My Daughter Screams with My Husband

My cousin had the same problem. what worked for them was when she wasn't around her husband would drap a shirt over his shoulder that my cousin wore the day before so it smelled like her. After baby calmed down he would distract the baby with a toy and remove the article of clothing.
When she was around they would all play together and she would leave the room for a minute and come back in and increase the time frame that she would leave baby and dad together so baby got used to the fact that when mom leaves - she comes back. Hope it works for you too.
K.

The main care taker in the home is who the baby is going to cry for because that's who she's with most of time. How often is dad away from her. How often does he interact with him. Just have him spend as much time with her with you there. She'll grow outof it but again if he's not interacting that much it may be why she is responding that way. Just have patience, that is the key to everything. Unfortunately I cannot give any advice on the teething because my 2 kids did not go through painful teething. Just have her chew on hard objects it will help the teeth break through quicker.

R., my daughter did the same exact thing, only she was not teething. From the time she was two months until recently(she will be 19 weeks on Saturday)she would cry and cry when my husband held her at night. Of course I was exhausted from taking care of her all day(and then from work when I went back)and just wanted some time to shower, eat and relax!! And my husband would feel terrible. He wanted to quit his job and be a stay at home dad:-) Eventually, it passed and now she is fine with my husband. My doctor said that every baby goes through wanting one parent more than the other. I wish there was some advice I could give you but this too shall pass. Enjoy the fact that she loves being with you so much because once they start moving it'll be "mom who?":-) Take care, D.

R.,

I had a similar problem with my son when he was around the same age. The advise I can give to you is...to not have your husband go "right for her" sort of speak. try to let her go to him. let her get used to the fact that he is here and going to stay and this is daddy and we love daddy. Try to be as close as you can with him around her so she will learn that daddy is good!
babies may be born with a special bond to their mother but may not have an instant clue who daddy is...especially if he works alot or has a more behind the scenes role.
I know that this is a crazy time especially with returning to work and not having enough sleep but if you try to just breathe and relax then im sure things will smooth themselves out.
hope this helps.

R.,

I feel for you. My son was very much Mommy's baby for a really long time. It's tough.

Try playing together, all 3 of you. The slowly, probably not the first time, step back little by little once she's engaged with him. If you're right there, she might relax a little.

You can also try leaving them alone together and leaving the house, even if it is for 15 min or half hour. Let her get used to him taking care of her when there's no other choice, and she'll learn to trust him more. My husband always had better luck with our son if I wasn't home.

It does get better. My husband does bath time with our son, and always has. If he goes out of town or isn't home for whatever reason, I have the hardest time getting though bath with him now, because I don't do it like Daddy does! They get there, I promise.

Jess

R.,

At this age she still believes you are just an extention of her. She doesn't understand that you're two separate beings. If she doesn't see you, she thinks you have vanished. She trusts that you will meet every single one of her needs, including comforting her while she's in so much pain from the teething.

I would suggest your husband taking on more of the caring needs your daughter has like bathing, feeding, dressing, reading and just talking but on a regular basis, not just as a substitute. Perhaps he shouldn't hold her right away, instead he should read to her first and talk and sing. Then go in for the touching and holding.

I dunno. That's just what I'd do. Hope I could help a little.

R. I didn't realize your question was from 2007. What ended up happening?
Hey R., I don't have any advice, I just wanted to let you know that I have the same problem and just posted it for responces as well. My husband will call me at work while he watches her and she is screaming inthe background and he is heart broken. Our daughter is 14 weeks old and I believe early teething as well. I feel for you. Good luck and if I get any good ideas I will let you know. Also I like the response someone sent you about leaving a shirt that you wore the day before. I'm going to try that one. I wish you the best.
G.