I have 2 girls, one is 4 the other 20 month old, and I can already tell you potty training for just them is completely different. We started using pull ups on my older one because they fit her better (we weren't even in training mode yet.) The 20 mth old is in them now because she decided to keep taking off her diaper. I like Huggies. The sides pull apart so you can still change it like a diaper, but can also just pull down. Store brands might be good, I've just never tried them. I did when the girls were in diapers, and they weren't very soft (and some not very good at leaks). My now 4 year old did not even think about training to go potty until she was 2 1/2, but she was quickly trained. I think it's because of the wait. Basically we had the potty seat, and one morning she woke up dry, so I sat her on the potty until she went. I had books, stickers, markers and crayons in the bathroom because I was determined that she had to go, and eventually she did. Praise, praise, praise when they do! (Treats work too if you are okay with it!) When we were at home, she wore underpants (because she didn't want to get "Tinkerbell" or whomever wet or dirty), and reminded her to go. In no time she was done! My 20 month old has decided to try to train herself. She doesn't like wet or dirty diapers (a "sign" according to books). She doesn't like her pull ups, but we still use them. She still needs them, but goes to the potty several times a day. I've heard boys are different, I couldn't help you there. I do know some moms who got something called "peter potty" from One Step Ahead, and loved it. We also got something from One Step Ahead when we were trying to motivate the 4 year old to go. It's a potty seat and "ladder/step" in one. We love it! So, with all that said I hope it helps. Neither of my children showed any true "signs" (waking up dry from naps, lets you know when wet/dirty, shows interest in potty,) there's more, but I'm drawing a blank. Okay, so the 20 mth old did show some signs... I think a lot of that has to do with her big sister though! Good luck with it all, and just remember ... patience and praise! I think pampers and huggies sites also have some good tips and reward charts that you can try.