I have raised 3 children and am currently helping raise my grandchildren. I have a 2 yr. old grandchild who refuses to use the potty. She knows and understands what to do and brings me the correct items when she pees and poops. I can put her on the potty when I go or will take her every 15 to 30 minutes. She will hold it until she gets off the potty and then go. I have never came across this situation before. She shows all the signs of being ready but she is what I call "lazy" and would rather pee in her pull up than the potty. Please help!
It has been 3 days and today I finally made breakthrough. I used the advice of one of the readers and put pretty panties on my grandchild and she peed in the potty right off the bat! I made a very big deal out of it and 30 minutes later she did it again! She only made one mistake today so I feel like she has made tremendous progress. I am so happy!!!!!!! Thanks to everyone on their advice! Now on to potty training number 2!
I don't think she's lazy. It sounds to me like she is just trying to control the situation because she can and she doesn't want to do what you are telling her, she wants to do what she wants. Working out some kind of reward should give her the incentive to *choose* to go on the potty instead of to hold it. I've heard many parents and child-care professions say that if you push them, they will push back.
Good luck!
If you really think she's ready as well and if you stay home alot with her, I would go straight to underwear. You will have to buy a lot and expect accidents but get her out of the diapers and or pull ups. I have trained several children from being a nanny, daycare provider and training 2 of my own. I also did treats...what ever her favorite candy is...one piece for going potty and 2 for pooping. But what I found is that they have to get out of the diapers....it's a lot of hard work for wearing panties but in the end it's the fastest. Also when she goes, make a huge deal about going...clap, dance get real excited!
Offer incentive.......is there something she wants really bad? A toy? Something........Food? Every lazy child has something they want.......find out what hers is......
Then you make a schedule for her to reach the goal of the final prize.....make short term day goals, or maybe even every 2 hour goals......and build it up.....start with small prizes, stickers, crayons, or cheap pleasing items, and then make the weekly goal a little more pricey.......
Once she gets the hang of it, back down, or when she reaches her goal, make a big deal out of it...............once it becomes a habit for her, she'll be ok.........
good luck and hang in there......sorry to hear you are having to raise your grandchildren......chasing after a 2 year just isn't the same as when they were our kids.......believe me I know!!
Take care.
No pull ups if you want to potty train this little girl. If she goes all night then she is ready and able to go. I have found that underwear is better and pull ups are a crutch. You may have to go a day with wet clothes, wash and dry them and put on the next pair. Get a couple pairs of little girl underwear as a reward for her when she is trained. Lazy is one way of putting it and having a crutch of pull ups is another way of saying the same thing. It may be a mess for a day, and maybe not, once she knows you mean business. I trained our 8 and one grandchild and he was very determined not to go too but in one day (and a few wet events that day) that was it. He was dry at nap time, bedtime and went all day long. It's harder to be firm and do the messes when you're the grandma but just be consistent and I think you'll be surprised.
I also wanted to mention that you might want to change what you are sitting her on. For example, if you are using a potty chair, get a ring and let her sit on the big toilet. Maybe it's the wording you are using. My son only has one set of words that help him have cues that it is time to go. Also, the first time we had success (and we'd sat several times with no successful release) it was when i was going potty and so he went too. So my biggest advice is to change the routine and see if that helps any. I am lucky enough that my son is a typical toddler and loves to be naked. So his reward for going is naked time!
She doesn't sound ready in my opinion. My son would go pee on the potty but not poop. This lasted for several months. I tried everything. Eventually he started to go on it. Now he never has accidents--he goes on the potty. Your granddaughter will start to cooperate once she's good and ready. Some kids are ready sooner...some later. Good luck!
Dear T.,
Aside from offering incentives like Denise suggested, I would put the potty in the bathroom or the kitchen, and have her sit there. If she tells you that she still doesn't have to go, :) open the faucet and let the water run :) she will go!!! oh she will go. Just make sure that you give her lots of water/juice whatever she likes and then 1/2 hr later you sit her down :)
She'll get there, she just needs more time.
Blessings
She is 2, she may not be ready.Give her a break. It is not fair to compare her to your day care kids. Calling her lazy is just rude.
She may not be ready yet. Give me more time--did you let her pick out her own pretty pants to wear? When she is ready-- Take her out of her pull ups, put on her pretty pants and then have lots of time to spend with her. Never be angry or negative--only positive and it is no big deal if she has an accident. She will do it when she is ready.
