Offended by Friend, What to Do

I think since there is a vaccine now, many people don't remember what the chicken pox were like or how they get transmitted. They are airborne and you are most contagious BEFORE the spots show up. Two of my kids had the pox and every year the school nurse calls and asks me about the vaccine since it's not on their physical. Luckily I took photos and offer to bring them in.

I wouldn't be offended by your friends suggestion. It would make me thing WT--- (fill in your preferred phrase). Then I would cut her some slack and think that she probably thought she was doing me a favor offering to have my child exposed.

I understand your concern about taking your second baby out, but you really can't stay inside all the time. You just need to do what you can to keep him/her healthy and in healthy situations. Since you are having your next one in December, I would be more cautious than if it were summer since flu and colds are more abundant during the cold months.

I'm sorry you had to see this side of your friend. Unfortunately as your children get older you will see many things from other parents that will make you think WT---. There are some real "winners" out there!

I hope this helps.

M.

This is hard, I used to lecture and give my opinion alot,but I have realized not a good thing to do,so I have stopped,for the most.......
Most of the time,if you tell them your concerns,they go ahead and do it anyways.
I agree a 100% with what you said,my son just asked,what "ignorance is bliss means",I guess that is it.

I wouldn't think it's a bad thing to take your children out to a place that is not so crowded,but the zoo is wrong.If you have an Immune defficency disorder, such as Aids or some cancer,they can die from just having the chicken pox.

What's wrong with talking to her about how you feel? Its one thing to invite you & your dghtr over so she can get exposed but its another to take her out so others can get exposed. We have all said things that offended people, whether or not we realized it right then & there is another story. So I would hope she didnt realize what she said & almost did was wrong. But let her see things from the other side. Talk to her, I would want my friends to let me know that I offened them. Let her know you dont want this to get in between your friendship & move on from this or just blame it on your hormones from your pregnancy (lol).

Well, I remember reading once not to be offended if no offense was intended. I don't think your friend intended to offend you. She just has different views on the pox. My older daughter had them before there was a vaccine, and my younger got the vaccine. But even kids in her class who were vaccinated got chicken pox last year. It was going through our third grade classrooms of ALL vaccinated kids. (We go to a private school so there are no exemptions for people who don't vaccinate. You either vaccinate or find another school. And Amen to that!) My doctor has never been a fan of the chicken pox shot because kids still get them, and he fears if there aren't boosters into adulthood then all our kids will get them as adults because the vaccine doesn't seem to provide immunity forever. So maybe she just wanted to give you the opportunity to expose your child so she'd get them and then have that immunity. However, what appalls me is that she is taking a very sick child to the zoo! Chicken pox is nothing to mess with. I don't know the stats but people do die from this disease and those who have it really should take it easy and rest and get better. That's the offensive part to me.

Don't sweat it seriously. We never use dto be vaccinated for chicken pox. I know many that still don't and they try and find "chicken pox" parties so their children get it at an early age. She probably wasn't thinking about it.