Potty Training Help - Aurora, CO

Sounds like she's not ready. I know from experience that it does no good to push - it can actually delay successful potty training but a LOT! Give her 6 months, you'll probably see a big difference in her attitude.

When she is ready, let her go in with you when you go potty. Read books about the potty. Help her go when she says she needs to, even if she just tried 5 minutes before. Be patient and NEVER punish her for an accident. After 3 kids (2 boys 1 girl) I honestly think there's a point where they just 'get it' and it doesn't take long at all. (My 2nd we pushed to hard to early, had to wait till he was 4 to get him interested, and he trained himself in less than a week! My youngest we just waited till he decided to and he also trained himself in about 2 weeks)

She's only going to be little once. I know changing diapers isn't the funnest thing, but don't be too eager to have her grow up. And, in the long run, whether she was 2 or 4 when she trained isn't going to make any difference - but pushing her in to something she isn't ready for can!

I'm going to respectfully disagree with everyones advice thus far. She's 28 months old, she's interested in learning about the toilet, how it works, watching you, etc. So she's not actually going, she's still learning. There is NO REASON to push her. When SHE is ready she will tell you in plain and simple terms. Let her.

Don't stress, don't fuss, and especially don't compare your daughter to what other kids are doing. My DD has been dead last in everything in her peer group from walking, to potty training, to writing, and nearly every other milestone. Does that mean she doesn't accomplish things, no way. She does it on HER schedule. I respect that.

Meanwhile, have a cup of tea, de-stress, and have faith in your daughter.

Hi S.,
Just to put my two cents in--she's still quite young, and it's harmful to push it too hard if she's not interested. My daughter will be 3 next month, and about a month ago, it all started to click. We've had a few accidents, but she's done really well with this, but this is the second round of potty training. About 8 months ago I thought she'd be trained in no time, because she was really expressing interest and telling me 80% of the time when she had to go, and then after about a month, she suddenly decided that she didn't want to use the potty anymore. So we took a break until she started to show me that she really didn't like it when her diaper was dirty.They do it when they're ready, with a little encouragement from us. Her encouragement was for me to race her to the potty first thing in the morning saying I was going to get on the potty first, and of course she wanted to steal it from me. Then I'd put her panties on her and she was happy to wear them, and I asked her every couple of hours if she wanted to use the potty (usually employing the who's going to get there first ploy). Also, she has a pile of books she "reads" while pooping. Good luck, try not to stress over it. Try to follow your little one's lead and it'll work out fine.

hey there S. iam A. my little girl is 23 months and has been sitting/going since about 11m0nths this is what i did for her i know it sounds silly but i give a wordfind puzzle with a pen or a life and style mag and it seems to distract her we also shut the door for privacy hehe give them a shot and let me know good luck

Get the book "Potty Training in one day" I can't remember the author because someone took my copy and never gave it back, but you should be able to find it by that title. It works. I have potty trained two that way and have two to go. I waited until they were almost 3 took a day to just talk about pee and poop and there you go. I didn't have to spend months or years waiting for it to click.

I really liked the book "Toilet Training in Less than a Day" It was written in the 70's, but it really works! It has a good list of signs that your kiddo is ready too.

Good luck!

Our daughter is about 26 mos. and has really gotten into peeing in her potty before bathtime (vs. peeing in the tub as before). We have a routine of going in getting the toys ready for bath then I hlep her strip down and she takes off the diaper then uses the potty. The biggest part is not flushing but getting a sticker to put on the potty. So my advice would be to #1 have a relatviely open door policy in the bathroom because modeling and imitating is what they do best (it would also be helpful if any of her freinds are potty trianed for her to see how a 'big' girl goes potty - if that's ok with her and/or parents.)Secondly go sticker shopping with the caveat that they are special stickers just for going potty and then she can stick them all over the potty.

Good Luck!

My daughter was hard too. She finally got it at 3 1/2 years old. When she acted like she was ready I just got her pull ups. I just put her on the toilet and made sure she could get up and down by herself a few times. I just let her do it by herself and when she was ready to do it she just pulled down her pull up and went. I wasn't going to push it. I let her do it on her own time. They will eventually get it. My son was alot easier I was working and my sitter did it for me. Now with my sister she just took a week off of work and took her son every 15-30 minutes, but he was alot older 4. Every kid is different.

I would wait until she's dry at nap more than 70% of the time and wait until she shows more interest. I have boys so I can't help in that reguard. I waited until they were older and used pull-ups to help. My oldest, who is autistic, didn't train until he was almost 5 1/2. He was always dry at night but not for the whole day. I was told his bladder wasn't fully grown and that's why he took so long. That and of course the autism. My youngest trained by the time he was 3 1/2. He trained mostly at day care. I never used a potty chair. I just taught them how to go on the big potty.
On the other hand my neice was trained by 18 months because she wanted to be like her big sister who was two years older.

I had no book or help. Just jumped in. Talked about it and explained the concept. Then looked for telltale signs and took them to the potty chair. If no signs then would take them in about every 2-3 hours. If i missed it I would shorten or lengthen the time. Always Potty before bed and right when they get up. I noticed some kids needed to be up for a bit and other could go right away. Patience and a lot of you running them to the potty. At least until they get the idea.

Sounds like us right now too. I was watching a friends kids the other day and the little boy who is my dd's age went potty twice while he was here. I asked my daughter later why she didn't want to go potty, didn't she want to stop wearing diapers? and she said no, I'm your baby. It blew me over. She had put that concept together--I told her that she will always be my baby no matter what she wears. She can wear big girl panties and go potty and still be my baby. This was Friday--today is monday, she isn't going potty regularly yet but every time we take off a diaper she yells I needa go potty! and goes in. She almost made it today, went on the bathroom floor. I said YAY! You almost made it to the potty! Good job, next time we can get it in the potty! and she said YAY! That was about an hour ago. lol. I was curious what advice you were getting as well, this has been my ongoing delima for a while, to push or not to push the potty training. Especially since I am not a fan of the kid potties--it is hard to find books for kids that have pictures of real potties instead of the kid ones. We did order a DVD with songs on it--I'm hoping it will help since she loves to sing and dance--I learned to potty train with a record (I loved my records, especially my potty training one! lol) For my dd's personality if it feels like a chore she won't do it. But if it is fun and an adventure she is excited about it. Stickers didn't work for us. Awards didn't work for us. I think one of her main love languages is words of affirmation. She loves the praise--I'm learning that--and it's helping. Here is to our journey...and if you find the miracle, let me know!!!

No time like the present to introduce the potty, in my opinion, and this is traing four kids and doing my fifth, the longer you wait, the harder it is, the older they are, the more of a power struggle it can become. I start slow, putting the potty in whatever room we use the most, and in the beginning it is a fun game, and just about sitting on it. And then I do the bare bottom training, my littlest is 26 months, the first day there were a lot of accidents, no biggy, I would just say "Oh no, we missed the potty" and we would walk over and sit down, nothing would happen cause it was all over my floor (carpet cleaner), the next day, he went on his own the first time and then had 2 accidents, but he went anytime I prompted him, the next day (day3) he did it on his own, still bare bottom, and the 4th day he got to wear his underwear, he had 2 accidents, mainly cause I was to slow, but has done just fine after that, we even did an outing with no extra help. It can be done if you dedicate the time.

While you're waiting for her to become ready, start announcing your own potty breaks: "oh, mommy has to go potty!" or "oh! I just got the feeling that I need to go potty"

Don't ask her if she needs to go potty....just let her see you doing it after you say that you need to go.

easypottytraining.com will help you to realize if she is ready, and also walk you through the process. It really was easy, and it really worked. My daugher was potty trained (completely- NO ACCIDENTS!!) in just 4 days. The only times she has had an accident was when she had diareah, and then she couldn't help it.

Wow, you sound exactly like me.. My 3 yr old has been doing the exact same thing for a year now. It is very frustrating. Unfortunately I don't have any great advice for you, or any advice for that matter. I just wanted to let you know you are not alone. :) Good luck to you. I have learned a lot of patience this last year.