Hi again,
This is less a question on what to do, and more an inquiry to see if anyone else has experiences this and how they coped. I'm 6.5 weeks now (not even close to being out of the first trimester danger zone), and I keep having horrible nightmares about miscarrying or losing this baby. The dreams are incredibly vivid and I'm just looking for a way to see them subside. Weird question, I know, but I figured I would throw it out there.
I had that too.
I was fine, my babies were fine.
Don't worry....
And yes, my dreams were very vivid as well....
but again, my kids and me, were fine.
And yes, I had these dreams in the 1st trimester... with both my pregnancies.
all the best,
Susan
I also had very vivid dreams when pregnant. It's normal.
One thing that helps get rid of nightmares is to say them aloud. So either write it down or tell it to someone to bring it into your "conscious." Then your unconscious won't have to work so hard while you're sleeping.
Good luck!
I agree. Think and talk about your fears. The nighmares are your minds way to deal with your fears. Fearing miscarriage and losing the baby are normal. I suggest you're having the nightmares because you're needing to deal with the fear. So....consciously dealing with the fear will make it less likely that your unconscious will have to deal with it in dreams.
I had that the first couple weeks of my pregnancy (think it's all fear related) so what I would do was something my mom told me that worked. It was kind of the reverse of what you wanted when you wished you'd dream about something - you'd try not to think about it, well right before I went to bed I'd think about the nightmares I had the night before and my fears and for whatever reason that helped. PS It's not a weird question, trust me! Good luckk!
Every time you have a nightmare, give yourself 2 minutes to worry, then you should focus on what it will be like to have a successful birth, holding that lovely baby, seeing your husband smiling. In other words, replace the bad worry with a future successful event. You could also focus on the first time you feel the baby kick. Or when you give the baby his/her first bath. Or the time you bring the baby home. And make these successful daydreams long daydreams. Think about them during the day frequently. Think positive.
Very normal especially after such a traumatic loss. Also pregnancy in itself makes dreams more vivid. I pray your pregnancy goes wonderfully in every way! I am so sorry you have had to endure so much.
I had dreams that I got to my ultrasound just to have them tell me my baby had died - at 19 weeks I still hadn't felt her kick and was PARANOID, but at 20 weeks we had a healthy ultrasound and I felt her kick. My dreams unfortunately were from prior experiences of my two miscarriages, so were coming from experience rather than imagination. BUT, at 41 weeks I had a healthy baby girl. The way I coped was to tell my friends who were also moms about my dreams who would just give me a hug - not tell me it would all be ok, because they weren't sure it would be, but just having people there who I knew would support me if I lost another baby was SO helpful. I would also spend lots of time with my three year old son and know that no matter how many babies I lost I would always have him, and realize what a blessing he was no matter if he was my first born or my only born. I cried about it when I needed to and told my husband how I was feeling all along the way, he didn't really understand, but he was kind and considerate of my feelings. I don't know how to make dreams go away, but having a support system really helps.
Dreams get more vivid with pregnancy. It might just be waiting it out.
Also, if you've miscarried before, it might be a good prompt to seek professional help.
It's also not an irrational fear, but don't let it become all consuming.
