Pain During Sex

Hi, my son is 6 months also, and i had a vaginal delivery with him, but up until today sex is painful for me too! my husband thinks im joking but when i start screaming at him, he gets the drift, oh and i also have no sex drive anymore lol.. i'd like help as well i guess!

Hi A.,
I had the same issue. Two things that were affecting me were; it was mental, I was expecting it to be painful, so I was tensing up without realizing it...making it even worse. I got over that.I actually had to stop and mentally think about relaxing my muscles "down there". It did help tremenduously, but then it started again. This time it was the birth control that I was on. It was reducing my estrogene levels, causing me to be very dry, no matter how much lubricatant I used. I don't know if either of these things you might be experiencing, but I thought I would throw them out there for you. Good luck, I know how frustrating it is.
A.

sorry to hear that you are having, the same problem that I once had. I thought that there was something wrong with me too! I used to be so turned on by the father of my children, but after the last child that all went right out the window..... even if he did some of the same stimulating things. I had just lost interest in our love making,we had to stop it all together.

now years later, I am naturally lubricated! don't need KY any more, just a good man!

that's my situation though. not yours!
well good luck in finding a cure.....peace!

HI MY NAME IS A. I AM 24 YEARS OLD MARRIED AND HAD A CE-SECTION WITH MY SON AND I HAD THIS PROBLOM AND ALL AND IT IS NOT A GREAT FEELING LET ME TELL YOU THAT MUCH. I AM EXPECTING AGAIN AND I AM GOING TO HAVE THIS ONE BY CE-SECTION AS WELL ON MARCH 1ST

WELL WHAT I DID WAS GET KY WARM TO TOUCH AND IT HELPED TRY IT NEVER NO.
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GOOD LUCK
A.

I am not sure if I will be of any help but I can relate I also have pain during sex since the birth of my first daughter. I also had a c-section with both my daughters. I did check with my doctor and she also told me that I need to use lubrication but it still does not help. I just wanted to let you know you are not alone.

Hey A.,
This is actually quite common even with a C-Section. The problem is your estrogen level is out of wack, and that hormone helps to make everything elastic and supple. Lube can help but it's not common that it doesn't do the trick. YOu can try using about three times as much as you'd expect and that might help. Also, take some vitamine C, as that helps with keeping skin elastic. If it doesn't improve, you can ask your OB for some estrogen cream and that should definatly do the trick.

I had the same issue with my son (now 8 months old, c-section delivery). At around 6 1/2 months the problem went away. My doctor said it was my hormone levels (as one of the other women suggested here). It's very common and completely normal. I'm nursing exclusively. Doc said this also affects sensitivity and pain levels. Perhaps this has lasted longer for you because you got pregnant again soon after your first 18 months ago. Either way, I think your doctor can prescribe an estrogen cream, although I've heard it doesn't work for everyone (and can be an issue if you are nursing). Good luck. Hang in there.

A.
pain during sex most times points out to endometriosis. there are different levels of how bad one has it. i was diagnosed with it. in reality the only way a doctor can tell you for sure if you have endometriosis is if he performs laparoscopy and hysteroscopy. at least that's what my doctor said. i agreed to these two procedures and sure enough turned out i have endometriosis. the thing about this condition is that it never goes away. it is suggested these two procedures be performed once a year until you're ready to have a total removal of female organs (for the lack of proper medical word).
my two procedures were performed in 2003 and have not had them yet. i still have pain and i know i am long overdue.
so i would suggest you see your doctor and ask him what he thinks. if he doesn't mention endometriosis, youa sk him about it.
good luck
vlora
ps another major symprom of endometriosis is painful periods. and i mean painful

A.,
I feel your pain. I had the same problem after my son who is now almost 4 years old. Our Dr. recommended using Olive Oil instead of KY, and I can't remember if that really helped. Also he recommended me on top positioning, since, as he explained it, it would give me the control and also take the pressure off. What really helped was finding out that I had a "cyst" with endometriosis growing on it and having that removed. That was Aug. 05. Since then sex doesn't hurt ...we just need to use KY and take the time to get more turned on. However, you have a little one and if you're breastfeeding, that definitely changes how well your body works. Plus, stress of caring for 2 little ones can make it difficult too. Good luck.
M.

I thought I was the only one with this problem before I had my son I was having normal sex, but after I had him I dont lubricate as I did before. Now I have to rely on ky its helps but not all the time. I guess it has to do with our hormones but I don't know. If u find a reason let me know.

This actually happend to me and i think it was all in my head i had so much on my mind after having the baby i would always be distracted when having sex and it caused it not to feel good but it was kind of a burden do this take a night let the kids with a babysitter and have a romantic evening at home get a new pieces of sexy sleep ware and let all your thoughts go dont think about anything but how good its going to feel the goal is to take your mind off of everything but what you are feeling trust me it sounds corny but try it once i was able to do that sex has never been better please let me know if this works for you!!

i had alot of pain during sex too for a long time. i told my male gyno and he didn't do anything. i finally told my female family pc and she reccommended a numbing cream (i think lanocaine? prescription) and i had to apply it about 10 minutes before sex. that really did the trick. maybe talk to your doctor about that.

I have been having the same problems since the birth of my second child in 2002. I was diagnosed with Endometriosis and Interstitial Cystitis. I had 2 cesareans and was born with Spina Bifida w/ hydracephalus. I also have HPV. I am currently taking Darvocet, Elmiron, Percocet, Skelaxin (Muscle relaxer), 800mg Motrin, Xanax (for anxiety)Nitroglycerin (for chest pain). I know, I'm a total mess. I'm falling apart.

As you can tell from the many other responses you had, you are not alone by far. I've had two c-sections. After my daughter (who is now 7), I didn't really have any problems during sex. However, after my son, I had a lot of pain. My main problem was a lack of lubrication. But without the lubrication there was no stretching to accommodate my husband which led to the pain.

With my daughter, I breastfed for the first 6 weeks and then had to switch her to formula. With my son (he's 2 1/2), I breastfed (with some supplementation) for two years. I found out at the La Leche League meetings that breastfeeding can increase different hormones in your body which can lead to more problems with lubrication in that area. I believe that may have been a contributing factor to my problems. After I stopped breastfeeding, my natural lubrication started to return.

I recommend that you contact your doctor to make sure that everything is physically as it should be. In the meantime, talk to your partner. A little KY Jelly and a some gentle foreplay to relax and open up that area can really make a difference. I was lucky to have a loving and understanding partner. I hope you are, too.

Hi A., I too am 23, my oldest is 3 and my youngest is 18 months. I had C-sections for both and sex is still painful for me. It is slowly getting better. I have to be careful about how deep and how hard we are going and to be on top, for me, is the most painful. So I just try to makesure I am always in control so that I can stop or slow down if I need to. But like I said I am slowly getting better about it and I am able to go longer before I tell him to stop. So hopefully one day the pain will be gone all together. Just hang in there and if sex is to painful when you are in control then you could always try other forms of intamacy until you can enjoy sex again. Good luck!

I had that problem too and never got around to getting it checked out b/c I got pregnant again. when I first asked my doctor about it she said that it was a lubrication thing too, but that did not help fully (it did a little). Have you thought about getting a second opinion?

A., I had the same problem shortly after having my 2nd daughter. I would even cry at times it hurt so bad. After seeing my doctor and having exams he still couldnt tell me what was wrong. He recommended exploratory surgery. I had the laproscopic (sp) surgery and while he was there he found endometriosis (sp) and removed it. He told me there is a chance it could come back and need to be removed again, but i have been pain free ever since and i am going on 15 years now. Good luck. C. :)