My 7 Yr Old Daught Doesnt Listen to Nobody and Throws Really Bad Tantrums.

Try having logical consequences to her actions. Standing in a corner probably didn't work for you b/c it's punishment at it's core...you need discipline, not punishment. If she won't get off the phone to come to dinner, she doesn't get to use the phone for X number of days. If she throws books at you, she has to clean and dust the bookshelves or volunteer in a library, if she talks back she has to be in a time out and then apologize to you and tell you what she should have said/done differently...you get the idea. Whatever you do you have to do it without fail. It is really hard to be consistent but you have to do it to see results.

You didn't provide much info with your question. Is this a new behavior for your daughter, or has she always tantrummed a lot? Does she not listen only when she's being told not to do something, or does she not listen ever?

The degree of how much this is happening or whether they are new or old behaviors can really make a difference of what the problem is. If she's pretty much always had these behaviors, then you should get her assessed to see if there's anything going on with her. If these behaviors are new, you might want to talk with her about why she's behaving this way. In general, you should try to encourage her to calm down and talk when it appears she's going to be tantrumming soon.

I agree with the others that only doing negative reinforcements do not work. You have to try rewarding the positive behavior. That tends to work better.

C.
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The best way to change behavior is with positive reinforcement. In other words, "catch" her being good and praise her for it. Give her incentive to want to be good and her behavior will change quickly.
J.

Hi S.,
I would recommend you order a book by Debi and Michael Pearl. The book is called, "To Train Up A Child". They are online at "No Greater Joy". I think you could really use some good solid Mom training in order to let your daughter know who's boss. Blessings, L.

I used to have that problem, however, I placed our daughter in counseling at school and in our personal time. The school counselor and her teacher came up with a plan to start a behavior chart for her. Then at home I started one as well. I rewarded her on her good behavior yet I stuck to the discipline with little yelling and no rewards for bad behavior. I now talk to her about every good and bad behavior. Is there something going on at home where she needs attention or she is not getting the attention? I found that our daughter was not getting the attention she wanted from me and her dad through all this and there was a lot of arguing and fighting between us. Perhaps, asking her in a nice way why she act the way she act and ask her what she thinks mommy should do about the bad behavior then you take control by letting her know what will happen if she continues to act up and how you are going to handle the situation with out being threatening. Let me know how it goes....Good Luck!

I think you should try punishing less, and praising and having fun with her more. You didn't say what you are punishing her for, but she's only 7, and discipline is overrated.