Potty Training - Hudson, WI

If you do tv - you could try potty training DVDs for kids. My daughter loved hers, it gives them an intro (gives you some ideas), and lets her see other kids using the potty. Potty Power is what we watched, I don't know of local libraries have it, but I have rented it from an other library out of state.

Hi there, Leave her alone....she will do it. I have two kids...8 & 4......one day she'll just do it. They all do it at different times. Some kids do it at 18 months....some at 4 years. Take the attention off of her not doing it so she doesn't see it as a big deal. If you are going to try a method like nakedness or reward system you need a week or two of consistancy....not just a day or two. My mom always said.....Remember...she won't go to kindergarden in diapers......she'll do it. B. p.s. Also....you'll look back at this in a few years....when you have much more stressful situations and think "that was a piece of cake compared to this!"

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RELAX...Both my girls were almost 4 before they were trained and they are both well adjusted girls. Never heard of the naked thing..just seems wierd to me! Maybe a potty book woulld help?? Good Luck!

Hi C.! Some of these women need to get ahold of their manners! Coming down on you for hating germs is ridiculous. Relax and give yourself a break. Who in their right mind wants to clean up pee constantly! You are doing fine and there is nothing wrong with you like some of these people are implying.
Wait a couple of months and try again on a smaller scale. Put her in underwear and have her sit on the potty every half hour. It may work, it may not.
Don't worry about people comparing. I had a friend who always tried to beat me to the punch at potty training. She would bring her kids to my house in undies and they would poop all over my nice furniture and the toys and BOOKS and my friend would just sit and talk about how young they potty trained. Some mom's don't have a clue so ignore them!
Hugs!!!

It does not sound like she is ready even though you are. You need to get your own desires set off to the side in this case. Potty training is a misnomer. It is really potty learning and it is much more complicated for some children so stop comparing her to other kids. My son showed a ton of interest early but when he couldn't figure out how to make the muscles relax at the right time then he got frustrated and quit. He tried on and off over the next 2 years but didn't get it figured out until 46 months of age. Turns out he also has sensory processing disorder which made feeling the necessary sensations very difficult. In the beginning I was endlessly frustrated, I questioned my parenting skills, I let my emotions get involved, and felt frustrated that so many people claim it is easy. I finally wisened up and started studying my child and what he needed rather than following a set method from a book that just seemed to backfire.

Stop and think about all the things a child needs to have control of to be successful with the potty. They need to want to have dry pants. They have to be able to feel the various sensations and be conscious of then. They need to ba able to judge those sensations to figure out if it is time to try sitting down. Once on the potty they have to ba able to control the muscles that release the pee and some kids are too interested in playing to sit and relax for very long (reading special books while they sit can be useful). And so many emotions can easily get wrapped up in the process, disappointing our parents, disappointing ourselves, boredom, srustration, shame, embarassment, excitement, joy, etc. and little kids don't always know how to process all the physical and emotional elements of this and parents often fail to recognize the role that plays. I know it took me awhile to recognize and understand my son and his learning process. And every kid is different which is why there are so many methods and so many books on the subject. And unfortunately even with all that info, know one can tell anyone what method will work with which child. Frustrating but reality.

My suggestion, the bare butt method really works best when you are outside in summer. So wait for a couple months and then plan to try again. During the next couple months skip all potty schedules, do not pressure her or ask her to sit on the potty. You can read books with her about potty (Dr. Sears has a good kids book about growing up and potty learning) or play pretend with dolls or toys like the Potty Elmo. Then when summer arrives, spend as much time as possible outside with a bare butt and a potty nearby. If she squats to go outside then talk with her about what she feels and how did she make the pee or poop come out. Get her thinking about and recognizing the signals.When inside, switch to a cloth diaper or thick cloth training undies and keep the potty chair next to where she is playing.

You can give yourself a break...

We had the same thing when our daughtet turned 3. Everyone was asking isn't she pottytrained yet??? GRRRRRR. We had her 95% potty trained when she turned 2 and then she completely quit on us. Peed in her pants for a week straight. So, we gave up. Went BACK TO DIAPERS>>>>>LOL. I know everyone says you shouldn't do that. So when she was about 3 1/2 she really wanted princess and my little pony underwear. So we went to the store and let her pick them out and she pretty much was potty trained. Of course, she had a few accidents that first week but since then I can count on 1 hand how many more she's had.

Be patient. I wouldn't worry or get too bent up about this until she turns 4. About once a week just ask her if she's ready. And I personally would NOT do pull-ups. I think that is where we went wrong the first time we trained her. They are too much like diapers. You can get thicker "training pants" that acually have the plastic built in over the top. "Less mess."

The naked thing is a really good idea too. We did that the first time we trained our daughter.

If you think she's not feeling the urge consider taking her to the chiropractor for an adjustment. IF she's out of allignment, it may be causing her to not realize what she's doing.... (Happened to a daycare kid of mine.)

Good luck. But don't stress. She's perfectly in the normal range for potty training.

Hi C.,

I've only had one child in 30 years that I didn't have potty trained by age 3. I think it helps that I have several little munchkins going to the bathroom, and they all think they need to be there, so it helps them want to go, too. I, now, have a little guy who's about 21 mos. who wants to sit on the potty, and I have to bribe him to get him off of it after he's sat there forever, and hasn't went yet. My children all learn on the big potty, maybe you could try this since you are the one she sees the most going. Ask her if she wants to be like Mommy. I know a lot of people take them potty every 30 minutes, but I only take them about every 90 minutes....going too often makes them get tired of it really fast....it takes all the fun out of it. I wouldn't put big girl pants on her right at first either...the first few days just take her to the potty every so often, and work your way up....don't try to push too hard...just be consistent. I know a lot of parents think it has to be their idea, but I feel like you have to give them a little push in the right direction. Just don't be too hard on her, or she will revolt. Be firm, but don't get angry....let her know you are serious without too much pressure. Maybe give her a reward before naptime to look forward to if she does a good job...maybe a treat she really likes or an activity she likes doing, and then again at the end of the day. Also, once she does get it, don't be surprised if a few weeks later she goes thru a little recession, some do and some don't. Don't make a big deal out of that either...usually they are just looking for attention, and if you give it to them, it will just make it worse. Just let her know that it's not acceptable, and let her know that she won't get to do special things if she keeps it up. Since she's already three you might not have to worry about this.

I hope this helps...Good Luck!!!

C.

http://www.thepottytrainer.com/FAQ.pdf

Try reading this info......

good luck!!

I would stop putting the disposable diapers on her except at night because she will never experiences the dampness that she will have in real cotton panties. She will not like feeling wet and will eventually run to the potty chair.It might take a few accidents before she gets it & patience on your part, but when it runs down her legs and her socks get wet she will let you know! Hopefully then she will understand what the potty- chair is for. Tell her to run to the potty chair when she feels it coming and then she won't get wet!
My children are all grown up now, but this is what worked for me.

First, please stop feeling guilty. Second, some kids are just not ready... you may have to wait longer. Keep trying to encourage her to sit on the potty, but don't worry if she still needs diapers. My son was 3 years 8 months old when he was finally trained, it was a long slow process, but he eventually got it. My daughter will turn 3 in June and we are trying, encouraging and celebrating the successes, but I'm not going to stress about it just because "other" people think she should be trained. It sounds like you are doing what you need to do!

We have not had the problems you have, but when we went to undies we NEVER went back (except at bedtime). We had a "set-back" after about 2 months so I bought cloth diaper covers (plastic undies) and our son had to wear those over his real undies. This helped with the mess, but still let him have that icky wet feeling. This did the trick for us and we only had to use them for a day or two.

Good luck.

Hi C.,

I had great success with the book "How to toilet train in less than a day"--with all three of my older children, and plan on using it again for my 2 year old in the next couple months. Read the book, realize it was first printed 30 years ago and is a bit outdated, but use the techniques to offer opportunities to the child to use the toilet, while "teaching" a doll to pee in the toilet. It works like a dream, my daughter and two sons were trained in 3 hours or less, no stickers, no trophies, no endless sitting them on the toilet for 30 minutes at a time. Pick it up online, or I think a lot of bookstores still carry it. I've given this book out to many friends, it works!
C.

Just hang in there! Both my kids trained "late" - over the age of 3. I know many kids that were trained early that continued to have accidents for a LONG time. Including one little boy who is now 5 1/2 and regularly has accidents. He was trained a year before my daughter. Both my kids were potty independant from day one - they knew when they had to go. There is a difference between training yourself to take them to the bathroom regularly and reminding them constantly. And them completely taking charge of their bathroom needs. There is the rare kid that does it totally indpendantly very, very young. But generally, they need a lot of support.

For both my kids, I hung a carrot out there (when you go potty, then you can XXXX - for my son, it was chewing gum, for my daughter it was go to the rides at the mall of america). And I encouraged them, but never forced. Don't worry - they won't go to kindergarten in diapers. And my son who is now 8, is working way, way beyond his grade level in school. So it has nothing to do with intelligence.

Anyway, try not to stress about it! It will happen! :) Good luck!

taking time out of her busy playing schedule to go potty has no real rewards for her. Making her stay on it all day isn't a good thing either, it is like a time out because she knows you are getting frustrated. Having her sit on the potty every half hour won't be much different then sitting on it all day. So what are you doing right? Rewards, books and videos are great and do work. With my granddaughter I bought a m & M dispenser and used that as the reward. One piece if she tried, a few pieces if she actually went potty. Then don't keep sitting her on the potty ever half hour. Try and if she doesn't go then wait a hour or so and try again. You know about what times you have to change her diapers or what times she goes pee on the floor so use those as times to try. When she is sitting give her a special book to look at to help her relax, make it fun by singing a made up potty song and make it a really positive time for her. Next if she has a accident don't yell at her, it will make her want to wear diapers because she didn't get into trouble when she had them on. Use panties with rubber pants over them but when you take them off make sure you stand her in the tub or somewhere if they are full of pee you won't get it all over. They are really uncomfortable wet so she won't want to stay in them. Once it is a positive thing and with her age it should go really fast as long as she gets a lot of praise.

Most of all don't get upset if she isn't potty trained at 3, kids do things on their own schedule, it doesn't make you a bad mom if she isn't trained already. Chances are if you take the pressure off her and off yourself it will happen a lot faster.

First of all, relax. How many adults do you know that still wear diapers? I'm guessing none. So therefore, no matter how "old" your child is when they become potty trained, it will happen! You also have to realize that accidents will happen...even after she is potty trained it won't be perfect for months. I would make sure that she is on a pretty strict schedule for drinks / potty. Every time she gets a drink, send her to the toilet 20 minutes after. You can leave a diaper on her at first if that will help you relax. If she doesn't go, that is ok. You just have to keep trying and remember that you are not a bad mom!

OK, I will put this because it worked for me, But don't want to hear any criticism. I too was a stay at home mom and did the cloth diapers, I have two "tricks": Put her on a toilet that she can't reach the floor, if she can then make sure she can't reach anything around her, now don't let her off till she goes, Yes I know you may want to make sure you have nothing on the stove and no one coming visit. Be strong it will pay off. Number 2, people have criticized me for this, but it works, if she refuses to go and you know she hasn't gone and there is pee in there waiting to come out try running water down her back. I used cold water, and she thought it was funny, and to e peed every time, but warm water may work well to and relax her too. Just remember it is for her own good, and be strong don't let it get the best of you. Let us know how it goes......

"Training underwear" might be a good option for you. They are thicker and more absorbent than regular underwear. If she has an accident, you may still have to change her clothes, but you won't end up with a big puddle on the floor. If you are going to be out and about, you could put plastic pants over the training underwear. Gerber makes both the plastic pants and the training underwear; Hanna Andersson makes training underwear. (I have even heard of moms putting 2 pairs of training underwear on, with the outside pair being a larger size, for extra absorbency.

You sound very stressed out. It is completely OK to "shelve" potty training for a month or two and come back to it when YOU are ready. Consistency is key in potty training, so you, as the mom, need to be in the right mindset and have the strength to keep plugging along. You have to just pick a "method" and stick with it, then your daughter knows what to expect. It might take several months for her to be potty trained. We have been potty training for about 5 months now. We have good days and some not so good days. It's a very long process. You can't have a bad day or two and then throw up your hands and put diapers back on her. It's going to be stressful. There are going to be messes, and accidents, and clothing changes. I don't know of a sanitary or germ-free way to potty train!

My two cents? When YOU are ready and in it for the long haul, put her in training underwear, all day, every day--even when you leave the house. (Of course, you may still need a pull-up at night.) I think she knows that if you get frustrated enough, you will put a diaper back on her--this is very convenient for her. Set a timer and every hour you go potty and encourage her to come in the bathroom with you. Just like her, even if you don't feel like you have to go, you still have to sit on the potty and "try". ;-) Kids don't like to be singled out, and they don't like to be left out. If you take hourly potty breaks, she might join you. If she doesn't have to go, no biggie. Don't push it. If she goes in her pants, don't make a big deal out of it, but have her help you clean it up--undress and redress herself, rinse her undies in the sink. Keep extra underwear and pants right in the bathroom.

Ultimately, it is up to her whether or not she uses the potty. But it is up to you to set clear and consistent expectations and consequences. You can make her choice of not using the toilet be not-so-pleasant by keeping her out of diapers and having her assist with clean-up. Good luck!

P.S. I saw your post about cloth diapers for you son. I didn't see his age, but have you thought of Elimination Communication (EC), at least part-time with him? He would be using the potty and this might make his sister interested, too. Sounds crazy? I thought so, too, when I first heard about it. But I read up on it--my son has been using a potty chair since he was 11 months old (a Baby bjorn little potty). He is 16 months old now, and he can sign "toilet" and often lets us know when he goes. He is on a potty schedule and some days we only have 2 or 3 wet (cloth) diapers.

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C.,

I understand your frustration as my twins will be 3 and 1/2 next month and I think that maybe just yeserday we conquered potty training. My kids "got it" for so long...this kid goes on the potty, mommy and daddy go on the potty, Put pee in the potty, keep my pull-up dry, etc. They understood it all, yet continued to pee in their pull-ups! I've heard that you shouldn't scold them for peeing in their pull-ups, just praise them when they put pee in the potty.(Now, this helps with twins...) I would praise one so much when they did use the potty, including calling their grandparents and THEY got to tell them. They were so excited - they would just try to go in and "push" it out so they could call!
Don't let others make you feel like a bad parent for not having her potty trained yet! People in glass houses...
Good luck to you!
J.

First off – Who cares what other people say, the only thing that matters is your daughter, I’ve never been one to give in to peer pressure and I don’t plan on having my children do that either.

My son will be 3 next weekend and he too shows no interest in potty training, though everyone is pushing me to get it done. I just tell them he is an individual and he will do it when he is ready to do it. Not every child learns the same and just because 1 child gets trained at 1-1/2 does not mean that will be that way for mine. I am going to work harder at it now that he will be 3, but I am not going to force the issue, when he is ready he will do it.

For a lot of children, potty training can become a power struggle. You can't force her to use the toilet, any more than you can force her to eat what you want her to. She knows you want her to use the toilet, and so she, being a typical 3-y.o., doesn't want to do what you want. People tried to give me a hard time about my daughter too. We had some friends whose daughter was the same age as ours. They started trying at age 2, we didn't force it. Both girls decided around age 3 that they were going to start using the potty. Guess which household had more stress, and more messes over it?

I suggest making the potty available to her, and not saying another word about it. If she uses the potty, much praise is in order. When she doesn't, just change her diaper (or pull-up, or cloth trainer) and go on about your day. It will happen.

Let me first start by saying that I loathe potty training! I have 4 kids and it's really really hard for me for the very same reasons it's hard for you. I always wait until the child is very ready to train. Here's what I've learned over the years. You as mom can train and guide your little one, but you CAN'T make them pee or poop on the toilet no matter how angry you get. Soooooooo......take a deep breath and tell yourself that your daughter WILL learn to potty train and this won't go on forever!
My suggestion is that you DO NOT buy any more diapers, unless they are for nite time. Nite time training is different and she may still need them for night time. I would make it clear to her that she's a big girl and she's going to wear big girl panties from now on. She will have lots of accidents, but you need to be patient and give her more time. Try your hardest not to get angry with her when she has an accident. It's too much pressure. I would just really praise her for even trying to sit on the potty. Also, continue to give her rewards just for trying. She's got to get the connection between having that feeling to go and then going to the potty. Even though it's really hard when you're frustrated - try to smile at her and be positive during this time. I wish you the best of luck!!!

C.,

"I have" potty trained 4 boys in my experience as a mother. The best advice I can give you is to let your child lead! I refused to have two in diapers - so my oldest I forced to train just before he turned 3. As a result it was a power struggle and he was accident prone until the age of 7. My second, we checked out the book "potty training in a day" - published in 1972. We tried this one morning. He was not ready. Two months later, he asked for underwear and was COMPLETELY independent from that day on. (He was 28 months old.) My third, never really had any interest. We did get him out of diapers, but had problems with him until he was almost 8! I did try the potty training in a day method with him, but he really never felt using a toilet was a priority - once again, I think it was because I wanted to be done with diapers - it wasn't his decision. So with our last one, who just trained this month - I just waited. When he was announcing that he was "using" his diaper and asking to be changed right afterward - HE WAS READY! We made a deal to wear "big boy pants" until lunch. He had one accident immediately - hated the way it felt. He was fine until we put the diaper on. The next day we went a bit longer. The next day we said he could do it all day - and he did. The point is, you can't make them train. This is one power struggle you will lose and it could be YEARS of frustration for you. Just let it go! You tell the people who ask - that SHE hasn't decided to train - which is the truth. She will eventually. The bigger a deal it is to you, the more she will resist. Stay positive and encouraging and just tell her that she will use the potty one day soon. Mental suggestion does work!

C.,
As others have said, don't stress out about this. I've heard it said that no kid ever goes to Kindergarten in diapers, so you definitely have time for her to decide she wants to do this.

That said, I'll just share what we did. I have two girls now almost 4.5 and just over 3. My 4.5 yo has Down syndrome and I had heard not to even try with her until she was around 4. Plus, then I thought I could do both girls together, which is what I did.

We used the 3-day method. Did it just after Thanksgiving last year. Basically, plan to spend a full three days at home focusing on nothing except potty training. There is a lot of information out there about how to go about it, but the way it's laid out and the way I did it was to actually throw away all the diapers on the morning of the first day, so the child knows, and you know, there is no going back. Of course you can build this up as much as you want to beforehand, and I might recommend you get some videos - we had one with the Bear in the Big Blue House, but I know there are others people say the kids really like.

Anyway, that morning we threw away the diapers. I had two little portable potty seats we put in the living room, because that was where we were planning to spend all our time. But wherever is good for you that the child can get to easily. The big phrase we used was - You have to keep your panties dry! Keep saying it over and over. When there is an accident, you have her touch her panties and ask if she kept her panties dry? Reminder her it's her job to keep her panties dry.

Then, you push the liquids! Whatever she likes, juice, soda, special treat liquids - stuff you don't usually buy. Just keep giving it to her! Once she starts refusing to drink, you can give jello which is also a liquid. Then do the timed routine of putting her on the potty every 20 minutes. If/when she has an accident you act very disappointed. I have read where it is advised to have the child clean up, but I didn't do that. I recorded how they did, and gave stickers and made a big deal out of it when they did go. My almost (at the time) 3 yo was having some good success by mid-way through the second day. Eventually you want to move the potty near the bathroom so they have to think ahead and "run" to go when they have to. We always just reenforced having them "listen to their body". After the third day, the almost 3 yo was pretty much trained. Her sister that has Down syndrome wasn't very impressed about any of it (video, stickers, special fluids) and so we struggled with her for about a week, and then all of a sudden, she just decided she wanted to use the potty. For her (strangely enough) high fives were what she most responded to. We also read a lot of books while they were sitting on the potty (and still do if we are expecting a #2, or going out somewhere and we need them to go before we leave the house). That first few days I had them sit on the potty and watch their favorite movies too (while pushing the liquids). Then I made a big deal when they went, although they really had no choice since they were sitting right there on the pot (ha!).

As far as at night. The book I read recommended not going back to diapers or pullups at night either (we threw away all the diapers, remember?) so what they said was. Put them on the potty before bed. Wake them up 30 minutes after they have fallen asleep and have them sit on the potty. Then wake them again and have them sit right before you go to bed. I did this, and sometimes it worked, but mostly they were just very sleepy and so I'd have to "steady" them while they sat there, and they really didn't go much, if at all. I stopped that after a few days. Also, you'll want to limit liquids after supper. One other thing you can try is waking them up a bit early (maybe 30 minutes earlier than usual) and having them go then. I think I read most accidents happen right before they really wake up. As far as the sheets/bedding. I bought some very cheap moisture-proof mattress covers (less than $10 at Target). Bought 4, because we have two beds, so two for each bed. Then we also had two sets of sheets for each bed. Put one mattress cover on, then a set of sheets and then another mattress cover and the second set of sheets. That way, if there is an accident during the night, you just have to peel off the top layer of both sheets and cover, then she can go right back to sleep.

Good luck! And don't hesitate to contact me if you have any questions!

C.- I can only respond to part of your post. My son turned 3 yrs old last month, and he is about halfway pee-trained, and all the way poop-trained. I think the reason he is poop-trained and not pee-trained is because I put absolutely no pressure on him to get poop-trained, absolutely no rewards/praise or punishments/scoldings. I just made it be a total non-issue. With the pee-training, I started out being relaxed and easy on it, and then when he started to "get it", I started in on praise and rewards, and it back-fired. I think one of the problems is the idea that we're supposed to "train them." Even if only positive incentives are used, it still just turns it into a power struggle. Which is what I suspect is going on with you and your daughter by now. If you make it a non-issue, she will see that whether she uses the potty or not has no impact on you, and she might quit using the not-using-the-potty as a way to rile you up. Of course, I'm just guessing here; that is my best guess.

Oh and P.S. I HATE the bathroom stuff too. It's not all germs, but anything bathroom related. I can't stand to clean a bathroom, or use a gas station bathroom. I don't even like to use the shower in the posh-est hotel ever. So it was really hard for me not to get totally and completely grossed out by having pee all over the floor and then he misses the toilet even when he is using it sometimes, and there's the not-getting-it-tucked-down issue which leaves clothes soaked with urine even when there's a diaper on. YUCK!!! I knew I was going to struggle worse with the poop, and I was right, I gag when I have to clean out the little potty bowl, but I had already decided that I wasn't going to let my son see how aggravated I get about bodily fluids etc. I don't want him to be uncomfortable with his body's natural processes. So I try not to say anything and I try not to gag, and I try not to make faces. I try not even to say "uh-oh" when he has an accident.

Oh and I just couldn't take the constant accidents with underpants, so my son is back in pull-ups and I've just told myself to not get hung up on when he ever might be done wearing them. (sigh)

Hang in there.

Have you considered that your issues are what's holding her up? You said you hate germs with 3 exclamation points. Did you know that urine is actually a sterile substance? If you are constantly telling her by your actions or reactions that going potty, or cleaning it up, is disgusting, she's going to be less likely to think it's ok. I am currently potty training my newly 2 year old daughter and we make a big deal for each other when we go- lots of cheering, checking it out in the potty, etc. This has been the best thing for her. She is so proud to show me her "prize" in the toilet. Also, if you're buying cloth diapers for your son, get the 1 size ones so you can put them on your daughter too. She will get used to the feeling of being wet and that can help children be ready too. Good luck!

Hi C.

The only thing I can say is you need to put her in underwear and put plastic covers on over them . Let her have accidents if she does not want to go on the potty . The one thing is you can not get upset with her when she does it . Other wise she will go and hide and do it and that is not good . You need to just relax when working with her . You sound stressed out and that is not helping her . Mabey your sister in-law can help you out with the training since her little guy is trained . Never hurts to ask .
Good luck

Sorry, I just finished this and then saw that you didn't want any more responses.

C., I so feel for you. Isn't it amazing the levels of frustration that our children can bring us to? Before kids, they didn't even MAKE this kind of frustration!!!

I hear you saying that your frustration doesn't really come from what your daughter does or doesn't do as much as from what people say about it. I want to tell you that 18 years of parenting has been, for me, a continuous effort of moving away from caring what others thought. The less I can care about that, the happier mama I am. This is your daughter. Are these people who ask you about her potty training changing her diapers? Is she peeing on their floor? Are they in ANY way affected by her not being trained? Then why should they care?

I have potty trained 8 children. The next one up is 2 1/2 and doesn't show even the slightest interest. For all I know, it may be another year. I had some train completely before they were 2. I had some who were well beyond 3. I have tried, like you, to be patient until they "let me know they were ready." Sometimes I lost patience and began, like you, to try everything in the book. The only difference it ever made was that I got more frustrated because now I was really trying. Whenever I went back to the diapers and just "gave up" for the time being, I was so much more at peace.

I haven't read your other responses. You may get some good advice for something you can try that won't stress you out like this. But if not, I wouldn't keep going through method after method just to try to find the magic one that works. Ultimately, mothering is about being a happy mom for a child who makes you feel that way. (actually it's not about that at all, but it's more about that than it is about pleasing anyone outside your family).
So if I were you, I would just love that little girl, focus on what she IS learning to do right now, and enjoy your days with her. You will be surprised at how soon this will be a very faint memory and you will be dealing with "big girl" stuff. And she will have been potty trained for a VERY LONG TIME by then:)

C.,
You might try a variation on the naked method. Use an egg timer set at 30 minutes intervals. When it goes off gate her in the bathroom without pants, tell her to call you when she's done and leave her line of site (stay close enough to hear if she starts doing something you don't want her to, like turning on the tub faucet).

I had a similar problem with my son when my daughter was born. He finally admitted he wanted to be a baby like his sister and get all the attention. I agreed and told him I'd treat him EXACTLY like his baby sister. About 40 minutes of wearing one of her cloth diapers and having to take a morning nap as well as an afternoon one and he informed me he no longer wanted to be a baby and we haven't had a "deliberate" accident almost a year.

T