also know that boys just take longer ...
we made the huge mistake of forcing training onto z b/c we were putting him in early three school and they required potty training. basically, what we'd trained him to do was hold his stuff during school.
FINALLY we did take away dipes, and he pooped in his undies for months. and honestly, he really didn't seem to mind. and eventually, he got to where he's doing it all in the toilet. and it's still a struggle b/c he just hates going to the toilet. pee is usually fine, but poop, MAN ... but he usually still gets in his one per day, and at this point, that's all i can ask for.
we have him in a dipe at night and now, at least half the nights/week he removes the dipe middle of the night and puts on undies and is dry. i'm going to let this go for a bit b/c we're due w/number 2 in april, and as long as he's undies overnight by then, that's fine. if after a month he hasn't asked to go just undies, i'll ask him...