Need Help with Daughter

I love the two way radio idea as a first line therapy. The real issue here is that your daughter is crying out for attention and validation. You need to find ways to let her know that you value her as a companion and that she is an individual worthy of love. Then tackle the issue of attention by including her in your life. You can do things like including her in meal planning, volunteering in the community or engaging her in activities that she normally enjoys alone. It also sounds like a committment from her dad and brothers to spend one-on-one time with her would help her feel included in the family more.
I hope this helps!
S.

lock your bedroom door and get her a night light and a teddy bear. you waited too long to break her of this bad habit, so now you have to use some tough love honey...

have you tried to see if she would sleep over at a friends or other relitive or her friends say there over night maybe ? i dont know if this would help at all i dont have a lot of experience with kids i just had my first but im the oldes of 6 kids and 3 being the youngest.... well good luck

I haven't had to deal with this yet, but I think it is important for her to get used to sleeping in her room.You should plan on camping out in her room on the floor for awhile. Let her see its alright and safe. Another suggestiong is to use two way radios. Let her call to you if she is afraid and you can reassure her from your room.

Good Luck

i had the same experience. for years my daughter refused to go to bed. she was terrified! At first I would stay with her until she fell asleep, but she was good at keeping herself awake so I couldn't leave. I tried the tough guy act but she was disrupting the whole household, so we just did whatever we had to, just to get her to sleep. For awhile I just had to say that I didn't care if she slept, but she had to stay in her room. She was always kind of a night owl, which didn't help either.

One suggestion that helped was that she had to go to sleep in her bed, but if she woke up and was afraid, she could come in to our room and sleep on a sleepig bag next to the bed. This was the only way any of us could sleep! Sorry to say that it was years before she was sleeping hassle-free. Just thought it might help to know you are not alone. Now she is 16 and doesn't want me anywhere near her most of the time, so I guess she's normal. Good luck!

do you have room to put her bed in your room? my son(now 2 1/2) used to have to be held to go to sleep... and so i would hold him till he fell asleep and take him right to his bed. eventually i held him shorter and shorter and he was in his bed more and more. now, he sleeps in his bed, no problem... but i also have a twin bed in his room and i will lay in that bed with him for a short time reading to him and then i say it's night time and i put him in his own bed.
maybe she just needs that close time with you, after she's asleep... put her in her own bed.

If your daughter has a favorite movie, have a tv in her room and go with her, watch the movie till she falls asleep.

I totally understand where you are comming from. My son who is 8 now used to do the same thing. He would try ANYTHING to stay up with everyone else or not have to sleep in his room. He still cant sleep in his room all night long BUT that is only becasue it stays cold in his room. But I got him to start off in there and end up on the couch or our room.
One thing he was doing was saying he was having nightmares. He would BEG to stay awake so he didnt dream. I had sat him down & told him to think of Good things before bed & simple things as saying a prayer before bed. It worked for a little while but they started back and he started acting out and other things too.

So the next time he begged We tried something totally different. He will ask Can I stay up late? or Can I sleep in your bed? Or Can I Stay up ALL NIGHT? OUR answer is YES! sure stay up as long as you want to ....He is asleep within an hour of asking. Everytime! All kids are different & not everything that works for one will work for another BUT you can try new things to find what will work for you.

Hope this helps