Potty Training Not Going So Well! Nedd Help Pleaaaaaaase!

My oldest did the same thing when he was little. This is going to sound dumb but this is what worked for us:) He was afaid to poop in the potty so I had watch dad several times and dad would get to wave and clap and have all kinds of fun saying goodbye to his poop, while my son did not get to unless it was his poop going down the potty. so with in a day or two he went just a little and we made is so much fun to say goodbye he did it again. We told him it was going to a much better place. I think little kids kind of think that it is a part of there body and to have it flushed away scares them. good luck I hope I helped a little.

Next time you see her crouching in a corner, tell her that you're going to read a book together, then sit her on the potty and read, read, read. In fact, do anything that will capture her attention so she won't notice when she DOES go #2 in the potty. Do this for as long as it takes...she can't hold it in forever. Once she does go, praise, praise, praise and reward, reward, reward. Do a little celebration dance together and make her feel super special for going #2 in the potty. Let her know how happy it makes you and how proud you are of her. Repeat over and over, gradually bringing the celebration to an acceptable level and eventually ask her if she would like to try going in the bathroom and using the potty in private like a big girl. And so on and so forth. For every new accomplishment (going in the potty, wiping herself, going in private, going on her own without being asked if she needs to go etc..) make a big deal out of it. Ignore any relapses, or just pump her up with a short speech of the "no problem, we'll just try again next time" variety.

I noticed that this method of distraction to get the result and then tons of huge positive reinforcement once it was done worked well for overcoming this problem with my children.

Potty training seems like it goes on forever, doesn't it?!

For what it's worth, I think having a 2 year old who is semi-potty trained is very impressive. However, I do think the more effort you put into 'poop in the potty' will backfire, perhaps set you up for power struggles, war of the wills. For my daughter, potty training didn't completely solidify in her mind until she was between 2.5 to 3 years old. My gut is telling me your daughter is a touch young for the expectation of complete potty training and also, it could be a reaction to the baby in the house.

I often found that, when I encountered behavior 'roadblocks' with my daughter, the most productive solution was for me to adjust my timeline and expectations... If I let go of the issue for 4-6 weeks, it seemed to get back on track easier (and with less frustration) than if I had stuck to it the whole time.

Sometimes it takes a little longer with the bowels. You need not reinforce it with her, you have to use reverse physcology. The more you push, the more she will continue to do it unfortunately. Tell her that you don't really care if she goes in her pull-ups, her friends will smell the poopie and they won't come over or you can't take her out!! If you have some idea of when her bowel movements are, then thats' great. Just put her on her pottie or the toilet. Try playing music so she has something to do while sitting on the toilet.
It is rather boring especially if its taking longer than she likes. Even giving her a favorite book of hers, anything that you feel may occupy her. You haven't mentioned her age so I'm guessing close to two, correct me if I'm wrong.
If she is only around 18mths. give her time. Remember its her that has to train, not you. Don't reinforce it, let on that nothing happened but explain that you really can't take her out because of stinky. Give it a try and see what happens. If none of this works she is obviously she is to young to understand. Your going to have to leave it up to her, herself. No arguements and stuff like that.
I wish you well Mom, I really do. Please don't be training her for your own entitlement and not hers. People will understand because of her age. Stay in touch or post her age which will be a much better help.

Although girls often train younger than boys, 2 is pretty young and it's probably a bit much to expect when there's a new baby getting lots of attention. A bit of regression is to be expected even in older kids. My son was day trained at 3.5 yrs, and he wore pull ups at night till he was 6 or 7. Personally I didn't want to deal with poopy clothes and I was happy to keep him in pull ups till he could keep them clean before I switched him to underwear.

Had a similar situation...what worked for us was that my son need privacy in order to go number 2.

Oops. Sorry. trying to answer another post. Don't know how to remove this.

a couple suggestions...
let her watch you (not really fun for you, but takes the fear out of going poop in the potty if mom does it)
until she gets the hang of it, let her shake the poops from her pull up into the potty and flush it so she gets used to the idea of the poop going in there and getting flushed

Poop freaked my daughter out so much, she was making herself hold it in. She went a few days and I had to give her fiber gummies to get it to pass. We would sit on the potty for 30 minutes to an hour and not 5 minutes after she had her panties on, she would poop. She even left the room to do this, so she was aware of what she was doing. After throwing away 10+ pairs of panties, we had to have consequences for our actions. I put my daughter in time out (2 min) for intentional 'accidents'. My daughter was 33 months when we did this... it only took 2 time outs before she decided to just go on the potty.

To get her past the thought of poop, I told her to hug her lovie while she went so it wouldn't feel so weird. This took the focus off the poop. I also told her the poop was going to the poopie party and that the trash truck would pick it up when it came by. She LOVES the trash truck. So apparently our trash truck eats poop.... whatever it takes, it got her there.

I wish you all the luck with this. No two children are the same, especially when it comes to this hurdle. You will find what works for you. :)

We are potty training my 3 yr. old son and I think we finally cleared this hurdle. What worked for us was I stripped him down to his poopy underwear and put him in the tub. Then I had him take his underwear off and made HIM clean it. We have one of those shower heads with the hoses that detaches from the wall, so I handed him the shower head and the underwear and said I'm not cleaning it YOU are. I made him clean out his underwear, then his butt, then whatever poop ends up on the bottom of the tub. After he got out and when he was occupied I would go back and do any other spot or deeper cleaning, but he got the idea. He hated cleaning it up himself. It took 3-4 times, but if thats the only number of times I have to deal with it great!! Now, he has been pooping on the potty all on his own with no problems. (keeping my fingers crossed!!) Good Luck, I hope you find something that works for you.