Pregnancy Blues

I just had my second child about 2 weeks ago and was depressed the entire pregnancy. I was really scared that I would never snap out of it!! Once she was born, I was a different person. I am so happy to have her here and am enjoying every minute. I just blamed the pregnancy blues on the hormones and not being able to do some of my "normal" activities. What really helped me feel better from time to time was prenatal yoga classes and some deep breathing exersizes that really helped me focus on the pregnancy and what I am thankful for - my healthy family.

Simple, you are terrified of another miscarriage. Until your child is born, you will wonder if it will happen again. I too am at 15 wks after miscarriage. I feel your pain. Even though everything is going well, I still feel very detached...afraid to love this child b/c I am afraid of being hurt myself again. I'll be praying for you.

First of all sweetie, you are still mourning your first loss. Its ok to cry at nothing. sounds like you are stressed out too with school, work, buying a house. etc. I bet you are having a girl too. I was so emotional with my girls! Try writing a letter to your first baby to say "good bye" I would also consider calling the local hospital and ask for labor and delivery then the Grievence Counselor. They have a lot of great book suggestions that can help you right now!

I understand how you feel. I have had 2 miscarriages myself before we had our second child. The crying and blues could just be part of your body getting adjusted to the hormones. Plus, if you just had a miscarriage, then you are still grieving. Then, there is the underlying worry about this baby that you are carrying. So don't worry, i went through the same thing. It will all be ok!

Sounds to me like hormones and stress. I can remember being pregnant with my first. I was still in college and one day went to get my new parking pass. after waiting in line and finally getting up there I didn't know what my license plate number was so they wouldn't give me one untill I gave them the numbers, no big deal right I'll go get it come back and all's well. No I was pregnant so I my eyes welled up with tears and I walked out of the office in tears. Of course I went back later and all was fine, but it is crazy how the littlest thing will set you off when your growing a baby. Most likely you are also feeling some stress for school and work. Doing one while pregnant is hard but doing both is even harder. Plus your are probably still a little scared that you might lose this one too. Your almost to the halfway point though so that shouldn't be a problem anymore but it doesn't mean you don't think about it. I suggest, if possible cut back to going part time to school, that's what I did, and with the summer course I still graduated on time. Also just take some time everyday to relax, 30 minutes of quite you time. And if the tears start to come. let them, it comes with the territory, so enjoy every tear drop. Good Luck Jenny

Hi W.!
Relax!!!!!!!!Some of it is the hormones. You really can't help it. I think it also perfectly normal to be a little sad. You got pregnant again very quickly, which was a nice surprise, but you didn't really get a chance to fully grieve over the baby you lost. No matter how far along you were when you miscarried - to you it was still a baby - your baby- and you were sad when it happened. Your hormones should level out here pretty soon and you'll get used to being so emotional. Hopefully, your husband will be willing to cut you a little slack on that one. Your plate is pretty full with school, work, marriage, pregnancy. Cut yourself a little slack, too. Do you have a copy of "What to Expect When You're Expecting?"? It's a pretty good resource manual and should provide you with not only information, but reassurance that everything is normal and OK. Enjoy this pregnancy knowing that it's OK to be sad about the last one, but don't let it overshadow the present. Good luck!

I don't mean this at all the way it might sound, but cut yourself a break... You have had A LOT going on in a short amount of time. Then there are the raging hormones of pregnancy. As an OB Nurse, I can tell you that this is totally normal. The hormones should level out, Pregnant women are almost always more emotional. What you have described sounds more like being emotional that it does depression- but if it is depression, there are medications they can give you that are more safe to take in pregnancy. Only you can decide for sure what you're feeling. It just sounds to me like you're dealing with a lot of change all at once, not to mention the recent miscarriage. All of these are very emotional things. I think if the sadness comes and goes, it's hormonal/emotions. If it's a constant state- talk to your doctor. Can you still get out of bed in the morning and function? Sometimes we stress ourselves out worrying about something. Cut yourself some slack, keep communication open between you and your husband, and you and your doctor. Don't hesitate to call their office if you need to. You'll make it thru this. And it's so worth it!!! Congrats. Try and enjoy the little small moments as much as you can. They're over before you know it. Good luck!

I used to cry like a baby at kodak commercials. So don't be concerned. And congratulations!

Hi W.,
Congratulations on your pregnancy! Let me also add that I am sorry to hear about your miscarriage. Having gone down that path after 2 normal, healthy pregnancies and the birth of my children, I was absolutely devastated when our third pregnancy ended in a natural, peaceful, miscarriage.

You mentioned in your post that you were surprised to be pregnant again. It's very possible it could be your hormones Do you feel you had time to grieve your loss? Your miscarriage is real...it took me 2 months before I started my healing journey over my loss. With that loss, I was mouring the loss of hopes, dreams and our future. We even buried our lo(I had a first trimester loss so many of our family/friends didn't view our loss as real) very privately.

To our surprise on the weekend which would have marked our 3rd child's due date, I found out I was pregnant for a 4th time. We were blessed with another normal/healthy pregnancy and our 4th child(my spirit baby). With this pregnancy, I found I had fear I never worried about before but reaching milestones; my morning sickenss, hearing the heart beat, and feeling movement all helped me overcome those.

Wishing you a normal healthy pregnancy.

Peace & Love,
J.

Oh sweetie! I am so sorry about your loss! That is likely where this is all coming from. You may have grieved at the time you lost the first one, but your body/hormones are going through all the motions again and especially if this is the time when the other baby would've been born, it is hard for you to forget what you have lost.

I have personally not had a miscarriage, but my BF had one almost halfway thru her 1st pregnancy, and she got prg again 3 months later, with twins. She had alot of depression issues with that pregnancy, but her first baby had been a girl, and when she learned she was carrying twin boys, she said it made it a little easier to have different expectations and feelings toward the new pregnancy. Unfortunately, very early labor caused her to lose one of the twins, and her surviving baby was in the NICU for months and now has a host of health problems. They went on to have another FULL TERM pregnancy and were thrilled, and now have two beautiful happy boys, but it was hard for her again to go through the motions of a new pregnancy, grieving all over again for what she'd lost before, and being apprehensive about losing another baby.

I am sure at least until you are past the "danger point" of losing another, you may still have these lows hit you. I am sure a doc (your OB) could recommend a good counselor or some other form of therapy for dealing with your loss, but many just encourage you to get it out when it hits you and when you do feel happy, be ecstatic! Put on happy music, window shop (or for real!) for the nursery or baby clothes, play a game with a child, anything to lift your spirits or help your body anticipate what you will be doing with your own child. But also realize that this could be a strong indicator for post-partum depression, which is common enough without you having it now. Just seek help when you know you need it, and don't brush it off! Have a friend you can call (besides your hubby - he has to "live" with it, so it puts more stress on him to have to listen to it at work or wherever - my poor friend's hubby started to become despondent as well!) anytime of day or night when you start feeling that way. Or a network of people, maybe you even know someone who has had a miscarriage and can relate.

I will keep you in my prayers and please know that God can help you through anything if you ask!

Take care!
A.

W.,
It's ok....sounds like you may be feeling the hormones. It is normal to cry at a drop of a pin when you are pregnant. At your next doctor's visit, mention to him that you feel this way. He can reassure you that you are on the right track. I imagine it would be very hard to feel comfortable with a pregnancy after your previous miscarriages. Dive into your pregnancy books and your 1st year of baby's life. YOu won't have time to read after the baby is born! Congrats on 15 weeks of pregnancy!!

First, Congratulations! It's a very exciting time for you! But, try to give yourself a break. Hormones are tricky. You will find yourself flying high one minute and crashing the next. Beyond just the pregnancy hormones, look at your life. You are newly married, newly pregnant, and buying a home. All of these things are wonderful, yet all of them separately are huge changes. All of them together would overwhelm even the most seasoned mommies. Also, try not to compare your pregnancy to anyone else's. We are all different and each pregnancy is different. There are people who will tell you that being pregnant was the best they ever felt in their life. Good on them. Me, not so much-- but the end result is fantastic! Hang in there. It will go quickly. By the way, you should always speak with your OB about things like this. They have seen it all and that is why they are there.

Nothing is wrong with you!!! A lot of it is hormones! I can relate I broke down crying in Target cause I thought people were looking at me funny...my husband thought I was crazy! I cried at the littlest things!!! But some of it maybe anxiety about the upcoming change in your lives. I was so excited I was pregnant but at the same time worried to death. This is such a fun and exciting time and just have fun on this roller coaster ride cause soon nothing will be the same and it is great.

Congratulations and take care of yourself!

Wow, you've had a lot of hormonal ups and downs. I've had three children -- wonderful girls ages 16,13 and 4. I also suffered miscarriages. When I was pregnant, it was an emotional roller coaster. I even cried at cat food commercials on television. It is also a huge change for you, so give yourself a break, have a good cry. Things will normalize. Do seek help, though, if you get so depressed it gets in the way of your daily activities.
Karen

Bless your heart! Re-read your entry - look at all you are doing, what a year you are having and you are so young! You are extremely busy with work and school and are in a very passionate, loving relationship. My first piece of advice is to slow down! And my second piece of advice is try not to be so hard on yourself. I am not a doctor, nurse, etc. but I am the mother of 5 and I remember feeling very blue with my 4th and 5th pregnancies. I think it was mostly hormones, but with the 5th so soon after my fourth (they are 14 months apart,) it was overwhelming. And we were also moving during my 5th pregnancy and trying to sell a house during both the 4th and 5th pregnancies. Moving just alone is exhausting! Not to mention balancing being a new wife and all that entails, school work and working with energetic preschoolers! Give yourself a break!

And especially after having a miscarriage I think it's normal to feel some anxiety about being pregnant again. I've never had a miscarriage before so I don't know what that was like for you, but I can imagine that it was just terrible. Have you talked to your OB/GYN or nurse about your feelings? How about your husband? Talking with him is so important and although he obviously doesn't have the same hormones, what's going on with you really affects him. We also were married in August (13 years ago) and became pregnant in October and I remember feeling overwhelmed at being a pregnant newlywed!

In any case, I think it could just be hormones, but talk to your doctor and take it easy! I'll be praying for you and your family.

J.

PS Try a Motherhood Maternity store for a bra.

What you are going through is perfectly natural. You hormnes are adjusting to crazy levels right now and it's putting our body into shock because it's not used to it all. Not to mention, it sounds like you have a lot of stress on your plate with finding a new house and all. Try to make sure you get planty of rest and do something special for yourself every one and then. It will lift once your body adjusts.

To be honest, I would be surprised if you weren't emotional right now...... with all that you have been through in the past-- it's probably just a relief that you are pregnant and everything is going well. I have had 2 children and since that time I am still emotional even when I am not pregnant-- pregnancy changes your hormones period. I am happy you are pregnant again and try not to worry-- I have had several friends who have miscarried and have had several beautiful children afterwards-- you are also very young, which is in your favor as well! So, if you are blue--- so be it-- try to pamper yourself and get out and visit with friends -- exercise will help as well, even if it is just walking.

Mel

I am 28 weeks with our first child and lost my first pregnancy due to ectopic pregnancy...I was so afraid I would not be able to conceive again so when we did I was ecstatic. But like you I have been having "pregnancy blues". I was worried at first because I used to take medication for depression, and these pangs of sadness I get are VERY intense and physically painful (like shooting pains) but they are passing. I have spoken to other women about it and I hear this is normal. Not everyone has them as strong as I do but everyone gets them. If your blues are continual and very bad, you may want to talk to your dr. about it. I hope you feel better soon! Whenever I get them I try to distract myself by focusing on something else, cleaning the house, getting out to go shopping...ANYTHING! -- oh, and I told my husband how I'm feeling - he is understanding and extra supportive when he can tell I am having a sad day.

Congratulations!! I'm sure it's the hormones mostly. It could also be a result of all the coming changes in your life. Even when we desperately want these changes to happen, sometimes it triggers weird emotions that we can't even figure out on our own. I'm sure it'll all pass! God bless!!

Dear W.,
Congratulations! It is a hormonal thing, to cry at the least provocation during this stage of pregnancy. It is like pregnancy puts life under a magnifying glass, little things feel like big things! Molehills look like mountains. It is not the blues, at all, if you notice, good things feel like great things too, you laugh easier, as well as cry easier, it's just a very intense hormonal time. Warn your husband, you will have these intense knee-jerk reactions throughout your pregnancy, it's not your fault, not his fault, nothing is wrong, that's just the way life is. I don't know how my dh put up with me through all my (10) pregnancies, the sweetheart!
M.

It is most likely the hormones! I would cry because of just about anything.

A little advice on the nursing bra...don't go to Walmart!! That will send any pregnant lady over the edge. I would suggest Motherhood Maternity. The bras aren't as expensive as you may think, and the sales people know what pregnant women are going through! It is not as overwhelming or frustrating.

Good luck!

It sounds like pregnancy hormones to me! I wouldn't worry about it too much, I remember those moments too. Your hormones are working full time right now to create that new life inside you, and your body is going through so many changes. Your hormones are flucutating with all that change, so you are bound to have mood swings too. Usually once you are well into your 2nd trimester, things can lighten up a bit. But each woman and each pregnancy is different. So take it for what it is and try to enjoy the high moments! Congratulations!!

its normal. it happened to me too, and is happening w/a friend right now. it is the hormones. i cried for weeks/months until the middle of my second trimester. it does go away. get support from anyone and everyone and try to remember that its temporary and does not mean you dont want kids, or the pregnancy!

good luck!

Hi!
I just wanted to you to know that I felt the same thing. I suffered from depression during the first trimester in each of my 3 pregnancies. I think that hormones played a part but I think the main cause for me was sickness. I had terrible morning sickness with all of my pregnancies. It made me feel run down and feel really blue. Good news though I started to brighten up when I hit about week 16 (it might have been a little worse during my first pregnancy because I was so terrified and nervous about everything in general). It is really hard on your body with everything you are going through right now so let yourself cry. In a short while you and your husband will look back and laugh at what could make you cry. My husband and I still laugh at how I could cry for ANYTHING! Good Luck!!

Sweetie -
I know you are going to hear the same thing from all the moms out there! Our hearts hurt for you and are happy for you at the same time! There are no "shoulds" in your situation. Try to not listen to the voices that tell you how you "should" be feeling. Pregnant women who did NOT just survive a loss and are dealing with grief have teary breakdowns like you just described - over things that are ridiculous. We could all tell you our "silly emotions" stories. It is COMPLETELY NORMAL

Yes it's normal . As a mother of three let me tell you what my OBGYN told me "depression is the number one side effect of being pregnant" its all those hormones raging - My doctor perscribed Zoloft for me, and it worked wonders, just talk to your OBGYN even the things that we might consider silly could be a sign of something going on that can be helped Good luck and congrats!!

It is most definitely the hormones. It is perfectly natural to go through days of extreme sadness. Most of the time it is an indication of transition from one phase of pregnancy to another. The growing baby goes through developmental changes all through pregnancy and you "the incubator" who supports these changes, go through many changes as well. My heart goes out to you. I remember those days and was infuriated when my Ob/Gyn referred me to the mental health clinic. All I needed was some extra emotional support from my husband and family to make it through those days. Just know that these feelings of overwhelming sadness will pass and become a distant memory. Take care! A. Burnette, Hillsborough, NC

My take is your feelings are pretty normal for any pregnant woman because, yes, your hormones are affecting your moods and responses to things in perhaps unexpected ways. But also, it is likely that this new pregnancy is a reminder of your previous pregnancy and the fact that you lost what you so much wanted. It can seem strange without a little perspective, but mourning can accompany an otherwise joyful and healthy pregnancy.

I lost my first baby after an almost full term (was scheduled for a C-section two weeks after the actual birth). There was no indication anything was wrong during the pregnancy and she was fine (we thought) even as I was wheeled into the OR for the delivery. She died 8 hours after her birth. Obviously it was a horrifying time, a shocking loss for us. But after a year a lot of healing had happened and though I still think of my first baby and still mourn her, my life was pretty much back to normal and pretty happy. Then I became pregnant with our little girl, now 17 months old, and though I was glad to be pregnant again I definitely re-experienced mourning the first loss. It was hard to enjoy the new pregnancy knowing that it might end at any time. And the hormones added to that. I cried a lot, standing in the shower feeling alone and helpless to do anything to help my new baby survive. I had had a miscarriage after the first loss, just to add to my sorrow.

I have read and thought about this subject and I again would just say that I think your feelings are completely normal. Don't stress because you are stressing! Seek comfort from whom you want it, tell people about your complicated experience, feelings and thoughts: it can help drive the blues away.

The truth is that life is tricky and complicated sometimes, but we do best to accept what is in front of us and then decide to deal with it as we choose. Good luck!

Hi W.~
Congratulations! I think what you might be feeling is a combo of different emotions. First off, my advice is purely speculatory as I don't really know you nor do I know what it feels like to have a miscarriage, let alone two of them. Let me say though that what you are feeling is completely normal, I think. One can experience so many different emotions during pregnancy and also post partum. Everyone is different. Maybe what a friend/family member experienced during her pregnancy, you may have something different, and vice versa. Not to mention ,too, the grief you may still be feeling from these recent miscarriages. You may be feeling (and I would probably would as well) that this could happen again and I sure it is very frightening for you. As for the tears, don't worry about it. It has happened to most of us I'm sure. During pregnancy is when emotions go crazy. Sometimes I still cry reading sappy birthday or holiday cards at Target and my little one is 10 months old. Good luck and God bless. Please write again if you need anything.

Paula

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Dear W., you are going through normal hormonal changes that occur with pregnancy! Do not worry - you are not different and it's perfectly normal to be so sad and then happy the next minute! It is only if you feel blue to hurting yourself or others or if you don't feel like getting out of bed that you should be concerned and you should talk with the doctor. Other than that, you will find yourself crying one minute and laughing like crazy the next and you won't even know why! Pregnancy is a wonderful stage but very different and there's always surprises at every turn! Enjoy your time being pregnant! I am due May 24th and while I am looking forward to her coming, I will miss the time she is in my tummy at the same time - it's very special.

Take care,
J.

i went throught he same thing. i got pregnant in august and miscarried at 8 weeks, which was destating. but about a month and a half later found out i was preggers again. i am now 25 weeks pregnant with a healthy little boy. at 1st i was so happy and then the hormones kicked in. i'd cry over anything. mostly is was lack of sleep, nausea, and chasing a yr and half old. but sometimes i'd cry over over not being sure if i'd love this one as much as my daughter, or still greiving the loss of the other baby, or sometimes my hubby just looking at me a certain way would set off the water works. i think it's pretty normal. but if you really start feeling down to the point where you are having thoughts of suicide, or hurting your self, or you jsut can't funtion then you need to talk to some one.

Hi W.! I am a mom of 2 (18 month old, and 3 yr old) so I can related to the emotional up and down of pregnancy. I don't think there is anything wrong with you - hormones can make a mommy feel like a human roller coaster. You may find yourself crying one moment and laughing the next - I know I sure did.
Also maybe you are still morning the lose of your first baby. Give yourself time to do that - just because your pregnant again doesn't mean you shouldn't feel sad about the baby. One child can't replace another and it is ok to miss your first little one. I can only imagine how your heart broke - if you want to share you know where to find us! M.

W.,

Hi! First let me congratulations on expecting your first child. I can sympathize with you about the pregnancy blues I was 20 when I found out I was pregnant with my first child and my husband and I had only been married a month when I took the test and now we have been married for 12 1/2 years with 3 beautiful children age 12, almost 8 and 6. But as for the pregnancy blues I thimk it is your hormones because you did not fully heal from the miscarriage and that can sometimes happen. I did not have a miscarriage but I did cry alot because I was not attractive to my husband because I was fat and he would tell me that I was not fat that I was pregnant. I hope that helps and good luck with your pregnancy.

I'm sorry to hear about your lose last year, but God works in mysterious ways. He has blessed you with someone extremely special, unexpectantly is the best way! He blessed us that way last year. I understand completely what you are feeling. This one was not my first child, but was my first experience on the emotion roller coaster. Talk to your doctor, my wasn't so extreme that I couldn't control it, I was extremely sick with morning sickness as well. But looking back now, I wish I would have talked to my doctor more, because I limited myself from going away from the house for very long. I only went to the grocery store and back home, when I felt like it. My depression continued after I had my baby as well. I talked to my husband which made me feel a little better, but I talked to my doctor resently and he helped out the rest.
Talk to your doctor, that's what he/ she gets paid for!

Be gentle with yourself. It is all ok. Maybe it is a good time to turn inward, relax, meditate, do yoga...undo the trappings of the world.

Pregnancy is a sacred time. You are bringing new life into the world. Let yourself be, don't force struggle or fight.

Breathe.

Peace
J

HELLO? re-read your request! You've got a LOT going on! Give yourself a little slack! a new house, newly wed, COLLEGe? a miscarriage! I'm surprised you're still walking upright!

IT could very well be hormones...it could also be fear, stress, anxiety or a bazillion other things!

GO easy on yoruself. You've been through more in a year than most people in their whole lives! If you still feel this way,talk to your doctor.

I had a HORRIBLE time after my son was born with PPD (depression) Give me physical labor pain ANY day. and it was just a hormone imbalance that hadn't righted itself after delivery. Simple fix. It did involve meds though. DOn't know how you feel about that.

Give yourself some credit. Youv'e been through all that and are still standing! WAY TO GO! talk with your doctor :) and keep up the great work!

Relax its hormones. They go up and down the entire time you are pregnant just take one day at a time and cry when you need to and don't feel bad about it. I don't know you personally but I am really happy for you. Congratulations on your new marriage and your pregnancy!!

W., Don't be so hard on yourself. Pregnancy comes with alot of changes physical and emotional. You need to just be patient and if you feel like crying then cry. If you feel like laughing then laugh but don't put yourself down because you should be doing this or that. I am a mother of 3. 2 year old twins and a 5 month old. When I was pregnant with the twins I was on bed rest and was soooo depressed and then I would worry they were going to feel my emotions and blah blah. But they are healthy strong little girls and I did the best I could carrying them. Please know that everyone is so different and when that little baby comes you will have all the love you need to care for that child.
I just wanted to send you a little word of encouragement. Hope this helps.
C.

Welcome to pregnancy, sweetheart!;) One thing that will help...DO NOT ALLOW YOURSELF TO GET HUNGRY! Drops in blood sugar can really exacerbate the mood swings of pregnancy. I got very, very mean when I went to far between meals. Yet within 10 minutes of sitting down to eat, I was happy as a clam again! It was the most bizarre thing to live through. You're just dealing with a new flush of hormones...on top of school, work, marriage. It can all be very overwhelming on a good day. CONGRATULATIONS on your good news! Hang in there!
D.

I know exactly how you feel. Eight years ago I miscarried at 12 weeks. 4 months later I was pregnant again and I was excited, scared, joyful, terrified all at the same time. I was 35 at the time and had been married for 9 years, so don't think all this is because of your age. I came to the conclusion that my emotional state was caused in part by the hormones pulsing through my body and the fear that something awful was going to happen again. I am happy to report that Tomorrow is the 7th birthday of the beautiful gift from God known to family as stich. Every April I cry for the baby I lost but my doctor told me God only gives perfect gifts and this gift was not ready to be given.

Your hormones were not completly back to normal when you got pregnant the second time so you may be in overdrive. That may be part of the cause of your emotional state. I suspect that you are also under a tremendous amout of pressure and it sounds as if there is lots of change going on all at the same time. Cut yourself some slack! You have a lot on your plate, and that is enough to make anyone cry.

BtW get your maternity bra at a good bra shop or maternity shop. Make sure the person selling you the bra fits you for it. It will make all the difference in the world in how you feel about yourself both before and after having the baby. Good luck.

W.,
I'm so sorry for the loss of your baby. Congratulations on your pregnancy at the same time! This may sound strange, but I think because both life changing events happened practically back to back, you haven't had the chance to grieve for the first baby. It's okay to be sad, honey. Is it possible you're afraid of this happening again? Voice all your concerns, cry, pray and talk about it with your husband and family members. Just get it all out. You're a good person with a good heart. You deserve to be happy and will be! I'm sure you'll be a terrific mother when the time comes. God bless!

I agree that it is most likely hormones. However, it may very well have a lot to do with the baby you lost. You will mourn that baby forever. If you are not attending a support group, maybe that could help. Be sure to talk to your husband and doctor about how you are feeling. My doctor told me that I would be at high risk for Post Partum Depression and started me on Zoloft in my third trimester with both of my pregnancies. It worked and both of my babies are ahead of the curve on milestones, so no harm done. If you are still feeling this way in your third trimester, you may want to talk to your doctor about it. Try to find a way to focus on the joys of pregnancy and most of all talk as much as you need to with your husband, friends or whoever will listen. Cry when you need to. It is normal. Congrats on your little miracle!

This is just so much happening to you at one time. Plus all of the things that you are involved in on top of that. I remember feeling like this with both of my kids, but all came out fine once they arrived. To be truthful, I was very very blue after my first delivery as well, but this did not last long either. I was nervous I would not know what to do, no matter the books I read or the advice I have been given. I wss nervous that I would not be able to handle myself or be able to take care of the baby properly.
Right now I am a grandmother and have gone through this with my daughter. I would encourage you that if you continue to feel like this .please speak to your Dr about it. You want to remember this as a joyous time shared with you husband. Tell your Doctor right away, you would not want your emotional health to affect your baby and/or your marriage. Please get some professional advice and ejnoy the rest of your time with you and your husrband and make some happy memories to share with your child when they ask about this time in your life.

Good luck and God bless you.

You should not feel bad for feeling sad. YOur hormones could play a part in this, but you also could still be mourning the loss from Oct. The pregnancy, all the changes could bring back some memories you felt while pregnant before. I am sorry, the only way I know to deal with it is to talk to your DR. You are going through a lot of emotional & physical changes. Hang in there!

Good luck!

hey W.! Im so sorry to hear about your first miscarriage but know that it was Gods will and that He now has blessed your life with a healthy pregnancy so CONGRATS!!!! I'm a 22 year old mother of a beautiful 18 month old little girl and I went through the exact same things you are talking about when I was pregnant!! I seriously cried once when I couldnt find the match to my sock- ok not cried SOBBED! and then i watched Titanic (for the 100th time) and as soon as it came on, i SOBBED through that too!! Its all hormones and YES it does get better!! Towards the 3rd trimester my hormones slowed down a bit and i could handle tear-jerker movies and not finding matches to socks LOL. My husband and I were also planning a wedding when we found out we were pregnant and I think alot of my emotions were all the changes happening in my life at once. I think change effects you more than you realize it does. But just know that all those hormonal changes comes with being pregnant and all those midnight cravings as well!! I'm so happy for you that God blessed you with a healthy baby!!! Congrats!!

*J.

I've been in your shoes. I didn't read the other responses yet, but I remember losing my first two pregnancies and wanting to be pregnant again so badly... Then, when I did finally have a healthy pregnancy, I was THRILLED and then I felt guilty. I wanted to get pregnant again b/c I felt the void of losing the first two, but then I rejoiced with a healthy pregnancy and a part of me felt like I was forgetting the two human babies that I'd lost. At 15 weeks, it is very possible to be hormonal, but maybe you should think about WHY you wanted to be pregnant after the miscarriage: to fill a void b/c you were so devastated? if so, then I think you need to acknowledge FOR YOURSELF that this baby can not REPLACE the first that you lost and if you have strong faith, say it, somehow, in prayer. Give that guilt to God, he is there to take our burdens and you will likely be left with what hormones really do at this stage in pregnancy (a little less, but still irrational emotions from time to time) :) good luck, and I'm truly sorry for your loss. It is clear that you love kids, so I understand that you wanted to conceive for that reason alone, but maybe there was an underlying reason, too, and I think if you acknowledge it, it can be put to rest.