Potty Training - Albuquerque,NM

Hi J.,
I just got through potty training my son (he was 2.5 when we started), so I feel for you.

It sounds like you have tried, "everything"... except being consistent.

Don't worry, she's, "ready." :)
Good luck!
T

If you could see me rolling my eyes at your dr. that's what you'd be seeing. There was an article a while back in the paper that said if your kids weren't potty-trained by ONE - you as a parent were LAZY! MY dr said those kids that are potty-trained by one live in the 3rd world & pee on a tree. I would definitely switch drs. He doesn't have a right to make you feel guilty or wrong for what is a HARD TO DO! There would not be so many articles & books written on this if it were easy. In fact some people make money on potty-training OTHER kids. So, enough of the rant - my daughter was over 3 when she started becoming successful at potty-training. I had tried everything -like you- with no success. I backed off, but still encouraged her. I'd ask her every hour if she needed to use the potty & that was about it. If she wanted to go, she did. But ya know - once she started, it was FAST. I left her in pull-ups at night for another month with a water-proof liner on her bed & she has had maybe 3 accidents (including the night). She's 4 1/2 now. Her brother is 2 & already using the potty a little bit. EVERY child is different. Please take the stress off yourself & remember she will NOT be in Kindergarten in diapers!

Ditto most of the comments! I'm on #3, and I'm curious what she'll do. I waited until the 3rd birthday for each of my other two. The first one ( a boy ) got the pee pee pretty quickly, but mostly because I was sure to take him into the potty every two hours and suggest he 'try.' Sure enough, if I waited 2 hours 15 minutes, he might have peed in his pants. Poop took a couple of months. My daughter, on the other hand, went from diaper to cute panties in one day on her birthday. Obviously, she was ready long before. Now, I have #3, and who knows what she'll do! She is 2 yrs. 3 months, and already seems to be paying attention to what's happening. Maybe I'll get an earlier training from her!

You need to switch doctors. All kids are on their own timeline. Just take care of her skin condition and don't push the potty training. It will happen when your daughter is ready. When she does it, keep praising her and it WILL happen someday. I am a Mom of a 5 & 7 year old and have talked to a lot of friends and people and seen many different ages potty train.

Bless your heart, I'm having the same problem with my 2 1/2 year old! Pull ups, rewards, begging, pleading, threatening - nothing seems to work! LOL My daughter will even go as far as changing her own pull up when it's wet! I put her in panties, but she just pees in them. I've let her run around naked, but she just pees in the floor - I feel like I have a puppy! So, I can definitely sympathize!! Hang in there - as the old saying goes, "This too, shall pass".

my advice is to get a different doctor. every child is different, and potty training struggles can really strain your relationship with your child. i had one not train til he was 4, and one at 2. if the skin issue is tolerable, i'd say be patient, let her do things at her own pace, and whatever you do, do not make it a power struggle with your child (trust me, i've been there). if your doc isn't supportive, find a new one.

J., I'm going to keep an eye on the comments you get back. I have the same problem and we are almost in the exact same boat. I have a daughter that will be three in August and my son just turned one. She is having a real hard time with potty training as well. It's even that I'm the same age as you and have been married to my husband for the same amount of time. Weird, but cool! Let me know what vicinity you are located in and maybe we could get together with the kids for a playdate since they are so close in age!

My oldest son was almost 4 when he trained. After struggling for nearly 2 years using every possible trick in the book, it happened almost overnight. The most valuable thing to me from the "Potty training in a day" book was the LOADS of letters from parents going "help, my child isn't trained yet!" - it made me feel not quite so desperate and alone and embarrassed. My daughter was 2, my next son (overly compliant in almost every aspect) did it in about 2 naked weeks at 2 1/2 in time for me to have 2 diaper free months before my daughter was born. Every child is different, but and just because most children are physically able to do it at her age, doesn't mean she is ready. I will say that the most important thing I learned from my oldest is to not let it ruin your relationship. It consumed us and I feel like I lost those years to something that would eventually resolve itself. My girlfriend, after she taught her 3 year old son the basics, let him choose each day whether he wanted to wear a pullup or underpants, telling him that if he were underpants, he needed to pee in the potty. It worked for her. Shortly after his 3rd b'day, he put away the pullups for good. Hang in there!!

Morning - i have a 3 year old too. Had NO interest in potty training (sounds like we have tried the same things). The advice i kept getting over and over was to talk about it, ask her if she needs to go - but other than that, let it go. this week - for some random reason - she has started going on the potty. and at times, she does it by herself. We went from refusal to doing it herself. Granted, it doesn't happen everytime - but progress is good. Be patient and my personal opinion is, don't let e doctor tell you what your child should be doing about this - all children are different.

Oh and have you heard of the Prudence potty training book/dvd? I'm not sure that had anythign to do with is - but i bought it and just read it once. set it on the table. she picks it up every once in a while and wnats me to read it.

Hope this helps in some way. Just hang in there - it will happen soon!!

I had five boys and one girl. Everyone told me that girls trained early and boys late, but it was my experience that it was just the opposite. But I actually think that it is a personality trait, not a gender one. My daughter was three years and two months old when she trained - and not because I didn't try - just like you did. Basically, for her, it was a decision. Though I had done everything I could think of, nothing worked until she walked up to me one day and said, "Okay, Mommy, I'm ready now. I want to wear the big girl panties and go in the potty." She never had an accident or anything, just turned it off like a switch. Maybe your daughter is like that. Have you told her that the skin problem will get better if she doesn't use a diaper? Three-year-olds are amazing in the amount of faith they have in what you tell them. Good luck!

You answered your own question by saying.......and I quote, "My problem is that I can't get her to potty train." That's absolutly correct, you can't get her to potty train. She will go when she's ready, I promise you she won't be wearing diapers in college.

We have four kids - and I continue to swear by the DVD, "Potty Power" at www.amazon.com It saved our lives ;)

Best,
C.

If you still need help in Sept, there's a class here that might help with more ideas:
http://www.bodymindandspiritabq.com

I would back off for awhile if I were you. The more you make it a power struggle, the more miserable you both will be. The ONLY thing I would do is leave her naked whenever you're home and every time YOU go to the bathroom, take her with you. Make it everyone's potty time. But keep it casual and don't discuss it more than that. Every potty training family has accidents and messes to clean, so expect that. And one final thought I always share is to stay away from pullups. They are diapers. Get cloth/reusable training pants. If a kid doesn't feel wet and uncomfortable, there's less motivation to learn. Good luck!

I have no experience in this yet...a lady told me about a book that worked for her daughter. Something called Potty Train in a day. It actually worked in one day. That is all you do all day long though. Good luck.

Sounds like she just isn't ready yet.
Just keep encouraging her and make it a regular routine
everyday if possible. Whether she has to go or not every so many hours or so make a routine of going to the bathroom.