Potty Training - Hopewell Junction,NY

Updated on March 22, 2011
P.C. asks from Hopewell Junction, NY
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Hi Moms!!
I have a 3 year, 3 month old daughter whom I have tried to potty train over and over and have been completely unsuccessful!
I wish I tried it when she was 18 months bc I have heard that it works well at that age bc they are not in the "NO!" stage yet.
Anyway, I had tried when she turned 2 and she had no interest at all and screamed with even the slightest suggestion. I tried again last summer when she was 2 1/2 bc summer months are a great time to do it since there is less clothing for a child and the child can stay in just a panty and be comfortable. She still screamed "NO" "I CAN'T!" and wouldn't even go near the potty.
I got her a Dora Potty seat that goes on the toilet seat and I got her a beautiful pink full potty seat. Nothing doing!
I was told to just wait until she is 3 bc most kids just "get it" then.
So the first day we tried we were very successful. When she woke up I asked her if she wanted to peein her potty and she said, Yay!! Yes!!...So she pee'd and I thought, "wow what a difference from previous times".
The rest of the day she did use the potty with my remeinding her and she got rewards too. Play doh, a game, new crayons and coloring books. So she knew that doing this would get her rewarded. I was told the positive reinforcement was the best way to get them to be consistent. That day she walked right to her potty chair on her own and did a poop! I was thrilled with her and told her how proud I was of her. She was so excited.
That was weeks ago. Since then she has absolutely refused to go on either seat or even for me to hold her onto the toilet seat either. I have let her stay in a panty or even without anything on. Thing is that she doesn't care if she is wet. She will pee down her leg and just say, "Oh Mom, I did pee pee" and walk away from it. Not minding that she is in a wet panty.
She was still good about BM's in the potty chair on her own but now if I don't catch her grunting, she will go in her pants too.
She fully understands the whole process and loves to come into the bathroom to watch me.. She loves to flush the toliet too and readily runs into the bathroom even when she has gone into the potty itself. She'll run saying, "Yay...let's flush the poopy!"
So I am at a loss here. I don't know what other tactic will work.
Should I stop for a while and start up again in a month or so?
Problem is that she had a recent yeast infection because she is going in a diaper still. It's just time for her to be out of them and I can't find a solution that will get her to do this. And now for health reasons, she really needs to be done with diapers!
Please help Moms...especially any Mom who had a difficult time with training.
I know it is a long process as is any new stage with a child. I just want to find something that works for her.
Thanks for your help!
P.

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T.N.

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Oh P.,

I have had THE worst time as well. But, it seems my daughter who will be three the end of April may have finally 'got' it. I tried everything you did, santa even brought new potty and step stool combos. No dice. Naked time turned into a fun game of pee on the floor and help us clean it up. She even sang 'the clean up song' while helping. UGH

What worked (literally starting this past weekend) was something I never would have tried if not for good ol' Super Nanny! Lol!
Everything i did was positive and cheery and yahoo. Super Nanny said to basically make them feel bad about it if they have an accident. Now, of
course only to a degree...

Saturday morning we got up and changed into underwear and pants. Into the bathroom we went. When talked seriously about pee pee and poo poo going in the potty. remnded her she was wearing underwear and told it it was not okay to go in her undwear. When she did 20 min later (and we were reminding her if she had to go to tell us every 5-10) we told her 'oh no....that's not good at all. Pee pee goes in the potty'. She was smiling away...but then looked a little concerned. 30 min later another accident. Again we went with, negative comments....'oh no..remember that isn't good, you have two accidents now. I'm not very happy'.

She has been in underwear since then except nap, bed and errands and has only had two accidents. I'm amazed!

Maybe it would work for you. I know how defeated you feel! Chin up, something will work!!!!!!

We literally fell onto Super Nanny being on Friday night, and it was her last episode.

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D.G.

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P., hang in there! I have an almost 3 1/2 y/o daughter, sounds exactly like your daughter when we first started at 2 & 2 1/2 y/o. We waited until January 2011 to start again. She has a pink potty & Dora potty 'helper' for the toilet. I did a 'potty prize bowl', full of small (Dollar store) gifts wrapped up. I told her when she uses the potty, she gets to pick a prize. I put her in underwear ALL day, EVERY day, and she had lots of accidents the first week, but, she got it & alot of prizes. LOTS of positive reinforcement too. Since Jan. she's been day trained & we're working on night training & using the 'big' potty. This worked for us. We phased out the 'presents', and she gets a healthy snack for staying dry. I personally would not go back to diapers. If she realizes she doesn't have an option but to be wet or use the potty, then she may 'get it'. Good luck & hang in there.

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S.H.

answers from Honolulu on

Get a potty chair, and put it nearby her wherever she is. In the same room.
Then it is closer for her and she does not have to walk to the bathroom.
Kids this age often think they can 'wait' and hold it.
But they can't.
They don't know how to gauge... how long they can 'wait' before it just gushes out.
So maybe if the potty is closer to her, she will be more prone to go?
That is what I learned with my kids.

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J.B.

answers from St. Louis on

I've used a potty chart on the bathroom wall with my kids. Also a reward jar in the bathroom with stickers and tootsie rolls. One thing I have learned don't ask your child if she needs to go potty, make her go sit on the potty to at least try. With my son i would only have him sit long enough to sing his ABC's or count to 10 and his reward for doing that was 1 or 2 m&m's. When he actually went pee he got a sticker and poo a sticker and candy. Another thing I did with him and my daughter was I told them they can not go to school wearing baby diapers. good luck

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N.M.

answers from Los Angeles on

Have you taken her to the potty to go every two hours or less. This helped a little with our daughter. Even if she didn't really have a full bladder we had her go to the potty. She got used to being clean and dry all the time so when she DID have accidents, it was more uncomfortable to her. What ever you do DO NOT go back to diapers. Reverting back will prolong the process even farther.

Good luck!!

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J.S.

answers from San Francisco on

Potty training is so difficult! Some children pick it up so easy, others struggle and some regress. I do not think that you should put her back into diapers be cause that is just going to confuse her but also make sure not to "force" it on her. All I can really suggest is that you check out this link with some helpful potty training tips:

http://www.theskinnyscoop.com/search/potty+training?utm_c...

Good luck!

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