you need it. Those first few days are sometimes painful but the more you walk around, the better you will feel since the gas pains from surgery are sometimes pretty painful and walking helps. And I had no problems nursing either of my c-section babies, either, even though it was a couple of hours post surgery when I was first able to try. As for being back to normal, I was there within a month of my surgery and was back to working out 5 days a week by 6 weeks, when I was allowed to go back to doing so, despite some small restrictions since I was still healing internally. Good luck to you and congratulations on the impending arrival of your new baby boy!

Hi W.,

I am a mother of two and both were c-section. I too was extremely nervous about my first c-section, but I recovered quite fast from it. They do not let you leave the hospital unless you are up and around walking a lot. That is key to getting out of the hospital and also they want you to have a bowel movement, but that never happened with both my c-sections. I left when I wanted to leave, which was right (2 days) away. I got tired of them coming in and checking me every hour. You get no sleep. I have heard that having a c-section is one of the safest procedures and there is no trauma to the baby. They come out perfect! ;o) I breast fed both my kids with no problem after c-section. Make sure you have one of those boppy pillows. That will definitely help. My healing time was about 2 weeks, but they say to take it easy for 6 weeks. I know they do not want you to exert or lift anything over 10 lbs. I was up and around in no time. It all depends on the person. I am glad I had c-sections with my kids. There was security in knowing they were planned and if anything went wrong there are no delays in dealing with it right then and there. I hope this answered all your concerns? ;o)

Congrats on your upcoming baby! ;o)

PS I have some great stuff I can recommend for little or no scaring. LMK???

I had an unplanned c-section 5 months ago and I too was TOTALLY freaked out. He is my first child. I have to say... all the stress was for nothing. I had my son at 8:30am and was up by 6:00pm the same day to go the bathroom. Yes, I was sore but it was not what I expected at all. i stayed for the 5 full days that they allow you to stay even though my doctor told me I could go home on day 4. When you are in the hospital, my advice is TAKE THE DRUGS!!! Take it easy and always tell them that you are at an 8 or 9 with regards to pain so that you can get some sleep. I am senstive to pain meds and I needed the good stuff. After I got home it was about a month before I was feeling real good. Within a week of being home I was up and about but slow. The easier to take it the better off you'll be. When you think you're feeling better, give it another week!! Take all the help you can get especially the first few weeks. Breastfeeding was easier with a boppy pillow since it could rest on my legs and not my tummy. Your incision is so low that the hardest part for me was sitting up from a lying down position or getting up out of a low chair. Take it easy doll and it will all be fine. I have a few friends that have recently had natural childbirth and i have to say that I think a c-section is the easy way to go!!! Let me know how you do. :)

Hi W.,
I can totally sympathize. First of all I was also very hell bent on having a natural birth. So much so that I didn't even consider reading columns on c-section births when I was pregnant. I was induced after being 6 days overdue, and after 17 hours of labor Caleb got stuck in the birthing canal causing it to swell and close up. It became an emergency c-section. I was so terrified and freaked out I ended up having a panic attack and this put the baby in a scary situation. The surgery was over before I knew it and I remember thinking "what was all that fussing about!" I wasn't able to see the baby for an hour and a half post surgery because I had to stay in a recovery room. Once the baby was ready for me the nurse kicked everyone out and I fed him immediatly. I never had a problem with my milk supply. C-sections are tough on the abdominal muscles. It will hurt to laugh, but it's not that bad. One the 2nd day they pulled out my cath and I was already out of bed to use the restroom-but not without some help. The third day I was taking short walks around the ward without assistance. Once at home I actually had all my energy back and was going up and down the stairs like wonderwoman but I don't recommend it because I became pretty sore after that. By 2 weeks I was doing everything on my own. I was told not to lift anything heavier than the baby, but when my husband returned to work I was alone at home so I just started doing things myself. I have a cousin who had on c-sec one day before me and she had a much harder time. The challenge I think I remember the most was manuvering out of bed without using any stomach muscles. Try to just rest in bed as much as possible if you can. Now that I've gone through it I'm not worried because any other babies I might have will also have to be c-sec. It's not that bad, but you will be recovering from surgery so take it easy. Best of luck.