Potty Training - Perry,MI

I hate to say this, but that is pretty young. I don't think she is really ready. Maybe when she is closer to three, she's not even two yet!!! She'll let you know when she is ready, otherwise, plan on her being diapers for awhile yet.

First, I think she is too young. That said, the new mamapedia could have alot of good thoughts to review. I have been on mamasource a long time and there are ALOT of recommendations about potty training. Good luck and congrats on the new sweetie.

Hello S., I am a mother of 3, all in there 20's and having their own children. So I have been in your shoes. The best advice I can offer is to allow your daughter to be the boss on this one. There are 3 things we cannot force a toddler to do, eat, sleep, and eliminate. We can direct them, but that is all. One can lead a horse to water, but cannot make them drink. It is the beginning of maturity when babies want a voice in their own lives. Power trips in this area are never going to be won by the parent. The more you allow your daughter to use the potty as a way to rule the house, the more every day life will be stressful. Relax and allow her to take her time. Keep everything positive. Encourage her, reward her, and celebrate her successes with the potty training. Buy party favors at the dollar store and blow the noise makers and cheer when she goes pee. Try not to give any attention for failures or accidents. Simply say "oops" and clean it up. Or she will have the upper hand knowing she has such power over your emotions and will use it to gain more power in the future. Remember, negative attention is still desired attention to a toddler. They will seek any kind of attention as this is the most important thing in their lives. So removing attention when behavior is undesirable is the best form of disipline that you can use. Turn you back and walk away from bad behavior, including intentional accidents. Don't talk to her, look at her, simply walk away. Your daughters little body will need another year before she can be capable of having full control over her eliminations. Hope this advice is helpful. Congrats on the new baby.

Hi S.. Have you tried the bracelets that are timed? They go off every 20 minutes and you make a game of having to drop everything to run to potty. Even if they cannot go, just try and then wash hands. This will teach her to try, and also to learn to stop playing when she feels it. Remember if you drop everything she will remember to do this to to avoid later accidents. I know, easier said than done. LOL
I also have a great Potty board game available on my website (like a treasure hunt) that makes it fun to go more often. It also keeps them going when they are older before outings or long care rides. Good Luck!
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You can also go to library and check out Potty Books to ready while she is trying. My kids loved Bear in the Big Blue House "Potty Time" DVD. Has potty, hygiene, going to bed skits. Excellent! I recommend you rent it. : )

I don't believe you can. When she is ready, she will. 22 mos? I'm sorry but that really seems far too early without good reason, and just because another baby's on the way is not valid reason. That would fall under the "What you want" category and not "when she's ready for it" (in more ways than one) category. This isn't about you and your convenience. When she has a good reason, she'll do it. But let her grow up some more. At 2 years old, they don't have a clue about things.

Consistency is the trick. You also need to find what motivates her. When I was training my boys I made a huge fuss if they peed or pooped on the potty, a big song and dance (yes there was a potty song, high fives etc). If they did not do anything I would just very calmly tell them good job for trying. They loved the whole song and dance routine. Carry on with the stickers too if she likes them, I think reward charts are great! I also made sure to put my boys on at the same times each day to become more routine and something they expected. I always put them on after meals and before and after naptime, and before we went out in the car. At first there can be a lot of reminding but they soon got it. I think when your daughter starts crying you could calmly say to her ok you can get off now but I'll put you back on in 10 minutes, it will give her a warning of what is coming and also let her know that she will have to go back on if she doesn't go when you initially ask her.
Both my boys were trained quite early, one was 2 years and the other was 21 months (this is the age they were consistently dry and independantly asking to use the potty).
It can be done but it may not be easy at first. If you really want it just stick at it. Good luck :)

I am sorry, but I do not think you can force her to your will or when you are ready. This is all her, not you.

Potty training is a huge step for little ones. If you push it too much, you can backfire things dramatically in all areas - especially emotionally.

When you daughter is ready to do this, you will know. She will have all the common signs and they will be quite clear to you. I have had a few friends try this and it may work for a time, but they find themselves back at square one when the child stresses over something small (and they do stress just as we do.), and they revert very easily back to diapers. A baby is coming into your family - I would not push it until your daughter is comfortable with the situation, emotionally. Especially as this is a huge change when you will be busier with the new baby and it's needs.

Be patient. It will happen.

(After reading the person with the 'timed bracelets'; I wonder how this will teach her to 'feel' when she has to go - you are asking her to go, but she truly is not establishing the feeling - especially when they are wet in clothing - that alone sends more of the message. But again, when they are ready to do this.)

That sounds exactly like my daughter! People would talk about forcing their kids to sit on the potty. Well, that wasn't even possible with my daughter. She would kick and scream...unless it was on her terms, just like you said.
I did try putting her in regular underwear and letting her wet herself. This didn't work automatically, but it probably laid some ground work. I would just keep her in areas of the house with "easy to clean" floors;)
Then we started giving her candy whenever she went on the potty. This worked for us because my daughter LOVES candy.
But, I don't think the candy would have worked unless she was ready, which took a while. Once she really started going, she was good - hardly any accidents. She was potty trained around 2-1/2 years old.
I had "started" teaching much sooner than that. Probably about the time that you are with your child. We had another kid on the way too. Plus, she gave us all the signs - stayed dry at night and would tell us when she went potty in her diaper. She wasn't trained by the time her brother was born...a while after that. But, it doesn't hurt to keep trying. If you don't act like it is a big deal, they won't either.
I have only potty trained one kid so far...two more to go! But, I do know there is no forcing or rushing, you just have to wait until they are ready, and be ready when they are.
Those women who claim to potty train their kids by 16 or 18 months...doesn't potty train the kids - they train themselves to know when the kids are going to go. I don't know about you, but I don't have time for that!;)
Sorry...I wrote more than I expected;)
Good luck!

Most children are not ready for consistent potty-training at this age and pushing it can start a long battle you don't need. I'd let her lead at this age.

I know this sounds messy, but try to put her in real undies. She may have some accidents but she will know the feeling, pullups are so absorbant. Also, maybe try setting a timer for every 20 min, to have her try to go potty. Good luck. ( My first 2 our 16 mon. a part and were both in diapers at the beginning---yes, you want to get your first potty trained!) Hope this helps a little!

I had the same problem with my daughter. I am pregnant too which is why we really wanted to start. We didnt do the chart, we just gave her a little trinket each time she went. Pull ups did not help because she treated them like a diaper. So I just got fed up. She would go on her own, but not if I asked. So I took her to the store and let her pick out her favorite panties, she loved the dora ones and then I just stuck her in them and told her not to make them icky. She, strangely, understood it and started going to the potty! She had maybe 3 accidents on the floor, but all in all it was done in few days after we did the panty thing.

We also watched "Elmo's Potty Time" alot. Good luck! Hang in there!

I have totally been in your shoes. We fought and fought with our son at around that age and finally decided the fight wasn't worth it. We gave up. I kept asking him every day if he had to use the potty if he went we praised him and gave hime treats, if he threw a fit I just let it go. Every so often we'd try to go without diapers for a couple of days if it seemed that he wasn't interested at all we'd go back to the diapers. A couple of months ago (he'll be 3 at the end of next month) he finally got it and hasn't had an accident since! I really think that when they're ready, they're ready. Good Luck!

S.,

You just have to wait for her to be interested in doing it. Keep being consistent and offer the treats. She will get it on her own, you just have to be patient. If she hasn't gotten more consistent by the time the baby comes, you should probably place it on hold until the baby is about six months old because that is a huge thing for a 2 year old and it could stall her. Good luck and Mazel Tov on your new baby!