i'm 27 years old and i have 3 children
my oldest in 3
and twins are 2
and thinking on going to the 4th baby before i hit 30
and i need advice please Help =]
thank you
I had my first three in my 20's and my last when I was 39. Starting over was a blast and I was able to share it with the older kids. That said, everyone is different and only you can decide what's best for you. I agree with Chantal in that age 30 shouldn't be a factor so much. Do it when it feels right.
Only you know how many children you can feed, educate, and handle. If you are able to raise your children without help from the government, go for it.
But I wouldn't use the age of 30 as your end all. I had a perfectly healthy, beautiful daugher at 40 and I don't think age should be a motivating factor.
Good luck!
My mom had her kids young- between 19 and 23 (she got married at 18 and was almost 20 when I was born). It is great to be young and done. Unfortunately a lot of us are not on that game plan these days (I had my 1st at 29, 2nd at 30 and will have my 3rd at 33 --currently prego). I plan to be done by 38.
If you do want more kids, consider not spreading them out so once you are done with diapers or sippy cups, sleepless nights, or kids toys, etc. -- you are done. In my opinion, it is easier as they grow up to not be going through the baby thing again when you have a pre-teen or teenager.
If you are financially able to, emotionally stable enough to, I say -- go for it! :) I would like 4 or 5...I figure I will "know" when I am at my stopping point ;) ha!
I guess I don't know what you are asking. :) Having another baby before 30 sounds great. Your children will be closer together. Having a baby after 30 is great, too! I just found out that I am pregnant with #7, and I'm 43. :)
I'm 30 with 3 kids my last was when I was 29 few weeks before 30 I must say that 3 is good enough for me..It's different for everyone only you & your hubby can answer this one it is very deep & personal...
I'm 27 and have a 7, 5, and 3 year old. I am definitely done. I would have another one in another year or two, but at the same time, my family is definitely complete. But good for you :o). totally up to you and what you can handle. I find the older my kids get the busier they are too, and I am already running in to times when I can only attend one event, so one of the kids doesn't get to have me there, but they have daddy. So I don't know...but congrats if you go for it!!
If you can manage and have a partner who will be equally involved...also, financially and emmotionally then go for it...I have three right now and they are a handful!!! Looks like you have your hands full right now. How do you feel about adding another one to your household. Also, I was well over 30 before having my first not by choice but by circumstance i.e. meeting the guy and marriage. Either way if you can handle great!
No way slow down and enjoy your still very young
What sort of help or advice are you looking for exactly? When to plan the pregnancy? Whether to have a 4th at all? How to manage with 4 kids of those ages? If it's when to plan the pregnancy, think about whether it would be easier to have a 4, two 3's and a newborn, or a 6, two 5's and a newborn. In the first scenario, you have a bunch of preschoolers who may still be very active and needy, going through toilet training, what if you have twins again ... but you're still closer to the baby stage and the new baby isn't as far apart in age from the other 3. Waiting, while there's a bigger age difference (something that would not bother me) and you're out of the baby stage, means that the big kids are off at school, are more independent and less needy, but you may be dragging baby to all kinds of big kid events.
I always say there's no ideal child spacing, and whatever you decide will work out for you. I think it's nice to have a big family, I always thought I'd have 3 or 4 kids, but circumstances have worked out that I just have two.
God bless you! I've been thinking that I'm not ready - mine are 5-1/2, 4 & 2 & I'm 36. I think, if you're ready, then you should go for it.
You ae me, sort of. I had a 2 yo, 1 yo, and newborn. Did go for the 4th
and the best decision we ever made. I always felt there was someone
missing from our family. I too wanted to be done by the time I was 30.
I was 31. Enjoy your family.
