My Housekeeper Is Pregnant

Updated on April 13, 2009
E.R. asks from Northridge, CA
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I have had my housekeeper for nearly 15 months now. She works 30 hours a week. She is great. She does all of the housekeeping, laundry, cooking, ocasional babysitting, etc. so I can focus on taking care of my special needs baby (my daughter was a preemie born at 26 weeks weighing 14 oz). She told me this week that she is about 4 months pregnant, due in October. She said she plans to work as long as she can, take time off to have the baby and then hopefully work after she has the baby. However, since she told me she is pregnant I am having a very hard time "allowing" her to do the housekeeping. She does a lot of lifting of the laundry, etc. I am so nervous that I am going to need to find someone else, train them, etc. Has anyone been in this situation? How long do I let her work? Should I just start trying to find someone new now? I rely on her SO much, she is like my right hand and I am just freaking out a little.

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J.D.

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If it were me I'd contact www.enannysource.com and start looking for a new housekeeper. To me, the issue is not that she is pregnant, I worked full time right until the day I delivered, rather, your needs as an employer. No matter how well intentioned, once the baby is born your housekeepers priority will shift (rightfully) to her own child and household.

Your situation is far from typical and I would assume that a child that has FTT would require consisntency. Her needs are paramount. Good luck.

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S.R.

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I was forty years old when I delivered my son and during my pregnancy I was able to everything I normally do including packing and moving house. To consider firing someone for being pregnant is outrageous to me! I don't want to be harsh but in this economical climate firing someone for that reason is incredibly selfish. If your housekeeper is legal in this country she would have grounds to sue you. Think about how many millions of women out there who don't have housekeepers maintain there homes and children when they are pregnant. It sounds like maybe due to your situation, you feel extra sensitive to your housekeepers condition but I honestly feel she would suffer more if you fired now than if you let her work during her pregnancy which would allow her to provide for her child. Please keep in mind that pregnancy does not deter all of us from being able to function normally. Housekeeping is not that physical compared to the film industry that I used to work in. I've seen plenty of pregnant women working 70-80 hours a week on their feet (were talking about the film crew) which is so much more demanding physically than doing housework for 30 hours a week. My heart goes out to you and your daughter but please consider having a talk with her and rethink the situation.

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K.M.

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I think that you are right to be nervous, but perhaps you're worrying too much. Both responses I've seen address different but valid issues.
On the one hand, you have to think of your needs as an employer. On the other hand, you have to keep in mind the rights of your employee.

So, in an attempt to address both your needs/rights/responibilities, you should talk with her honestly and let her know that you are concerned for what she will no longer be able to do; beit now or in the near future, or once her child is born. I would definitely talk about her time off. Will she be taking the usual 6 weeks? Will she want to take more time (or less). I don't know if you pay SS on her, etc. If so, she can collect disability during her time off, etc. During that time, you WILL need a replacement. A good idea would be to go on CARE.com or similar sites and start looking for someone that can come in ONCE a week until October, and then do a maternity leave cover, with the possibility of it turining into permanent full time or part time after that. This way, you have your current housekeeper train her replacement while she is still working and you have someone trained by the time your current housekeeper needs the time off. This would also address your housekeepers ability to stay on for as long as possible, AND plan "heavier" duty for the one day a week when she has help.
I absolutely would not consider letting her go only because she is pregnant. Even illegals can sue for wrongful termination in California. It would be incredibly unfair, since, as one of your responders said, women are usually able to do most of their own housekeepin AND work an outside job, right until they give birth, and then right after. Just be sensitive to the heavy lifting, climbing on step ladders and doing big jobs like "all the windows" or "spring cleaning". You should both be ok!

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J.R.

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I wish you well w/ your decision, I just wanted to offer my help in any way if needed, I am a SAHM w/ 2 girls 4 1/2 and 16 months. I have been a nanny for a few of my girlfriends, one particular for almost 4 yrs,weekly 4-5 x's a week,and as of now my sister and I have our own cleaning buss. So if in need of a good nanny/housecleaner, I hope to be able to help you and your current nanny.I live in Simi Valley.
###-###-#### J..I wish you the best.

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