Preschool Teacher Wants to "Facebook Friends".

If it were me I would just continue to ignore it unless she mentions to you. In that circumstance I would be honest - "I am only 'friends' with family and close friends."

Facebook creates the weirdest social issues . . . JMO.

Lol, it's so funny when people don't get it. I suggest that you have fun with it and just keep "ignoring". Don't bring it up unless she does. See how long it takes. Then, just be honest with her.

I'm friends with a few of my son's teachers although not real friends with them. I don't have anything on my facebook that I would want to hide from anyone so it doesn't bother me. They mainly use to send friendly reminders and notes I also "liked" the schools page and I get more updates and important information on facebook then I get at my regular email. Unless you have something you don't want her to see I don't really see the harm in it.

Just send her a message saying that you try to keep your social network and your children's school stuff separate. Suggest she email you if she needs to contact you about your child or school related issues.

I think you should treat it the way most treat co-worker friend requests (if they're smart) -just say that you're flattered to be friended, but you have a strict policy against Facebooking with anyone involved in your child's schooling, you or your husband's work, etc. She should really understand that. I've told co-workers that and most people "get" not mixing your personal life and more professional aspects of your life.

I would tell her nicely in person the next time you drop off your son, "btw, I see that you're friend requesting me on facebook, but wanted to let you know that I really don't use facebook for school and work contacts, so please don't be offended I haven't responded back. It's not at all personal. I just don't use facebook this way, I hope you understand."

I would just keep ignoring the request and never bring it up unless she did. If she ever did say anything, I would just say that only have a few close friends on there nothing personal and keep it at that. You don't have to be FB friends with anyone, so I wouldn't worry too much about it.

I'm pretty sure you can block her so that you are invisible to her. This way, she can't contact you at all. There's probably something under privacy settings.

I would just tell her that no offense, but you aren't comfortable with the facebook thing. Tell her she can e-mail you if there is something she needs to communicate with you about pertaining to your son (if you are indeed fine with that).

There's no need to explain yourself, but since you aren't friends with her, the only thing you have to discuss is your son and you don't want to do that on facebook.

Best wishes.

i would ignore it. I'm not the most fb savey isn't there a way to block it with out her knowing you have gone to that extent?? if she ever said anything i would just say, oh i don't use it that much.

I do think you can friend her under a subgroup so that she only sees very limited things, but i don't know how to use that well and worry with every new post or picture that you would need to make sure that subgroup was blocked.

You might say "I'm a beginner at FB and it seems a little intimidating
to me. It is a way that my family keeps in touch with each other.
Until I understand it better, we've decided to keep it a "family-only"
communication. I absolutlely would like to give you my email so that
we can stay in contact about school issues."

why dont you just add her then block her from your settings?, or apologize and frankly,,,,lie about why you havent added her, that your accept thing wont work, or that you dont go on facebook.

I would not tell her you dont want to be friends, it will become quite awkward, i promise

There should be a policy at the school against this, but it is preschool so I guess there is not. I was a teacher, but frankly I would not do it. I would keep personal and professional or school seperate.
It IS weird. (Most teachers I knew would NOT even get a FB account under their real name for fear of parents trying to friend them.)

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I would ignore it completely and if she ever asks about it you can just say "oh I only use Facebook for my family, I'm hardly ever on it, sorry", but that's just me! :0) I agree with you I wouldn't add one of my sons teachers either.

Wow, four requests-yikes! Very rude and aggressive! I had a VBS mother and daughter volunteer friend me and I accepted which is not something I would normally do. I found her to come on too strong and also did not like the immaturity I saw on her profile posts. I quickly unfriended her and blocked her and her mom. I would keep ignoring but you may need to say something nicely (to keep things good for your son) such as you are not on FB much or email is a better contact, etc.

There is most likely a policy at her school where teachers cannot "friend" parents. I know there is one at my boys school. If there is not, maybe you should approach the administration, and ask if there is such a policy. Not mentioning any names or any specific situation. If there is. send a message to the teacher next time she "friends" you that it is against school policy.

Try to send her a message via Facebook...you should be able to do that w/o 'friending' her. Just explain that while you appreciate the kind jesture that she wants to be Facebook Friends, this is something that you'd prefer not to do, that you'd prefer to keep you relationship professional. If she's a mature adult, she will accept it & go on. Hope this helps & good luck.

I haven't dealth with this but I do have a friend who is a special Ed teacher. I have heard her talking about being friends on fb with students' parents. I am not going to lie...I thought it was odd! There's nothing wrong with it I'm sure but it isn't something I would do. Maybe I would think differently if it was me in that situation.

that is so rude of her! school has not been going on for four requests to happen! anyway i thought there was an option of ingore all requests from this (person?). its in blue writing next to the buttons of "accept friend request" or the "ignore" button. but this is the fourth request i would just send her a message stating you have fb only for close friends and family.

If you don't click "ignore" then they can't retry to friend you.

You should just ignore the request that way she CANT keep friending you. Dont decline just don't do anything about it leave the friend request sitting there. If you block her it might make it uncomfortable later on if she finds out. Its not hard to tell since you cant add them, etc.

You can block her, then she cant see that you even have an account.

The confusion here is whether or not she wants to be "friends" or to use it as a tool to communicate about class. If the school does not have a dedicated website for the class, lots of teachers use facebook to post updates about what happened or what is coming up. Personally, I only use my facebook for my closest friends and family, so I would decline by responding to her request and say just that. I would also send her an email address, however should she need to talk to you about what is happening at school.
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I am friends with several of my kids teachers from preschool all the way up. I love to see what is going on in their lives and they enjoy my stories about the kids.

If you just really don't want to be friends or just don't like them then block them and they won't see your name appear in search again. But you may have to block all your other friends who have them as friends too so if you comment on the same friends post they won't see you there.

its true, fb really is a trouble maker. but good in lots of ways too..... anyway, i have been a teacher and i am a mom of little ones, and although there was no fb when i was teaching, i wouldnt have wanted it then and i dont now. i agree with keeping them separate. i didnt want to live where i taught, just because who wants to be accountable alllll the time, its tiring. i dont know, im running around with the kids and nothing drastic, but sometimes i cant believe what i left the house looking like. and plus you cant control what other people put on your wall. thats what i told my cousin when her daughter friended me. my second cousin? shes 13 and i love her like crazy, but some of my friends are idiots and i dont wanna be that window for her. i dont think its right. or not smart anyway. you can tell her you really wish you could but you have seen it create problems, and you like her and your son likes her and you arent going to be doing that. with a big smile. nothing wrong with that.

thinking about it.... exception being if she is planning on using fb as a means of staying in touch with parents about the kids and the class. its great to have online contact with the teacher, i love it. however, and she should realize but maybe she doesnt.... although maybe fb is strictly professional for her, or maybe that screen name is anyway? but its personal for most people and a regular email list and communication is better...