Will my breasts ever be erogenous zones again? Id like to hear from the women who have breastfed for a long period of time, who also "used" their breasts as a part of foreplay before lactating. Does the connection of the stimulation ever return to that of something that can remind you of your husbands touch?
Im trying to put it as modest as possible.....sorry
You ladies are awesome tonight!, not a one mean thing to say among any of you!, i am hopeful, i would not take back breastfeeding these last two years for any reason but i am happy to know that you all could "rewire" your sensation. these once were very important parts of my 'routine"...................and now they give sustenance...too bad we cant have it all
My kids are now 10 & 13. My breasts did take a while to get back to normal, but they did. It was hard for my mind to switch from utilitarian use to erogenous zone. Although, the switch was not hard for my husband :)
YES! I thought it would never happen again, but it did. Took some time, but now they are back to normal. :)
M
Breastfeeding = boobs are for feeding baby.
Non-breastfeeding = they are for having fun
Yes they will be fun later. Maybe not now because they are functional and often filled with milk...but give it a while and you'll be back to what you were before!
I don't know the answer, since I am still nursing my DD... But I sure hope so!!! lol. Foreplay hasn't been the same since I gave birth.... :P
~ETA after reading mrslavallie... My DD is 10 months too... My fiance tried to incorporate them back in a couple months ago... and got squirted in the face. He's been scared to touch them since. LOL!
Such a great question!! You are not alone.I completely felt this way and worried about this too.
In my experience, they did go back to being an erogenous zone after I my kids weaned. I think it's normal that working boobs don't feel so sexy, and our head space about them is different too. But to answer your question, it may take some time, but they do go back to being a pleasure place.
Good luck!
Yes.
You may have to compartmentalize your brain about it.
But yes.
I nursed both my kids, until they self-weaned.
My daughter self-weaned at about 2.5 years old and my son at about 1 year old.
But yes, it does return.
Your question made me smile! I remember feeling like my breasts were not my own - heck my body was not my own...it belonged to my baby!
My daughter self weaned at 14 months...however I had breastmilk for at least another 18 months after she stopped. (I was 2-3 months pregnant when I started lactating from my breasts!) But finally when I had no breastmilk I started to feel like my old self. I have always had small breasts and briefly thought of implants - however would NOT trade my.. ...sensitivity :) for larger breasts.
My breasts are integral for my ....uh...sexual feelings. :) Don't worry the feelings do come back, it just might take a while. Our brains too, have to morph from mommy to sexy lady! Good Luck....and enjoy the process :)
yes, but probably not till you stop nursing. It took a couple of months of putting them on the shelf before they felt like mine again...which meant that when he finally touched them it was like he was touching me and not the baby's food supply.
Even stranger is that the idea that breastfeeding was such a central part of your life becomes foreign and kind of strange to you with enough distance.
I am not modest, so no worries here!
I have a 9 week old and have had very sporadic sex with my husband these past few weeks! yeah us. My breast have always been part of foreplay and I was a bit nervous as well since they leak when you are "turned on". So, we just go with it! Yes, I am leaking, but I am enjoying his touch. When my daughter is nursing, that's all that's happening, nursing. It's wierd, but they still work!
L.
Hi A.-
YES!! There is a point post breastfeeding where your breasts are 'yours' again...for me it was about a year after final wean...
BUT...just to give you even MORE hope...post menapause (and even during) I CANNOT tell you how erogenous mine became!!! I felt like I should wear a 'danger' sign around my neck!!!
Hang IN! (pun intended)
Michele/cat
I have to be honest, after BF both my kids, I always feel wierd having them touched, a cross between irritation and tickling.
My husband is such a boob man. Luckily for him (and me) it does return to normal after weaning.
Soooo glad you asked this!!! Not only is he into my boobs I am too! lol I was wondering what that transition will be like from mine to babies, back to his/mine! Hmmm Im really hoping its not awkward when I start nursing, because I really really want to nurse. Im sure its just my mind for now, once baby comes, that all changes right?
I don't have an answer, but I sure do have some empathy. I've been nursing for ten months (the first seven of which were plagued with infection) and it honestly seems like they will NEVER be the same. In fact, my husband "touched them" for the first time in so long just a few days ago during...you know...and it felt awful! Like hey, that's not right!
So I certainly hope at some point it goes back to normal, too...but I think we ought to appreciate it while it's our norm, right? :) (It's been hard for me, too.)
YES, I nursed my first son for almost 3 years, it will.
oh HELLS yeah!
it was kind of strange. my nipples are so integral to my overall sexual enjoyment that i was worried about it when i nursed my babies. and rightly so, when my breasts were feeding vessels i just could not imagine them as erogenous zones at all. and they weren't. them puppies were totally focused on their work!
but each time they came back to their pre-baby point of view. it did take some time, but within a few months of quitting breastfeeding, it was full steam ahead again!
:) khairete
S.
I breastfed for 4.5 years... finally daughter weaned herself and I had my breasts back - but back for ME, not my husband. I still did not want him bothering my breasts, which is mainly the WAY he would touch my breasts, not that they were being touched. He didn't listen to my wants on how to touch me - he doesn't get the pleasure of doing so then.
After my 3rd month of pregnancy, my breasts become very 'active' to ANY stimulation versus to just the stimulation I generally liked before breastfeeding. Husband is taking full advantage of this until the tides turn and I'm back to keeping my breasts for myself and new baby on the way.
Yes, but it took a LONG time. I breastfed my twins for 15 months, and they are now almost 2.5 years old. I'm pregnant again, so they're much bigger of course. My husband just started "enjoying" them again about a month ago, but the poor guy's time is almost up again! For awhile, even when I was done nursing I just didn't seem them that way. That and I leaked milk up until I became pregnant again.
for me after about 2yrs of no longer bfing it's even better than before!
I nursed for 2.5 years, and it was a little wierd while nursing - trying to switch mentally to a different "use" for them. Once you wean, it'll get better. It may take a few months, but it does improve.
Yeah after weaning more so--although its been fun having the full size girls back while pregnant for us both to enjoy! After pregnancy and nursing they seemed so tiny.
My kids are 4 and 1. I only did short term breastfeeding. They are smaller and flappy and I don't want them touched. Sorry! :(
I know I'm late but my answer is also yes, I nursed for close to a year. It did take some time, and not to mention it takes some adjusting to being mom and wife, but eventually you can separate the two and it works out ok!
Mine were not very sensitive before I breastfed. They are much more so now. It does come back!
