so this is mostly a sad vent. one of my cousins and her mom deleted me from their FB's.....all of my family is on there, all of us and we use to keep in touch because some of us, like me, arent "back home"........my cousin got mad that I deleted a rude comment she made on a post of mine. when i asked her about it she said it wasnt anyone post but "the whole family are hypocrites" and she also said i was bashing her brother. her brother and his friends bashed me for sticking up for a christian girl on a youtube video they were all bashing.....i am just really upset by this. this cousin and her mom were very special to me, i mean i love my family all, but you know how it is when you have a specialness with someone....i am mad but mostly sad, which i dont usually get my feelings hurt easily, but this really bothers me. she said she was going to just delete the whole family because she doesnt want to see all the hypocrisy anymore, but they only deleted me....aaarrrggghhhh...i dont really know what my question is other than how have you dealt with a family member trying to cut you out of their life unexpectedly??
thanks for all the support ladies!!!! i had posted a joke and she made a rude comment about it. instead of saying something rude back or having another family member or friend say something rude to her i deleted it, then less than 20 minutes later she deleted me from her friends and my mom as well and that is when i checked and her mom had deleted me as well. i am just really sad, like a weepy wishy washy sappy sad....which is sooooooooooooooo not like me at all about something like this.....again, thanks ladies, ya'll are awesome like always!!!
shes not cutting you out of her life, she is doing her DRAMA thing and wants attention. Don't give it to her.
Call them and talk to them about it, and how it has made you feel. They may still not want to be your "friend", but at least you will know what is really behind it, and they will know how you feel.
I'm sorry they have made you sad. But you know, perhaps the drama isn't really what you need in your life anyway. Enjoy your immediate family (the ones you live with), and your friends. I would not want that type of drama in my life. At all. It is not good for anyone.
I can relate. My aunt defriended me too. We were extremely close over the years too. She did it because I am friendly with her sister, my other aunt, who she despises. I do feel bad because I think she is unstable but what can I do. I am not going to let her or anyone else tell me who I can speak to. (her daughter, my cousin defriended me too). I just can't allow myself to worry about it.
Family being TOO close always results in chaos.
I agree with what S L M. said....I am in a similar situation where I'm not in good terms with my own family because I refuse to "follow" their wrong doing. I do what is right ...if I do not agree with them....I'm not spoken to and even badly spoken about..but...all you can do is pray for them and definitely count your blessings...I've learned to do that(still working on it though). Good luck.
I get it too. But I look at this way, it's hard to say what you want on FB without them seeing your expressions. I have people block me all the time because I play games. No big deal to me. I move on. I too am close to my family so if they would defriend me I would hope it's due to my games not something stupid I posted. Hugs to you!
This is why I post nothing on the next generation. In other words my cousin's kids. Or Troy's niece for that matter. They lack any sort of maturity and then mom gets in it defending the little one's idiocy!
I would be angry too, I know why I do what I do but I would like to think that if I ruffled one of those kid's feathers mom would not take their side but tell junior they are wrong. This would be logic v emotion on my part.
I do post on my kids Facebook but even if they get mad at me it only lasts until they need money. :p
By the way, in that situation, I would have told my kids to grow up.
I'm not a facebook user, but seems to me they seem a bit petty and I would pick up the phone and discuss the issue. If they don't want to talk, then you know what to do. Pray for them and move on. I had to cut off certain members of the family and I tried to discuss the problem by phone and face to face. I only got uhhh, which leaded me to assume this is how the person is. (messy). I don't worry about all of that stuff because i'm surrounded around people who love and care about me. There are some families out here that is a hinderance to each other. Sometimes it's not good to be close to everybody. Move on.....
Hi,
I know it doesn't feel good to be treated that by anyone, much less family--but do you really want them to be creating drama for you in your life??? Do you need that negative energy??? My guess would be no. She is wanting attention from you--don't give it to her. Leave her alone, ignore her and it will drive her nuts. Focus on the positive things in your life--
M
