HI L.,
I am 40 and have a 1yo and a 2yo. When pregnant with my first, I took an infant CPR course offered through my work. I would highly recommend it. I took it again a couple of months ago, as a refresher. Thankfully, I have never had to use it, but it is definitely something every parent should know. My husband didn't take the CPR course, but I went through everything I had learned with him, and he did watch the DVD and read all the associated literature.
We also took a birthing class together, one night a week for about 8 wks. I would highly recommend this also. In reality, maybe about 40% of the material was really helpful, but it was worth it. It went through options (epidural, water birth, dulas, c sections, etc..), stages of pregnancy, what to expect afterward. It included a tour of the maternity ward, and a meet and greet with some of the doctors. We also made it a date night every week, with a nice dinner out before each class. (something we haven't done again since then ;) We have kept in touch with 2 of the couples from the class, we get together every once in a while. It is a lot of fun seeing the kids growing!
For the newborn essentials and breastfeeding, some of that was covered in the birthing class (car seats, swaddling, breastfeeding/bottle feeding..). If you have a lot of baby experience, probably not a necessary one. But, this is a once in a lifetime event, and if you feel you want to, you should.
Hopefully your husband will come around for the birthing class. My husband was really into it, and it also helped him really feel a part of everything.
Hope this helps a little,
Congratulations!!
Kim