I have a slightly odd problem. My son is 2 and we started potty training and he is doing great, always going when we put him on there. He doesn't fight us to put him on there, he fights us to get him off. He doesn't want to get off the potty. He would probably sit there all day if I let him. I've tried bribing him with stuff like food, toys, movies...But he will still fight us until he thinks he's ready to get off. And he's not sitting there going all that time he's just messing around with toys, and flushing the toilet, trying to get to the toilet paper, just basically getting in to trouble. If he gets up to do something and I try to grab him to put his pullup on he runs to his potty. I'm just confused and a little frusterated with this. Any suggestions?
I don't know that I did it right myself, but My son who is now 6(I am a single mom) I put him on the pot and if he wanted to stay there I let him- allow him to make the choice when he is done. Of course I took away the flushables so nothing inappropriate when down the toilet. But I suggest going to the other room and turning on a movie for him- or do something in another room that will get his curiosity up and redirect him to another room.
i would start with taking toys away when on the potty. then see if he staying because he thinks he still has to go or just thinks it is fun. if he thinks it is fun i think you should let him sit there till he has to get off. like lunch, dinner,going out to run earns or things like that. maybe if you dont fight him he will get off on his own.
i have a boy just like that. the only difference is he is 3 and his brother is 18months younger, and they are both in the bathroom. to get my oldest to get off the toilet i take away everything, toys toilet paper, and his brother. i have even left him in their in the dark. it is only for 2 seconds, but after that he wants out. but most of the time, if he doesn't have his tp, he doesn't want to be in their.
sounds normal..lol
at this age they really aren't getting the whole concept. it's practice and fun. which is what it should be. i wouldn't fight him about it. this is the stage where he's getting comfortable with the potty which is importtant. i wouldn't discipline him about it then you open up a whole new can of worms.
a book that was great for us was The Potty Training Answer Book.
don't believe what you hear about boys being tougher, it all just depends on the kid themself and their temperment and the reaction of the parents.
alot of times our reactions to things can create bigger problems than the issue itself. hope that makes sense.
good luck..
i've been right where you are:-)
don't fight about it . he'll get there..
I would say let him sit there as long as he wants, just take away all toys, etc. Tell him once he flushes the potty he has to get down. As soon as he gets bored, he'll get down.
One thing that helps my 2.5yr/old is to have something in place to "time" the activity. For ex, when she's in the tub, she can play while I stand in the bathroom doorway and fold a load of laundry. Once the laundry's folded, it's time to scrub. Maybe your son could sit for as long as it takes to read one special potty story, then he's done (or that's when you take toys away, etc).
BTW, congrats on graduating next month!! -di
