No Interest in Sex Anymore

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Good luck! You are not alone.

You BOTH need to make some changes and effort. He should not just expect you to make the effort. Sit down and talk about what each of you are willing to do/change to make this better. It's a PARTNERSHIP!

Hi M.,

I am not married, and am in the same boat. It wasn't always this way of course, actually, it was quite the opposite before taking Lexapro (an anti-anxiety/anti-depressant). Also, I have been going to an endocrinologist lately to find out if my issues are hormonal. I have been having blood test done, and I have some levels that are way off.

I am working on getting my life tolerable, ie. getting all of the extra people gone(brother and his wife and thier kids OUT from under my roof for the past 9 months- less than 3 more to go until my original helping hand expires!! I am more than stressed about supporting them, while I suspect drug use from my brother and I do not want this under my roof, in my house or near my child.)

So, yeah, stress is a huge component for me. Once the family is gone, and I can get caught up on bills...then I can stop taking the Lexapro. Hopefully then, I will not be so annoyed at the thought of sex. I am just glad that as a woman, there is no need to preform. Imagine beinghte man and not being able to get it up....that would really suck. So for now, I allow him to have his way, as long as he can hurry it up. LOL...

Sorry I am not able to help you gain your libido back, but I thought you might find some similar reasons that we just don't have any desire...

Good luck.

A.

I am so there... but I have only been married 4 years. I have had little interest since we got married, and NO interest since our son was born 2 years ago. I know that mine has to be psychological... if we are on vacation or I am drinking, I have interest... I think that stress just absolutely KILLS it for me. I am on meds too, and I think that has something to do with it. I wish there was a magic cure for it... hubby made a comment recently that we are roommates. I don't want that. I want to have interest, but I just can't make it happen.

Are you still attracted to your husband? If not, that can be a contributing factor.

Hormones can also be a culprit for low libido.

I'm in a similar situation. I could care less about sex. My husband and I have been intimate maybe 10 times since I got pregnant with our son (last April). I just don't care about it. But, there are some other factors for me such as stress. I'm not happy with our relationship and other things, so the desire for intimacy isn't there.

You're definitely not alone.

If this is something that has just sort of happened out of nowhere, you might want to go see your doctor and have them do a blood work-up to see how your hormone levels are. Depending on your age, this could also be a sign of menopause.

God bless,
A.

Hi M., I think what you're going through is normal but I can understand why you worry. It just feels yucky when you have to psych yourself up to do something that is "supposed" to come naturally. I know I have gone through phases like this and there have also been phases in our marriage when it was ME who was interested and hubby wasn't. Right now we are back to an even keel.(we have been married 17 years in oct) Over the years I have found a few things that can seriously contribute to a lack of interest for me. One is being on certain medications. Especially antidepressants! Another one I have found to have a pretty huge impact is when my thyroid levels are off. (I was recently diagnosed with Graves disease but before that it was low)
I agree that maybe you should talk to your doctor. It could be psychological but so many physical reasons can cause this too and it's a matter of getting some blood work done. Good luck sweetie :)