Well daughter has gone away for two nights with her class. She was suppose to call tonight and let us know she is ok. Well someone calls the x and he doesnt hear anyone he calls back and gets the teacher( he says he doesnt no except the lady has an accent) teacher says oh they hare having fun and hangs up. NO speaking to the kid to find out for sure. Course the teacher is going to say all is ok. I'm so upset. I tried to call back and get the voice mail. He says I'm over reacting but I say she is 10 on her own for the first with a new school this year. What the heck man you do not talk to your daughter to make sure all is ok? He says I'm over reacting. The school called me back and I kknow she is ok but what is your opinnion on kids going away and checking in..
thank you for the responses. I truly believe kids need to check in when they get to where they need to get to.. On a side note I did not mean the teacher actually hung up on the x. I just ment they hung up withouth him hearing for himself. You have to let kids go and learn independence for a day or so. Also important to know that when the school says that the kid will call that the kid calls.
I have a 10 year-old daughter. You will always hear when something DOES go wrong. Otherwise, relax and let her be for two days. How many kids are along? What if every parent called both nights? It would drive me crazy as a teacher.
Read "Bringing up Bebe" for a new perspective. French parents send their kids to week-long sleepaway camps starting at age 4!
I'll have to agree with your ex on this one. You're stressing yourself out. I know this is the first time your child is away, but you should trust the adults she is with. It's not like you haven't hear anything from anyone.
Men are more laid back about such things. I'm glad the school called you back. Try not to worry. A lot of times no news is good news.
the teacher certainly doesn't have time to have extended conversations with each concerned parent, not while she's riding herd on the kids. she's doing her job, mama! i know it's hard to chill out, but you know your daughter's okay, and that's what matters. you will be too. breathe!
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Here's my story: when I was a tween, I went to summer camp which offered short 3 day overnight trips outside the state. I had a designated day and time to call my parents, which I did do to check in. Well, wouldn't you know, I got seriously injured along with three other campers on a broken mountain slide in NH. After getting us medical attention (this took several hours in which the entire camp (50 kids?) pretty much sat in the parking lot of the hospital), then taking us to get something to eat (we were banged up pretty bad but all of us were treated as outpatients), I had to call my parents again to let them know what happened. My mother picked up and immediately said "what happened"? She knew something was wrong because I wasn't supposed to call again.
Long story short, for the most part we all recovered and it has NOT stopped me from sending my daughter off to resident camp at the tender age of 9 years old (I was a little older) and on school overnight trips.
I agree that kids should check in when the arrive at their destination. But I think your issue has more to do with the differences in parenting style and worry levels that you have with the ex.
Mark Twain said toward the end of his life, "I'm an old man, and I've had many troubles-most of which never happened!"
I agree with ClarifiedMom. If there was a problem the teacher would have told him if something was wrong. She was probaby busy with the group of kids and had to get back to them.
Trust me, with law-suit happy society and parents, if there was even the TINIEST problem -you would both know immediately! She's fine and she's having fun. If she was supposed to call you, take it up with her when she returns -but that's not the school or teacher's fault.
The teacher was rude, but don't worry mom, she is fine. It's hard when they first go away.
Have a glass of wine, and ask your daughter to tell you all about her trip when she gets back.
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The teacher was rude, but don't worry mom, she is fine. It's hard when they first go away.
Have a glass of wine, and ask your daughter to tell you all about her trip when she gets back.
When I was in sixth grade, way back in 1990, I went away to camp for a week with my class without my parents. This was before cellphones were around. The only contact I had with my parents was letter writing. I managed to get one letter from my mom, who wrote to me the minute she dropped me off at school, and I wrote three letters to my family on various days that arrived home about when I was due to get picked up.
I'm sure she's just fine, and having the time of her life. Her teacher was probably short with you, letting you know it was fine, because she's in charge of monitoring a bunch of kids in an unfamiliar environment and her attention was needed else-ware.
Don't worry mama! She'll be back with a boatload of stories to tell you before you know it!
I agree as well. If there was an issue, you would know. Relax.
We wouldn't let our daughter go away overnight for two days with people we don't know and trust completely. So, I have no idea what to tell you. I just don't get this, to be honest.
I think we are in the minority here, but I agree with you. As a mother you have every right to know what is going on while your daughter is away. I probably fall into the "over-protective" catagory, but I have left my daughter with people I know well and trust when we had to travel out of town. She had a blast and all was well.
As for your daughter, she was supposed to call you and didn't? Going away and doing fun things with your friends is a priviledge. If she doesn't act responsibly by calling you and checking in, then I would be very upset with her and would deal with that issue when she gets home. It was inconsiderate and she disobeyed your instructions. Besides, this is prime training for when she is a tennager and has even more responsiblity and independence.
Take a deep breath and try to relax and enjoy. Then give her a big hug when she gets home!
