My 6 Year Old Cries Everyday When I Take Her to School!!!!!!

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My son did the same thing. I was at my wits end. I would walk him to school and after I would get home he would be coming down the street. I found out later that the teacher as nice as she was, was being mean to him. However, I do not think that was the entire problem. He ended up being tested in Junior High for ADHD and tested positive for it. I think he got really bored with school. That may be why she feels the days are so long. The fact that she is going to her father's afterwards could also be a factor if she does not like going there. I hope you find the solution. I know how hard it was for me. He would cling on me and I would have to pry him off me with him crying the whole time. Ripped my heart out.

Well I have a 10 year old that used to act like this for preschool. One thing that we did was use a chart and rewards. I actually had to put it in the car, to remind her on the way to school. It did work. At the end of the week when she earned all of the stickers, I took her to the dollar store and let her pick out 5 things. Another thing that I may point out is that I learned that my child didn't react very positively to the punishment. Instead I would praise all of the good things that she is doing. For example, even if she was whining that her belly hurt, I would say I am so glad that u got ur shoes like a good girl. Perhaps she should have 5 things that she has to do every morning to earn stickers. make getting out of the car and going in to school one of the stickers. I did learn that if I scolded her and punished her, it just made the situation worse. Good luck

My child did used to absolutely freak out about going to her dads' house. It wasn't that he was mean or doing anything to her, it was just a disruption, or inconvenience to her. She wanted to be at home with her own stuff, and her own couch. Maybe her dad and you should ask her what works for her. Let her know that u r not asking her to choose sides, but to find out what works for her. My child used to tell me that she felt like we didn't care about what she wanted to do and that she wanted to feel a little bit in control of herself.

Wow. You do have your hands full. My daughter clung to me and cried every time I left her in preschool for two years, but never did it when my husband took her. She also did that to me sometimes in kindergarten and in 1st grade, but never did it with her dad. It drove me crazy, made me sad, angry and frustrated. It was even worse because she only did this with me and not with her father. I began to think I was doing something wrong, but now know it really has to do most with the child and their own personality. I can't imagine trying to do this as frequently as you have to. Let me first say that you have absolutely been doing the right thing by making her go to school every day despite her crying and fighting you all the way. You definantly do not want her to get into the groove of not going to school. That will just lead to more problems down the road.

I am not going to try and diagnose "why" your daughter is doing this as it could be a number of different reasons. However, I might suggest you seek the help of the school counselor, school psychologist or even the school nurse to assist you in getting your daughter to school each day. I am sure they could come up with a number of different suggestions that may help you and your daughter ease this transition from Mom to school.

Again, I want to stress it is important that she continue to go to school every day. I say this from a professional standpoint (as a school psychologist). Once chldren stop going to school for whatever reason, it is much more difficult to get them back into the groove.

Hang in there. Seek some help from someone else. It will get better.

A little about me:

I am a mother of 3 children ages 10, 7 and almost 4. I have stayed at home full time since my 3rd child was born, but worked 12 years as a school psychologist before that and will go back when my youngest gets into school full-time.

I do not think taking away her toys, epsecially without her being forwarned will give you anything but grief. I do think that something is wrong. She may say she is happy at school, but somehow she may be scared. Is this her first experience away from you all day or did she attend a preschool? Has she reciently lost someone or a pet? Have you reciently divorced? I don't want the answers, just for you to think about what has happened that this small child would be so fearful of losing her mommy.
You may want to talk with a professional.

It could also be a power trip. No that she is intentionanlly manipulating you, but she may be seeing what she can get away with, testing limits. Sometime I think we moms tend to be too soft, then get mad and get too hard. Consistency. This is the routine, this is what we do. Maybe each day when she gets home she loses some special time, like a favorite tv show or a story at bed time if she behaves this way. Today I would test her, telling her that because she behaved so poorly going into class that she will lose 'x' (whatever you want that to be) if she behaves that way tomorrow. Then tomorrow if she does it she will lose 'x'. It will take a few days for her to realize you are serious. Plus she needs to learn that it is important to tell you if something really is wrong or if she is just wanting you.

That is my final point, she may just be wanting your attention. My first grade son does that - has his whole life! He acts up when he does not get enough mommy time. I try to set up atleast 3 times a week where I just play a game with him, or play a computer game with him, or read a story together, go outside and play. Once he gets a good does of me then he is just fine! My daughter (age 5 yrs) gets mommy time as well.

There are three possibilities. I hope that gives you some window and some options. Also if you can - pop by the class window (without her seeing you) after about 15 minutes to see how she really is. That might help you know more about how she is really doing at school
Good luck!

I had 2 out of my three children do this to me. I would drop them off at the babysitters and my son would hang on me when I would finaaly get him off of me he would scream at the top of his lungs and kick and hit me. this made me feel guilty everyday i had to go to work.the babysitter would always say D. he does not do that when your gone. So I just started dropping him off and leaving and after a week or so he stopped. I know you have to take yours to school but maybe you can get the principle to meet you out side and have him tell her if she can't behave that she won't be able to play that day or whatever the two of you come up with. After going to therapy for myself I learned it's a way that your child has learned to control you, I really suggest the book called "boundries for kids". It was a live saver. I did the same thing you did i thought spanking would stop it but it just made things worse. I pray that the peace of god reins in your life as well as your child, because if we don't have peace we have nothing. Just stick to your guns and remember you are the adult and make your boundries known.
I too divorced their father, and since I was the weak one my kids sense that in me. I also suggest watching "The Nanny" that will really help you understand how to discipline your child and show how long it should take to get her to mind.

My initial response was not of one to give helpful advice on how to make things all nicey nice but as a buffer & a hug because this is one that some will go for the juggular (sp?) on. Oh heavens sakes... there's another Mom using "discipline" -- agast!! (me rolling my eyes at those who claim to never have gone that route). However, I DO understand that this method of "violence" (not - some just have to be extremist in their views of your life -- had you been violent the school would have had no other alternative but to report you to social services so you must have handled it as appropriately as you could at the time). I have 5 children who are not perfect. The oldest would do a similar hysterical crying to me when going to daycare waaaaay way back & then be just fine before I got to the car - go figure.

I'm glad to see many people offering a reach out of support rather than a shame on you -- great community. I particularly like what Amanda B had to say about the rewards/stickers program. It's junk that your x doesn't support you better but let's face it, he's an x for a reason and you're never going to take away his freewill to do as he pleases. You daughter does seem to know what gets to you the most and I think that giving a positive affirmation during a ride to school will totally catch her by surprise. I wonder what would happen if each time she responded negatively you would respond with such as the example "I really like how you put your shoes on, got dressed, picked out your own clothes - etc". It could be a tough ride but try not to let her smell your fear :-) Always remember to take your keys and no more chasing around the car -- maybe if she figures out you won't keep up the hunt, she'll eventually tire of the fight.

Mostly, prayers & hugs to you. It certainly sounds difficult in the moment of it all but even this too shall pass. (notice I didn't say get easier LOL :-)

~~Blessings & hugs~~

Does she start acting out the minute she gets up on a school day? Is she telling you she doesn't want to go right from the start, or is it when you get in the car, get to the school? I ask because my daughter is in first grade this year and tried a different ploy. She did the "I'm sick" thing. I am ashamed to say she is my third one in school and it still took me two times to catch on. My friend's daughter tried yet another ploy. She just refused to dress herself, brush her teeth, brush her hair, put on socks and shoes, etc.

I think in all it is a pretty powerful feeling. I think children are wonderful, but they are just learning to flex their muscles. Of course she would rather stay home and stay with you. So she is flexing. And if she has to do what she doesn't want to do she is going to make you earn it. My friend just told her daughter, you are six years old and this is what six year olds do. They get up, get ready and go to school. If you are not going to do what six year olds do then I am not going to treat you like a six year old. Six year olds stay up later, they get to pick what they get for snack, they get to pick what they play and what they watch on TV, they get to go outside and ride their bikes and play with friends. On the days you act like a six year old you get to do what six year olds do. On the days you don't you can go to bed when two year olds go to bed, you can eat what two year olds eat, you can play with toys two year olds play with and watch what they watch, you can't go outside or ride your bike because two year olds don't do that and they don't have play dates either. If it is the power she craves, show her the power comes when you are six and do what six year olds are supposed to do.

I think there are a couple issues. First thing is she wants you to chase her- stop. Don't give into it. That is her way of controlling you. The more you chase the more she is going to do her behavior. If she starts with running around the car either stand there and tell her that you are going inside and talk to her teacher and she will just have to be out there by herself or just get in the car and let her run around the car- but make sure you have the doors locked on her. If you take her to her room and she starts crying or what not- walk away. I know it is hard but you have to do it. Just tell her you love her but you have to go and don't have time to deal with her behavior and walk away. She will stop. I had to do that with my son in daycare. He would cry and scream- I just walked away. After a few days he saw he wasn't controlling the situation and wasn't getting the attention he wanted and stopped. It is a control thing. The other issue I have is that she is back and forth between houses and dealing with school. I understand the idea behind it and it was good when she wasn't in school but now she is adjusting to school and having to be in two different homes during the week- that has to be tough. She needs to know that when she gets off of school everyday that she is going to one place and will have the help with school work she needs. I think that you and her dad need to talk about doing the weekend thing and then maybe when she gets older and has a good adjustment on school then maybe talk about doing the arrangement you have now again. It doesn't have to be a permanent thing just until she gets adjusted to school. Because next year- she will be in first and let me tell you it is a lot different for them- even for the parents. Much more involved and much more work for them. She needs to feel comfortable and not worry about where she is going from one day to another. And as far as him laughing at you- you need to stand your ground with him. It isn't a funny situation and you need to make him realize that he has a part in it too. Be strong with him and with her. If she sees that you aren't strong with him she will try to control you and see how far she can get. Kids see more than we give them credit for and understand more than you know. Stand your ground with both of them. Keep your chin up- she will grow out of it. The saying is true "Being a mother is the hardest job in the world."

It sounds like she is either playing you or there is a problem at her Dad's. I think you have done the right things by punishing her and you should continue. Try not to make a big deal of it otherwise. In the mornings say "you have to go to school, all kids do and I will get in trouble if you don't. Now, you can either go nicely and quietly, or you can have a fit and be a lot of trouble, but either way you are going to school today and that's that." Then, I would take her to the doctor and make sure everything is OK with her, since her Dad is not giving any info. It could be that she is just having a detachment from Mom problem at the moment.

I'm not sure what to even say, my oldest is the same way, not as poorly behaved about it but he HATES school and for no better reason than he thinks it's boring. Are your girls in the same school? I know that even though all of my kids are in seperate classes, even the two first graders(btw that sucks) that the fact that they get to see each other at lunch and recess, and get to class together and on the bus together and stuff really helped them adjust. Does your daughter want to ride the bus? is it even possilbe if she behaves and goes to school? it might be a good bribe and you could always start with her riding it home, so you know she gets there. how are her grades, it could be that she either struggles and gets frusterated or that she really is bored because the work isn't stimulating. you could set it up for her to talk to the school counselor, they might have some ideas as to what is going on and why, some seperation anxiety is normal but this seems pretty extreme. i understand why you are punishing her but it could blow up in your face and jsut make her hating going more. If the school is aware of the problem though i would figure that they would be more than happy to help you out and try to figure out a solution, if not maybe there really is soemthing going on that shouldn't be and your daughter just can't put it into words. but truthfully it's probally nothing mroe than school cuts into her time with you even more than before and being single and working and going to school yourself time is very important and now she misses you and the novilty of her going to school has worn off so things are getting worse instead of better. if the school won't help yu could try finding a therapist, summer is going to make things hard again cause she'll get to be home an then have to do t his all over again, but if you can figure out the reason behind it all then maybe you can work ont hings this summer and have a good school year come fall. good luck.

I have never had that problem but I would make sure I had the keys when I left the car.

I would definitely try to change things up with the custody situation. It's gotta be very difficult being between two places you're supposed to call "home". I know when my parents got divorced, it was really hard just going to my dad's every other weekend. I just wanted to be home. Now that she's in school, there's definitely a good cause for reevalation on the custody arrangements. If her dad is willing to do it outside of court, try it for a few weeks, and see if things change. As for what I mean, try keeping her throughout the week and allowing her to go to her dad's on the weekends or if she misses him during the week, definitely let her go, and see if she changes.

I have a 6 year old son who acts the same exact way. He tells me right about the time I say time to get ready - " I don't feel well" - And it goes on and on. A friend of mine said that perhaps in the morning I should say good morning lets have a good day and nip the I dont feel well in the "butt" ealry in the morning and let him know that if he is sick he will be laying in his bed with no fun stuff ( ie tv, video games, ect). That worked for two days and now I am back to hearing how sick we are even though he's jumping around with his friends and such right now. I do think in my case that he is a homebody that does want attention and even negative attention is attention. I have even said if you want to be a "blank" you have to go to school to learn how to read and do math for that job. He claims its boring and takes too long. So I feel your pain maybe try the reward deal if she goes to school smoothly after the week she gets to go to icecream with you alone. My friends son went through the same thing where she walked him in and he was wrapped around her leg and she stopped walking him in and said walk in you'll be okay and put a picture of them together in his back pack. HE stopped and doesnt give her such a hard time and she too is a single mom with two kids. MAybe they just dont want to be apart because you are so important to them and dont understand that you have to go to school. Good luck.

Did your daughter attend preschool in the past? Did she act the same at preschool dropoff? If this is her first real experience with a classroom setting, she may be struggling with sensory processing issues. In other words- she may just get overwhlemed with all of the activity, noise, people, etc. that are a big part of a kindergarten class. You might consider having her assessed for what is now called Sensory Processing Disorder. If this is indeed the case, punishing her for her natural response will only make the situation worse- which could explain why things have gotten progressively worse through the school year.
On another note- I know that it is every parent's right to make their own choices about discipline techiniques, but "busting your childs butt" will not win you any respect. Do you respect people who try to control you through violence? I know that this is unsolicited advice and you are welcome to ignore it- but I can't help but put in my two cents on this particular issue...

Late response because my computer has been down.

Have you asked her why she doesn't want to go to school??? You need to talk to her and find out what is going on inside her head. Children can't always articulate well, but if you listen to her you might find out. I don't mean for you to put any reasons into her head like, "are you worried because you have to go to your dad's tonight" or anything but just ask her why she doesn't want to go to school and have you go to school too.

I don't know that it has anything to going to her dad's or she would have been doing this all along and by her age she knows his home to be home for her as much as she knows your home is home. She would have said something about not wanting to go to daddy's.

How much time do you spend with her one on one when she is home? I know going to school, tending a home, and raising two children has to be extremely stressful and time consuming for you. It could be she finds this to be a means of getting one and one attention from you. You can try telling her if she will not cry when you drop her off you will spend 1/2 a hour with just her (reading, coloring, a game) when you both get home again. If she cries and makes a fuss then she will have to go to room when she gets home and spend 1/2 all by herself. Reward and punishment program works well. Always did like the reward program.

P. R

While I commend you on taking a stand aginst her behavior, Has anyone stopped to think about getting to the root of the problem. I would ask her guidence councelor (Sp?) to get involved. Hopefully it is a simple as the shared custody arrangement. Good luck.

A.,
Does your school have a school counselor? If so, call the principle or the counselor and have them schedule visits with her during her day at school. You would be surprised at how much a child opens up to someone else. I know from experience. Also, is there an alternative to you taking her to school? Is there a neighbor or someone you can do a car pool with? This may help if she is being dropped off by someone else. Or when you drop her off, do not get out of the car. She has been at the same school for almost a year now, she knows where to go and what to do, it will be tough for you and her!! Hope this helps a little.
Mom of 2 (5 and 10) I have been there!!!

Seek professional help! She is trying to tell you something but just doesn't know how to express herself.

Wow...sounds like you got a real live wire on your hands!

Let me ask, how much time, as a single mom now, are you getting with her on a day to day basis? Real quality time? And I mean like taking 20 minutes out of your day to sit down and play a board game with her, paint her nails maybe, even watch a cartoon together with you sitting next to her, cook dinner together maybe. I know its easier said than done, I'm a single mom too and time is certainly fleeting, but maybe she's acting out because it gets under your skin and it feels like to her its the only time you pay attention to her.

I would definitely consider maybe a little counseling. Talk to the school counselor, see if they can point you in the right direction, or if your daughter will open up to them.

Positive reinforcement is good, I believe that, but I think taking all her toys away was a very good move too. She has to understand that behavior like that, for whatever reason, cannot and will not be tolerated and has consequences. If my son has really gone and pushed me over the edge, TV, video games, and occasionally his treasured bedtime story, are gone until he can behave for a day or two. Maybe for your daughter, she should spend a few nights grounded, able to do nothing but sit in her room with no toys or TV, and a 7:30pm bedtime to get your point across. Make sure she knows you love her, but you won't put up with this. My son is 6 too, he would totally get the picture and be miserable like that for a couple nights, it'd be Niagara Falls in our house for part of it I'm sure, but I guarantee you he'd shape up. If your current custody agreement conflicts with that, I think you really need to consider re evaluating it. If your ex has her every night after school, your daughter knows full well there are no consequences for her acting like that.

I think you have a tough situation on your hands, and even though it will ultimately pass, its going to be hard for you to deal with until then. Try a few things, see what works, every parent and child is different. I myself am more of an authoritarian type parent and kind of rule with an iron fist, so I don't think punishment is ever a bad thing, but I'm sure other parents would freak out about it.

PS...I have found in my short 6 years as a parent, a bar of soap works wonders to get a kid to shape up. Just an extra thought.

don't have an answer.. i need your help i see u posted this in 08 how did u resolve this problem my 5 year old is going thru this and not wanting to go to school and stay home with mom

hi A.. i don't have a great idea for you but maybe it will help that my son did this too! but not with his dad and me and dad live together- this was years ago now and my grandmother always used to say,"This too shall pass". i'll ask my son about it later- he is older now so maybe he can give us some insight. i Have asked him about it since then but didn't get much insight but i'll try again. But it was kinda Embarrassing- yelling kicking screaming climbing over counters! i took him home that day. i truly believe some of these things that come up are ONLY the forces that be testing our metal- testing our patience! i felt for my son when he acted that way yet i was also furious because i looked like a fool! But he wasn't trying to make me look like a fool or to test me that i do know. So much of these kind of things , when they are FINALLY passed, and i am looking back on them seem to have been nothing more than the universe testing me Not my children. and i speak to them about self-control, that if they do not control themselves, there are plenty of people in the world who are willing to do so for them. okay i just asked him- we homeschool now- he does not remember doing it- he remembers another boy doing it and maybe that did happen with another boy but he described what he did and i saw with my own eyes so---he was younger than six. Speak with daughter maybe and explain that she needs to understand why she does what she has been doing and also that you need to understand too and that you can help her find a better way to deal with it. Tell her it makes you sad all day to think of her losing control of herself about going to school. Tell her you will put a little note and drawing in her lunch for her every day. Make sure she gets to bed as early as you can so she is not tired- um....what else?
so the days you take her to school are the days she goes to dad's house after school? Sometimes things are going to be as they are until they change and the best thing you can do is take it the Best you possibly can because in the end our being stern or embarrassed and indignant will Not change it so atleast when you look back on it you can look back on yourself having maintained grace and that is an example. and never you mind what it may look like to other people- i have more than once seen a mom say something about the behavior of another woman's child and criticised it and then they find themselves in the Same position!!! By maintaining as best you can your peace and composure you are an example to your daughter to refer to when she is a mom and you are an example to other women who are not in the same position yet. and you overcome something in yourself-that is Huge. Could the nine year old speak with the 6 year old?
Best to You. and
This Too Shall Pass.
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p.s. don't let the school system tell you your daughter needs to be on pharmaceuticals! and Maybe a cup of chamomile tea before school with milk and sugar- chamomile is good for when a person feels sorry for themself- kids love it...Maybe it would be helpful. and maybe teacher would allow her to bring a Tiny stuffed animal with her as long as she knows she can have the little guy on desk or hold it on her lap but she cannot play with it--put some lavender essentail oil or better yet peppermint-lavender calms and peppermint essentail oil uplifts- i know a teacher who uses peppermint in her classroom for the kids:) neat! maybe lav. one side and peppermint the other. Things that comfort and soothe maybe will help her. Or maybe a bracelet or necklace you could put the oils on. i think it's a bit sad that any time a child acts outside what is the normal daily people say counseling! MAYBE you can ask dad to speak with daughter and tell her he'll call mom to see how her morning went and if she was calm and controlled her self in the morning, he would do something special- that he does not like to hear that she was behaving without self-control like he knows she is capable. Tell him the school might ask her to go to counseling with you and him and most men are not into counseling it kinda seems. But if he's not down with all that, nevermind! and just tell daughter that if she is calm then when she is back at home again you will have a Little surprise for her...to give her something to think about more than not wanting to be at school. and you tell her that you know she is capable of controlling herself. and that it would make you glad to see her controlling herself because you know she would be so good at it. Tell her she will feel so good in herself when she does. :) :) Best to You. sometimes there is nothing left to do but smile if you can just smile even if you are crying.
i think that as parents we have to be careful not to be mad at our children for 'making us look bad' so much of that kind of thing tears at our relationship with our children and it feels so bad to a child for their parnets to be more concerned for how they look to others than to understand their own children. i know so many stories that could be told of this kind of thing. Children do know when they have our support or our embarrassment- even if we are embarrassed- try to shove it aside and ...ever notice how kids with parents who are always laughing are well-adjusted so to speak? it is really healthy not to take all this jazz too SERIOUSLY- stand-up comedians know how to look at this stuff! with a laugh and a smile and not taking it too seriously- that is one thing about Americans i have always thought we were good at laughing at things that we might otherwise take too seriously.
this too shall pass keep your smile :)
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My mom had this same problem with my brother when he was little. He was just really attached to her and wanted to spend time with her. She would drop him off and he would throw fits like your daughter. As soon as she left he would stop. She ended up telling him that if he threw a fit in the morning he would have to spend time alone in his room when he got home (for an hour i think) but if he was good that time would be their time together. She said it took about a week or so and he caught on. Never had any problems after that. Kids are smarter than we give them credit for. I think your daughter would be able to understand this type of reward/consequence to her behavior. No matter what you do though make sure you are consistent. She will get the picture.

I have never experienced this situation, but I do think you are handling it the right way. She has to understand that that behavior is not acceptable. I have had to help my sister remove everything from her sons room all over school issues and behavioral issues. I do think you need to find out the reason behind the behavior, but if she ran away from you that becomes a health risk for her. My friend explained it in a very understandable way to her daughter. She told her you do what I say now because it may be a matter of your safety and I can not breath life back into you but I can keep you safe. I think you should do everything in your power to make your daughter understand that she has to go to school and she can not throw fits like that. Good luck to you.

Hi A.,
I am a K teacher and have seen a lesser version of this in the past. I once had a student who would cry alomst all afternoon (always after lunch for some reason). If the teachers are saying she is OK once you leave, that is a good thing. I do have a few suggestions: One thing, when you are with her, do you get to spend quality time with her? I mean just the 2 of you time? Maybe if she feels she doesn't get enough time with you, she may act out. Also, if all of your efforts are failing, you may try to get some counciling for her. What you are experiencing is not normal (not that it is bad, but not typical). She could very possible have some repressed anger about your divorce or the current situation of you and your ex. There could be a lot of factors, and some times the best way to get to the bottom of it is to have a professional's help. I hope things work out for you.

R.

I went through this with my youngest, I have boys, and I don't know your situation, but this is worth mentioning, I was very frustrated it is hard, my son never acted up with his dad, only me, when I was the one he felt comfortable with. He actually was afraid over his house, so he was very good, on the other hand, he knew I would never do anything to hurt him, and so he could get away with more acting out with me, cause he knew with me, no matter what he was safe. He is now 12, and my other son is 17. THey are 4 years apart. It was found out that my son was being abused at the fathers home. It was a very difficult situation, and tore me up, but children that age use the only way they know how to avoid situations they don't want to be in. I would suggest getting a child therapist to work with you and the child, drawing and other therapies reveal alot. Remeber the child feels they have to protect the other parent, they have a way of trying to fix things or feeling responsible. I would also journal the behavior every day, I did this and was able to go back and see signs and used this in helping with visitation, court. I wish you the best. I know its hard, but listen to the child, and learn how you can keep them safe at all costs. IF it wasn't for God's strength, I may never have made it, but now we are all happy safe and healthy. I had to spend several years learning how to be consistant in dealing with my sons behavior, My older son was also very helpful, if your older daughter goes there as well, maybe she can help you put peices together. The most important thing is to keep them safe, and keep your sanity. It also had a lot to do with how the other people there treated Step parents treated him. I know it is hard and not fair..when for whatever reason your child treats you that way, but there is nothing wrong with getting someone to help. Someone from church, or therapy, whatever is the reason, you have to learn to parent at her level. It WILL get better! In my prayers... A.