"Potty Training My Daughter" - Chicago,IL

We are in a similar situation with a new baby in the house and all she might be refusing to potty train b/c you have to take the time and change her......my daughter was 2yrs 5 months when her little sister was born and she refused to go on the potty. I wouls ask her everytime we went to the store are we going to get you diapers or are you going to be a good girl and start going on the potty? Then one day she said no more diapers I am not a baby like her (meaning her sister) We bought her a pack of panties and never looked back. I said if you are changing the pull-ups all day put her back into diapers. My daughter started using the potty at 33 months and by the age of 3 we had no more accidents and only wore pull-ups for a week. She just might not be ready with the change in the household with the new baby. Give her sometime and let it be her decision. Good Luck.

My son is 30 months and in diapers. I had him in pull-up and "cool" underwear and he would go a few times then it ended.

I was frustrated and I would try the charting, gifts, everything. He would just say I don't need anything thanks.

The reference:
Toilet Training The Brazelton Way - by Joshua D. Sparrow, M.D. and T. Berry Brazelton, M.D. So I read nearly all of it and realized my toddler is not 100% ready. It also talks about the pressure that's put on parents to get their kid potty trained before 3 or before preschool. He states most children are not ready until they are 3.

So don't push her because it's really up to them when they are ready. We can't control or take control over their BM's.

Here's a little about the book.

http://www.curledup .com/toiletbr. htm

Hi I was lucky, my next door neighbor's daughter age 4 at the time potty trained my daughter. She overheard me and her mom talking about when it was the appropriate time to potty train, and she took her into the bathroom and effectively trained her.

But before that, when she was a younger toddler, I used to let her run outside in my yard with no diaper. So if she went, she knew it. (I lived in the suburbs then and had a large private backyard that was next to a wooded area.)

You mention that you have a 3 month old. Do you think this has to do with jealousy, and no longer being the baby? Could she be reacting to you? Could this be her way of wanting more "mommy time"? I think I would let the potty training go for a bit, and focus on her being your helper. When you change the baby, have her change her doll. See if you can stay positive with her and have her help. Make her feel good about being older, and more capable than the baby. Thank her often when she helps, and when she takes care of her "baby". There are all sorts of jobs she can do. Give her water in a spray bottle and have her "clean". Get a little dustpan and brush and let her work. Let her identify with you and not the baby. My guess is any attention not focused on the training will work. I bet she knows enough right now to be "trained", it has become a battle of the wills, and of wanting to be the "baby" alone with mommy again. The potty training may become a moot point.

My sons were pretty easily trained but my daughter suffered some constipation & was 3 1/2 before she finally used the potty for both #1 & 2 consistantly. I was worried she wouldnt get it together for Pre-K. I know its rough to have 2 in diapers-been there! but they each develop- emotionally & physically- at their own pace.