Potty Training a 2 1/2 Year Old #2 - Cincinnati,OH

Can you move the potty to the corner? Maybe it's a privacy thing. Bathrooms are very bright and exposed.

I may get some flak for this but I'm going to say it anyway. Does she think #2 is gross? Hopefully she is past the stage of 'wow, what a really neat toy, and it came out of my body!' Try making HER clean her underwear when she poops in them. Of course afterwards you will have to reclean the undies, and clean her up, BUT, from her opint of view, why should she go in the potty, going in her pants has absolutely NO negative affect on her! The best time to learn to clean up your own messes is when you are a child, and what better time to teach it than now? My second child had this same issue with going #2, and then I started having HIM dump the undies out in the toilet and then rinse...I only had to do it twice, because he didn't want to touch 'the yucky poop' I told him that I didn't want to touch it, either, so he should make sure it goes directly in the potty from then on! This also worked with my BFs son, she and I are the only ppl I know who have tried it, so as far as I know it has a 100% success rate, lol! I know nothing works for everybody, but it can't hurt to try :) Anyway, good luck!
~J.

R., I have to say that I totally agree with Jessica's post. They need to be responsible for their pottying and the clean up that goes along with the accidents. This is also the "Potty Whisperer's" philosophy. Do a search on her, she's FAB !!!! I know it may sound cruel, but, it is fool-proof. I don't believe this is cruel because very quickly children "get it" when it directly affects them, it's that whole cause and affect thing. Tell your daughter in advance that the next time you "choose" (because she IS choosing to go poop in her panties, it's obviously deliberate) to go poop in your pants YOU will be cleaning it up because it is your poop, not mommy's poop and I am done cleaning it up. Then as soon as she poops in her panties march her directly to the bathroom without talking to her, explaining to her, lecturing her - NO WORDS - NO EMOTION. Once in the bathroom ask her what you told her about what happens when she poops in her panties ? She will most likely resight it back to you word for word. And simply instruct her throughout the process without helping her in anyway. Let her struggle and cry, but, it should work for you. Most parents will say: Ohhhh, my child doesn't know any better. They DO know. They know more than we'll ever know they know !!! They are all little Einstein's. R., I wish you luck and keep us posted as to your daughter's pottying success.
A.

My oldest did this too. We tried rewards...no luck...then tried punishing...again no luck. Finally I decided to let him clean himself up after he dirtied his underwear. I put him in the dry tub with just his underwear on and gave him a wash cloth and ran the water for him. He was so grossed out (of course I had a mess to clean up after him but I decided if it worked it would be worth it). We did the same thing all over again the next day and again he was totally grossed out by it. By day 3 he went in the potty and has NEVER had an accident since (that was over a year ago). Maybe it will work for your little one too.

I am a mother of three grandmother of four. My suggestion is she will poop in the pot when she is ready. I do like the idea of making her clean her own pants though. I never thought of that being she is as young as she is. I have found that it wears out the mother and just aggravates the child to possible screaming fits. My granddaughter same age would go into her closet and poop her diaper and didn't mind wearing it at all. Evidently she decided either how bad it felt or smelled and now goes on her own.

My advice in addition to what everyone else has said would be to make sure she has seen you go potty. It is non-sense that she has no one to learn from since she is the only child. I'm sure you go #1 and #2 each day. Sit in the bathroom with her, you on the big potty, and her on the potty chair. We have a fisher price potty chair that makes music when you go and my 23 month daughter has been using it to go #2 since 15 months and is now fully potty trained even at night. She will tell me I am "good" for going in the potty. She might be able to hold it and know when she needs to go, but make sure she realizes that poopy belongs in the potty. I'd also sit her on the potty with a book. That always helped our very active girl who never wanted to sit still.

My daughter was the same way. One day while going #1 on the potty, I asked her to give me a "toot toot" then we'd be done. I told her, don't worry about #2, but try to toot toot. We did that for a loooooooong time. One day when she was trying to toot, a little #2 came out. She was excited by that and has gone #2 on there with no problem now ever since. I think she was worried it would hurt. I hope that helps.

Ugh, i feel your pain!! My son did the exact same thing and rewards didn't seem to matter to him. I let him continualy make a mess in his pants until one day it clicked and then there has been no looking back. In retrospect I think it scared him and hurt. You may look into a higher fiber diet, something to help it flow a little easier so she doesn't have to sit in the corner for 10 minutes.

My son is 2 1/2 as well and im jst now getting to the point when he will go #2 on the potty. I feel like u shouldnt give up because then the child is getting their way, and thats all they want. The reward system didnt work for us either as far as goin #2 in the potty, the books the videos nothing worked. Untill one day I told him that if he went #2 in the potty he could brush his teeth. Only because that is his favorite thing to do and would do it all day long. So maybe there is something that your daughter loves to do, tell her she can do that maybe. So that worked for one day then back to going #2 in his big boy undies.. Its frustrating I understand we all do. So i finally decided to take a different route some people may nt see it as good bt i had to tell him I was going to take his favorite toy away from him if he didnt #2 in the potty well he didnt so i took barney away. Needless to say he goes #2 on the potty more and more now.

Try having her run around without underwear. I did this with my son and he refused to poop without his underwear on, so he held it until he couldn't any longer and then went in the toilet. Also, once my kids pooped in the potty and were basically potty trained, which took about 3 days each, I started punishing them when they went in their underwear. Not right away, but after they'd gone about a week without accidents they were getting in trouble for it.

Atleast you realize that you shouldn't have reverted back to diapers. It will take longer this time because in the back of her mind she's going to think that if she has enough accidents, you'll bust out the diapers for her again. You can say there are no more diapers, but it's going to take a while for her to believe you.

I took a different tact with my daughter. She had no problem going #1 on the potty, but always asked for a diaper for #2. Rather than make a big deal out of it, I always asked her if she wanted to go on the potty, and when she said no, I let her go in a diaper. She would help me dump the #2 from the diaper into the potty, and then throw it in the trash. After a while she was tired of that, and she's been 100% potty trained for a while now. No tears, threats, or anything of the sort. She was in control of the situation, and it worked for us. Good luck!

Hi R.. I'm sorry, but i do not agree with alot of it. i ahve 3 boys, 1st boy i tried to force the potty issue on, he didn't train til 3 1/2, i didn't punish him , just drove myself crazy with trying to make him go where i thought he should be goin ( in the potty), boy 2, trained himself at 2 yrs, he had older brother to watch, and 2 older cousins ( all w/in 2-4 yrs his age). my 3rd lil boy who came later in life again has no one to which to learn from, had no interest in the potty, specially #2. I knew he would do it when he was ready. Sure there is a cut off point. But 2 1/2 is still a baby. If she is ready, fine, but why push her and punish her? encourage her, make sure Her potty is comfortable for her, that was lil boys biggest trouble, the toilet seat hurt his butt, he needed the lil one on the ground, not the type that fit over our toilet. Again remember, she will get it. potty training is like anything else children learn, some kids learn to walk at 10 months, some don't walk til they're 1. GL and God bless