Possibly Reading My Blog Posts???

Be glad he has interest. I don't think my husband looks, but if he does the books are open and the welcome sign is up.

Hi Mama-
I like to check on other people's blog posts once in a while, to see what they are doing, and mostly, their perspective on the world. I have a couple of thoughts on this, and they are all "male" and innocent.
1. Your hubby is curious to see what it is you are doing on that facebook thing. He wants to know why it holds so much interest for you. You should explain to him that the social networking is like shopping- you get to talk to old and new friends and family without "spending any money" or sitting on the phone all day. It's a fun and quick 'hey' as long as you still remain verbally social.
2. Your hubby wants to see your perspective on life, or your outlook. How you view things, or how women do things in general, is a curiosity to most men, even the emotionally aware ones. =)
3. Your hubby may wonder why you need to spend so much time on there, if it's alot, and may feel left out. He doesn't want to use facebook, but he does want your attention.

My advice, however feeble it may be, is this: ask your hubby once in a while what he thought of your latest post. Peek his interest and tell him why you said what you said and share it with him verbally, while making dinner, or sitting in front of the tv....or even while getting ready for bed- just during times that the two of you are together. Another idea is to tell him about what is happening with family and friends, people he knows. Get him in the loop without forcing him to sit on the computer. My hubby loves to sit in front of the screen, but he doesn't spend much time on his social networking accounts unless there is something happening with his band. It's not that he doesn't care, but he would rather be doing something else.
Open up, share with him, and let him see you be open about everything going on with that program. If he is in the loop, then he won't feel left out. AND he may just stop checking it altogether if you are constantly updating him yourself. =)
I hope that helps. I really don't think it's a matter of trust, but a matter of attention and where it's being directed. If he worries about you, remind him how important he is to you and how you have never given him a reason to doubt you. Invite him to sit with you while you update your status and show him around. As long as you are innocent with it and share it with him, his mind should be at ease.
-E. M

Ummm...what's the big deal if he IS checking out your blog posts? Are you writing something on there that you don't want him to know about? Blogs are out there for ALL to see...if you don't want him to then don't have a blog. I must be confused as to why this is a big deal.

why would you think he would be checking your fb only if he is doubting you or not? if it is public, then you have nothing to worry about if he checks it or not. I check my husband's and he looks at mine every now and then, it has nothing to do with keeping tabs on each other or spying on who we are talking to, but just for fun.

people have been cheating and lying on each other long before facebook ever came around, so don't let that deter you or read too much into whether he reads yours or not.

If you have an actual public blog, I don't know why you wouldn't want him to read it.
My husband looks at mine sometimes. He told me he thinks I am a good writer. He writes himself, so that actually means something. But he doesn't comment on what I write, or tell me when he has read it. He just reads.
I think it is good that he reads it. Shows interest.

Hello Janey, I have a question? You don't seem to mind that others can ready what ever you say yet it might bother you that your own husband might read it? I don't understand.
Why would he need to be doing it becasue he doubts you? Maybe he just wants to see how you think and what your talking about.
After being with my husband for years I would take it as a compliment that he showed interest in what you are doing. My husband and I had different hobbies and items of interest for 40 years and he was always welcome to see what I was doing. Maybe he is concerned that you are being mistreated by someone on facebook.
I have several family members in law enforcement and the stories they tell about facebook have kept me off it -- yet my extended family really keep the lines buring with pictures of family and events.
So don't be defensive. Enjoy your day.

my dh can read my blog or FB posts any time he wants. i don't think he does much, but i don't write anything there i don't want him to read.
a) why do think he may be doing it at all?
b) why is it an issue?
khairete
S.

You sound as if you think hes "checking up on you"? Any caring spouse will be curious as to what you are doing on the internet if they are feeling "ignored". You are feeling like he's "checking up on you" and you appear to be a bit paranoid about it. If you arent doing anything wrong, and not writing anything that you wouldn't say to his face then I'm not sure what you are worried about. My husband some times stops behind me and watches me write or read and occasionally it bugs me because you arent supposed to linger behind someone and read over their shoulder unless invited... it's kind of a rude habit I've tried to break him of, but he still does it. No worries tho, I"m not doing anything wrong. If I click off the page before he's finished reading he asks if there was something there he wasnt supposed to see.... which there isnt, I just tell him he reads too slow and I'm off to my next whatever I'm gonna do on here. Rule of thumb is that if they feel like you are spending more time on here rather than doting on them, they will be curious as to what you feel is more important than he is. Make sure you are well rounded with your time. Your relationship must always come first.

sometimes they just do...to see what you have to talk about with other people instead of talking to them. My husband was against facebook completely and is in no way a socialite. So color me perplexed when I found his secret account and it was so he could see who my friends were and what was posted on my wall.

Mayne he's just interested in what you have to say in your blog? I don't know about Facebook other than he wonders who else is on.

My husband I are both on FB and he looks at this over my shoulder and makes fun of me. That's fine. I make fun of myself, too. :)

My husband also, has NO interest in FB, however I don't close or minimize my window, there have been several times he says he notice so and so's status, and we laugh or talk about it... I don't think there is any harm in it :-) You should be happy he is interested in what you saying :-)

My husband reads my facebook all the time. He doesn't have his own account because he doesn't want all his high school friends finding him lol. So he'll check mine out of curiosity or to see our friends' pictures. I have nothing to hide so it really doesn't bother me.

I know my husband sneaks peaks at mine. I have nothing to hide, so it doesn't bother me at all. He is just the snoopy type (gets it from him mother, I believe). I have never hidden anything from him, so my opinion is, go ahead, snoop away!!