I recently lost my dog to kidney disease, the last few days have been awful. She's constantly throwing up and losing all bowel movement. Its only been 12 hours and I miss her so much already.. any words of insight?
Thank you everyone for your kind words. Its been a week and five days since she left and its still been very difficult. She was 14, lived a long life and was just the smallest of the bunch (so naturally she was babied). Our other dog is also changing, their sisters from the same litter. She's been hiding under the couch every day unless its bed time and she's sleeping in the bed with me. We go for walks, we find time to just sit, she gets lots of love but I think we both know how different it feels.
You feel what you feel. Don't apologize fore being in pain over a loss. Grieve for her in whatever fashion gives you comfort when you lose a loved one
Sorry for your loss. It’s been over two years since we put ours down and I still miss her from time to time. Try to take comfort where you can and remember the good times.
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I'm truly sorry for your loss. I don't know how long you had your dog. I lost my Pit Bull/Boxer mix on his 5th birthday 3 years ago. While I have a new dog? I still miss my baby.
Wash and donate her toys to a rescue organization.
Give yourself some time to adjust and if you feel the need? Adopt another dog. Fill the gap/void and give the love to another dog who needs it.
You get to feel however you want to feel because people will say its only a dog its still part of your daily routine of caring for another creature in your world. The change in routine is the hardest part of everything. Go out for walks when you would have normally walked her. Transition yourself into a different routine. Or go adopt a new dog who will be nothing like the old one but will become a wonderful addition to your family.There's no right or wrong in this situation.
I am so sorry.
We lost several dogs over the years. They are a part of the family.
Keep in mind that you are there for her, I personally believe she knows you are there to help.
Again, I'm so sorry and it's hard but you can do this.
So sorry for your loss.
I'm sure there's a grief support group somewhere for pet loss.
It will take some time to adjust - give yourself time to grieve.
It's so very hard to lose them, whether they are old and sick, young and sick, or whether it was sudden or expected. Part of it is our own pain and our own feelings of helplessness, but also out worries about them in terms of being in pain or being confused/afraid. We can't explain to them what is happening, they can't tell us if they are handling it or not.
I do know that animals are pretty in touch with their bodies, and they know when things aren't right. I know our dog, who died of cancer 8 years ago, came to some sense of acceptance. She was ready and she communicated that to us through her body language - she was done fighting.
The loss is unspeakably hard. You keep looking for them, you still structure your day around them needing to go out or to eat. You know they're gone, but you still constantly move to provide basic, daily care.
Then there are the tears - when you want to pet them, when you see the unused leash or uneaten food, the toys and the grooming stuff, and everything else.
Take it in stages. You don't get over it - you get through it.
You might want to do something in the way of a memorial - bury the ashes or the dog's body, plant a tree, make a marker of some sort (we made a garden stepping stone from a craft store kit, using those letter stamps to write a few words and put her dates of birth/death. It serves as a sort of grave marker where we buried her. Other friends did the marker over some of their dog's toys and then planted a tree and some bulbs.
You don't have to decide all of this at once.
Just don't let anyone tell you it's "only a pet" because it's not - this was a family member and the loss is real.
you just have to plough through sometimes, don't you? it sucks. there's no way to sidestep the grief.
surrender yourself to the process and try not to judge yourself for it.
don't get another dog too quickly.
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I am sooo sorry...this is so hard. For me, it just takes time... a lot of time. You just have to feel your grief right now. Just remember you gave your dog a very good life and loved her very much. She was a lucky doggie to have you.
I had to put a dog down a few months back. It sucked. His trachea was (for all intents and purposes) broken. There was no repair as he was an older dog.
Give it time. Losing a pet is hard.
I’m sorry for your loss. Losing a pet is hard. They are part of the family. From experience I can say it does get easier but I still cry sometimes when I think of our Buddy that we lost 3 & 1/2 years ago. He was more than a dog, he was like our first child. Grieve for her. Don’t let anyone tell you that’s it wrong.
I put together a collage of photos of our dog when she died very unexpectedly at four years old. Shutterfly had a collage option and I had that done and framed to put on our mantle. My best advice is to let yourself grieve. People think you'll move on quickly after the loss of a pet, but that's not always the case. It was very traumatic for me in particular, because our dog was with me all day long. It was a good six months before I could think of her without tearing up.
